Should I continue to talk to my Dad after he lied to me.

[Husseinisdoingfine]

So my Dad is not a happy guy.

My parents are divorced, and ever since I was a child, the only interactions I've had with him were meeting at restaurants. Every 2 or 3 months, I'd sit down with him at a restaurant, and this has been going on since I was a child. 

I only ever see him at restaurants. I've never been to his house and he lives only thirty minutes away from me, and I'm not allowed in his house. I to this day don't know why, but according to my aunt and uncle, its because his wife is "nasty" and doesn't want me there.

My dad is on this third wife/marriage. The first two ended in divorce and I was the product of his second marriage. With my mom, only I was born and I didn't have siblings. I know for a fact that I have half siblings, but I never met them and I don't know who they are. He with his current wife is currently raising two boys, the eldest one is 16, but I've never met them.

This happened last December (2025). So I was sitting with my Dad at an IHOP, and he pulls out his phone and shows me a news article, while I was sitting across from him at the restaurant booth. It was a really weird news article, it featured someone's mug shot and a picture of a crime scene. So he tells me that he has to go to Michigan because the son of someone that he knows was the victim of the crime in the article and they want him to come to their legal hearing.

That story ended up being a total lie. My uncle and everyone I spoke to basically confirmed that he went to Florida. He has a second home there and was bringing his (current) wife and kids there. 

For some reason, I only see him at restaurants. He gets genuinely offended if I ask to come to his home. I sent him a simple text message asking if I could go to his home. He calls my mom and then me and he's furious over the phone. Basically what he tells me is that I can't come to his house because his wife from the first marriage was suing him for his house because it was still under her name, as well as physically going over there to bother him.

He knows I got the idea to ask to visit his home from my extended relatives, because it was my Uncle that was the first to ask me if I've ever been to my Dad's house, which of course the answer is no. So he begins telling me that non of my cousins and uncles actually like me. That they, and particularly one cousin were all laughing at me behind my back. That they were only pretending to be nice to me so they could feed me bad information about my Dad and use me as a weapon against him. I think he told me these lies because he's genuinely afraid of his wife and is trying to maintain the peace of his home by not allowing me to go there.

Neither of those turned out to be true. Don't ask me how I debunked the lawsuit story, but I eventually did. And my relatives making fun of me? They didn't know what he was talking about when I brought it up with them as they are not on good terms with my Dad and haven't talked to him in almost a decade. The specific cousin he named that was making fun of me? That cousin f---ing hates my Dad. Because he gave that specific cousin years ago a check to a bank account which had no money in it, or was it a fake check, the specific details I don't know. That cousin lost his job at the bank and was in serious problems with the law about it. 

 

[Husseinisdoingfine]

I'm asking this because Leo a while ago posted on this forum that he does not tolerate liars. 

@Leo Gura What did you mean by not tolerate ? As in severing connections and not interacting with such people? What if this particular person is lets say your Dad? What do you do?

Edited Saturday at 08:24 PM by Husseinisdoingfine