Tyler Robinson

Depends on how you want to take it. Don't like those then drop them from your life. Personally I don't have a problem with a needy guy because I'm needy myself. So I can't really complain. I'd be so happy if a guy needed me the way this girl needs you. I would feel so wanted. But I don't want to be wanted and then abandoned. Also I don't want to be wanted like some toy or food that you keep ordering. I want it to make me feel genuinely needed and wanted and not simply because they feel alone, aka I don't want to feel replaceable. Your case is extreme. Like "not allowing you to pee"... That's extreme. If a person said that the problem is in you, I won't recommend being with them. I personally don't like people who say things like "you're the problem" in a relationship. That's not a harmonious person.

Why the need to know what a woman is?

Alrighty.. Cheers

I'd say do this even before setting up a date. You have your phone and your text messenger set up. Just text that person, start a conversation and shoot questions regarding basic compatibility. Don't set a date till then. You have Options to text and talk to a person before an actual date. Do that. Less embarrassing.

Haha this is how dates are. People are emotional. Nobody is serious. If you act serious, it's a turn off. People like entertainment. You can't change people.

@Realms of Wonder aww. Hope you are okay.

If you spend enough time with your date before sleeping with them, you would know whether you're compatible or not. What sort of things are you even going to talk about. Anything you talk about will automatically bring up personal things and you'll the answers. My only gripe is that if you put it like a question or an interview, they might feel intruded on or perceive insecurity. The best Tact is not ask anything at all. You can't be doing compatibility tests on people. You can try this as a social experiment and you'll realize it's a recipe for failure. Most people would be pissed off but they won't show it. Most dates would be canceled. Because compatibility tests are tactless It's one of those things where having sex is better than talking about sex. Some things you just don't do. It needs emotional intelligence.

This is solely your perspective. Most people don't think this way. They want to have fun on the first date, like eating out, enjoying a movie, going for a hike trip, hitting the road, meeting in a park ect. Nobody goes to meet their first date with the mindset of an interview. Most dates are informal. The guy tries to woo the girl with some ice cream or coffee. If you turn up on a date with a list of questions in your mind, the woman would instantly get up and walk away. Nobody likes to appear for an interrogation, much less on a first date when it's gotta be fun. If you don't pass this stage, what are the chances your date would wanna sleep with you. Most likely they'll cancel and flake on you for the second or subsequent dates.You can never treat a date like an interview. In fact it's advisable you ask questions after having slept with the person because it gives you a sense of entitlement or authority to do that.

Do you know when I asked my ex for his email ID? You'd surprised to hear this. I asked him after 3 months of dating lol. And I did not just ask. I kinda took his permission, in a way like - "can I have your email address?," and not like "I want your email address." I'm extremely polite with this kind of stuff. In fact he was pissed off by my politeness, he found it strange that I would ask his permission.

@gettoefl yea I mean you need to first develop a rapport with that person, if you're hanging out with them even weekly, you would know answers to a lot of your questions without even having to ask them. The biggest fear is losing the person over your insecurities, you don't want that dreaded outcome. They should not have to feel like you're measuring them up and down, it makes people uncomfortable and judged. Notice how that person reacts to your questioning. Personally I've never liked a guy who is asking me questions. Even 1 question would irritate the hell out of me. I find it Intrusive. I never remember asking a guy any questions on any of my dates so far. I just tend to flirt. And allow it to happen spontaneously. The only question that would appear pressing to me is about STDs (my biggest fear in a relationship lol), and I definitely make sure to ask that before wanting to sleep with a guy. That's a must. No way in the world am I taking that kind of a risk. So that question would be an urgent priority for me if I decided to sleep with the guy past a few dates.

You should never ask about sexual trauma on the first date. No way. If you ask such questions then that person will run lol. Space out your questions, one for each date. First 4 dates without questions would be ideal. If they still like you and want to be with you and your connection is growing by the day, then slowly bring up one question per conversation or event. Don't be too curious or nosey. Relationships are about Vulnerability and trust. Sometimes it's best to let them open up on their own. Their willingness to let you know is far better than you probing them in all directions, comes off as invasive. Such strategies eventually fail because nobody likes to give out private information right away since the trust levels in the first couple of dates is too low. Proceed with caution. Most people lose their partner on the first dates precisely due to this reason. Also asking too much in too little time smacks of — Insecurity Impatience Lack of respect Invasive Shrewdness Close-mindedness Lack of social tact Lack of warmth Serial dating or incel vibe Lack of concern for feelings No concern for privacy

Political takes - liberal or conservative Health issues Reasons behind divorce Have you ever cheated? Hobbies and interests Source of income Views on homosexuality and transgenderism What do you look for in a partner Opinion on marriage General views on both men and women I wouldn't suggest you ask above questions on first date. It's Intrusive. But you could come up with nice word salad to get answers to these same questions by twisting the conversation with tact. Be machiavellian.

Totally agree. Women crave for a balance. If a guy got too emotional with me, I might freak out, I'm not know how to handle him, or I might feel unprotected because the thing is that "wanting to be protected by a man" is drilled into our female biology through evolution (thanks to patriarchy), so when you see a man having a mental breakdown, it can sometimes inspire fear rather than sympathy, my first thought can be like - "does this guy need a rehab?," it can leave the girl completely clueless, plus with guys you can't say something like, "hey baby, just relax," because some guys don't like to be told what they should do in the moment, so I can reckon that expressing emotions for men can be incredibly harder, since they themselves are pretty confused on how to go about it without coming off looking like a Wuss, but at the same time a man who is too stoic and holding it in might be causing himself emotional harm because he is all keeping it pent up inside, this explain why some men have rage issues, they have unreleased emotions that they couldn't find a venting for and suddenly some day it all comes out like a huge outpouring of rage and anger. I feel like society impairs men by dictating attraction around emotional expression and that's cruel.

Entry5/2 Nothing spectacular happened. Just a slow morning.

I want to know too. Someone please.

You know what. Guys who pretend to be lacking in emotions are more emotional than dudes who act Emo and crybaby. Most guys who do that, it's just an act because they are aware that being vulnerable can attract a woman more easily than being stoic. It's all a show. A mask. A facade. A charade. I could sense from your posts that you're an emotional person. Good for you. The world needs more emotion than logic. Cheers.

Good.

@Kksd74628 aww. Thank you

Maybe Maya exists to test how you deal with Maya. Maybe to make you more spiritual and to glorify your soul in the afterlife.

@Kksd74628 say it again pleeeeeez

If the guy I'm dating wants to get a tattoo of me in the first month of our relationship, would that be a red flag? Is he being territorial. I read somewhere that being territorial is a red flag. But why?

It could be his temperament. If I think about each and every character trait and look for perfection, then I will have to cancel almost 99% of guys who approach me, because almost everyone has some flaw.

I ate a cup of ice cream to feel better. I have been listening to music and working on staying away from negativity. I sometimes walk around the block. I'm a lazy bish. The only thing that motivates me is a kiss on my cheeks. And some cuddling and spooning.

Eat in the morning. But not too much. They can be heavy. You won't feel hungry for long. I agree with you.