Source_Mystic

What do you mean by that ? Could you please elaborate by what you mean by a 10 day tolerance window ?

@How to be wise <<<< Does your name not pose a question ? ...And beyond every question is a craving and a desire to know the answer.... after you find the answer there is no craving.

I hate to say it but this whole conversation is mental masturbation anyone seeking enlightenment craves it. They crave a release from the pain they crave what they think it is. Any person that seeks anything has a desire to achieve it . Seriously anything that gives someone the drive to meditate and do what needs to be done I see as an means to a end. Crave that enlightenment so much you meditate for 2 hours. Crave it and try to find the answer to a zen koan. Crave the shit out of enlightenment. Whatever gets you off the couch and doing something. I agree completely Just practice and you will get there. After you get a taste of enlightenment and actually what it is you will stop "craving" the unrealistic notion of what you expect it is. Most beginners think enlightenment is a one time event. Enlightenment is not a thing to crave it is a ongoing process and after you understand that there is no need for such warnings. Let the beginner be a beginner and make the mistakes we all did then they learn that is part of the process as well.

The three most important words are is be and are. Things like self inquiry meditation any spiritual exercises are trying to break your ego and shatter you mind in one way or another Because all of us have been brainwashed from birth. We have been told the rules of existence and "this is how things are" when in fact 90% of that is garbage, baggage and negative conditioning that actually hurts us takes away mental peace. To come back to your essential nature it is imperative the get rid of all that false conditioning. A lot of this stuff is very easy for me to talk about and even understand practicing it and integrating all of it in you life every day is the hard part that is why I think a lot of people feel like hypocrites sometimes nothing on this path is easy. Just do you best and keep pushing though and have persistence even when it gets hard and you will get there.

Your mind wants black and white. Your mind wants good and evil. You mind wants to praise good and despise evil. Reality does not give a Fuck what your mind wants. This realization is rather simple when it comes down to it. Nonduality is about unity and oneness of all dichotomy's but how do you resolve evil vs good. In fact there is no evil or good without each other they drive each other and when you get right down to it they are the same force. Just like the old saying you can not have a argument with out two people. You can not have a one sided reality. Look at good and evil as two independent forces not unlike two people in a argument each wants their own way but Neither will get anything unless they comprise. It is the outcome that is important part not the two sides of a argument. Good and evil are in fact the same force one is just turned inside out. I will put it another way. You have a coin. On one side you have heads on the other you have tails but both can not be separated they are both part of the same coin even though they are opposites they are unified as one, tied together for all eternity. They are both the same universal force. Good and evil are heads and tails of the same coin. Where this concept gets challenging is when you are slighted by someones actions that are entirely wrong. Their is a struggle you feel angry and you want them to pay for the injustice of what they did to you. You start thinking negative thoughts , evil thoughts you want retribution. You want them to hurt like they hurt you. Reality is a measure of all things just as humans are and if you do not understand that you can never truly be unified and whole. Your ego wants you to take things personalty and take a side and say I am better I am good when in reality everyone has the capacity for great evil. It is usually a matter of how far are you pushed before you brake and flip and think evil thoughts. People also have a capacity for great good if given the right opportunity and surrounded by the right people. When you find you are taking things personalty realize. What you are doing. You are separating yourself from others isolating yourself so your selfish ego can indulge in being hurt and then strike out. This is the definition of duality and evil. Truly exceptional people preform a type of alchemy where they transform negative events into positive spiritual progress. That is the end goal to see though all the myriad forms of causality and see the conclusion without taking sides because there is no side to take in the first place. That is the best I can do to I hope it helps

@Leo Gura Zen koans operate in such a way. They pose as riddles for the mind but really they are minefields of frustration exhaustion and flat out mind-fuckery to give you no other option that to surrender to the truth of now and true clear awareness in other words a level of enlightenment. Your mind can never out wit a koan. The koan is never about mental acuity or intelligence. "I went to school to learn , I learned zen to forget"

Time is a man made abstraction. it is a measurement from moment to moment. In reality does not exist so time travel can not exist

@Time Traveler He was insinuating that my post was hysterical and illiterate I think. I am not sure since illiteral is not a word. He seems to also have a problem with writing that is informative and lengthy enough to address the problem completely . I doubt he even read the entire post.

I worked in Transitional living shelter for two years and helped run 5 programs from (Nonresidential) homeless services and resources to In house counseling and outreach as well as extended services after people left. You know what I learned in that time. No one changes a person that does not want to change. People when they want to change and are ready will seek out environments and people who will facilitate that. Then you can help them not before. The simple answer is, you do not change does not happen because of outside pressure it happens internally. It is a personal choice of the individual. The most you can do is gently nudge them until they are ready to see that they need to stop the destructive cycles of their life.

You are doing it to much plain and simple. Stop the recurrent frequency and experiment with not doing that so much channel your energy other places. Replace it with exercise. Not telling you not to at all. What I am suggesting is give your self some recoup time in between. Doing that all the time is going to exhaust anyone masturbation does not give energy back so to speak it drains it especially in men. Woman are a completely different story.

@MM1988 Look I get it trust me I probably understand your situation better than anyone here because of personal experience outside of what I said I am going to say GET OUT OF HOUSE ! When you are feeling good. Get into activity's you enjoy the more the better. GROUP ACTIVITY'S where you can meet people. ... but do not do that when you are depressed or needy for reasons I have already stated. The other stuff is there to help you deal and manage the depression until you get into positive situations and relationships. But you have to get out there and put your best foot forward take initiative and talk to woman and talk to men for that matter. I have a sense that you do not just need to get laid but are in dire need of more supportive people and friends. So open your world get out there share you truth and you curiosity with the world. If your weird share you weirdness I Guarantee there is someone out there that will appreciate you for you. In the end it is a risk to reward ratio and it is a numbers game. Put yourself in situations where you are more likely to meet people with similar interest ,then just be yourself. Generally pick up will teach you to approach woman more successfully and ignore rejection in that I guess it has value. I have never been into it. Its seems to promote manipulation and using peoples subconsciousness drives against them and its aim is generally manipulation for sex not meaningful relationships.

To be honest stress proceeds growth that is the way nature is set up otherwise there would be no reason to grow or improve. You are on the right track by recognizing this behavior in the first place. If you want to change this you have to change your mental habit of people pleasing and find things that build yourself confidence. When someone degrades you or puts you down or just does not like you. You have to interrupt the caring aspect and stop giving a fuck. What people think. Seriously you are not responsible for what people think of you or if they like you at all. I can tell you from personal experience everyone will never like you and it has nothing to do with you or how good you are. Most of the time they see something in you that they dislike in themselves and they do not want to be reminded of it. So it manifest psychologically as dislike for you. They might not even be consciously aware of it. Or there might be some physical trait that reminds them of someone they don't like anymore. Most people are not very high consciousness and that means they do a lot of hypocritical shit they do not even realize. People are a mess man do not let there mental hang ups become yours. Stop taking peoples opinion of you personalty because seriously 9 times out of 10 it has more to do with them and their internal shit that they themselves have not dealt with Than with any thing you have done. I think leo has a video on how to stop giving a fuck look for that. As for interrupting your behavior look into cognitive behavioral therapy that is what that is all about. The only people you should generally care about what they think are the people that make up your close friends and family and those people should not be degrading you. The rest of the world treat with common decency but until they show a greater interest in your well being I would not have a shit to give whether they like me or not.

Well I am not expert on relationships for sure and spent most of my life more alone than 90% of people I have ever met I have had long spans in my life where I had no one. Not a single soul. So I can really relate to people that go though this. But it really is not about the sex it is the lack of closeness with you fellow humans that causes the melancholy. Intimacy opens us up and there is a sexual healing when you share yourself with another person that not only cares but loves you for exactly who and what you are. Society has created drones of preoccupied self interested people that rarely will make room for someone new. Your depression causes a second problem namely depressed people are not attractive and do not attract people. So at the times you are in the most need you are also kind of set up to fail. Neediness is another problem it does not attract woman ether yet it is the natural progression for attention starved individuals. I am saying this from experience not judgment cause I have been in the boat you are in except mine had more holes. First thing is work on your self confidence self confidence is the 1# thing that attracts women. Take more risks put your self out there more and stop taking rejection personalty maybe the person that rejected you was a train wreck I tell you that I tried lots of things to Find that person then I just said Fuck it and surrendered and stopped looking and low and behold the universe brought me and my current wife together in circumstances so surreal so bizarre I could not ignore the attraction even in my jaded state. I can not give you help finding woman as that is not my strength for that I suggest you check out leo's videos. What I can do for you is teach you how to deal with loneliness until you do find someone. Fight depression by not doing what it wants. It wants you to stay home and feel sorry for yourself. It wants you to beat your self up and take rejection as a personal slight. I say Fuck that FIGHT MAN FIGHT. Rule #1 activity defeats depression especially physical activity . Do not try to think your way out of a depression. Do not try to meditate away a depression. Fight your depression with physical activity. Get acquainted with a punching bag , start cycling . If you can find Groups to do things with you may even find someone with similar Interest at the very least you could make a new friend. Rule #2 meditation is for when you are feeling great after you beat the shit out of that punching bag and are no longer depressed Pick a type of meditation I would recommend moving meditation because it give you mind something to focus on. Qigong tai chi or the eight step brigade or yoga would be great examples unlike sitting meditation like zan zen where those thoughts of loneliness will creep in. Rule #3 learn something new read a book learn a new skill. Rule #4 There are times when you depression is bad find a outlet write and try to process in some way talk to someone or create something artistic that represents What you are feeling weather it be a poem or a piece of art. Positive affirmations sound silly but look yourself in the mirror in the morning and say "I accept myself for exactly who and what I am at this moment." The goal here is not to just ignore your depression but to keep up the fight and process it and break bad habits that keep you locked in to this cycle as well as get your ass out of the house and doing some activity's where you can meet some people with the same interest as you. On a last note I would suggest you you look into Taoist internal alchemy. You mine as well use all that pent up sexual energy for something positive. Taoist Yoga and Sexual Energy: Transforming Your Body, Mind, and Spirit Book by Eric Yudelove The Taoist believe that internalizing your sexual energy and circulating it though you body helps cultivate a strong healthy immune system positive mental state as well as enlightenment. This is a lot more productive than masturbating. I have read many things on Taoist Internal alchemy 95% is completely useless to a westerner this would be the one and only book on the subject I would suggest to everyone. For actually the how to of meeting woman go to Leos videos I am still not Casanova just because the universe took pity on my soul. Hope this helps Good luck

If you were using skepticism to answer this the reply would be. "There is know way to know for sure !"

The answer is simple we are hardwired to remember pain and negative experiences and things that do not work is a survival mechanism. As a child it is more important that you remember a burn so that you do not burn your self again. How a good experience went is less important than a bad one because bad ones carry survival lesson that keep you alive.

Enlightenment is process not a end all do it and Finished kind of thing. Enlightenment is about seeing the the Truth of NOW the reality of NOW knowing what and who you are Now. Enlightenment is about immersion the present moment completely. As for death deal with that when it is your present I am sure that is a long way off for you . No one can tell you what death is or what you take with you or how you will be after death , if they are it is speculation.

I JUST SAW THIS POST ALCOHOL IS NOT A DIET IT IS NOT A SUPPLEMENT. THIS IS A UNHEALTHY AND DANGEROUS. ALCOHOL IS BASICALLY A POISON IT DEHYDRATES YOU YOU ARE KILLING YOU LIVER and KIDDIES. STOP THIS CRAZY SHIT IMMEDIATELY ! I am reposting a reply I posted to another thread because it is relevant to this discussion and it could help you loose weight with out dangerios fad diets. Please read it. The answer to you question is juicing because what juicing does is takes out the fiber out of fruits and vegetables and concentrates minerals vitamins and nutrients in amounts you could never eat. You most defiantly feel a difference. As juice does not have to be digested like food so it is metabolized quicker. Watch you carrot juice intake though if you drink to much it effects you body by turning yellow orange. You can you tube for more information. An extreme example of what juicing can do for you is in Fat sick and nearly dead 1 and 2. I would recommend them both as they give a good idea of what to expect when doing a juice cleanse. This is by no means feasible in the long term as it is very extreme. If you want a more moderate path (the path I have chosen) do a juice cleanse for as long as you feel you can one or two weeks is the least amount of time. Then eliminate or extremely reduce meat, soda , junk food ect. I personalty when I can afford it juice with a juicer blend and eat much less meat. Juicing and blending complement each other well because juice is not that filling because of the lack of fiber but blended drinks still have fiber and give you gut something to chew on. The down side is vegetables and fruits cost a lot in most cases when you are talking about volumes you use in juicing unless you live by a vegetable market. One way to offset this cost is look for fruits and vegetables that are on sale. A lot of the fun of blending and juicing is experimenting ( make small batches when unsure it will stop you wasting fruits and vegetables on concoctions that you will not drink) Side note cabbage when blending is not your friend never use cabbage in vegetable or Any blended drinks for that matter , it hijacks flavor completely. Blending can be cheaper but you will never get the concentrated nutrient values you are looking for in blended drinks. I started blending. When blending get a good blender I recommend a ninja it will cost you 100 bucks and it does a great job. Most of us can not afford a blend-tech or a vitimix. if money is not a option get a blend-tech I worked at Starbucks 2 years and that blender day in and day out shreds anything you throw at it. Some times you get lucky I got a Kenmore pro for like $150 because sears went bankrupt it is a mid grade blender that dose a great job as well. My suggestion would be first cut out all the shit food you eat sugar salts empty carbs Then juice cleanse for a week or two. Reduce meat intake greatly (Even the Dali lama eats small amounts of meat) Juice at lest once a day and do not let juice sit longer than 24 hours nutrient value dies longer the juice sits. The same is true of blending but I drink blended drinks even sooner I rarely will blend more than I can drink in a hour. Moderation is the key when trying to build a eating lifestyle not a fad diet. Stay away from extremes and try to build a diet with more good stuff and less crap. 80/20 rule : Is 80 % vegetables 20% fruit when juicing or blending. Natural sugar is good but not in excessive doses. On top of what I just told you two other things that will make you feel better is acidophilus it is the good bacteria in you gut and it pays a huge role in digestion and the way you feel. Get one that has at least 10 unique strains and has at least 10 billion (CFU) colony building units . Candida on the other hand is you bad gut bacteria feeds off sugar. So eliminate or greatly reduce sugar intake. you gut BACTERIA should be 20 % bad Candida and 80% acidophilus. “Let food be thy medicine and medicine be thy food.” ― Hippocrates Hope this helped

Time in effect does not exist it is another one of mans abstract creations to measure tics and tocks of reality. The only reverent time is NOW.

Crystals where to start ? Well I guess I start with I can feel some crystals energy when placed in my palm. I do not think crystals work the way people the in the new age moment say they do. From my experience of what I feel when I hold certain crystals and stones they have no energy unto themselves. They channel your energy. I guess the easy way to illustrate would be a magnifying glass and the sun. The magnifying glass has no power itself but if you focus the sun though it you can burn paper. Crystals seem to absorb and channel your energy in specific ways depending on their internal crystalline structure. Just buying a crystal and putting it in you pocket has no real effect. To get the maximum effect from a crystal I would say you also have to use intent. Channel intent though it. What is It going to do? I have done medicine bags that linked / chained different crystals together as a complex focus to great effect. There are a couple of possibility's for the effects I stated above. This could be true. In which case it works for me....Or every thing I just said could be a placebo effect that just helps remind and focus my mind to achieve results in which case it works. So what do I believe ? What do I know ? I am not truly sure if I am honest. Part of me that feels the energy channeled when I hold some crystals in my hand wants to believe all this. It is the way my mind rationalized and organized how crystals work from my perspective. I also have understanding of magick or the law of attraction is the new age name for a very old concept. So I know that one can focus your mind to achieve results with out props or items. So I am conflicted on this topic of which it is. Maybe I will never truly never know and that is ok . It is enough right now to say crystals help focus my mind to achieve a result. So I just relate to them as a Focus of my mind and energy and intent. I have read several crystal manuals as well as the crystal bible and ultimately I find them a waste of paper. Every crystal is not protective and I would encourage others to experiment with crystals and come to you own conclusions before you have someone else indoctrinate you to their truth.

Humanity has not changed that much since we were caveman clubbing woman and draging them back to our cave. Our (methouds are more sophisticated) the club has become manipulation a mental acuity instead of physical. This is how every thing is courption in governments , citys even small groups is still the same. The reason for this is human nature and the mentality of " I am gonna get mine at all cost , even at the cost of others" This comes from humans in the lowest conscious level survival .That is where most of us are in a perpetual state of stress pressure and need. But the issue is even more complex than that because governments businesses and coperations want you in that state of desperation. They profit of that monetarily as well as in power and influence. Ways to change society The first step you are doing because the first step is to start sweeping your own porch and dealing with your own problems. The second step is not to be judgmental of you fellow (chimps) humans I mean you never know what someone is going though or what aspect they are working on.Be compassionate and understanding. Three help those in your sphere of influence to be better. People can change themselves and even help others if they are willing and able. Groups can change circumstances faster than individuals. Society though like the individual has to be ready and willing to change that is what to look for opportunity and to have a critical mass to move change foward. We are all part of The ocean of humanity even though we are only a drop we can still cause a ripple and a ripple can cause a wave and a wave can be a tsunami. Never underestimate the the small work because it is foundational for all great works.

Look not going to get into ego games or the inner psychology of the issue. What I suggest is doing a physical activity you actually enjoy . For me it is cycling or simply taking long walks or swimming but the important thing is that you acutely enjoy it . We do things we enjoy more and with less subconscious resistance if we hold a affinity for them. Follow you bliss instead of forcing yourself to do something you truly do not want to do .... good luck

The answer to you question is juicing because what juicing does is takes out the fiber out of fruits and vegetables and concentrates minerals vitamins and nutrients in amounts you could never eat. You most defiantly feel a difference. As juice does not have to be digested like food so it is metabolized quicker. Watch you carrot juice intake though if you drink to much it effects you body by turning yellow orange. You can you tube for more information. An extreme example of what juicing can do for you is in Fat sick and nearly dead 1 and 2. I would recommend them both as they give a good idea of what to expect when doing a juice cleanse. This is by no means feasible in the long term as it is very extreme. If you want a more moderate path (the path I have chosen) do a juice cleanse for as long as you feel you can one or two weeks is the least amount of time. Then eliminate or extremely reduce meat, soda , junk food ect. I personalty when I can afford it juice with a juicer blend and eat much less meat. Juicing and blending complement each other well because juice is not that filling because of the lack of fiber but blended drinks still have fiber and give you gut something to chew on. The down side is vegetables and fruits cost a lot in most cases when you are talking about volumes you use in juicing unless you live by a vegetable market. One way to offset this cost is look for fruits and vegetables that are on sale. A lot of the fun of blending and juicing is experimenting ( make small batches when unsure it will stop you wasting fruits and vegetables on concoctions that you will not drink) Side note cabbage when blending is not your friend never use cabbage in vegetable or Any blended drinks for that matter , it hijacks flavor completely. Blending can be cheaper but you will never get the concentrated nutrient values you are looking for in blended drinks. I started blending. When blending get a good blender I recommend a ninja it will cost you 100 bucks and it does a great job. Most of us can not afford a blend-tech or a vitimix. if money is not a option get a blend-tech I worked at Starbucks 2 years and that blender day in and day out shreds anything you throw at it. Some times you get lucky I got a Kenmore pro for like $150 because sears went bankrupt it is a mid grade blender that dose a great job as well. My suggestion would be first cut out all the shit food you eat sugar salts empty carbs Then juice cleanse for a week or two. Reduce meat intake greatly (Even the Dali lama eats small amounts of meat) Juice at lest once a day and do not let juice sit longer than 24 hours nutrient value dies longer the juice sits. The same is true of blending but I drink blended drinks even sooner I rarely will blend more than I can drink in a hour. Moderation is the key when trying to build a eating lifestyle not a fad diet. Stay away from extremes and try to build a diet with more good stuff and less crap. 80/20 rule : Is 80 % vegetables 20% fruit when juicing or blending. Natural sugar is good but not in excessive doses. On top of what I just told you two other things that will make you feel better is acidophilus it is the good bacteria in you gut and it pays a huge role in digestion and the way you feel. Get one that has at least 10 unique strains and has at least 10 billion (CFU) colony building units . Candida on the other hand is you bad gut bacteria feeds off sugar. So eliminate or greatly reduce sugar intake. you gut bacteria should be 20 % bad Candida and 80% acidophilus. “Let food be thy medicine and medicine be thy food.” ― Hippocrates Hope this helped