A 9/10 neighbour CLOSED ME on a cold approach

[Lucasxp64]

She was the one that wanted to close me. But I think she's just being friendly, but that's progress for me already.

Looks wise and personality so far seems wife material.

I just went for a walk without any intentions of doing approaches, last approach I did was a month ago and I had got laid but she broke up due to reasons outside of my control.

I basically just did chit-chatting about her dog and said I had a similar one, and she already asked for a photo to see her. She was proactive to ask me what I did (study, work, etc) and I just began showing authoritative knowledge in business/marketing, and she was interested in improving her career and when we got back home she ask for my contact info to continue talking and handed her phone to me to find myself on Instagram.

We have been having some light chit-chatting.

But regardless of any kind of results, I'm so glad that I was able to do that so automatically without thinking twice because I found her attractive from far away and went towards her direction and tried to find a good approach angle that would be natural.

I didn't display nervousness, I was super chill. I even let myself stare into her eyes for 4 good seconds several times while trying to recall some information saying absolutely nothing.

Even if she is not interested and attracted, I feel like it's a win that I was able to make her feel safe and interested in at least talking to me. That's a good base level to work from going forward.

I actually did groom my beard and my hair was all messy for 2 weeks now, and I had groomed myself to go to a church event but I got there too late, and I just decided to take a walk instead, and this opportunity came.

I wasn't even meant to go out of my house and I was feeling kinda like crap, but it happened. Last time I got laid similarly.

I'm not good looking, I'm average at best, skinny, not muscular, suspicious curly hair, patchy beard, sneakers looked dirty, and my clothing didn't look stylish.

I'm not sure that overtime the house of cards would go down because I basically have the same clothings and I'm completely broke if I showed up for dates (last time the date was just to talk sitting on the bench and we went for her house within the same day lmao). But it was nice not to feel like I'm repulsive lol.

But I can just be chill and carry a conversation, tease and make a few jokes.

Edited November 9 by Lucasxp64

[TheCloud]

Good for you!  Opportunities aren't always about what we deserve, but what we take action on.

[Lucasxp64]

6 hours ago, TheCloud said:

Good for you!  Opportunities aren't always about what we deserve, but what we take action on.

🤯 WHAT THE HECK. She did admit to me yesterday that she likes me, that she found me intelligent and likes my personality.

I'm in awe, even if this doesn't even go anywhere. But I'll keep treating her normally like any other girl. All the time I wasted doing chatting with women that lives too far to met has paid off, but I could have seized so much more opportunity in person, my assumptions were so wrong.

Edited November 10 by Lucasxp64

[TheCloud]

4 hours ago, Lucasxp64 said:

🤯 WHAT THE HECK. She did admit to me yesterday that she likes me, that she found me intelligent and likes my personality.

I'm in awe, even if this doesn't even go anywhere. But I'll keep treating her normally like any other girl. All the time I wasted doing chatting with women that lives too far to met has paid off, but I could have seized so much more opportunity in person, my assumptions were so wrong.

Sounds as if you have her attention.  Do you have plans or intentions for your next step?

[Lucasxp64]

2 hours ago, TheCloud said:

Sounds as if you have her attention.  Do you have plans or intentions for your next step?

Trying to get her on a date somewhere outside of our neighbourhood where we live so she doesn't feel shy for making out with me, to build emotional and physical comfort in person.

Also I hope she lives on her own (I didn't ask yet), so we could make out and fondle, and have pillow talk, and spend quality time together completely in private.

But so far she didn't seem bothered by me living with my parents, even though I know that reduces her perceived value of me. I suspect that she thinks that I'm somewhat rich because I'm intelligent verbally in business theory... Now the frame I must hold is one of potential, sell her my potential, like I always did before.

I can't let our communications stay just friendly, I must keep building our intimacy. At least yesterday we teased each other, today I expect the text teasing to get heavier, but I'll keep it classy and go with her flow in text, what matter here is getting her as private as possible to spend quality time together with physical contact.

Edited November 10 by Lucasxp64

[TheCloud]

1 hour ago, Lucasxp64 said:

Trying to get her on a date somewhere outside of our neighbourhood where we live so she doesn't feel shy for making out with me, to build emotional and physical comfort in person.

Also I hope she lives on her own (I didn't ask yet), so we could make out and fondle, and have pillow talk, and spend quality time together completely in private.

But so far she didn't seem bothered by me living with my parents, even though I know that reduces her perceived value of me. I suspect that she thinks that I'm somewhat rich because I'm intelligent verbally in business theory... Now the frame I must hold is one of potential, sell her my potential, like I always did before.

I can't let our communications stay just friendly, I must keep building our intimacy. At least yesterday we teased each other, today I expect the text teasing to get heavier, but I'll keep it classy and go with her flow in text, what matter here is getting her as private as possible to spend quality time together with physical contact.

And what about your feelings and compatibility?  What else is drawing you to her other than that she's a 9/10 who's willing to talk to you?

[Lucasxp64]

1 hour ago, TheCloud said:

And what about your feelings and compatibility?  What else is drawing you to her other than that she's a 9/10 who's willing to talk to you?

This is what I feel so far:

• She seems willing to become a better person because she looks up to me as a person
• She engages with my humor, which makes her fun
• I like the sound of her voice and the way she speaks, she sounds so warm. This is very important to me.
• Her taste in music seems great.

But we didn't talk too much, I'd say 50 engaging messages back and forth and 15 minutes of conversation in person.

I'm just concerned that she came into my life in the wrong moment, I'm so broke. She is probably the kind that wants to be going out a lot, but that's an assumption. Considering that she stated that she likes in me is intelligence, logically it will be a massive turn off for her once she realizes I don't have my shit together and she will feel like I can't provide on the leadership she seems to crave.

I feel like we might go out on a date on the shopping mall just for sitting there, but even then, I'm afraid she would mention going by Uber or on eating something, and I'll have to stand on my frame of some excuse why I can't be spending not even 5-10 dollars right... Of course I'd try to lead and say "we are going by bus", "we are going to just sit somewhere there to talk".

But even the girl I did date last month was like a 5/10 would have wanted to be going out to places that requires spending some money. It would have been an issue.

Now I imagine a solid 8-9/10 like her, the dudes that she dates must pay her even expensive dinners, and driving her around.

I wouldn't mind spending money going out if I had the resources. Hell, if I was making enough money I'd even gift her this month the expensive medicine her dog needs to show that I'm generous. Maybe a simp move, but I'd only do that after she dated me and we made out at least.

[TheCloud]

3 hours ago, Lucasxp64 said:

This is what I feel so far:

• She seems willing to become a better person because she looks up to me as a person
• She engages with my humor, which makes her fun
• I like the sound of her voice and the way she speaks, she sounds so warm. This is very important to me.
• Her taste in music seems great.

But we didn't talk too much, I'd say 50 engaging messages back and forth and 15 minutes of conversation in person.

I'm just concerned that she came into my life in the wrong moment, I'm so broke. She is probably the kind that wants to be going out a lot, but that's an assumption. Considering that she stated that she likes in me is intelligence, logically it will be a massive turn off for her once she realizes I don't have my shit together and she will feel like I can't provide on the leadership she seems to crave.

I feel like we might go out on a date on the shopping mall just for sitting there, but even then, I'm afraid she would mention going by Uber or on eating something, and I'll have to stand on my frame of some excuse why I can't be spending not even 5-10 dollars right... Of course I'd try to lead and say "we are going by bus", "we are going to just sit somewhere there to talk".

But even the girl I did date last month was like a 5/10 would have wanted to be going out to places that requires spending some money. It would have been an issue.

Now I imagine a solid 8-9/10 like her, the dudes that she dates must pay her even expensive dinners, and driving her around.

I wouldn't mind spending money going out if I had the resources. Hell, if I was making enough money I'd even gift her this month the expensive medicine her dog needs to show that I'm generous. Maybe a simp move, but I'd only do that after she dated me and we made out at least.

How are you planning to break your present financial situation to her?

[Lucasxp64]

GAME OVER

She just denied going out with me just for a walk outside after she asked "Are we going as friends?"

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OBS: Translate from my language, wording may differ.

"As friends? 😝 Wow. Your 'friendship application'... I'll have to think it over carefully."

"But... you have promise you won't tease me that smooth voice of yours, then? 😇🧐 You'd better behave!"

"It drives me crazy when you laugh at my silly, unfunny jokes. Knock it off. 😉"

I had a feeling that it would have been too fast for a woman that attractive, but at the same time this kind of game had worked for me in the past, so I did err on the side of being polarizing. But it wasn't out of nowhere, I had left hints before, and I did have this style of humor already and she seemed to like it.

She had left me signs of interest, but they were of non-romantic/sexual nature. So from early on, I already suspected.

But whatever, I'm glad I did it, just a technicality, and if she really liked me she would have responded well, and I think it was the best timing to show clear man-to-woman otherwise it would have felt too slow for my style.

Now I'll try to save this friendship at least, it would be enjoyable. But if I lost that, that's no issue to, but I'd be a little sad if I lost her as a friend too.

Edited November 12 by Lucasxp64

[TheCloud]

6 minutes ago, Lucasxp64 said:

GAME OVER

She just denied going out with me just for a walk outside after she asked "Are we going as friends?"

I had a feeling that it would have been too fast for a woman that attractive, but at the same time this kind of game had worked for me in the past, so I did err on the side of being polarizing. But it wasn't out of nowhere, I had left hints before, and I did have this style of humor already and she seemed to like it.

But whatever, I'm glad I did it, just a technicality, and if she really liked me she would have responded well, and I think it was the best timing to show clear man-to-woman otherwise it would have felt too slow for my style.

Now I'll try to save this friendship at least, it would be enjoyable. But if I lost that, that's no issue to, but I'd be a little sad if I lost her as a friend too.

Did you learn or improve anything through this experience to share?

[XXXXXX]

You are making her too big of a deal. Go approach hundreds of other women: Daygame, clubs, online.

[Human Mint]

On 11/11/2025 at 9:47 PM, Lucasxp64 said:

GAME OVER

You're assuming something and you're VERY wrong.

[Lucasxp64]

On 18/11/2025 at 5:05 PM, Human Mint said:

You're assuming something and you're VERY wrong.

I know It might be possible to have something sexual/romantic with her despite of initially not getting a super excited response, but what I noticed is that most of the times if she doesn't display interest within a week I don't think she is minimally attracted to me sexually, it's just a grind, I have this pattern of wasting a disgusting amount of time on women that don't display interest quickly. It's worth the try because she is extremely attractive, but my experience tells me she is a lost cause for me right now.

On 18/11/2025 at 10:55 AM, XXXXXX said:

You are making her too big of a deal. Go approach hundreds of other women: Daygame, clubs, online.

Yes of course!

Right now I'm broke financially. But, I have plans to improve my lifestyle to align with high quality approaches, money for all the logistics, etc.

That is my biggest bottleneck.

[Lucasxp64]

On 11/11/2025 at 9:54 PM, TheCloud said:

Did you learn or improve anything through this experience to share?

I don't think so. It was mostly just the same mundane things.The same dynamics of building interest and keeping engagement on a chat, then letting it die without a proper date. Also realizing that I wasn't exactly on my best game because that comes from a high volume of approaches online where it puts my mind in a more playful tone, and right now I'm trying to be more mentally focused. But actually that's not even a big factor, the real factor is completely dependent on her, on approaching/finding the right women that will give me her mental space to seduce her. But if I was financially in a better place, I'd go for a walk with her, then ask her for a proper date at night somewhere interesting, since she is at least being difficult, and it's one big bet.

The women that works for me, I built rapport online, and they want me to travel to their home and the date is basically focused on making love to each other, no going out bullshit.

The major bottleneck I have right now is financial, and which I always had. My entire dating/love/approach life is limited by that, and I trust it will get better with the financial aspect fixed due to working on my lifestyle.

Edited 9 hours ago by Lucasxp64