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@Ulax Thanks ? @Vibes ?

@Ulax Yeah im thinking about exactly that,well im self diagnosed codependent could say mixed with trauma,which were really bad before whit constant anxiety,somebody could tell something about me(true or false)triggered the big respons(how others feel i would feel).You know some stuff about yourself but you dont even see that you abandon yourself,no interest in your own self,that causes you not having formed identity so you are lost in the world.Learning Game helped me with destroying codependency,not fully but big chunk of it,thats why i speak with so much passion/agression in dating section i dont know if thats that. Still have problem with figuring out myself,enlightement work helped me become normal and now i see better the abuses and ways things influenced me to form that so called passive toxicity or whatever(all this im thinking detached because i dont really trust noone anymore but myself to form information for me)... I would say i was at negative -100 got to a solid 0(normality) and now going up every day in this direction of self trust and taking back my personal power lets say. I guess that would be a preview...

@theleelajoker Yeah when you give yourself a permission to be fully you then showing it to others,expecially the ones like narcissistic father(who abused you)can be healing because you look it all from different pov,and allowing to be you, seeing how they forced you to abondon yourself but now you dont listen and abandon yourself after the same abusive pattern... @Ulax I got even more deeper into this one,not trusting yourself and constant doubt in yourself is the cause of so called toxic passivity, where you always look for something else to give you things so you can heal yourself,constantly hearing other peoples thinking inside of yourself not knowing what you want and not taking so called personalized action where you do action only for yourself (could put it in point 2).This is so deep that i didnt digest it all. But probably you can relate that you dont easily make a decision and always looking for the new answers and consuming stuff and not taking action for yourself and trusting your judgment/intuition because it was beaten out of you from abuse that everything that you always wanted as a child was bad and every time you start to do something for yourself it becomes an emotional mess. @001 Thanks ?

@Emerald Game is not something you have then it turns off,game is the whole person if that person is exciting then it will be throughout relationship,if that person is deep he will be always deep. If the things suddenly stop and become stale its because that person was using a fasade of looking like that person to draw you in,thats why i said you got attracted to the fasade of learned practiced behaviour that that person is actually not.Game cant stop because game is not about a woman its about a man who he is,thats why if a person is doing things for a woman and having her in mind and not himself hes manipulating right from the bat,its all about me i am who i am and i made my own life around me, you are the one accompanying me so there is no stopping and its not just the attraction phase its all phases.This is common sense when you think about it...

Without knowing yourself, you wont know what to think, so you need others to think ,so you depend on them thus need their validation... If you knew what to think and value your thought(btw all world does is trying to beat that out of you) you will need others and their validation...

@Emerald No,women hate me,last woman i spoke to told me that she dreamt about me having a 12 year old face in adult body ?. I dont take friendships lightly so i there is not many real friends i had,love to be by myself reading books on relationships and talking about it on the internet ? Yeah they can go really deep depending on how deep are you connected with your own self,which my point was originally not many people are. If the connection is that deep then why would there be divorce(i dont really care about personal stuff just dont make sense to me)... Will do that ill start asking people how are they doing ?

@Bando You can have your own opinion about what im speaking,which you dont even understand what im talking about.Its not red pill stuff because red pill is about women,game has nothing to do with women.It sounds arrogant because level of understanding here is red pill stuff,nice guy simp stuff,rsd cult manipulation. When im talking im not even having women in mind. All of that is fine yes you can also pay her to have sex with dinners you can do whatever.I asked why would you ask that because there is a reason for every move you make but this is too woo-woo for you. Cool your advice is being brainwashed by RSD play by play and you think about women first cool no wonder you dont understand what im saying. @Leo Gura can remove my mod status so i dont need to explain myself to you guys who are so sensitive and base everything around a woman and for my world life experience i will never talk about it publicly but its not on a level of the theory i have i agreed on that.You guys dont realize that you are selling your soul to women so yoir experiences are nothing to me.Except leo i havent heard anyone say anything of value here its just desperate,ill do anything,be anything for a woman because nobody here has Game...

@Emerald First 2 points yes,no i said all connections are surface level between people in general,no you were moved by someone again on surfacelevel ,but not at the level of connection that is on a deep level,because people are operating from the surface level. No men(not real men)usually connect with actual make up on the womans face her "beauty" that is actually fasade of a make up and eyeliner etc. Yes and you dont know the difference because you havent met someone like that before you only know what you experienced on the surface level.

Focus on yourself.

@Hibahere I dont know because i dont care about other men...

Idea of cheating repells me,probably because i have integrity and would break up before doing something. If i have ideal woman that meets my needs,then this queastion of cheating doesnt make any sense,there is better things to do than looking for another options.

@RebornConsciousness Its possible to not feel bad after rejection 100%,but the problem is that you are rejecting yourself after she says no ,which is the cause of you feeling bad,you tell yourself that you are not good enough and deteremening her reaction whit how succesful you are and that shes the one defining you. So deeper thing is that if you would know yourself really well,defined yourself based on who you really are,stop living in the outside world of externals where situations and experience define who you are(this is a deeper topic). Then you would be secure in who you are.After that you would recognize that she has right to say no,she has her own belifes,views,povs that has nothing to do with you,what she does is none of your business after you do your thing because she has right to say and do whatever she wants to do and you can only asses your moves to see if you think you did something wrong not based on her reaction but based on your assesment and level of understanding...

@something_else You owned me good job im not weak to admit it ? Now you admit that your direct experience is based not on direct experience but by the validation of a woman,if you get her or not and if she doesnt you feel like something bad happend.You are trying to sleep with her without that you wont be even doing it. Also that you manipulate and you know you cant match the ideal version you present to them let me hear i hope its not too agressive ;)... @Roy No im not trolling,good to know that im crawling under your skin you didnt answer me in last post, now coming when its safe to strike ?

@something_else You already said that and i agreed,am i not allowed to post quality theory or should i start senting you infield footage?

@Emerald Why would i ask such a queastion when i know she is great because she talks to me(im the centar of the experience) and all the connection that is experienced between humans is surface level stuff you never met someone that tapped your core, so its like guy connecting to the make up and woman connecting to some fasade of a personality constructed to get you...

@Yimpa respect other people boundaries.

@RebornConsciousness Then dont tag me

@RebornConsciousness I dont get why you writing me this i didnt ask for it...

@something_else Spot on ?

@something_else Im not going to explain myself so read what i say or dont,do as you wish....

@something_else Its not about the opener, its about not talking at the women, its about what you are saying is moving things somewhere for positioning yourself,so you dont run behind her and trying to get her....

You guys are in the mindframe im going there to get the girl ,no wonder being dishonest by asking how you doing(which you dont care and she knows it to) flys.If this is about getting women and sex im in the wrong place...

@StarStruck Yeah because im assuming you dont want to be friends with those women,so that queastion is total waste of time,its not moving anywhere, thats why that answer is appropriate shes thinking: omg again the guy who doesnt know whats hes doing im gonna think about other guys instead which is a disrespect if you are on date...game is deep...

Why would you ask them how they are doing ?

Your mind is playing tricks on you to focus on others,to try to fit into the forum,focusing on drama.. Everybody is for themselves because at the end of the day,you can only see whats best for you, put a break on stuff ,see what information will be useful. If you keep focusing on others then this work wont work. Selfishness is demonized but necessary to reach your potential. This is not a cult where leader must be worshipped,pedestalized and if you get into our secret club your life will be amazing its a deception..