Social validation

[YIDIRYIDIR]

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"You will always crave social validation, but you can change who you seek that validation from" 
                                                                                                                                                                       -Mark Manson

I disagree with this idea, yes we have esteem and belonging needs, but those are different things. we can learn to stop craving social validation and make it internal. What do you think?  

[No1Here2c]

Like the seasons so too do people cycle.

[Stick]

9 minutes ago, YIDIRYIDIR said:

I disagree with this idea, yes we have esteem and belonging needs, but those are different things. we can learn to stop craving social validation and make it internal. What do you think?  

When you are obsessed with a hobby, all need for validation disappears.
try maths

[YIDIRYIDIR]

11 minutes ago, No1Here2c said:

Like the seasons so too do people cycle.

yeah, but the idea that we are 'dependent' on social validation is wrong, i believe.

Edited 21 hours ago by YIDIRYIDIR

[YIDIRYIDIR]

4 minutes ago, Stick said:

When you are obsessed with a hobby, all need for validation disappears.
try maths

You are talking about flow state? 

[No1Here2c]

11 minutes ago, YIDIRYIDIR said:

yeah, but the idea that we are 'dependent' on social validation is wrong, i believe.

What is meaning to say is that internally things will vary.

Subjective. 

The self goes through its cycles of need, want, & desire.

A bleak emotional winter?

Yeah I may want some validation. 

Edited 21 hours ago by No1Here2c

[No1Here2c]

The idea of dependency is often mistaken for being only gross examples of such.

Dependency may have much more subtle sneaky hues to keep watchful eye after.

Edited 21 hours ago by No1Here2c

[YIDIRYIDIR]

22 minutes ago, No1Here2c said:

What is meaning to say is that internally things will vary.

Subjective. 

The self goes through its cycles of need, want, & desire.

A bleak emotional winter?

Yeah I may want some validation. 

I believe validation is the wrong word here, when in a bleak emotional winter, it is connection we need, not validation. and there are so many ways to get connection besides external ways/from others. 
Craving social validation is the ego/self image needing to be confirmed and reinforced by others.

[Hasson_Miah]

Agreed temporarily. 

I don't seek validation right now because I am not where I dream to be. So I agree. 

Temporarily ~ because when I am where I dream to be I will be recognised so it comes hand in hand. 

If you took that recognition away when I am in my dream state would I care, I don't think so because I'd work to get it again so no.

[Stick]

8 hours ago, YIDIRYIDIR said:

You are talking about flow state? 

No, I am talking about obsession. Flow state is temporary. Have you been so mesmerized by something that you dedicate your entire life to that thing?
When we dont have something to work towards then only we play social games like validation