Charlotte

Sorry, as I posted the thread I thought your response was aimed at me. I do apologise.

Looking for opinions on this guy? Interested to know what you make of him? (Just curious)

Thank for your input but I think your judging me by saying I'm being judgemental of teachers. I'm not. I was literally just curious of other people's opinions of him, anybody's opinions will not influence my decision. I was interested. Thanks again ❤️ I'm not being influenced by anyone elses opinion @Joseph Maynor I was interested in people's opinions is all, just from sheer curiousity. Yes we certainly do. Thanks for your input ❤️

I remember leo mentioning something about compassionate deliveries and logical thinking style deliveries (female and male) and he likes to use both at time's (harsh and not so harsh). I think he mentioned this in his video about male and female psychology, so I know what you mean. That's fair enough ? @sgn thanks for your input @aurum thanks for your input also ❤️

I'm 27 and I literally have no friends. When I chose to start my own personal journey they all didn't like the choices I made and the person I was becoming (no drinking, partying, social media, materialistic lifestyle etc) so dropped me at the snap of their fingers. I have started Yoga hoping to meet like-minded people but unfortunately they are 40/50+. I start my career in studying psychology in September (college) and hope to meet like-minded people but again this isn't guaranteed. How do you all find friends? I'd make an awesome best friend if I do say so myself but everyone (I've met so far) thinks/acts the same to everyone else, 'Follows the croud' let's say. My partner is my best friend but unfortunately he's a very low consiouss person and I can't resonate with him on a lot of levels. What do you all do? Just to clarify I'm not looking for a friend to share my journey with, it's my journey and I know only I can take it. I'm just speaking as a person that would love at least one friend.

I'm a sensitive person, always have been. I really feel pain when I'm hurt, I have so much compassion and love to give people/earth/nature/animals. I cry at a beautiful view, the sky, stars or the sunrise or setting. I truly feel all emotions. Thing is, when this comes to conversing, I can take things waaaay out of proportion, take things the wrong way, personal etc. I don't want to be the kind of person that blows things out of proportion. My other half told me to "Man up". This (I think) is my nature though. How do I change this? Not the love and compassion because I always act from a place of love but more the 'hurt my feelings side'... Throw some wisdom at me guy's ❤️

I'm exactly the same, hope you don't mind me following for advice @WhiteCongrats

Thanks @adam747 @NoSelfSelf I agree. Thanks for your input guys ❤️

Thanks for your advice and tips @Elisabeth I think what your basically saying is (and correct me if I've wrong) is go to such activities and have patience? Also don't get me wrong, I'm able to go into bar's etc it's just I choose not to drink. It takes someone with understanding to not apply pressure, understand and respect my choices, not someone that will try and take me down the wrong path. Thanks again ❤️

Right now my main purpose is to sort out my life purpose. I have to be FULLY commited to that (at the moment). I'm going studying psychology and hoping to progress to university etc but I've been out of education for a while so it's a little daunting. I've studied and inquired to death, I know on the surface level there is a glitch in the matrix, I know my whole life is just like some theatrical play, I makeup, I know 'Charlotte' and all my beliefs, likes and dislikes are fictional, I know I AM not real, but honestly? What else do I have? By knowing this, I don't take myself as seriously as I used to. I try and use life as a playground to have fun with everyday, but at the same time I weed out the shit. I've only been studying self actualisation and spirituality from around Aug last year and I've come a LONG way in such little time. My life has radically changed. Yes I agree with what your saying about the defence mechanism but if you truly believe your perception of reality is flawed and you know there is no 'I' you will ALWAYS be searching in one way or another.

Okay, well AT FIRST I thought you mean it as... How do I put it... " How do I know your real person? You could be anyone over the internet" See not everyone on this forum talks from a non dual perspective, some people, as we know are at different stages of self actualisation. So when I say "it clicked" I meant as in, I realised you meant it literally. I went through this "does my mum even exist?, Why am I here then?" And to be honest my head was absolutely baffled and I became depressed for a period of time, my mum understood what I was going through and she said "You need to take a break from it Charlotte". I did too much to soon And from what I understand I had an 'Ego backlash' which wasn't a pleasant experience. So yeah, hope that explains what I mean.

Right... Explain to me what you meant by "lol It still doesn't feel like you really exist, just like the people I saw this morning and even my mom."?

I have to admit, I took what you said in other thread completely wrong and then it clicked. Once again I took something personal, quite embarrassed to be honest ?but never mind that Is this why you feel your having a depressive episode?

(Sorry ignore that second ⬆️ quote box, don't know how to get rid of it ?) Aaaaaah, I understand now fully what you mean ?. Well that's fair enough. No worries, I'll take it easy, thanks for the heads up and thanks for your time and help. (Hope your feeling better following on from yesterday's "Help" thread you posted).

Riiiiight right I get I get it. To be honest this is exactly what I've been looking to do, that kind of work you've mentioned. I have a desire and an urge to stare my biggest fears in the face, get to know my self better, be more authentic and not to live as my emotions little bitch. Do you actually long to be an open relationship? Or is it just something you'd like to overcome because you fear it? (Just curious). Well, I've printed all the information off from your link (I mean business when the printer comes out ?) and I'll be starting this work, alongside the high intensity CBT I've been offered for my insecurities (I don't know if you remember my post a while back on my OCD thinking) and hopefully I'll make some substantial progress. Thanks so much ❤️

*Looks for reading glasses* Cheers bud. Have you done shadow work @Shin? I'd love to hear your experiences... How it helped you, what you discovered, ways it positively and negatively impacted you etc?

I'll check him out @Shin thank you. @Joseph Maynor what's shadow work got to do with my op? Sorry, I feel I'm missing your point. Edit: I'd love to do shadow work but have absolutely no idea where l start

Why's that @Leo Gura?

Thanks for the link @Mount Bananas appreciate that read. Thing is though, they bitched and gossiped and criticised and I just didn't want to be a part of that, they were toxic. I can definitely see past low consciousness behaviour, I understand WHY people choose to do that, to them, there is no other way. I totally agree.

Cheers @Shin ?

You've helped me MASSIVELY @Shin with issues and on my journey. Literally, every piece of advice you have given me I have taken it on board and applied it in my life. Take comfort in knowing that ❤️

@Shin Take the advice you give me? Note, feel, allow... I'm sure it will pass for you bud. Do something you LOVE! What makes you the happiest? Do it. I'll try and cheer you up... What do you call a fly with no wings?... A walk ? Its so lame, it's funny (to me). Full circle? ?

Honestly? No idea. I did try though. I'd probably guess because I made their preferences look bad but who knows ? clearly weren't the friends I though they was. No I didn't judge, what anybody chooses to do is their choice and I respect that, I just didn't receive the same respect back, constantly trying to pressure me etc. Claiming I was "no fun" anymore, well my idea of fun changed unfortunately. Thank you so much for the offer @Rinne yes. @Seed Is Warwickshire south? I'm North. Pm me if you wish : ) You've lost me @Shin ?

From the UK @Seed you? Well I'm the 1% that wouldn't get mad @Shin . I know he's making some sort of effort to conform to my way of living. He's willing to join me at a meditation retreat, he's willing to put some effort in, which I think is fair enough ?. At the end of the day if we don't work out, we don't work out, if we do, we do. I just can't speak to him about certain things yet but this is why I love this forum ?

I respect your opinion @Shin , as always. These older people unfortunately are still too... How do I put it... Warped by culture/society. I'm happy to be friend's with people of the older generation. I get along with almost everybody. I'll definitely look up for a Zen center. Why would I get mad? ??