Alexop

I think I met the 10th woman randomly at an activity (I use to meet them at dancing, sports meetings, hiking events) that did not show interest for any of the guys present. After a while I see her on a dating app. They ignore all men who they can meet physically and scroll dating apps instead. The feeling of (there sure is a better guy somewhere) are keeping them single in their prime years. This is sad.

@AION same. Sometimes God speaks through me but I misspell some of his points.

You don't know Sweden man hahah. People have low social skills here, it is a shy culture. They rarely talk deep stuff with strangers. The swedes who do that are usually coming from multicultural families or they lived in other exotic countries and culture shocked themselves into correcting their anti-social behavior. It is the only big problem I see with this country. Otherwise cool people. They just need to open themselves and improve their inter-personal skills. This is why it is soo important to live in countries that are totally different than yours and learn their culture. Moving to Sweden, from Romania, completely changed my life. I will never be the same again, in a good way.

It is okay man. It also is a challenge for me to put out vulnerable parts of myself and receive shit from people and not get triggered. It is a way to test my confidence. @AION makes good points sometimes.

@AION I agree that pretending that such people don't exist is the best thing. I was just trying to grasp how the situation is God will punish you in the end for your ignorance and selfishness. I don't need to hate them or something. Everyone will get their bill sooner or later. The selfish pick-up guys, the feminazis, the "I am too cool to not be single" people etc. The punishment for such people is, Most probably, a lonely, sad old age full of regrets and unburnt karma.

@meta_male cool appreciate bro.

I didn't really try to create a social circle. I get very bored by small talk. But if some opportunity happens, to get introduced into a more non conformist circle, I won't refuse. Cool idea! The one with hosteling around on small cities. I will maybe do weekend trips like that. Most couples form online or through social circles from what I feel. I will work in physiotherapy soon, so that can give me some good opportunities too.

I mostly join activities. Dancing, gymnastics, politics. I am very introverted, so social circles are not my favourite. Plus that it is very hard to build one here. Most people hang around with people they met back in school. I do some cold approaching when I see the opportunity too.

You need to draw a red line on what is mature enough for you. So you can have a happy relationship with that person. Thinking for yourself is a spectrum. Some people have enough confidence and intelligence to decide many things based on what they need. Others are almost completely driven by what others say and do. I lived in Romania most of my life and the quality of women there is poor. Sweden is much better but more reserved I don't want to sound like I am some God who searches for a Goddess. It is just that I cannot have a happy relationship with a conformist automaton. And I am looking for a relationship, not just sex. Finding a such person that I cand resonate with is hard.

I did that because I genuinely not felt anything more they can offer me. And I stopped doing that. If I don't feel a genuine connection with the woman, I don't engage at all. And you alpha guys do the same. That is pick up 101. Consuming women like food. But you don't like to hear that do you? One day you'll evolve beyond this stage or you'll just use women like objects forever. And gaslight people who point this to you of course.

Generic BS. That kind of woman won't even blip on my radar. Emotional automaton. If she isn't emotionally mature and wise enough to think for herself, I don't care how pretty she is. I was together with such women. I consume them like candy. I just have sex with them a couple of times and then lose interest. In Romania we had mostly these kinds of girls and this frustrated me alot. All they can offer me is sex. I am happy that northern Europe has much more mature women around. But here it is the socializing which is harder. It is a culture of individualism. Everyone takes care of themselves and not bother others with themselves. And here comes the perspective thing. Sweden is not the same thing as Miami. I am not the same thing as some Stage Orange RSD dummy. Different environments and different individuals with different needs.

Ok thanks. I will work on my framing ✌️ Yes it is not just observing. It is my interpretation of what I observed of course.

It is unconscious programming from pick-up and patriarchy. "Just do what you have to do and stop whining dude." You share something you notice, it is perceived as whining. What they need is more femininity. Seeing things from the other person's perspective. Not just judging from their successful Chad perspective. This is why men suck at communication. They have stone age levels of empathy. They did the same at Miguel's thread. Instead of deeply trying to understand his perspective, they just projected their own.

Nice gaslighting dude. Have a nice day.

Of course. They work on the biological script they were given. They look for the best man they can find. The same do men, they look for the hottest woman they can have. If a hotter woman than the one they have shows interest to them, they will jave a hard time resisting that. In fact, if men had the power that women now have on the dating "market". It would be worse. They would just fuck all of them and not commit to one. They would also have a hard time choosing one woman to commit to. This is why successful pick-up artist have a shitty life. They are some immature boys who cracked the code and now they can't stop. They get addicted to sex and pick-up.

How many of you here agree with Gabor Matè? He argued that ADHD is strongly influenced by childhood trauma. The average psychiatrists say ADHD is genetical and trauma creates ADHD-like symptoms.

Peace dude. I compare me with myself. Not with others. I am no pickup artist, but I evolved from a bullied loser who was rejected even from highschool Freshman prom's preselection to having multi-year relationships with women who look and behave better than any of those who called me loser could even smell. ✌️

Sure, Thanks Chad I am looking for a woman with whom I can have intellectual intimacy. I know what I want. I had lots of sex, chill.

I agree that I am in a low prospect situation and this is affecting me. Mainly because I am looking for a mature woman with whom I can have a deep relationship, maybe for life. The same as Miguel, the moderator. We had sex, and we evolved over it. If I just have sex with some random chick from the videos of this dude who came here to give me advice, it will feel for me like I am masturbating with a body.

again, I shared something I noticed. I don't complain.

Translation: I need to feed my ego giving a guy unsolicited advice.

They had to make some effort and get to know the guys, and make themselves VULNERABLE. It is not just because dating apps and social media, it is a change in culture. It is encouraged to stay single and "wait for the guy". It is just that "the guy" was in your face and you ignored him. And not just women. Guys too. Everyone is so afraid of vulnerability. Everyone is so fucking boring, they don't risk making some joke or sharing something deep. That makes them too vulnerable It sounds that I am whining right now, but I felt the need to share this. It started to get scary when almost every girl I liked and started talking to in real life at physical gatherings, not even took the chance to get to know me. Just to meet her on dating apps later. And no, I am not some noobie in dating. I know how to talk to them and had lots of sex. But yea, it is fucking Sweden by the way. Imagine the social problems you have in your country and make it 2x worse. That is northen Europe 101.

Yes. But women have very little patience to get to know men now. After they had so many bad experiences with low quality relationships and boring guys. When you get scammed over an over, you just give up.

I did not ask for your dating advice dude. I was presenting something I noticed. I know what I have to do.

I was not complaining. I was noticing a pattern. And dating is hard nowadays. 90s were much better dating years. You need to be myopic to not see that.