Hardkill

I am defining success as becoming at least a millionaire in overall net worth through one's own hard work and becoming either a high ranking professional at your job or becoming a successful entrepreneur. How does one go about taking that journey to such success without paying an unnecessary price of one's own health and well-being?

Guys, people like Leo have said that you should not be working more than about 40-50 hours per week on your career; however, guys like Elon Musk and Jon Sonmez have mentioned have mentioned how if you want to become highly successful at whatever career you pursue, then you will have to work for 12-16 hours a day everyday for at least a few years towards your career goals. However, Leo had said in another thread pertaining to burning out that, "It's definitely possible to burn out, even if you're doing the greatest thing in the world. Life purpose is best achieved with a steady consistent pace, rather than at break-neck pace. Consistency is the key! You gotta pace yourself like for a double-marathon, not a sprint. If you're working more than 40 hours per week, you're probably doing it wrong. And you will be LESS productive in the end. Create downtime to meditate, introspect, read, listen to music, hang with friends, cook, go outdoors, relax, etc. Creativity is maximized when you are relaxed, not frenzied and overwhelmed with work." Yet, Leo said in another thread that he works on average about 50-70 hours per week. I am very confused by all of this and I would greatly appreciated if Leo and the moderators to could help clarify this issue I have here. Thanks.

Yeah, but you gotta play it smart too. I hate having to gamble my life on anything. I don't want to have to look back on my life 20 or more years from now and be like "oh ****! I made a terrible mistake! What have I done?!" I don't want to have other people telling me like "I told you! What were you thinking, man?! We were trying to tell you all this time and yet you were too stubborn to listen to us."

That's true; however, what about knowing how to recover mentally from work? How does one know when to back off or to just keep going despite feeling burned out, while wanting to achieve great success?

Perhaps I am being a too perfectionistic. Yes, it’s true that a great amount of success arises failures. No doubt about that. However, I don’t want to end up being highly successful at the cost of jeopardizing my health and happiness. What if someone who has been an old lifetime smoker said that they believe that despite knowing that smoking cigarettes have been very bad for their health, it still has helped them a lot in dealing with the stress of their life and they are still alive at 80 something years old? You think that’s okay?

None of these responses are answering my question.

Wait, so then what has Leo been talking about? Why has Leo been saying that working more than about 40 hours per week is unhealthy and counterproductive like he said on this thread here?

So, Leo and moderators, if the men out here who have been struggling with women really have been struggling mostly because they have not been putting in enough work then what do you say about this guy who says that he couldn’t even get ONE girl after approaching thousands of women himself in a sexual manner?

Hey guys, I was just wondering recently if all celebrities especially show biz stars are really alpha males and females. Do you guys think that these people actually exude such an alpha presence to the public or not necessarily?

Hey guys, it’s been a while now and I have another burning question I’d like to ask. So, as you can see it has to do with whether or not virtually all celebrities truly have the ability to be socially charismatic around even if they weren’t famous to begin with or not great performers on stage or on camera. I ask because if having good charisma is about having great people skills and people often attribute celebrities to being the most charismatic people in world then I wonder if that means that almost all celebrities have the greatest people skills in the world. What do u guys think?

Damn. This is really a challenge for me to ask the "right" questions or create an "excellent" topic. How do functional humans do this?

where do I do ctrl+F search?

Oh, what it is called?

Yep. I think we all need various kinds of good role models to look up to for various subjects.

Good question. I ask because if they do have great social skills then maybe we could all learn how to be highly charismatic like them by watching and listening to they way almost any celebrity behaves and sounds around other people.

Legit dating coaches are: James Tusk, Locario, RSD, Gunwitch, Gambler, and Chris from GLL are all good coaches/experts with women. Mystery is not so great and neither are coaches like Adam Lyons. Also, start off focusing developing your masculinity and confidence before you worry about improving your charisma. Developing the strength of the mindset really is the first most important to do before learning how to be socially skilled with women. Otherwise, you will have a very difficult if not impossible time in dealing with rejecting and managing your own self-esteem. Also, you can still get some of the kind of women you want by simply being masculine with out having GREAT skills (as long as your social skills are at least at an average level).

Guys, another thing that's been nagging me lately has been this idea of whether or not men really are better leaders than women. I know that dating and PUA experts and many mental health experts have mentioned a number of times that being masculine means being a leader among men and women, while being feminine means being a follower or being submissive. Also, we know that most of the well-known leaders throughout all of history have been men largely because women have never been given a 100% equal opportunity for leadership. They also say that men are better at leading than women are, even with regard to being on one's purpose, professionally and financially. However, it is actually true that many of the greatest leaders throughout history have been women including Queen Elizabeth, Queen Victoria, Cleopatra, Hatshepsut, Joan of Arc, Mary Wollstonecraft, Indira Ghandi, Ruth Bader Ginsberg, Oprah Winfrey, Anna Wintour, Hillary Clinton, etc. Additionally, most of the worst leaders of all time have been men. So, do men really have a greater talent than women for leading people?

Oh yeah, one more thing. Since, I still have relatively poor time management, procrastination issues, and tend to slack off a lot of times on my job work and school work, I know that I need to work harder and longer on my school work, part-time work tasks I do for my parents, while keeping up with all of my hobbies. However, I am afraid of working so hard at the cost of my mental health and perhaps my physical health in the long run. Some studies have already stated that working more than a total about 40 hours a week will eventually cause long-term damage your mental and perhaps physical health. However, I know that if I want to become a very successful worker, good student, continue to work hard on improving my skills in all of my hobbies including martial arts, heavy weight training, cross country running, reading books on various kinds of intellectual material to improve my reading comprehension and vocabulary, etc., then I am gonna have to work much more than 40 hours per week for all of those things. So, I don't know what to do.

Today, I just rewatched one of Leo's actualized.org vids on his Youtube Channel entitled "Successful People Are Not Happy," where he talked about how most people throughout the whole world wish or desire to have the life of a celebrity or some highly successful person out there who seems to "have it all" and is living the "happiest life in the world." So, it goes without saying that yes most famous and successful people are not really happy because they indeed just perpetually chase more and more success and material possessions throughout their entire lives without ever learning how to be truly content with both what they have achieved in their whole lives and what/who they are. Some of these people whom we looked up to as some of the greatest people in the world really have or had miserable lives. Some celebrities and other kinds of successful people really even went so far as to having taken their own lives because they never could or never knew how or never genuinely wanted to make themselves truly happy. Now, I know that Leo did say in the same vid though that he is not saying that we should be lazy losers with everything we do life and that we all still need to learn and internalize the essential principles of success. However, I've thoroughly watched this whole video at least a couple of times now and the one thing about that video that's been bothering for a while and I still can't figure out to this day is that is Leo trying to say no one should ever try to make it big in life regardless of what their ultimate goals are in their lives? Is it really a terrible mistake to go for the glory? Is it actually a bad idea to become rich even if you worked incredibly hard for it?

Alright, I am back now after having been busy dealing with other stuff in life as well as being exhausted. Well, I of course believe that being a good husband, a good father, a good professional and a good friend are all good traits to have as a man. Some of them are perhaps even essential for all men to have. However, I am confused as to how having all of those good qualities as a man would mean that he is doing better than 99.9999999% of men on this planet at the moment. I mean don't most grown men throughout the world especially those within westernized societies have all those characteristics? Yes, immortal values such as justice, patience, courage, willpower, hard work, compassion, tenderness, temperance and purity of heart are undoubtedly good and virtuous not just for all people to have. I don't want to be an average joe who only has or had a mediocre life until the end of his days. I always ask a lot of questions everyday including relevant ones. That's one of the main reasons I know and understand a lot of things that most people don't know. However, one of the things that's always been the hardest for me is knowing what questions are good and useful versus bad and useless ones.

Hey guys, I've been trying to improve my self-image lately and I've watched some videos on how to do it. People like Leo have mentioned that you always got to visualize success and believe you are good at something in order to succeed at anything even if you don't exactly know how to accomplish your goal or are incapable of doing it. Dating coaches have also said that even if you haven't had any success in dating to believe that you deserve a good partner in your life and that you are good with women or men (depending on your gender and sexual orientation) in order to succeed at dating and have a happy sex and romance life. So, does this mean that it is actually better to be overconfident, cocky, or highly deluded then to not believe that you can succeed at something?

No, I haven't seen one of those. Man, I feel lost and still don't know who I am and why I am here in this society as a man.

I agree with what you guys are saying, but I am wondering if there are certain goals or dreams that cannot be achieved no matter what you do and that you have to accept them as delusional fantasies that are impossible for you to achieve. For example, what if I wanted to become a vigilante who can save innocent lives when the system fails them?

Believe me, I've been trying my best to ask what I truly believe are the best questions to ask. It's very frustrating. I don't know what else to do about it.

Well, I thought that looking back in all of history throughout the world would demonstrate which ones have been the most effective leaders throughout all of time. Also, why do we still associate the word masculinity with a certain set of traits and associate the term femininity with another certain set of traits?