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Yeah, but isn't this so unusual that he couldn't get even just one woman to even settle with him, despite all of the time and effort that he put into dating? He even tried virtually everything form A-Z to improve his dating and still couldn't get even one 3rd date with any girl at all. I bring this up because guys like me who have suffered from the pain of having more bad than good experiences with dating and constantly struggle to get out of the dating rut no matter what we do. Before I got my first girlfriend ever at the age of 30 (which is very late) and slept with a few other girls before met her I went through the hell of having to be rejected by hundreds of girls I approached IRL (in every kind of place or venue possible) and countless amount of girls I tried to connect with with every kind of online dating app out there. Additionally, over the past few months, my girlfriend has been playing games with me over whether or not she can trust me anymore. A lot of times she is also very controlling over me. So, my relationship hasn't been so great lately. Many times I feel and think that maybe guy's like me and that guy in the video might just have to let go of dating and move on with the rest of our lives because improve dating appears to be futile and potentially very damaging to one's own self-esteem and confidence. It's such a painful cross to bear as a good man, especially someone like me who has some degree of Asperger's or is socially awkward like that 47 year old man is, to have to face constant rejection.

Hey guys, I’ve been thinking about something. If trying to convince people to see you as being good enough for something social, sexual, and/or romantic is self-demeaning, especially if you try to change the mind of the person who rejected you before, then wouldn’t that mean that trying to change yourself to try to become a more attractive person bad for your self-esteem? I mean if you’re trying to learn how to have better game or better social skills and seduction with people, including women then wouldn’t you end up becoming a people pleaser who is trying so hard to prove to others that you are worthy or cool enough to have friendship, sex, and/or love?

That's okay. I appreciate all responses you have given me. Well then he got lucky. I mean if you didn't know someone like that manager, then what would you have done to ensure that your son would be able to secure some kind of job? What if I never get into the right place and right time? I actually didn't PM you anything yet. I will sent it today. I just got so pre-occupied with other things going on in my life. That's for the time being, but my parents are both already over the age of 70 and I don't know how much longer they are going to live, let alone be able to continue to support me. I also feel so guilty for continuing to be such a burden to them while they don't get to enjoy the end of their lives being happily retired. I don't know what neti-neti meditation/inquiry is. Though I have been meditating frequently, if not almost everyday since the beginning of last September of 2019. My depression is a combination of both situational and a chemical imbalance.

I really feel so depressed lately and I am not sure if I can continue enduring this constant unhappiness in my life. I have become very ambivalent about whether or not I should continue living anymore.

Hey, I am back. I fortunately just got a part-time job offer a few days ago Macy's. However, during the interview they did ask if I can come in at 6am during the weekdays, to which I said yes. I realized how stupid that was of me to say that given how unrealistic it will be for me to do that as I am not a morning person at all. Hopefully, I will be able to change that. If not I might have to give it up and hope for another job. I've applied to about 12 jobs and have been interviewed for 2 of them. I live with my parents who continue to support financially completely. Well that's great that you got a good promotion. You must've gotten lucky. I don't know if I'll ever get that kind of luck myself. Sure. I would really appreciate it if you looked through my current resume. Thank you. I'll PM you my resume.

I don't know if I need help with the resume. I do look the interviewer in the eye and shake hands, speak fluently when asked questions. I also come off as comfort yet very courteous during my interviews. I always have good hygiene and an excellent physical appearance (especially since I've always been considered to be a very good looking guy who is into fitness). I've been applying to all kinds of jobs such as ones at hotels, construction companies, art stores, clothing stores, science laboratory jobs at a university, coffee/tea shops, etc. I have a Bachelor's degree in Art (Visual Fine Arts). I can't change majors with my masters program. I always wanted to be a PT or sport rehab medical doctor, but I don't see how that can every be a reality, now that I am 32 years old. I also thought about voice acting given how talented I am at doing various kinds of voices and impressions. Yet, even succeeding in voice acting may seem too much of a fantasy for me. I don't know what are the chance of me ever succeeding in something like that. I am a certified assistant instructor in the martial art Hapkido and have a 3rd degree black belt in the art, but I don't even enough of my own to open up my own, much less maintain a studio of my own. Tutoring doesn't sound like a bad idea. I could try looking into that. By the way, I've been having some anxiety attacks lately about the future of my career and it really freaks me out when I see online that there have been many people who have mentioned in many different kinds of forums that they applied to hundreds if not thousands of jobs, but couldn't successfully get even one. I am so scared about being homeless.

Hey guys, I remember some dating coaches saying that if you approach 100-500 girls, then you will inevitably get laid, even if you have the worst game in the world because of the law of averages. Leo even said that "If you go out long enough, the odds will become so great at some point, that a random girl will just want to sleep with you for absolutely no reason other than that she's horny and you're the closest guy around." However, I feel like no one has ever really fully explained why this is true. I mean why is not possible for literally every single woman in the world to reject you, even if you have the worst game in the world?

At the hospitals, I couldn’t follow directions well enough because I couldn’t listen or pay attention well enough. For decades, I’ve been taking meds for concentration and tried all kinds of special listening skills for someone with my disabilities. I don’t know. I can’t figure it out. I tried asking my parents, my sister, and my brother-in-law for help with my resumes and my behavior, but nothing has helped enough. Honestly, I don’t what there is for me for ever getting and keeping any job. No one owes me a job and I probably don’t even deserve to have any kind of job. I don’t know much more of this emotional pain I can take before I decide to finally take my own life. Furthermore, even if I don’t commit suicide, I don’t know how I will be able to survive when my parents are no longer alive to support me.

Yeah he should ask out some girls that are 6s and 7s to him, but he should also keep asking out more girls that he himself sees as 8s, 9s, and 10s. He may not be getting the 8s, 9s, and 10s yet, but that doesn't actually mean that he shouldn't keep trying to get those girls. Those young hot girls can still be good practice for him until he gets enough skill and confidence to the point of getting those girls he really wants. Also, if he dates someone that sees as ugly, average, or even slightly above average then he's never gonna have a happy dating life. Now, he could start out just dating and having sex with average women in his life. However, he will eventually and inevitably have shift his mindset towards believing that he can and must date and have sex with only girls he finds to be hot and his type in order to have a truly successful and happy dating life.

Why should that matter? I thought guys are supposed to have the confident mindset that you are worthy of approaching and asking out which ever girls you find the most attractive to you.

Okay, so process of elimination, huh? Well, I have ADD (predominantly inattentive), generalized anxiety with OCD, and auditory processing disorder.

Ok. Perhaps you’re right. This will be the last time I’ll ask a question like this again (I’ll try my best from now on to ask more relevant and practical-based questions regarding cold approaching and dating). Though, if you could just humor me just one last time on a question like this, I would greatly appreciate it. I just want to know the answer because a lot of times I feel like I may be rejected by every woman I ever talk to. Also, a lot of guys I know feel this way and maybe wish that they had enough proof or reason as to why if they did go out enough that they will inevitably get laid even if they have the most atrocious level of game ever in history. Also, one guy on a YouTube vid sad that he approached over 850 girls and go rejected by all of them. Is that possible or do u think that he was lying or exaggerating?

Serious issues such as?

Though why is that?

I am not saying that I am just going to give up. I am asking if I will need to hire a professional dating coach and/or get wings who will agree to consistently help me out with dating and cold approach because I do have a mild degree of Aspergers.

Ah okay. That sounds reasonable. Btw, I have mild form of Aspergers. Would I still be guaranteed to significantly improve my skills if I go out enough and consistently catalogue and analyze my day or night on what went right, what went wrong, lesson learned just as I would be guaranteed to get laid if I went out enough? Or will it be absolutely necessary for someone like me to get some wings or a dating coach to truly get far with dating and pickup?

So, you're telling me that each and every day you would spend way more than 2 hours per day working on analyzing what you did wrong on all of your interactions the night or day before?

Oh okay. Well, I am actually do believe that I can inevitably get laid again. In fact, I actually did get my first girlfriend ever from cold approaching out on the street using a direct approach style. We've actually been together for almost 2 years now. However, I had to go through hundreds of rejections and tried practically all kinds of ways and avenues to meeting women before I finally got her. Although, I think my relationship could be ending soon because of some personal things going on lately with me and her. So, I plan to go back out in the field and game women if I do break up with my girlfriend. However, I worry about dealing with the frustration and pain of not being able to break through even if I did approach at least 30-40 girls a week and tried to analyze each interaction I had. Also, how much time do you or did you spend cataloging and analyzing each interaction you have or had with each girl, Leo?

That's it? So, you rarely if ever enjoyed the journey to achieving success with women? I mean, are you telling me that there's nothing I can do about dealing with the constant pain of rejection and failure, except just bare it all like a tragic victim? What if you feel began to feel suicidal and hopeless about dating, sex, and romance?

So, how do u deal with or cope with the pain of failure and struggle with women, especially when you’re still a novice? Well I am willing to put in the work, but what if it no longer becomes fun at all or negatively affects my overall happiness? I thought you also said that pickup and dating was supposed to enjoyable.

I've already tried just enjoying myself at nighclubs/bars, streets, malls, social cirlce, etc. A lot of times I do enjoy having a good time just being there and enjoy talking to new people. However, I would say about the majority of the times that I've been at any kind of social environment, event, or gathering of some sort where there are girls are when I can't help, but feel like I will be missing out on something great if I don't get at least one of the cute or hot girls I meet to date and sleep with me. I feel especially disappointed every time I get rejected by a girl whom I find to have the ideal look and personality that I am looking for. I've gone to many social events and have been a part of a number of social circles throughout many years of my life, but I failed to sleep with or even get more than a 1st date with any of the girls I was attracted to whom I met from all of those social events I went to and the social circles I was in. I also feel like it becomes so tedious and frustrating every time I have to analyze what I might have done wrong, let alone having to figure out if I even did anything wrong? Okay, I see what you're saying. Though every time I work on building my charisma, I get exhausted, depressed, and frustrated especially when I have to analyze each and every single interaction I did to figure out where I went wrong or if it was something that I said that wasn't funny or too dull or not cool.

Okay, I do agree with what you said here. However, there are a couple of issues I still have with learning good game. The first concern I have is that learning good game still might turn a guy into a stoic being who is forced to mask all of the pain of rejection and uncertainty he has to deal with on a constant basis. What if he reaches a certain point where he can no longer handle anymore rejection from women. Back when I approached hundreds of girls and tried connecting with countless girls on online dating websites and other social media platforms, I got to a point where I felt my self esteem and confident drop so much and I got so exhausted with having to pretend that I was okay with being constantly rejected. I felt so worthless and incredibly frustrated and indignant about dating. The second concern I have has to do with working on my social skills. While it’s all sounds good that being a confident and masculine man is what makes you attractive to women, having strong masculinity and solid confidence isn’t actually enough to date and sleep with a great amount of the kind of women you want. Unfortunately, you need to also have a good level of social skills to achieve the results you truly desire with women. Yes, we all need to have at least an average level of social skills to properly get along with others at least at a normal functioning level, respect other people’s boundaries, acknowledge and comply with authority, read and understand non-verbal cues given by the person or people you’re talking to, act with at least a certain level of dignity, learn how to be kind/sympathetic/empathetic with others, etc. However, what about learning the techniques or methods to be more charismatic such as good story telling, humor/wit, being good at starting a conversation, transitioning conversation topics smoothly, having deep, meaningful conversations that invoke emotions in others, etc.? Wouldn’t learning and practicing all of those techniques eventually turn you into a people pleasing entertainer?

Hey guys, Happy New Year. It's been a while since I last posted on here. Anyways, so I've been trying to reach out to a lot people through Facebook, Instagram, emails, phone calls, and text messaging as a friend. Yet, A lot of them never reply back to me. Even many of the ones who do respond to me eventually stop replying back after about a few message exchanges. I get that no owes anyone anything when there was neither any sort explicit agreement ever made between one and another nor any sort of professional or financial obligation that needs to be fulfilled by anyone for anything nor any sort of thing that's legally forced. However, why can't people respond back to you out of common courtesy as long as you are being polite and respectful to them? Especially, if that person is in your class or you work with that person.

I do agree with you that cold approach in real life and meeting others through your social networking friends IRL should be the primary way to develop your skills, your circle, and dating life. However, it's not entirely true what you said regarding the use of online for building connection/attraction. Otherwise, online dating would be out of business. Also, a significant amount of people have successfully dated or met others IRL through media platforms such as Instagram, Facebook, etc. In any case, that wasn't the question that I was exactly asking for this thread. I want to know why people you are acquainted with or friends with don't respond back to you out of the kindness of their hearts.

Well if that's the case, then that must mean that most people in the world are phony and cold-hearted.