Feminist author: “In defence of pick-up artistry”

[Raze]

https://unherd.com/2024/02/in-defence-of-pick-up-artistry/

[LordFall]

I like her point on seduction as a game.

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And if the way out of this mindset doesn’t necessarily lie in The Game, as in the book, it might still lie in the idea of love and sex as a game, conceptually: not in the sense of a competition with a winner and loser, but in the sense of a shared activity that you do with someone you like, or that you might try to convince someone you like to do with you. Games can be playful, rather than adversarial; in the best cases, they’re so much fun that nobody knows or even cares if there’s a scoreboard.

I've done pickup on and off for like 10 years now and it's never really felt fun to me. Mostly a lot of anxiety and then craving. I'm curious if for some of you going out is actually consistently a fun adventure with thrill and wonder or if it's mostly a negative experience like I experience it.