Arcangelo

Hi on Monday I went to get a duplicate of my id. My plan was to do some cold approach pick up too, and shoot 2 birds with the same stone. When i was at the line a hot girl stand behind me on the line and i was like: -''ok here we go'' but due to social/approach anxiety i didn't talk to her right away, not even eye contact (waiting for a better spot). She then took a ticket and sat down (she got to the ticket before me). I didn't sit next to her right away because she sat in a difficult spot to do that, and admittedly still feeling some AA (approach anxiety). So i approached her by asking if she was getting a duplicate too. I sat next to her and she told me that they took about 2 hours for them to give us the id so i asked her to join me for lunch. Everything went fine during the lunch, except that i couldn't totally get rid of my people pleasing/ neediness to be liked or whatever in 2 spots: 1. When she asked me if i had kids and told her: -''No, not yet'' . I felt like whoring myself like Leo says. Reality is i don't want any kids, they are too expensive. Guess what i really wanted to say is: ''No. Never having a kid.'' Even if that costed me not getting laid or whatever. 2. Other thing she talked about was the abortion thing (this was after lunch when we where getting the new ids). She was pretty dogmatic about it. Didn't even ask me what was my stance on it (pro-choice here) all i could interject was: -''What if it is a rape?'' and she was like: ''Adoption...'' So that was another ''place'' where i felt very beta for not saying i am pro choice or whatever. So here is my first question for anyone doing SA but specially for the PUAs out there. 1. What do you do in these situations? After getting the ids i am like: -''what are we doing next'' she was like: ''idk what you wanna do?'' or something like that. Asked her if she liked coffee. During coffee everything went perfect. (Since lunch i got the vibe from her that we could really have sex that day.) After we finished our coffee she was like: ''What do we do now? wanna stay a little more?'' and i am like: ''I already paid'' kinda implying we are leaving. My plan is to get her number and hook up with her later. Second question and this goes for anyone doing S.A. but specially for the women out there: 2. How much does insta-date = insta sex? So as we are walking to her bus stop she asks me for my number and soon after she takes the bus she sends me an AM (audio message) saying that she really liked my company. I am like me too, i wanna see you soon bla bla bla. Next day i send her a text saying: ''i wanna see you today''. She answers 3 hours later saying: ''sure at what time?'' I call her and told her that we are going to my apt. to listen to some music and have some take out she says ok. She stood me up and an hour and a half she sends a text saying she is sick. I didn't answer. Next morning she sends me like a meme that says: ''I have never been wanting to be with someone as bad as i want to be with you'' or whatever. And i am like how are you feeling? bla bla bla. She told me that in reality she stood me up the first time because it was too soon for her to come to my place. Long story short she stood me up twice! Good for me i do what Napoleon Hill and make a success out of my failures. Thanks. Arc

Thank you very much for your replies. Aurum spot on sir. Today she called me as I was going down town where we met. Told me she was there asking what should she do. I said: ''ok wait for me.'' We meet and start walking. Told her that i am on my way to see my family. Her: -''Ok go see your mom but i wanted to ask you for a favor. Could you give me $ to pay my phone receipt? Me: -''no that will cross my boundaries''. (Actualized.org style) Her: -''is only $X'' Me: ''Is not the amount is the fact that you are asking for money.'' And she then started walking faster like we are not walking together anymore. And i am like you want me to go with you to the bus stop (still had hope) and she is like no thanks. Hope is the last thing that dies

No. A lot are certainly going backwards. You are right. Didn't word it like i heard it in my mind. Maybe what i wanted to say is that humanity is evolving positively as a whole? idk because that statement is debatable too. If you are someone that watches the news you probably believe that the whole humanity is going backwards. I was just talking out of experience there. Like that's what happened to me. The more S.A. you become the less judgemental you are. Arc

Judgement from the person doing S.A. Depends on what you call successful. Nothing is ''necessary'' you know? IMO probably isn't. But we give it the shot anyways almost always. Experiences I have gained: -Listen to the red flags -Get out early Guess that happens to every couple that is ''in love''. Whole 2 dif. human beings. It is possible to show him the door but it is not possible to make him walk through it. Personally i think that we are all into self development, meaning we are all evolving. Is just that some of us are conscious about it while others are learning the hard way sort of speak. Meaning that their S.A. process is too slow just like it had been all of my life until I started watching Leo's videos. In Leo's motivational speech he says that you might realize that your whole life has been about self actualization and i think that's my case and everyone's. This conscious SA that we are doing is great, in one year i feel like i have improved my psyche by decades. Glad you didn't delete the thread. I want a weimaraner first. Kids? don't think so, at least not yet, and i am 38 so....

I have done it. Not to heal but to stay healthy and for high energy levels. It is supposed to heal everything and to be a perfect mix of nutrients and minerals. Didn't see the benefit from it, but hey, everybody is different. Arc

I was able to do it for a very short period of my life. I was like 17yo. I was very much into reading books about metaphysics. I will go to bed and visualize myself being showered in light and i could see the light through my eyelids. I had to open my eyes to check if my room was really dark. When I was 21 I met a girl who was into meditation, awareness, Osho, no-mind etc. She reminded me about this experience and I tried again. I saw the light but wasn't able to sleep on my back. I always try to go to sleep this way. Intuitively i know it is the way to go. I am able to do it when I come home from BKB practice, but this is more like a pass-out-nap. I have had the most intense and vivid dreams trying to go to sleep this way. Sometimes i feel like i can't breath when i try to fall asleep this way. Let's make this thread about trying to sleep this way and document our results here? Arc