Julie Lee

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  1. Hi Fred! Thank you so much for replying to my post. Me and my mom are actually going through everything you wrote about. My mom has moved out of her place, where she was living with my brother, and has moved in with me, but it's not working out well at all. I live in a small apartment, and so it's not large enough of a place for the both of us, and we both have cars, but I am only provided one parking space. We tried looking for a place for her, but weren't able to find a place she could afford. She didn't know where she was going to park her car, and did something really stupid. Behind my back, she went to my brother, and gave him a thousand dollars so that he would move out, and she would be able to move back in there. I am so angry at her for being so stupid, and lying to me. I told her not to contact my brother, not to believe anything he said, and to cut him off from her life. That is the reason why I had her move in with me, and am helping her. Because I know that the only thing she can do is to not be around him. My brother sold her piano for a hundred dollars to buy drugs, when it actually costs ten times more. My brother threatens her for money, and gets violent with her and me when we refuse to give him money. I had the police arrest him once when he choked me, and tried to kill me. He only got a fine for that, when he should have gone to prison. Actually, he has been in prison three times for larceny, but my mom is so gullible and stubborn when it comes to my brother, and she was dumb enough to have him move in back with her. I just found out about her going behind my back and giving him a thousand dollars, believing he would actually keep his promise to move out. I got so angry with her, and I told her to get out of my place. She is back in her place, and trying to have my brother move out, but he isn't even listening to anything she is saying, of course, he is not someone you can talk to, my mom is so stubborn in thinking that he is. I got so tired of her stupidity, and I am so stressed out, that I don't want her in my place anymore. I tried so hard to try to let her see that the only thing she could do was to remove my brother from her life, and I helped her in every way that I could. But she went behind my back and didn't listen to anything I said, and I am so angry with her. This has happened to her so many times, I don't know why she doesn't realize that her son is no longer the person he was before the drugs. My mom is 78 years old, and I understand she is old and vulnerable, and that she also has the disease of co-dependency from living with my brother, but if she refuses to listen to me when I am trying to help her, I don't know what else to do. I also am addicted to codeine based cough syrup, and although I am clean now and not taking, it is very difficult for me to stay clean and work when I have to deal with my brother. I have been addicted to codeine since I was in my late teens, and I have spent many years trying to get my life back together. I go to NA meetings when I can, and I am working at a decent job now, and trying to improve myself and my life. But I cannot just abandon my mother, who doesn't have anyone to turn to but me. Even though I have problems with my mom, I love her very much, and want to help her. I just got so angry with her for lying to me, and not listening to me about my brother. But I can't just leave her on her own with my brother. I tried to get the police involved in getting my brother out of the house, but the police will only do something when my brother does something illegal. It is very difficult to press charges against my brother, for he is family, and unless he breaks a law, the police will not get involved. I felt so relieved when I saw your message, and I actually called my mother so that she could read it, too. My mother doesn't realize she also suffers from the co-dependency from my brother. I would very much like to read some of the books you would advise, esp. for my mom. If you could recommend a book for the family members of an addict, like my mom, I would very much appreciate it. Thank you again for your support, it means so much to me, for there aren't many people I can confide in about this problem. I will look forward to your reply, if you can just talk to me more about this matter, it would help both me and my mother tremendousy. Again, thank you, Fred, and I will wait for your message. Sincerely, Julie
  2. Hi Leo! Your videos have helped me out tremendously, and I have even introduced your site to my mom! I was wondering if you could do a video about family members who have changed for the worse throughout the years, and have become a negative influence as well as troublesome. I have a younger brother who got addicted to drugs while he was in his late 20's, and after 20 years, he has just gotten worse. He refuses help or rehabilitation, and depends on my mom for money to survive. He has even stopped working recently, and have become violent with me and my mom. He has become a totally different human- being, and it is esp. difficult for my mom because he is her only son, and she loves him very much. Could you please do a video about a family member or someone close to you that has become a bad person to have in your life? I would really appreciate it, and my mom would be grateful as well. Thank you!