another insight on behavioural change

[YIDIRYIDIR]

If you want to get rid of a bad habit, a bad trait, or trying to gain new ones, figure out how not changing is threatening your identity.

not how it is slowing you down, not how it is effecting you negatively, not how much it makes you leave on the table, but how is it threatening you identity, how parts of you die without that change. 

[Natasha Tori Maru]

The only apology I accept is behaviour change.

You apologise to yourself by changing your behaviour.

[Opulence]

It degrades you like something eating you gradually. It's good to know the root cause of your bad habits if you want lasting change. 

[LastThursday]

@YIDIRYIDIR it's a good insight that behaviour is linked to identity.

I would argue the converse (because I'm like that). People don't change behaviour because it threatens their identity. Change is uncertainty, and uncertainty is risk, and risk could threaten who you are. Also, there is nearly always some pay off for any entrenched behaviour, even if it's to the detriment of your overall wellbeing. To change then, requires a renegotiation of the pay off, which in itself can be hard to accept or work out.