NoSelfSelf

That guy does what he wants and molts himself into what he wants to be,meanwhile you want to be like him and look what you have to do to get that resaults, thinking resaults is what makes you who you are its all clown thinking that societies programing gets you ? Looking to get the vibe down so you can get a woman this is absurd that guy doesnt look to do that, he just does whatever he pleases and now you scratch your head to find formula, where he doesnt even have a formula and thats the formula ?

Your problem is caring if you lose a girl, then you want to tip toe around her without expressing what you are, but what she would like you to be. Lose a girl but dont lose yourself you are losing yourself here...

@Ajax Tv show on Netflix masterpiece of a performance watching it for the 3rd time ? Some shows teach you alot of stuff i wouldnt discard it as a cheap distraction...

@mr_engineer Fair enough whatever makes you happy.

@mr_engineer You are the proof that not everyone can be a man

@Rishabh R You didnt look in the mirror to get the answer...

Wrote this early today in my notes maybe it helps someone Ps. Its written badly but i write fast when i get the insight ? Fear of being a completely your own individual.. The fear comes that you actually cut the ambilical cord to the world where you no longer look to be loved by anyone to be understood to be part of something to care about peoples thinking emotions.. It makes you stop that toxic relationship with the world where you benfit from it by not taking ownership for yourself to then dont get love but to give yourself love to dont get feel good moments from others but to be your own feel good moment,the good one is :being afraid to be alone to be abandond left with yourself,world is your crutch and your backstabbing friend...(because you benefit from it and to go away from responsibility of self)

@mr_engineer Im not gonna answer those queastions im not going back and forth with you i said my part...

@mr_engineer you are consired for other men this is funny ?? thats a feminine quality.Poor men how should we help them instead of looking to help yourself.

@mr_engineer To be your own man is to be free from everything, so you need a man to unplug you and show you your own freedom in your words,because if that is so then why you here ,why you listen to leos content and asking queastions here, precisely because you know your own intuition cant be trusted and you wouldnt need to look anyone for answers,man if he doesnt need someone for help he discards it. Man doesnt ask queastions like this on the forum because he answers his own queastions. Im not saying men dont have emotions they do,but they are not emotional they dont get super into them and make them define them.. To you it isnt because you dont want to be a man, you want to just talk about being a man..

Look in the mirror...

@mr_engineer Only a man can teach you how to be a man...classic queastion that assumes someone hurt me, precisely opposite i was hurt by not knowing what im telling you,being ashamed of man qualities just because you hear all the time that man being a man is bad and to be a good boy follows it because i didnt know better being lost like you are now...

Because so called problems that you represent is those problems that a man precisely doesnt have,thus you will be called out by someone who is masculine,because masculine will tell you straight in your face without trying not to hurt your feelings and cuddle you with a nice warm tea,you will then become emotional like a little boy they noticed you hold dear to your heart..nobody can demasculate you if you are masculine... In this scene Soldier boy tells how it is to Homelander its man talking to a little baby...

@Schizophonia Nah that is more of a being emotional in the moment than anything to do with empathy. Empathy is just being able to feel the other person and enviroment like a satelite it doesnt mean something cant distrupt the signal. You can add your why behind it, this is my experience... Also curious if there is more to it than what i said.

@Schizophonia I dont get how you can be hipersensitive and being an asshole, that is not what is being meant by here since its personal and i experienced it. Narcissist is also hipersensitive but its not same as what i noticed from this thread its tough to explain if you havent experienced it.. There are actually hipersensitive people who recieve and feel everything 10 times more than other, psychopat dont feel anything and narcissist is sensitive because of the trauma/insecurity/shame...

I was born with this, so i know what you mean, what helped me the most is integrating the qualities of someone who you would consider an asshole,like not caring(destroying empathy not fully but enough it doesnt bother you),taking logic over emotion in contemplating about relationships,becoming more selfish,full acountability on yourself,seeing emotions as weakness,not judging yourself in any way ,not judging anyone because you dont care about the outside world(to kill this strong empathy even further) ,also taking more of a man approach to living life(study from someone that is ruthless but not with toxic idelogy, if they talk bad about someone then thats not it)takes time and hard pills to swallow until you dont feel emotions that strongly but in normal way...meditation ofcourse helps.

@The Redeemer You lying to yourself i can see your lies,well do you care that i dont miss anyone ,i never get lonely and you find it super deep worth discussing about. Peace. Ps. Make threads more of a quality next time

I miss the days of quality threads on this subforum ,add something deeper than this your threads are just random thoughts with no structure. You dont appreciate yourself so she is special bottom line...

You live in reality where you pity yourself about such a trivial thing that is sad,so why would they give you a chance based on your weak perception of yourself and the world? If you think women accepting you will make reality better then she got you, she is on top you are at her mercy...

@Sugarcoat Appreceat it ? @Ajax Yes exactly thats 100% how you are if you dont know about this topic.You are basically caring too much which causes emotions and your attachment to them,basically you want things outside of you ,which someone who is working inside out doesnt want anything from the outside, because he pleases himself all the time.. For example if you see a woman and think she is sexy, automatically you are influenced by the outside then you look to have sex with her automatically ,because you influenced by her looks (the judgment you placed on her) and then you will look to manipulate the situation based on the judgment you made of her that she is sexy by being different towards her than with the woman you think is average.Someone who is influenced by himself wont look at her as sexy and wont look to have sex with her because that stops him to be authentic and look at her as human being. Probably too advenced or i dont know how to convey it yet it in simple terms, if that's possible. Perfect example is character Wednesday to check out but you will look her behaviour and not her thinking process..

@Ajax Im stealing here, but it has everything to do with man/women dynamic, you think you are leading a woman, no you are not you are leading yourself and she is the one that chooses to follow ,you think you are influencing outside first no, you influence yourself then outside follows or not ,you making it about outside world in ,instead inside then out doesnt matter(it matters to adjust a littlr but for simplicity sake lets keep it like this)... Its like everything is happening on the inside but you kidding yourself that you have anything to do with the outside world, its all inside working out...this is not enlightment its game of everything and its you..

@Sugarcoat im getting a rash just by staying here take care ✋

@Sugarcoat Its not that easy for me, if i hear someone saying women this women that, im getting allergic reaction to it and when i caught myself getting involved in it you can call me a doctor to bring me back to life ;)...

This is my favourite topic at the moment that im wrestling with, its like an art form of balancing,not trusting mind,connection with yourself all that good stuff... I hate you for making it to trap me in here ?.

@Thought Art You need this more than you know it, keep bleeding but proactively,reactivley doesnt count for the blood bank ...