The kind of women you attract, manifest, depends on the hole your phallus fills

[Schizophonia]

Accepting assuming a dual and relative incarnation is what Lacan called symbolic castration.

Masculine energy stems from the phallic position, that is, the disidentification, the projection, of this so-called castration.

For example, if I'm hungry, the feminine reaction (which is also partially present in men; we're always a spectrum) will be to complain, to symbolize the problem, the lack/castration. The masculine reaction (that women have too so) will be to squint and on the contrary to tend to desymbolize hunger; this can be through dissociation like a Buddhist monk, or conversely, through struggle like stealing from people lol or simply by working.

The subject of castration is intimate and can take an infinite number of forms, of energy; and therefore there is a potentially infinite number of corresponding phalluses.

For example: Your perspective on life (castration) is "I am humiliated, I am nothing in the face of life"; embracing this, loving this so it tends to not be a problem ans so not be symbolized, conscious, will attract women who experience (consciously or unconsciously) this castration.

 

Something, a holon, appears and proposes a problem X :

-I become conscious the world is X and I am subject to it; I shift my attention to it, I densify it = feminin position. 

-I repress the problem of X into the unconscious by attempting to symbolize non-X aka no problem aka Y (to use the chromosome analogy) - In the same way that to see the left I must render the experience of the right unconscious, that to experience cold I must render heat unconscious etc; like any dual experience - = masculin position.

 

The more you intensified this masculine position, the more you will attract women (regardless of interfering third-party beliefs like "I'm ugly," etc.) who share the same subject but will therefore be able to transfer it, to transfer the anxiety onto you so she can in turn suspends awareness of the problem.

This is why women might express a desire for someone vulnerable, which seems paradoxical at first glance; it's not that they want someone weak, it's that they want someone who demonstrates the ability to accept their lack, their castration, probably because he is strong enough to bear the consequences

Another example: "I'm shy."
A shy girl who is self-conscious will appreciate someone who is shy but accepts it, who will bear the social consequences and accept their preference.

"In life, you have to work hard."
A girl who is conscious of this idea will like someone tough, in a rolled-up white shirt, who votes right-wing (lol) who owns it.

Oppression, authenticity, gluttony, sensitivity, fear—It works for any subject.

 

Edited 2 hours ago by Schizophonia