Alexop

Ok, if you are a sociologist, what do you think about Norway's "gender point system" which gives you an artificial headstart for applying to fields where your gender is in minority? I even heard (not sure if it is true) people who changed gender in order to have higher chances to enter into STEM.

Man, you're just spinning out bullshit. How is the "why" so hard to explain? There is clear research that shows that the vast majority of women show less interest for engineering than men. Focus on simplicity and forget this stupid "academicsplaining" Being a woman is both a choice of identity and a cultural thing. You both are a woman and behave like a woman relatively speaking. Yes I know you are God and all of that on the absolute level. When I say "I am a man", it is like saying I am an introvert, this is how I feel most authentic.

What do Judith Butler say about masculinity and femininity? Without the understanding of this dance of energies coupled with our biology and hormone dynamics is just a work not done. Maybe I picked to listen a bad book of hers but it was the most boring shit I ever listened to.

Every sane swede or norvegian to whom I explained this agreed. As you said, it is the loud minority who distorts our perception. They all gather on social media and create the perception that there are a lot of them, but the sane majority of people don't waste their time arguing on facebook so it's just them there.

I won't even call those people green. They are just a wicked varriant of blue. I see not difference between their behavior and a blue pope father who silences his daughter at the dinner table because she dared to favor for abortion or divorce. Green is not just another flavor of blue, it integrates the freedom of speech from orange. These feminazis are not green, and if the office example that @Bobby_2021 brought up is really so radical, then I feel sorry for men working in such toxic environments. All the priviledged spoiled girls are now political activists and thought police. Honestly I did not experience this kind of toxic femininity outside social media, but I see them how they hoard in comment sections and use the power in numbers to overpower the good arguments of the conservatives. All they have is power in numbers and empowering the victim. They can't love the opressor which is tragic, because nobody will change his/her mind through opression. And ultimately the karma will bite them in the ass. As I see in Sweden's politics now with the maaasive popularity increase of the conservative party. People are not idiots, when instead of doing good politics you just try to not be racist, then people will vote those who do politics instead.

Can you give me an example?

Nice one, so it seems you can transtion later in life and still be happy also.

Healthy masculinity is not toxic, using violence in appropriate contexts is not toxic. Slitting the throats of some nazis who invaded your country is still healthy masculinity.

Exactly, children are getting taught things that most politically active people think it is right. That will influence the academic world. If universities don't comply with what the government believes, they can get their licence withdrawn or whatever. When most politically active people think we are all the same and femininity & masculinity are conservative crap we have to get rid of, then you get that nuthead from Iceland separating girls and boys in kindergarden and teaching them different stuff.

A mature society will democratically choose mature people to teach their chidren. The same as swedes don't choose Tate figures to rule their country.

This is what happens when we let people who did not yet experience the Dunning–Kruger effect to rule society. Same as in spirituality when a kid who went 10 days to a vipassana tells us how we should behave.

@Bobby_2021 Their problem is that they only use one half of the brain in the equation. They have good intentions but it is not enough. We are different, we have different prefferences in general. There are studies on this. Fun fact about the ICF coaching course I went to: coaching is an EQ-based profession, the trainers were two women and the attendees were 7 women... and me. At my first job in Sweden as a massage therapist at a SPA, the staff was composed of 11 girls, one gay guy, and me. At nurse school there are around 100 women for every 10 male students. Sweden the big mamma of gender equality has made considerable efforts to equalize the gender gap in professions, but the result was the opposite, the gap is even bigger in Scandinavia than in more traditional countries. People will choose to work whatever they want to work regardless of your equality ideals and ideologies. Scandinavian countries try to erase the behavioral difference between men and women, teaching boys to be more emotional and girls to be stronger and more resilient. Basically swingging the pedulum from one extreme to the other, if traditional countries push for widening the gap between men and women, progressive countries push for making them behave the same. As Leo said, teaching people about masculinity & femininity is crucial here. Yes there are some border cases of authentic feminie men and authentic masculine women, gay people etc... but the general trend is that 90%+ of people fit their biological gender and gravitate towards the corresponding energy.

@Bobby_2021 Ask them, have no idea what the hell they're doing.

@Leo Gura DId you read Beyond Mars and Venus? Do you agree with John Gray's hormone theories?

Exactly this is what I was contemplating! They tell them all this queer ideology but they don't mention masculinity and femininity, they try to erase them. I saw how in Iceland they were separating girls form the boys and teaching boys how to be more sensitive and girls how to be stronger.

I'd have a conservative approach, even the most educated parents still don't really undertand how to find your authentic self. There is a risk that even the childs parents don't really know who the hell they are. There is so much to learn and contemplate here. There has to be real intellectuals and experts who need to deal with that, not some ideological parents and politicians. Gender is a social construct but I identify as a "man" because this construction fits my looks, biology, hormone dynamics, personality, sexual orientation. Kids just look for appreciation and love, if they get love by identifying as a punker, they will become a punker and adopt those looks. If their friends will love them more by being bisexual then they will do that. Be open-minded but be carful so that your brains don't fall off.

Good advice overall. Whole grain pasta is still crap, novels can also become addictive.

Wondering if it is worth it if I want to work as a coach on my own.

What I don't like about ChatGPT is that is too careful so that it does not harm in any way. When talking about sensitive topics, it avoids the questions and does the typical wokeslpaining. The Calude 3 that you guys are talking about is not allowed in my region, I should use a VPN maybe.

AI is smart and you have to admit it, just by simply interconnecting the tons of information it has about the world. Soul and emotions wil not map the world and make distinctions, logic will. It is still in development though, keep in mind the first Iphone.

As @Schizophonia, the man is the one coming with the current, men have shiloads of personal develpment to do until they can call themselves men. And will be double as hard when the influencing woke mob around him has no clue what real masculinity is. What happens when men fail to become men? the woman has to become the man and she'll hate it in most cases. Or another cool meataphor: The man is the nature and the woman is the flower, if he providers her sun and water, she can relax, be vulnerable and beautiful. If the man is a desert, she'll become a cactus.

@Princess Arabia Thanks for feedback. There will be editings for sure. I want to add one more section where I'll encourage to ignore sex and gender and only focus on the energies. Only the contemplation I did for writing this changed my day to day life, amazing how these two energies shape our behavior. People who ignore and don't study this topic are prone to a life of suffering. Observing this in people and yourself daily will change your life.

some truth here haha.

Whant can I say, good luck then becoming god or whatever you want to achieve! My passion is to understand the mechanisms through which we bullshit ourselves even if this will cost me friends, sex, relationships or even happiness. If I would only want to be happy, I would join a stage green permaculture community and live there in fake bliss. I hope you guys will ultimately understand that you cannot jump over stage yellow, you adore your gurus, but your gurus are masters of logical thinking also. The real ones.

We are animals dude. We survive instinctually also, especially you. Most people do not use logic to survive, and that is fine. But our complex world we have today requires logic and mapping. If we still lived in the woods, everything would come natural to us, there won't be any woke clowns to tell you that biology doesn't matter. If you don't have a good living philosophy in these days you'll end up suffering like a dog.