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@ivankiss I love this topic of what strenght is and under one condition i see that as strenght, if you are capable of being on top and choose to submit(in this context of topic),but you havent specify what exactly you are submiting out of love why? Yeah but you cant become fully awake if you follow other people and submitting to them... There is only few exceptions you cant break the law and to keep your job, you have to do what they say.Outside of that you make the rules.. What you are saying is trying to control things outside of you im saying controling yourself(self absorbed)when you control yourself then you accept(surrender) that you cant control things outside of you so you dont care about it,thats the insight of being self absorbed someone who is not he will try to control things outside of himself,judge and care about thinking of others etc. Putting them above themselves and then looking to psychologicaly get things from them because of not putting yourself first you need to compensate for not working on yourself...

Isnt procrastination what you want to do? Not doing the work and you feeling tired because you dont have anything to look foward to? I dont see how is this a mental problem...

@StarStruck What im saying is that im more talking about ego-mind construct of you having relationship with yourself,inner talk with different parts of yourself...in the end it connects with spiritual but both must work together in other for it to run nicely..only spiritual connection wont make you be optimal in the game...it must connect with you on ego level also otherwise its just spontanous happening that mybe things will go where you want...

@StarStruck Cool,you can be connected to now but know nothing about yourself in ego-mind relationship...

@ivankiss You can submit to anothers will if you are weak, when dont know your worth. Exactly if i am GOD then me putting a woman or following another man just sents a message to myself that i am not GOD. Submitting to yourself is submitting to a will of GOD. Tell me a situation where ill have to put myself aside?

@StarStruck How are you not the prize? You are the experience,you are the situation,you are the influence of the emotions,you are the sex,you are the mover of things in her mind,you are the guide,protector etc. Problem is you dont see it because you focused on the woman thats what we talked about previously...

@ivankiss Nice add on,you havent specify submitting to what? What nobody talks about is having courage to submit to yourself,every part of yourself and nothing outside of yourself,like something outside will help you grow,it can only help you where to look better but everything you need you have to find for yourself. If i submit to something outside of me that makes a room for that person to be an extension of me that allows for that person to influence my thinking my actions so i become their follower instead follower of myself with them showing me how to be best me not copy of them... I can only serve someone i see showing me how to be better me and thats also being selfish there is no selflessness there ?

@Leo Gura I could be thats why im asking why is it bad?? For now i see that if im not all about me then ill be putting everyone above myself where they will dictate the narrative expecially in dating world where ill be the one to put myself second,make her needs first and then she runs the show, im gonna look what she likes for example so i can give it to her,what i can be for her To me this all looks that if women found attractive for men to kiss other men it will be done by men to get women because it produces resaults. Also why is world and people more important than me? why im second why im here to fit into other peoples wants and they not into mine? I dont see how im fooling myself...

@StarStruck Yes exactly! now you are getting closer to what game truly is.. Now look every advice is made about things outside of you have money,have looks,have status instead with relationship with yourself, then with that you can then guide the woman based upon how you guide yourself and anything else...

@Leo GuraI tried i noticed that i quickly can see who is not for me and who isnt, i noticed that mostly they will be self absorbed themselves so i look for someone that has same goals. I also noticed that people who are not self absorbed are either people pleaseres or manipulating trying to be something or use some tactic to get something out of other person.

@StarStruck You being connected with yourself or world dictating who you are. Did you notice how you want to approach and sometimes you cant? Its because your want is in conflict with you being defined by outside shes too beautiful,im not what she wants,i dont have muscles,people will look me weird.Mind is looking at outside for who you are and how you move because you are not connected with yourself as you are when you talk to your mom. So because of that you cant approach her and make it work...

@StarStruck Its not a problem to want women,problem is that when you externaly minded you will act differently around what you consider beautiful vs not...

@StarStruck When you lets say walk in the mall,when you talk to your mom then you dont have problem being internal because you dont care how you walk or how you are to your mom.In that moment you just care for what you want that is being internal vs you looking at world,women for what you need to be to get what you want indirectly is having low self worth. Its same when women put make up to cover up their insecurities it comes from outside coming from inside is seeing your beauty of who you are that doesnt care about outside because its not there to prove itself it is what it is. i hope this makes sense...im still going internal but im aware how mind makes this illusion..

@Leo Gura Well ill give an example: if im self absorbed in self help all the time,im benefiting it from it because im not consired about nothing else,my self absorbtion in self help makes me wanna talk about it all the time,so people who are around me benefit from my knowledge,just because its me being selfish for self help. Why wouldnt this work in the long run? Benefiting me so much being so selfish that i build my values so much that others then benefit from it because im so involved with myself.

@StarStruck Yea but from your statement its coming from the outside in,not inside out automatically showing that there is low self worth inside,so to cover it you acting like what others and women would like to see. Last statement you said is where is at you are nailing it almost but lets be honest you are doing it for women not yourself so its not authentic...

@Leo Gura Why being self absored all the time wouldnt work in the long run ?

If you are acting and doing it for others, it will crack under pressure, its better than being shy/scared but still you are in reaction and its like putting male make up...

Nobody can help you in life its up to you, what you gonna do with the information given.No coach had made a world champion in my opinion,they made themselves with guidence its all on you.. But ofcourse if you expecting Rsd to turn you into a man you are a fool thats again on you...

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@Oso Well everything that it comes to more understanding yourself, but before that you need to start think for yourself and come to the answers for yourself only,what blocks that is caring about outside world approval,likes,looking like there is someone out there that can help you truly not just guide you(appealing to the authority)... Stop living on whats going outside of yourself and start living from inside. Being driven by fear,worry etc. is also reason why you lost so those voices must be replaced with other voices... Also me telling you how to do it is also part of the problem i cant tell you how i can only give information where you can interpert it in your own way to help you so nothing will help you until you realize this.. Nobody on the planet can give you information to make you not being lost only you can take charge to find the way by taking information and make it your own,if you look someone will give you advice on this and its not find your own unique self is wasting your time...

You dont know who you are, you dont know how to know yourself. Your program is to seek things outside of yourself,you dont trust yourself and lack of that foundation causes you to be completely lost in the dark, like someone left you in foreign city without knowing language...

There are books on leos book list...

@Average Investor You tolerate based upon your standard for relationship and how much you respect yourself, your end mission with her etc. Nobody can answer you that but yourself,there is beauty in that....