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Its because you are working against your souls desire. You need to go way more deep inside yourself and fix the root issues you have with yourself. Your motivations to do whatever you want to do are still surface patches to bigger problems. Your inner self is still chocked by something and cant articulate itself. And yes its hard to pursue your dream through all the obstacles. But again, THAT IS exactly the point. If youre just on the self actualization train because your life is boring and you need something to bs yourself, then thats what you get! But then you dont want to do it, you want something else! Realize that you only gonna feel worse if you dont start, dont try and try again and try and fail and try. If you stop, you gonna suffer sooo much, its fucking horrible. So there is really only one way. Realize it now or relalize it in 20 years but its the same way. Its only gonna get a lot harder and harder and at some point you gonna leave this realm here and might fucked up so you gonna have to start again!

BS, come on that sounds like window-dressed nihilism. Elon Musk said to Joe Rogan something along the lines of "We probably live in a simulation. But outside of it, it is most likely pretty boring, because why would you make a simulation of the boring stuff? A simulation is the essence of the interesting part, like a video game is the exciting part of some story." Why is suffering bad? Why run away from it? Isnt life counter intuitive? Problems are the juice of life. If you accept yourself, accept life, accept the rules we play with, try to be the best you can be every day, serve god, be a good human, do things that make you like yourself(!!), then you might stop worrying because you have accepted your death at any time BECAUSE YOU LIVE AS AUTHENTICALLY AS YOU CAN EVERY DAY. And then it all clicks and the rest doesnt matter. THEN youre living a pretty purposeful charged and good life. The funny thing is, its all there, but you first need to be ready for it. Life is a big game of conquering yourself, then you get the juice. And SUFFERING IS THE JUICE. Climbing the mountain to the top, and realizing you haven't claimed the mountain but you conquered yourself. The mountain doesnt matter! Its just a mountain, you could be in the jungle instead. Its YOU. You, the one, the fucking universe, consciousness. It tells you what to do but you don´t listen do you. Listen ant do it. That´s mastery of oneself, mastery of life, peace and dignity. Then you are dying in peace. And that´s what it should be about, to die in peace with yourself. People need to stop feeding their inner devil because your mom told you you are to nice, or you are scared to be exploited or taken advantage of or not getting your fair share etc. All those things will happen to you if you don´t learn the lesson and you´ll become bitter. Start small, its okay to fail, go on, its gonna get better if you stick with it. @BlackElephant, I resonate with what you're saying, I had this moment too. And then I lost it, then I had it another time, then I lost it, then I remember, its a constant battle to solidify new insights. All the best

"Re-open" Nice discussion ! Im digging into System Thinking on Amazon, but as I look through the Bestselling List, its a feast of fake review E-Books... I´m looking for a Systems Thinking -type Book which focuses on Applied Methodology! Meaning: 1. How and with which tools can I create Systems 2. What Systems can I use to discover and analyse systems ---

Hey Maslow pyramid crawlers, Any resources to integrate yellow? I lived through green, now I party like green but re-organize my Journal and create systems for further development like yellow. Nah jokes aside, I am at this point where I need novelty, feel stuck, I have tier 2 thinking long time already, but instead of merely valueing excellence, I want to become a master.

YES!! There is a saying in Russia " If 3rd husband hits face, its not husband, its face". You're have the doormat syndrome, so you attract abusers. If that´s the case, please read: Peace at any Price by Deborah Day Poor. Its gonna change your life. Here´s the book if you cant find it yourself https://amzn.to/2REoClN

Yea I too think Dalio is quite developed. I mean being a hedge fund head for over 20 years makes you think doesnt it. Good book, youre on the right track. Why? Because you analyze yourself, you are not afraid of self reflection, thats very important.

Daffico! 1. Nice move of you to call your friend, good job! 2. Congratulations! That is a chance to grow. How? Well 1) You gonna use alcohol more wisely from now on 2) you have a funny story to tell 2b. Judgements from your friends are tests if you are a man and can stand up for yourself. A good response to judgements would be something like: " Haha yes I know man I fucked myself up at that party, man I couldnt even remember half of that night, what a blow out. I´m not gonna do that again I can tell you." 3. Don´t think this is going to matter 6 months from now, so don´t worry. Your perspective is to narrow at the moment, but that is natural. Your friends are the most important things in your life at that age. Normal! Don´t let them bully you, show you are a man, that you have the balls to openly talk about your mistakes and move on. 4. You don´t stop feeling the bad emotions. Because the bad emotions are there for a reason! Use them to change your behavior for the better. Growth = Pain. Good Luck! If you want to talk about it more , write me a message.

Its the same. How about you start changing yourself before changing the world

If you Meal Prep healthy, have style, wake up early, work out, study hard, clean ýour stuff, read... you keep that going for half a year and you rocket science out of space. But honestly the meme should be named " Boys trying to please their parents by being successful in life, postponing midlife crisis until 30s". Man I found enlightenment in a club full of half naked people, because that´s where true wisdom is

youre just some woke dude who took it to the next level and build himself

lmao it becomes a trap if you stay to long!

No offense but Joseph Maynor is the archetype of the trapped PD person,

Update: Man what a ride. Im changing like crazy. Thanks for the advice given, "You wanna zoom out" is exactly what it is. See the systems in the world. Basically 2 Words of Advice I can give right now. (Perspective you speaking to yourself) 1. You have no idea what your potential is. 2. Don´t question me, Don´t write it down, Just do it. 3. Have fun

feel you, love Cognitive Psychology Developmental Psychology Personality psychology -- Question is, is it a trade which brings you do self actualization or is self actualization a interest which brings you towards psychology.

The Psychological Significance of the Bible for free on Youtube by Jordan Peterson

Jordan Peterson is one of the outstanding thinkers of our time. He is not misunderstood, it is the curse of our time that a thinker get spawned into the "public" eye and torn apart since "views" became ridiculous moneymakers with the internet age. This whole development has put a giant smokescreen burying his actual deep teaching. To be really honest with you, he derived freaking deep wisdom from the rationality which probably causes 90% of today's peoples rational atheism. He is Post-Nietzsche, and Post the Rationalismtrap and Post the wishywashy Post-Modernism. He is Post- "I couldnt stand my rational nihilism so I now do "spirituality" to not progress, but actually regress to a sort of "no-attachemet blue dogma spirituality". He is of deep wisdom about the truth. And he is so packed with actual practical logic, its outstanding. But again, being able to understand him takes consistent practice. Why people don´t do it? Because it takes consistent practice. Yes but of course it does! If you fly over random bit sized 5 min cut-offs you can forget understanding! How to do it properly: I recommend starting with his course "2017 - Psychology and its Transformations". Great course for students at all levels of their development. It is important that you now sit with your laptop or notebook and follow all the lectures! This takes time, each lecture is about 2 hours long and you might want to pause, and in some cases rewind a little too! Write down the most well articulated Note sheet you are able to. Taking Notes is a so much blindsided skill! You do not have to ever look at your Notes again, but maybe you will want to, if they are actually good! And that has a lot to do with making it in your unique and personal style. This course will be great for any human being who wants to understand more about himself and the world around him. Then do the same study practice for 2) 2017 - Maps of Meaning and 3) The Psychological Significance of the Bible. However, learning is not a 1 month mega monster JOJO diet. Because it is a lot, really a lot of input. Nevertheless, always stay consistent and relaxed. Do not rush into it trying to do everything in a month, or in three months. Consistence is the key. You will also understand this more when you start watching his second half of the course, which is about the Big5 Model of Personal Psychology. It helps you a lot if you have understanding of Joseph Cambell´s "The heroes journey", Maslows "Toward a psychology of being" and understand the rough direction of Freud, and Carl Jung. For Nietzsche, read him and then listen to what Jordan Peterson extracts out of his work. That alone will give you a hint of his mastery. I don´t want anything from you. We are fucking one, if you get this, you will know why I want to help you. Best, UDT

10/10 most yellow arse in the u.s

let your higher self have 5 minutes of consciousness and think about this problem and it will be solved

Hello, I am currently trying to figure out how to beat one of my greatest demons --> Bonding and forming meaningful relationships with guys in social groups --> Being myself in groups and not trying to preserve harmony as my one and only goal I move a lot around due to my work, and thus met a few completely new social circles in the past 2 years. Now there is a repeating pattern every time and I can´t stop. I meet new people, or get introduced into a new circle of friends who know each other already. First, it goes good, I ask a lot of questions and we talk a little, go out together etc. all good. Now I evolve into this silent person who is kind of the "caretaker" of the group, so I will help people, and look after them but stay very in the background when I see everyone is doing good. Its like I am the silent Momma of the group (thats what it feels to me). This is sort of the problem: * I have some good foundations in body language, behavioral psychology etc. so I notice things pretty fast. During my teens, my main objective around my family was to keep the water from boiling, thus I had to be very sensible to mood-swings and peoples feelings. It is also kind of a trauma. If I hear a the mood swing in a group setting or two people crushing into another, I get very uncomfortable and try to switch topic and counteract it basically. I might drop something or do something negative, just to ease the tension. I basically cannot get emotional at all around a social circle, but very icy. * I notice the sometimes toxic relationships between the people in groups I join etc. (For example if the best friend likes the girlfriend of his friend a little to much). Or I ask some questions and then I get a sense for the value system of this person (according to Spiral Dynamics), and it just makes me a little disconnected from the real person because I put him or her into a box already. On the other hand, it also could be that I perceive those things wrong, but I wouldn´t know. So far I think I was mostly right. It´s really not hard to see the second and third layer personality behind the fassade, because the fassade tells you exactly what the person wants you to see and not to see. * Yes in reality, no one is perfect, everyone has their baggage but I cannot let loose, I just developed an eye for it in a way and it haunts me. Am I neurotic? Yes I think so, but how to stop? How to chill just be yourself without adapting yourself to the situation..? Now what happens in the "initiation phase" of the social circle game 1. Because I am completely new to the city and don´t know anyone, I think I should be very agreeable and try to get along with all the guys, thus I find myself in the position to be a sucker, meaning that it is not so much important that I point out my personal opinion on every matter, its more like if I see it different, I rather stay silent and move topics. 2. I dont want to come across as rude, so I kinda laugh off everything instead of also confronting people (in a playful way ofc) Being accepted is sort of my only objective, and I am completely fine with everything else that happens. I go with the flow so to say, because in my mind, I dont really care about this whole social hierarchy games, but then I end up this guy who is there or not there, but is not really memorable, or does not really add value, idk. 3. I want to make everyone feel good. 4. I see the flaws of people very fast. I then try to ignore them but I cannot really form a good relationship with a person once I see that they are needy, or jealous, only fake-listen when I talk, don´t like it when I talk about positive things about myself, or fake the interest etc. 5. If I talk to a person 1on1, I mostly ask questions about their interests, so we converse about that. I dont wanna talk about myself, because I think it could make the other person jealous etc. (e.g. when I have a pretty good job and a degree and the other person is working in a grocery shop, I feel very uncomfortable talking about my job etc.) 6. Then, If I find a person which I find cool to hang out with and interesting, I start un-proportionally strong liking this person, and then have to be careful not ending up to be a people pleaser. -- It is kind of as I am loosing myself in the quest for friendship and meaningful relationships. And that is exactly why it is not working so well.. I feel like I am way to picky and see it very black and white. So its either a very good friend, or I cant even properly talk with that person on a personal level. So ultimately I end up being sort of liked by everyone, but unable to form deep and meaningful relationships, or I find a friend in 1/20 people I meet, and then its this 1on1 friendships apart from groups. What is wrong people?

So the question for me really is, how do you differentiate between strategizing your future vs. following your gut feeling thus living with a more short-term focus. How do you know when you are just following the traps of society (get a good education, get a good degree, get a good job)? Maybe your heart says fuck it, leave education and acquiring papers (aka Master degree and so forth) and trading it for actual work experience, or for following your passion in the arts (e.g. music, art, entrepreneurship). On the other hand you could say, I will postpone my risky dreams to first get a safety-net a.k.a degree and then "I will still have enough time to do xyz". But is that true? What is right here folks? Playing it strategic and safe, building your educational foundation which in a way sacrifices your youth and freedom, or going all in on your way of living, not giving a fuck and believing that everything will turn out right. I think this question is relevant for everyone between 21-30. It is in a nutshell: "ah you are still so young, first get a good education, you can start with all the other stuff when you are 26" vs. "you are only young once. Go for it, you can still study when you are 30"

You're stressed out because 1) you thought you can fix your parents since they don't worry about money anymore, but it didn't happen. 2) you are a perfectionist, there is always something to do better, something you missed out on, mistakes you make, it bothers you. 3) You need to be outside more, not only jogging, pick up a team sport, take a month off and take your GF + backpack and go to some cheap warm place

man I feel you 100% Orange women are the worst of the worst.

Not sure if that applies when they are both so young they dont know what they are going to be like in 2 years, BUT yes that´s exactly how to build a long lasting meaningful great relationship. The question is, do you want to get serious? Don´t want to poke but I think a man needs to mature by getting to know women. Other you have to make a commitment that this is the only girl for you, period. Thats what getting serious is about. Not that it will happen, but how can you build if you know it has an experiation date.

haha exactly me. DONT! Jesus, stop thinking so much and start living your life. Analysis = Paralysis. These young people these days... na srsly, dont sabotage your relationship, are you scared it will end bad? Did you parents get divorced? Why are you feeling you dont love her anymore, even she is awesome in your eyes? Do you think everything needs to be perfect? Think about it

sounds mostly dogmatic green. Maybe first work on yourself, as a systems thinker you wouldn´t ask this question in a forum but do research yourself. You say you are not sure how a yellow community looks like, then why do you want to live in one?