Socialising and adrenaline

[Olaf]

I notice something consistently. In the beginning, I cared a lot about manipulative tactics. I thought they were the only way to get what you want when it comes to dating and socializing. Now I’d say it’s more about energy,

What energy? Positive? Being a hype guy? Super happy? Super energetic? Spiritually healed? No,

The only energy that works is adrenaline,

Why? Because it’s the sweet spot between being bored, demotivated, and being stressed. It’s where you become very attractive. When you’re already stressed internally, it’s very hard to get into that adrenaline state because you’re overloaded. So you might need to take some time to relax and destress first, and then socialize,

BREAKOUT,

This means that before doing any interaction, you go to a square where many people can see you and do something bold, like running or yelling. The whole square will look at you. You’ll get a lot of attention doing this, but it’s not about the attention. Attention comes and goes. It’s about breaking out and getting into a state of adrenaline,

In a nightclub, you can’t yell at the top of your lungs, so do it on a big square first and then go straight into socializing on the street. You’ll notice that no manipulative tactic can beat the raw energy of adrenaline. You’ll outperform any guy with a smart line, a good opener, or some push-pull technique,

Of course, there are other ways to get into adrenaline, but this is one of the easiest and most reliable. For example, I used to go to the middle of the dance floor and dance, but sometimes that doesn’t spike adrenaline enough. This does, every single time,

And you’ll start to understand what real confidence feels like,

You’ll also notice how interactions open up like crazy. It’s almost like people have been waiting for you to break out, to step into that state. It’s very attractive. It’s like a magnet,

The interesting part is that you can do this on a square, socialize for 20 minutes, and then later go out again, and your state will still carry over. You don’t have to go directly from the square to wherever you plan to socialize,

Doing this will improve your social skills massively. Even if you already know all the tactics, you’ll perform much better simply by being in the right state,

We notice energy before words. When your energy is off, you can say all the right things and still fail. Especially women, they tend to pick up on this quickly and will disengage if you seem stressed or boring,

Hit that sweet spot, adrenaline, and you naturally become more entertaining, expressive, charismatic, quick-witted, and attractive,

And honestly, who can compete? Most other guys are in a low state, drunk, high, boring, or too nervous to even approach,

Approaching isn’t the scary part. Running around and yelling in a public square, that’s scary. And once you’ve done that, approaching feels easy by comparison,

BREAK OUT, Be free, and discover what it really means to be attractive, instead of over-focusing on tactics and manipulation,

[Miguel1]

5 hours ago, Olaf said:

being in the right state

Great post.

This is the key insight ya’ll should learn.

Socializing and pickup is all about being in the right playful, fun, relaxed, yet intense state.

If you hit that, everything else will fall into place.