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  1. Posted

    39 minutes ago, Leo Gura said:

    Of course he has valid insights and advice for successful living. But it's all corrupted but materialistic ego chasing.

    It is not existential work. It is a conflation of survival with spiritual flavorings.

    Look, it's fine for learning game and business. But the work I'm doing on another level.

    I am very disappointed in Owen. In a way, he's turning out to be a phony.

    Of course, people like him will say that at least they are winning and that most other people out there are just mediocre simps or lazy losers.

  2. Posted

    11 hours ago, LordFall said:

    I don't agree with this premise. Culturally enforced monogamy is not a necessarily great thing. Freedom is harder at first but yields greater results and more satisfaction at the end. It's like if instead of being able to find a career/build a business/find a life purpose you were mandated to have the same job as your father and his father before him. It would make life easier and maybe you'd even happier over some periods of time. I wouldn't want to live like that though.

    You now have to understand your society at large to understand what a good dating strategy is and understand yourself deeply to understand what you even want. 

    What do you personally struggle with in our current dating culture? I used to have a hard time but my current social circle strategy is working quite well. I expect that in 12 months I should have a pretty phenomenal relationship with 1 and more likely many phenomenal women. 

    Thanks for your response — I get where you're coming from. I’m not arguing for rigid, enforced monogamy or a return to outdated norms. As much as many men out there — especially conservative ones — wish for that to happen (and I admit I’ve had those thoughts at times too), that’s obviously never going to happen. And to be fair, there have been some real positives: women having more dating and sexual freedom than before, and men also not being forced to conform to strict traditional norms around dating, sex, and marriage.

    My point is that when we removed structure from dating without replacing it with emotionally healthy cultural alternatives, we ended up with a highly deregulated, winner-takes-all system — much like neoliberal economics.

    Yes, freedom can be fulfilling, but unstructured freedom without guidance or protection tends to concentrate success in the hands of a few — and leave many others feeling lost, lonely, or frustrated.

    Personally, what I struggle with most is how disconnected and transactional things feel today — how hard it is to find emotionally open, grounded people who genuinely want connection. It’s not just about effort; it’s about how broken the broader incentives and culture have become.

    Glad your strategy is working, though. I hope it leads to something deep and meaningful.

  3. Posted

    2 hours ago, meta_male said:

    Not everyone's either a sex-chasing-extrovert-chad or an enlightened-socially-detached-introvert-monk.

    @Hardkill You don’t need to go all in on cold approach or force yourself into the nightclub scene if it's not your thing. Just start small. Talk to someone at the gym, café or wherever. Train your social muscle casually while you finish your degree. Also, half of it is timing and luck anyway. You’ll never feel like your life is fully in order...waiting for that moment is a trap.

    Leo’s got a point. Just not one that applies to 99% of people in this forum section.

    No, I get all of that.

    Though I want to do a lot of nightlife when I get enough of a chance to.

  4. Posted · Edited by Hardkill

    It’s becoming more and more clear to me that the rise in sexual inequality we’re seeing—especially in modern dating—is deeply connected to broader systemic trends that began around the late 1970s and early 1980s.

    Just as neoliberalism deregulated markets and led to massive concentrations of wealth and power, decades of sexual libertinism—removal of norms, expectations of commitment, and male responsibility—have created a deregulated sexual marketplace. And like the economy, it’s ended up concentrating power in the hands of a small elite: mostly high-status men and, to a degree, some high-status women.

    Both systems—neoliberal capitalism and post-sexual revolution dating culture—promised freedom, choice, and personal autonomy. But in practice, both atomized society, undermined community values, and left many feeling powerless, isolated, and unfulfilled.

    And in both cases, if you're struggling—financially, emotionally, sexually—it’s framed as your own fault. “You just didn’t play the game well enough.”

    It’s sad how far we’ve drifted from collective well-being, serious structural analysis of power, protection for the vulnerable, and any real sense of solidarity. Especially in America, these values have been almost entirely displaced by hyper-individualism and commodification.

    We’re now dealing with the psychological and spiritual consequences of both revolutions—economic and sexual—happening in parallel.

  5. Posted

    Start incrementally by asking about 20 random people simple questions like, “What time is it?” or “Where’s the nearest coffee shop?”

    Once you’re comfortable with that, take it a step further: ask another 20 random people for advice on what kind of gift to get for a friend’s birthday party. Or, pretend you have a girlfriend and say something like, “I want to get my girlfriend a romantic one-year anniversary gift, but I’m not sure what to get—do you have any suggestions?”

    Once that starts to feel natural, begin having short, casual conversations with women you’re at least somewhat attracted to. Try to keep the conversation going for a couple of minutes, then give a compliment like, “You’re beautiful,” “You’re attractive,” or “You’re gorgeous,” and leave. Do this with about 20 different women.

    After that, approach 20 more women and get used to being blown out of the conversation by intentionally saying something dumb but funny—like, “Hey, I’ve got a white van parked around the corner. Want to hop in?” or “Hi, I’m looking for a really good time... if you know what I mean.” The goal here isn’t to get a number but to desensitize yourself to rejection. And if one of them actually stays and laughs, you can pivot into a normal conversation. No pressure to ask for a number.

    Finally, once you’re comfortable doing that, approach another 20 new women you find attractive. Start with a compliment about how they look, walk, or dress, chat for a few minutes, and then go for a number close.

  6. Posted · Edited by Hardkill

    1 hour ago, Leo Gura said:

    I rarely meet anyone these days. I have very little stomach for socializing.

    Oh...

    Yeah, I hear you. Are you just preoccupied with other areas in your life right now or just had your fill with socializing, dating, and like you used to?

    But honestly, I really want—and need—to get good with people, especially women. I know I’ve got a limited window before I hit 40, and even though I’m still deep in school and figuring out my living situation, I don’t want to keep putting this part of life off. Social skills, connection, confidence—it all matters.

    That doesn’t mean I should be discouraged from practicing socializing and interacting with a lot of people—including women—in bars, clubs, big chaotic parties, and similar settings, even in my late 30s or early 40s, right?

  7. Posted

    I know that most single men in their 40s usually don’t go to bars, clubs, chaos-driven parties, or wild places like Vegas or Cancun to meet women—at least not the way younger guys do. Either they’re just not interested anymore, or they have a harder time relating to those environments, especially when most of the women there are in their late teens to 20s.

    So, do you still meet girls in any of those kinds of places, Leo?

    Or not so much anymore?

    I’m asking because I only have a couple of years left before I turn 40, and I know I won’t be ready—at least for another year—to fully commit to consistently cold approaching, especially in nightlife settings. I still need to focus on finishing my doctoral degree in physical therapy, figuring out how to get my own place, and getting other parts of my life in order.

    I don't see meeting women just through social circle ever working for me unless I get really lucky.

  8. Posted

    12 hours ago, BlueOak said:

    Donors. They can't give things to the people because they are paid by companies, so those companies can sell them instead.

    Also just sitting on their hands waiting for Trump to just self destruct. - Trouble is he's a populist and a fascist to boot; that support doesn't tend to end easily if you play to the base. It may happen but it may well not. Maybe losing a war, or alternatively looking weak like he's bowing down to Putin or Xi. - Both of those outcomes will erode fascist hard right support.

    He's already in Israel's pocket - but that does serve the greater strategic agenda right now in the east vs west cold war, so nobody hits him on it too hard.

    Well, going to war with China isn't happening for the foreseeable future, not to mention how truly catastrophic that would be for our economy and the rest of the global economy. Having all of NATO really join Ukraine in the war against Russia would be suicidal.

    So, do you think that the US should wage an all-out war in the Middle East against Iran? 

  9. Posted

    On 7/17/2025 at 6:03 AM, DocWatts said:

    Honestly, I'd be more concerned if the approval ratings of the current do-nothing Democratic Party weren't in the toilet.

    Dems like Mamdani, Bernie, AOC, and Tim Walz who've decided to embrace economic populism over being a doormat are genuinely popular.

    Just look to New York - Schumer and Cuomo represent everything that's wrong with the Democrat Party. Yet it's also home to a populist movement with real enthusiasm behind it.

    The Democratic Party should embrace economic populism, remain absolutely uncompromising on denouncing and obstructing Trump's vile Nazi-like deportation regime, while moderating a bit on social issues.

     

    On 7/17/2025 at 6:49 PM, Gidiot said:

    I’d like to see more Bernie, Mamdani, Aoc like dems and maybe ranked choice voting so third parties can have a chance. The Democratic Party sucks ass because they want you to praise the bare minimum effort and work they put it. It’s not good enough to be better than maga republicans, you actually have to stand for something and be unique bold original and beneficial or die

    On 7/7/2025 at 9:51 AM, Boethius said:

    Black and brown working class people are shifting to the right and have been shifting to the right for a long time now. And honestly, I think it needs to be remembered that democrats were (openly) celebrating the shifting racial demographics for many years because they thought that would mean they would be locked into power for decades to come (oh how the wheels of History grind all of our grand hopes to dust!)

    So, eh, I think it's best to let the racial and religious stuff sort itself out at the cultural level, and at the political level to focus on the people who are really fucking over the average American -- the bastard billionaire class and the corrupt politicians who are in their pocket.

     

    On 7/17/2025 at 7:49 AM, enchanted said:

    The Democrats lost the plot when Hillary Clinton and Joe Biden unfairly squeezed out Sanders during their primaries. Sanders was the correct left wing populist response to Trump. 

    So, why are the Democrats, particularly the Democratic leadership, still struggling to come up with an effective message strategy right now? 

    So far, I fear that the only way they’ll be able to present a united front with a strong message grounded in social moderation and economic populism is if they’re pressured into it by an extreme economic crisis—or some other unprecedented threat we haven’t seen in our lifetimes, like another Great Depression or even World War III.

     

  13. Posted · Edited by Hardkill

    38 minutes ago, Leo Gura said:

    Not so much killed as kicked out of Palestine.

    You make it sounds like Arabs just wanna kill Jews. Nope. They just want their farmland back.

    This is not a conflict against Jews, it is conflict over land that Jews decided to grab for themselves.

    I would think that it's a mix of both.

    They obviously want their land back, but also many of them (not all of them) have always hated the Jews because of how ethnocentric they are.

  14. Posted · Edited by Hardkill

    10 hours ago, BlueOak said:

    @Hardkill

    They won't pay as much of a price, because they are intentionally deporting Democratic voters, and potential democratic voters. This is part of their calculation in going after brown and Black people, taking out their political opponents. Rule 101 of the fascist playbook.

    Independent voters will hate it too if it gets too revolting. Moreover, if this angers enough Democratic voters, then it probably will fire up the Democratic base.

    Also, how are they really going to know which ones are Democratic voters? 

    Even though Democratic candidates win about 85-90% of black voters and the majority of Latino voters in elections, many black and brown people in America are conservative leaning because of how traditional their backgrounds are. In fact, almost half of Latino voters in America voted for Trump in 2024.

    So, we'll see.

  15. Posted

    Some of you on here may hate me for saying this, but now that I've looked into this One Big Betrayal Bill more in-depth, there's actually ONE other good thing that came from it besides the extension of the middle class tax cuts, and that is the historic funding for updating our immigration enforcement and border security. I didn't think that Trump and enough Republicans in Congress were serious about that. I thought they were all bark and no bite on that matter because they never really addressed it during Trump's first term despite all of their blustering about it back then, the small amount of legislative accomplishments even when the Trump and his party had both Congress and the presidency from 2017-2019, and Trump's incompetence.

    To be clear, this bill went from one extreme to another. The amount of funding the bill will provide to ICE was definitely overdone. More likely than not more people in America including many immigrants, are going to suffer such unimaginable horrors and such inhumane treatment. If such negative effects occur from the bill pertaining to immigration and border security, which again, is probably is going to happen, then I really hope that Trump and his party all pay a truly major political price for it this year, 2026, 2027, and 2028. 

    However, a lot of the border-related stuff that was in the bill was needed given how outdated the infrastructure for our border security and immigrant enforcement was almost 2 decades.

  16. Posted

    2 hours ago, Lyubov said:

    Yea they do but if coked out Elon ran a third party stooge during a general that could suck away votes for a Republicans more than Dems I would think. Considering a lot of his fans voted Republican this last election. And he has a sizable fan base. 

    Yeah, but we don't even know for certain if Elon is really serious about this third party idea of his. He says a lot of crazy things.

  17. Posted · Edited by Hardkill

    13 minutes ago, Boethius said:

    In speaking about his faith, Obama did not sound like Christian Nationalist. And a surprisingly large number of people who voted for Trump had also voted for Obama (and in 2016 were considering voting for Sanders), so that being white is not a prereq either. I see a path forward for a democratic politician with the proper balance of policies and some rizz.

    Yeah, but the fear and anger of the declining percentage of white people as the percentage of black and brown people is growing in our country has now been greater than ever before. The fear and anger of Christianity in America dying in this country has now been greater than ever before. 

    Also, Democrats should try to win back the majority of white people in this country after not having ever won the majority of whites at the presidential level for decades.

  18. Posted

    4 hours ago, Boethius said:

    Social moderation and economic populism is the way to go, I believe, and it seems like a lot of the NY Times commenters seem to be getting the message on that, so I have hope. We just need to get more people like Rep. Chris Murphy into positions of leadership and power.

    Yeah, I really think the Democrats may have no choice, but to also sound like white Judeo-Christian Nationalists as they promote more left-wing economic populism. 

  19. Posted · Edited by Hardkill

    On 7/3/2025 at 7:35 PM, Deziree said:

    I see a democratic win in 2026. Gavin Newsom is a good candidate. The Democratic party now hinges on good candidates who aren't fluff. 

    He's going to need to really prove himself to have a broad enough appeal for the country and be a true fighter for the working class.

    Even then, it's not clear that he will be able to overcome the smears made on him by the right-wing and anti-mainstream media in this day and age.

  20. Posted

    On 7/3/2025 at 9:04 PM, sholomar said:

    Honestly don't care that much. Despite the bluster by leftists about Trump being the end of the world there  isn't THAT much difference between them. It's good to have gridlock because the fringes of both parties are both looney. They'll all keep printing our money and increasing the debt. They'll both keep being corrupt and giving handouts and bailouts to the top and bottom while the purchase power of the middle class decreases. 

    That's the kind of false equivalency that plays right into the hands of authoritarians like Trump.

  21. Posted

    34 minutes ago, Lyubov said:

    Not much to be proud of these days. Why would you be proud of the USA in 2025? 

    Good Question.

    To me, the No Kings protests far outshining Trump’s humiliating parade, liberals maintaining control of the Wisconsin State Supreme Court, and Omaha, Nebraska electing the first Black mayor in the city’s history (and the first Democrat to win the mayoralty since 2009) are probably the only things to be proud of so far in America in 2025.

  22. Posted

    I get what you guys are saying.

    America is still better than most countries on the planet, including every least developed country and every developing country in the world. 

    However, I don't think the USA is necessarily better than other developed countries in the world like Canada, UK, France, Australia, Scandinivia, Japan, or Israel, and other developed countries out there in the world.

    Also, I worry that America may no longer become a great country.