Why does no one I talk to seem to value meaning or commitment?

[jdc7733]

I try to maximise the potential a relationship can give but get nothing in return. I ask deep questions, use great motivational points…

[Applegarden8]

1 hour ago, jdc7733 said:

I try to maximise the potential a relationship can give but get nothing in return. I ask deep questions, use great motivational points…

I feel you. When it comes to attracting a woman, that's just not how it works with most people. You kinda have to say what they want you to hear, stimulate her lows and highs, touch or kiss her if she is receptive literally ASAP, otherwise she will ignore you. You can be as conscious or as positive as you want. If you have a relationship with her, you still have to guess or know and provide some things that will stimulate her, even denial. And then you can have some of that consciousness or positivity, depending upon a person of course. If the person whom you are with does not believe they can literally be happy without something, how can you convince them if it takes literally years to evolve from that mindset in our current social landscape.

All you can do is to accept and adjust if you want. Maybe you will get a bit of returns, or maybe get some more if you are lucky.

Wait, that is not all. Of course to attract a woman there is proximity effect, meaning that she might choose the best partner from the people she meets the most like in work or social group. Then you can get away with much more since she is kinda there to get to know you from time to time, maybe running out of options also, so she could be reducing her standards also. 

Edited February 21 by Applegarden8