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This is the leftist gender God, have your read her? What are your opinions on her?

Great point!!!

In SD Green countries you are pretty much allowed to "call sick" for up one week without being checked in some way. Or even fake an illness to your doctor and you'll get even more paid time off. I am wondering when is this going too far? Because the jobs here are still shit, most of them office crap. When most of you hate your jobs and you can just call sick, isn't it unfair for those colleagues who really love their job and show up every day and managers who have to replace you out all the time? Not to mention that if you hate your job you aren't as productive as those who do.

An article of mine, copied and pasted here so I don't promote my guru business, enjoy! How Did the Moving Wish Come to Me As I said before, I used to cycle a lot everywhere. In Romania, that is not a thing people do, not even now after 20 years! The infrastructure is simply not built for cyclists, no cycling paths, not even good pedestrian paths! You might think, what shitty politicians. They are not the entire reason some countries have bad infrastructure, there are a LOT of voters who get addicted to the comfort of their car, if you come up with “crazy” ideas of transforming parking spaces or a car lane into a cycling path, you might end up losing elections. In a democracy, average people play a role in what happens there. In developing countries, the car is not just a tool that makes your life easier, it is a status symbol, and it is a story sold to people, especially to men. Even if they might not admit it, they buy the car because it promises them a comfortable and easy commute from A to B, a nice girlfriend, and the appreciation of their peers. Do they get it? Meh, depends on what kind of girl they wish for and what people they have around, and regarding the mobility promised, I think is the worst alternative if we speak about a big city. When this story is bought up by the majority of the population then there is no doubt that the infrastructure is car-centric. Is it bad that it is so? Nope, it is just a phase that societies have to go through, at least in our times right now. When people grow up in poverty and always wish for a better material situation, then they have to burn that karma, they have to exhaust that need and realize it is not as cool as they thought it would be. Unfortunately, it will cost them lots of money and nerves. As I said, I am a bit more special, always did stuff most people did not. After I got my driving license, I clowned around with my parent’s car for some months then went back to biking and walking. But when I went to college in the bigger city nearby, I found it difficult to cycle there. Lots of traffic, lots of lanes, lots of pollution! Cars made me less happy honestly, so much noise, so much pollution, so much money spent for what? That was one itch of mine, and then I met some German girls. One I met at the swimming pool, one at a hiking trip, and two randomly at a washing facility. I was wowed by how different they were from the Romanian girls I met. I really loved their vibe, their knowledge, and their simplicity. They made me wonder how cool will it be to live in a country with this kind of people. So they managed to create another itch inside me. First Visit I was close to finishing my Physiotherapy major. In 2017 I embarked on the journey of finding that cool country I wanted to live in. I’ve heard of the Scandinavian countries that they are cool for some reason, so I booked a 10 euros plane ticket to Sweden, I think the train that had to take me to the Swedish city nearby (Linköping) was more expensive. Two nice Swedish girls received me into their homes through the Couchsurfing app. The second day we went into the forest to pick up mushrooms. Amazing nature I thought, I even found moose horns! And man the infrastructure, bike lanes! The girls were laughing at me that I was even noticing them. After 2 fun days, I hitchhiked to the next city where I stayed with a Swedish family for 2 more days, had lots of fun, I have no time to go into details. Another long hitchhike took me to Malmö where I stayed at a Chinese and a Pakistani. They were a bit sad that their social life was poor, and it was quite hard to find a girlfriend. At that moment I thought: “The language man, the language”. It is very important to learn the culture and the language in order to fit in. I liked Sweden so much that I wanted to cancel my next planned days in Germany, but I still went to Hamburg and Berlin. Nice country, but too late Germany, already found my love. First Moving and Impressions 6 months later, I found some work in Eskilstuna, Sweden with some Romanians in installations. I said why not, make some money, and see how some basic Romanians experienced Sweden, I worked my dexterity with tools and learned the language. This experience got me used to the country and taught me a lot. There was a guy in our team who lived there for almost 10 years, and he finally decided to return to his home country because he had enough. He is the perfect example of “I came here only for more money”. He disliked the progressive culture, the people, and the weather. He even said: “This is the worst country ever”. If you checked my Spiral Dynamics material you know that these people are around the stage Blue. People who love their roots and traditions, won’t really be happy here. This is for extreme leftists who say the segregation happened purely because we did not do a great job with integrating them, many don’t really want to integrate, they want to flock around their people with whom they share the same culture and traditions. Maybe their kids will integrate, who knows. You can give them the opportunity to integrate but cannot force them. In three months I was already speaking swedish with people, this guy barely blabbered some grammatically wrong swedish after 10 years. This kind of experiences made me who I am, I am able to sit at the table with whomever and understand their perspectives instead of calling them dumb and racists. I sat at the table with racists, I sat at the table with hippies that traveled the world by bicycle. Do you know what they have in common? They all want to be appreciated and understood for who they are, if you hate people with diffrent opinions than yours, then please let politics in better hands! When you hung around affluent Swedish leftists from rich families your whole lives, then no doubt you can’t see other perspectives. You want them to integrate in you country but are you open to sit at the same table with them? Ah, they are conservative, you don’t like conservatives. My developmental psychology article explains these dynamics, you’ll realize it is totally normal for those kinds of people to be conservative and racists. You criticize a dog for not being able to speak. “Skitsamma”, after 6 months I left back to Romania and worked there as a physical therapist for 5 years before returning back to Sweden. The reason why I did this is long, sensitive, and complicated. It deserves a separate article. The Return At the end of the summer 2022, I was running in the forest when I saw that a Swedish guy was calling me. Gasping for breath after climbing hills with 4:30/km pace I answered just to find out that they decided to employ me at their brand new hotel as a massage therapist in Gothenburg. “Jääävlar”! After I hung up the phone, my running pace raised to 4:00 until I reached home. In 2 months I packed up and off to Sweden baby. Found a cheap airbnb, it was a bit further from the city but who cared then. Reached my neighborhood just to realize something: where the hell are the Swedes? The neighborhood was around 98% immigrants. I said: Oh, of course! Birds of a feather flock together. I had no kids, and no girlfriend so I had no problem with them, just minded my own business for 6 months until I moved to a “non-getto” area where I finally found a good rent. The job was pleasant and non-stressful. As it was a spa, there were only girls and me working there. Infrastructure Man, I felt so much better to be able to breathe cleaner air. Gothenburg is the second biggest city in Sweden with around 500 000 people, but it didn’t feel like it. There were not so many cars around, all the cars were pushed away from the city towards the belts and highways with pollution taxes, high parking fees, traffic calming, etc. Even if there were some cars around, they don’t annoy you as much because they drive mostly at low speeds because the smart traffic calming infrastructure forces them so. I perceived the bike lanes to be ok, there could be improvements but still, for me there was absolutely no problem to bike everywhere. I just felt a lot happier, you can’t imagine how much happier you become when you enjoy the environment you live in instead of getting angry about the ugliness you see every day. Swedish People & Socialization Cool beautiful people. I had a Swedish girlfriend for like 7 months, it was cool to experience Christmas in a Swedish family. Besides my work colleagues, my ex. and a girl I met at the climbing gym and hung around from time to time, I didn’t really make any guy friends. I interacted with around a dozen, they were smart and nice and all that but I found them not really interested in creating new friends that are a bit different then they are. I met one guy once and after he messaged me: “I think we did not click so well”. I bursted into laughter. Dude, we don’t get into a romantic relationship, you can have close guy friends and distant guy friends, the close ones are the ones you have to “click” with. If you only hang around in your echo chamber of people with the exact same mentality, then no doubt you become a couch potato because nothing challenges you, and you can’t understand other perspectives and have no idea how politics work. The most growth I got from meeting people with completely different mentalities than mine. I don’t want to generalize but I see many guys here just coasting through life unpassionate and passive, maybe I am wrong. And yes, I don’t really click with that. Anyway, I purposely forced myself to hang around swedish-speaking people so I learn the language fast, the previous 5 years I practiced none. I do not buy that “Swedes are cold” thing but I can explain why people can perceive them as such. In poorer countries like Romania, people had to collaborate and keep close to each other in order to survive no matter what. As the country gets richer, people don’t need each other that much, they have the choice to choose each other, this can come with advantages and disadvantages. If you get sick or out of money, the state helps you. And no, the USA is not a developed country. The poorer the country, the “warmer” the people. Even in Romania, I had a hard time finding people like me, “vad kan man göra”. I just don’t click with most mainstream people and that is ok. If you are ready to follow me on this self-improvement journey, prepare to be a lone wolf sometimes. Better a lone wolf than a silly sheep, sorry for the arrogance. Don’t generalize people who want to improve their lives, not all of them want to become like some silly crypto investor with a Lamborghini. Weather You can get used to it, it rains a lot but I just put on my waterproof long “jacka” with some waterproof boots and pants and there I go cycling. There is a learning curve on which clothes you need to buy and what to expect when you go out, it is not “a catastrophe” as some say. You can get some amazing sunny summer days sometimes. With the perfect temperature, not too warm, not too cold. In fact, I love it that there is less sun, I don’t have to put sunscreen and my hoodie on so often. Destroying my skin is not my hobby as many “tanter” Swedish women I see doing. Food Culture Awful, next point… Politics Besides the extreme right and the extreme left fighting over immigration, climate, and so on, I find it much better than Romanian politics where the debate spins around how much should we steal, not “if” should we steal from the population. As in every country, keep away from the extremes, I just started to skip their talks and focus on the mature experienced politicians. I don’t need more than 2 sentences in order to find out their level of development. If they criticize other parties instead of putting out their policies, if they have that “critical” vibe of “we know better”, I just skip them. People vote on vibe dude, if your vibe is shit, they won’t care about your policies. In the same way a girl won’t get attracted to a guy with a bad vibe even if he talks good stuff. Conclusions Moving from a Spiral Dynamics stage Blue/Orange country to a Orange/Green one is no such huge difference but there are some specific points where it can be. For example infrastructure, it is muuuch better. The religious nonsense from which I had enough in Romania is virtually nonexistent among the Swedish population. You can mind your business and do what you want with your life, you can stay single, you can have kids with no marriage nonsense, you can divorce if the partner turns out to be bad for you etc. The diversity in people is huge, you can find your type of people among this diversity. You can find leftist hippies, rocker motorcyclists, conservative nut-heads, religious people, secular people, workaholics, video gamers, sportsmen… If you are an introvert like I am, you could have a hard time socializing especially if you don’t really want to drink alcohol and talk about cats and shit, “jobbigt”. In summary, I like it, with its ups and downs. Maybe I’ll make an elaborate article about how to integrate successfully in another country.

This is a sketch, it will become an article on coming website. It starts to get shape, I am curious of you thoughts. Excuse the grammatical errors, I'll fix them soon. I only speak english on the internet If you find yourself at the table with some leftist-leaning hippie people and you dare to open this female vs. male topic, most probably you'll ring all their sexist patriarchy alarms. And I understand why, it is a topic that requires a lot of research and contemplation, a lot of logical analysis, and as we know them, they are not the best friends with logical approaches. What is their approach to this topic? Well, they might say something like this: "Yeah the traditional beliefs that men are like this and women are like that, these are outdated beliefs from traditionalist religious people and they always tend to favor men over women, I think everybody is different man and we should embrace every individual as it is regardless of gender. We need to break free from stereotypes man...". Although their point is valid to some extent, you don't need more than two neurons in order to hold this position, positions like: "do not generalize"; and "just accept the person as it is"; yeah that is cute and all of that, but I always had a feeling that something is missing. I observed closely how men behave when they meet at a table, and how women do it. You might say we behave differently because of cultural expectations and norms not because of our nature. Of course, culture has a lot to play here but is it really only cultural determinism? If you have a point about this topic, you might be put in two categories: the progressive hippie category which I mentioned now which advocates for cultural determinism, or the conservative traditionalist perspective which advocates for complete biological determinism. Both lack complexity, depth and nuance, we are influenced by both biology and culture and I'll explain why. Here I am after more than two years of researching this topic, I don't even know where to begin. I'll begin with the beginnings of life, I found research which says that on average, when a baby boy forms in his mother's womb, he gets a testosterone injection in the body, which means the brain receives it also. What testosterone does to the brain is remarkable, it makes the individual behave in a slightly more autistic manner. Scientists measured the pre-natal testosterone levels of individuals and correlated them with increased autistic behaviors in childhood. Nature is not 100% precise, so baby girls can also get a high dose of testosterone before birth, leading to a more boysh girl and nothing wrong with that. Here I agree with hippies, everbody is different and need to be accepted as they are man… This means that the base brain, the one unaffected by testosterone, is the feminine brain, and I'll explain what femininity is throughout this article. The "extreme male brain" theory of autism, proposed by psychologist Simon Baron-Cohen, suggests that individuals with Autistic Spectrum Disorder (ASD) exhibit an exaggerated version of typical male cognitive patterns, characterized by a strong interest in systems and a reduced emphasis on social cognition. ASD is more common in males than females. If you give children a lot of toys you'll notice that girls on average will choose to play longer with dolls and they tend to imagine their feelings and thoughts, whereas boys tend to play with constructional and mechanical toys. Notice when I mention the words: "most of them", "on average" and "tend". There are no black and white distinctions in this article so don't throw eggs yet. How about when the children grow up? Of course, they will go through the renowned period of puberty when men get another big dose of testosterone in the system, which makes them grow taller, grow hair everywhere, grow bigger and stronger muscles, and get a lower pitched voice. Whereas women get a good dose of estrogen which makes them beggin the menstrual cycles and develop the typical feminine traits of wider hips and bigger breasts. What about the behavior though? Let's begin with women, shall we? They tend to talk more, are more social, are more in tune with other people's feelings and they tend to choose fields and jobs where emotional intelligence and socialization play an important role. Fields like psychology, human resources, healthcare, and very interestingly they get attracted by science fields where they study people or animals like sociology, veterinary science and gender studies. Much less to computer science and programming. Now does it mean women can't be good programmers? Of course they can, but many won't find it very enjoyable. Fun fact about the ICF coaching course I went to: coaching is an EQ based profession, the trainers were two women and the attendees were 7 women... and me. And this happened in Sweden, the big mamma of gender equality. Sweden has made considerable efforts to equalize the gender gap in professions, but the result was the opposite, the gap is even bigger in Scandinavia than in more traditional countries. People will choose to work what they want to work regardless of your equality ideals and ideologies. In childhood I was the stereotypical boy interested in engineering and technology, I dreamed of becoming an aircraft engineer. But in my teenage years, after experiencing bullying and PTSD, I was forced to fix myself, and under that process, I became extremely passioned about personal development and philosophy. I still watch engineering documentaries but my heart is now in figuring out the world and helping people reach their best potential, so now I have a hybrid things-people passion. Big life events can change your interests. Let's take a look at the gentlemen for a minute. Asperger himself said that in order to become a successful scientist, you need a touch of autism. Nicola Tesla might have died a virgin, and Albert Einstein was late to talk and said he was never very interested in socialization. Men are on average more individualistic and less social. Have you noticed how many men are advocating for libertarian ideals like tax cuts, deregulations, free market, and private propriety? Whereas more women than men tend to advocate for socialistic ideals like welfare state, tax increase, and more regulations. Women's holistic, less autistic brains make them more cooperative and more compassionate towards those in need, for animals and environment. Statistics show a much higher density of autism-spectrum individuals in so called "IT hub" locations like silicon valley, and they are mostly men, you guessed it right. The pay gap between men and women is influenced by this, besides the still prevalent prejudice against women in patriarchal societies. Tech jobs are on average much better paid than HR or healthcare jobs, another influence is that men negociate their salary more aggresively and are much more confident in their capabilities even if in reality they pretty much suck, they can at least appear convincing. Testosterone makes them much more competitive in the market, if this is an appreciated and valued character trait in their social circle, motivating them to climb the ladder and work until they fall sick. You see, there is a misconception that testosterone makes all men more aggresive. Yes it can be so if their social circle appreciate aggresiveness and curelty, if they lived in a getto neighborhood the last 20 years, then yes, testosterone will make them more aggresive as it makes them compete and seek the appreciation of their peers. But if a man lived in a budhist monastery the last 20 years, testosterone will only motivate them become even more kind and meditative, as these qualities make them more appreciated there. Want a less aggresive man? Then don't date a gangster for god's sake. Now that we have an idea of what testosterone does to the brain, let's take a look at what estrogen does to it. Estrogen is renowned as the main female hormone. John Grey presents in his book: Beyond Mars and Venus, the whole hormone dynamics that happen in a woman's menstrual cycle and how it changes her mood throughout the month. I won't delve into that here, I just want to skim the surface of how estrogen affects men's and women's lives. I'll quote a note I took from his book: "When encountering mild stress women increase estrogen which connects them even more to their emotions, men increase testosterone which detaches them from emotions. Both sexes increase estrogen when they encounter a lot of stress. Men tend to do actions which increase testosterone to get rid of stress, women tend to choose activities that increase estrogen, progesterone, and oxytocin". Boom. What are the activities that increase testosterone? Well, the activities that disconnect you from your emotions and make you feel competent and appreciated like skillfully riding your motorcycle or discussing the last football match with your male friends in your man cave. Again, it is not black and white, I also heard of women who go into their male side when feeling stressed, I heard of a woman running 30 km a day in stressful periods. But in general, when a woman is stressed and she is in close contact with her needs and intuition, she'll want to do activities that connect her with her emotions and with people, activities that increase her estrogen and oxytocin. Like reading a romantic novel, watching a love movie, or calling her best friend or therapist and telling her how she feels and what happened. You'll wonder why would men want to increase their testosterone and women their estrogen? John Grey advocates that men need to go into their male side to be able to relax and get rid of stress whereas women need to get into their female side. Shortly, men feel good being men and women being women. Everybody has his or her male and female side. Now in progressive countries like Scandinavia, we see a lot of women tapping in their male sides by getting in leadership roles and stressful positions which crave a lot of comptenece. In Sweden, on average, twice as many women than men go out on sickleave because of stress and burnouts. I am not yet ready to give a verdict here as I am still reasearching the subject. There are nieche cases of feminine men and masculine women who love being like that. And even individuals who want to transition to the opposite sex. These are rare cases, I honestly do not know enough to discuss about this eighter, what I know for sure is that you need to find your authentic self. If you really feel that you are the most authentic when identifying as non-binary, then do it. In this article I discuss what the main trends are. The different ways men and women behave and respond to stress are very important especially in relationships. If your man comes home stressed and wants to go take a beer with his buddies let him go instead of continously asking him what went wrong, he does not want to speak with you because he wants to dettach from what happened until he replanishes his testosterone and feels better. If your woman comes back home sad and stressed on the other hand, ignoring her will not help, because in contrast with what you use to do when stressed, she wants to connect with her emotions and have someone to support her. And the way you as a man solve a problem is a bit different from how women do, she won't need solutions and advice at the moment, she only wants emotional support and understanding. You can be Mr. fix it all another time. If we do not get these critical differences and play the hippie game of everybody is unique, the relationship can suffer. The man-woman polarity is what makes it a romantic relationship, the contrasts between you makes it exciting and romantic. It is not just about the looks, the behavior makes you who you are, you perform the gender as Judith Butler use to say in her books. Of course we need to talk about sex. There is an extremely obvious contrast here. A man can get aroused by simply seeing a beautiful woman, whereas a woman need to get to know the man, and feel secure and intimate with him before getting aroused, she actually needs to increase her oxytocin levels in order to want to have sex. This is what many men don't realize and get surprised when their women don't want to have sex on command, because for men, having sex is like taking a piss. That is why men have a harder time getting sex, because women are not so interested in only having sex, at least those mature women in whom I am interested. They look for a guy who wants to stay committed to a relationship. Imagine you have these two energies inside you. If they are in balance, you will behave in a calibrated way, when you swing too much towards one energy and ignore the other, problems appear. What does excess masculinity look like? Well, an autistic, unsocial, over-competitive, unempathetic, nerdy person who has a robot-like behavior and sees everything else as objects to be exploited. What would excess femininity look like? An over-empathic, over-indulgent, over-emotional, over-self-sacrificing person who will get burned out becoause she only looks for the needs of others and disregards her own needs. We can see this in women who get abused and exploited in relationships by selfish masculine men and forgive them all the time. What they should do instead is connect with their male side and decide to end the relationship for good, to start taking care of their own needs, raise their standards and find a better man. Be careful at your childhood trauma tough, my mother had a bad relationship with her father, he was domianting her all the time. That made my mother vow to take care of everything by herself and marry a docile man. She ended up regretting the choice she made. Women love to be vulnerable and be lead by a competent loving man. They hate when they are always forced to go into their male side to come with solutions and figure out stuff because their men are lazy and incompetent. You don't have to fear masculine men, you need to find one who embraces his feminine side also. Masculine people have managed to create awesome technologies, thinking models and ideas that created our modern world we have today, by without femininity, all that technological progress will do more bad than good. Nuclear technology will do more harm than good if we use it to nuke each other or destory the environment. In fact the world is so broken today because there is too much masculine energy ruling the world, we need to become more feminine and empathic in our aproaches. You might ask why did the universe made us in this way? I see it as a survival specialization, we lived in tribes since thousands and thousands of years. The universe specialized women in better taking care of children, because children need love and empathy more than anything else, whereas men specialized in hunting, exploring and defending the territory, actions which require more dettachement and logic. We are approaching the end of this material, realct a bit on the way I wrote all of this. Do you see how I balanced my two energies in order to create a calibrated, nuanced and deep approach? I encourage you to do the same in your search for meaning and answers, theory is very important. If you don't have your theory right, you won't know how to act. My masculine personality of dettaching form silly groupthink and pursuing my own journey of figuring out how the world works saved my life. But I see how important is to balance this energy with femininity, instead of judging those who can't do what I did calling them cowards, I want to inspire them fix their lives, that is true masculinity.

this He is so cathegoric and sounds like an extremist Karen. Maybe there are girls who would like doing it if the whole society won't judge them for that. It is not the first time I hear this guy spitting shit.

You're welcome 😁

Thanks for that!

"The worldview promulgated by Butler, Fine, and their followers now constrains what neuroscientists are allowed to say in public. A professor of neurophysiology at Lund University in Sweden recently told undergraduates that the categories of female and male are, to some degree, biological realities rather than social constructs and that some differences in behavior between women and men might, therefore, have a biological basis. He was promptly denounced by students who claimed that his remarks were “anti-feminist.” The dean of the medical school duly launched an investigation." Ok I get it now. You could summarize her work in one page. Gender is fluid, you can change your gender, you perform the gender, there are biological differences but "hard" to pin them down so who knows man find who you are and let go of your logic. Don't agree with us -> member of the "patriarchy". Appalled how such people can receive awards of millions of dollars. Great article, thank you! I have to check all the possible perspective because I am writing an article about masculinity vs. femininity. I will be glad if you guys want to read my sketch and give feedback: https://docs.google.com/document/d/10rwYMwxvxcRDfrcbtYwUZ32nPHF8hJj21hOetImwok4/edit?usp=sharing

I understand that you want to reach 12.000 posts this month.

These are not Green people, stop devaluing Green just because some stupid kids parrot green ideas as an ideology. Green will never say that kind of shit. This is pure Blue. The core of Green is relativity, open-mindedness and acceptance of diverse opinons. If they don't know the answer to something, they might say: "I don't know" or even "Maybe we are both right" which is the aperspectival madness Ken Wilber talks about.

This OMG! We are much more isolated than in the past. I am amazed how much more mental illness I find in Sweden than in my home country Romania. Here in Sweden they just go on sickleave and sit alone at home. There is nobody there to soothe them when the bullshit inner dialogue kicks in.

You cannot predict percisely how a person will be and what he/she will preffer, but you can create maps, generalizations, distinctions that will help you understand the world better. Spiral Dynamics is just a map, a bunch of generalizations. So long you know what is the map and what is the territory, you should be good.

In the end you still have to believe somebody. I wasn't there extracting amniotic fluid samples to check the testosterone levels. I combine my own life experience and observations with the reasearch did by the people I find most credible. It is important to check if it is true in your direct experience, hard to do. This is why most people fail at it. You even see how enlightened spiritual masters deceive themselves, what can you expect from a college kid?

They will listen to their own needs, likes and wants. Not being brainwashed into believing that everything we did in the past was wrong or we are all the same or some shit like that. Teach them femininity vs. masculinity. Teach them how boys get on average double as much testosterone before birth and how that influences their brains. Stuff like that, then they will know who they are and what they want.

Here is where most people fail, they just jump into the pool of ideology.

It is the academic nurture/environmentalism ideology that pushed it for sure. Idk, you should deserve to be in a profession due to your competence, not gender. But a bit of encouragement of the minority would be ok in order to improve the perspective diversity in the field. The question is when do you go too far?

Ok, if you are a sociologist, what do you think about Norway's "gender point system" which gives you an artificial headstart for applying to fields where your gender is in minority? I even heard (not sure if it is true) people who changed gender in order to have higher chances to enter into STEM.

Man, you're just spinning out bullshit. How is the "why" so hard to explain? There is clear research that shows that the vast majority of women show less interest for engineering than men. Focus on simplicity and forget this stupid "academicsplaining" Being a woman is both a choice of identity and a cultural thing. You both are a woman and behave like a woman relatively speaking. Yes I know you are God and all of that on the absolute level. When I say "I am a man", it is like saying I am an introvert, this is how I feel most authentic.

What do Judith Butler say about masculinity and femininity? Without the understanding of this dance of energies coupled with our biology and hormone dynamics is just a work not done. Maybe I picked to listen a bad book of hers but it was the most boring shit I ever listened to.

Every sane swede or norvegian to whom I explained this agreed. As you said, it is the loud minority who distorts our perception. They all gather on social media and create the perception that there are a lot of them, but the sane majority of people don't waste their time arguing on facebook so it's just them there.

I won't even call those people green. They are just a wicked varriant of blue. I see not difference between their behavior and a blue pope father who silences his daughter at the dinner table because she dared to favor for abortion or divorce. Green is not just another flavor of blue, it integrates the freedom of speech from orange. These feminazis are not green, and if the office example that @Bobby_2021 brought up is really so radical, then I feel sorry for men working in such toxic environments. All the priviledged spoiled girls are now political activists and thought police. Honestly I did not experience this kind of toxic femininity outside social media, but I see them how they hoard in comment sections and use the power in numbers to overpower the good arguments of the conservatives. All they have is power in numbers and empowering the victim. They can't love the opressor which is tragic, because nobody will change his/her mind through opression. And ultimately the karma will bite them in the ass. As I see in Sweden's politics now with the maaasive popularity increase of the conservative party. People are not idiots, when instead of doing good politics you just try to not be racist, then people will vote those who do politics instead.

Can you give me an example?

Nice one, so it seems you can transtion later in life and still be happy also.

Healthy masculinity is not toxic, using violence in appropriate contexts is not toxic. Slitting the throats of some nazis who invaded your country is still healthy masculinity.