Tyler Robinson

I'm pasting user KH2 's replies as well so I can contemplate on them later. This is what he had to say Jesus fucking Christ girl. I know everyone on this forum is trying to be politically correct, and nice and shit, and that's good to a degree, but you should really just finally let some guy actually fuck you, and finally move on with your life, towards pursuing more important things. You've been literaly stuck in the same fucking loop for YEARS AND YEARS. And also mods, please do not give me warning points for this post, but instead straight up ban me please. I need to reduce my screen time and time spent on the internet heavily. Thanks ..... Yeah, just like I thought, you're gonna take the "transcended, above things, fake empathy" approach. You're preaching to me about screen time and low self control? You're spending your whole day on this forum doing fuck-all, while I'm spending my time actually doing something. This can be easily proven by looking at our post histories, and comparing them. But have fun going around in circles until the day you die. You are literaly wasting your life away, and you're even proud of it. Unbelievable. ....... You can still be sexual, and fullfil the dream and image of being a trophy wife. That's still doable even at your age. What I'm trying to convey, is that you should develop a healthy relationship towards sexuality - not being repressed, but not being obsessed about it either. What you've been doing so far, is not healthy for you, it's obsessive. You should always seek to improve your actual real life experience, instead of living in your imagination. I just think things are not gonna end well for you if you'll continue in this life trajectory - and noone here seems to care enough to tell you that. But it needs to be said. Also, you don't have to have a strong career, but you should be able to somehow figure out how to survive on your own, otherwise you'll never going to be able to fulfill your trophy wife dream in the first place, because you're in a bad position in life, living with your abusive mother. It will also be good for your mental state, having an actual passion which you can make a living of off, and you'll stop obsessing over sex so much. It will be good for you.

This was Integral's advice. Got to be better at filtering men out based on there dating profile. If they are not at stage green don’t waste any time dating them. Look for the word spiritual but not religious in the profile and other indications of emotional intelligence that you can infer based on their hobbies and lifestyle. It’s very dangerous for you to date people below green on the dating app because they will very likely push for sex on the first date and you will cave in and not know how to say no to him. Resulting in sex with someone you don’t want to have sex with and trauma. in general you’re only compatible with people who have very high emotional intelligence and a willingness to understand mental health problems. Without that willingness it will only be fighting and arguing and them trying to change you through judgement. Please be very careful on first date in real life, be ready to punch someone in the face. It’s extremely common for a guy to aggressively make a move on these dating apps on first dates and most shy girls who can’t say no properly just go with it not expecting it to escalate.

Maybe I should not act arrogant and listen to people sometimes.

I hear you. I'll take your point into consideration in the future. Right now I'm a bit stuck thinking about men, sex, romance and it feels very important to me. But maybe.. my trajectory might change 2 months from now and I'll be more open to implement your suggestions and insights and I'll take them into consideration during the time. Thanks.

I think I'll word my rejection this way — You're an amazing person who I had the chance of interacting with. But I'm sorry that we're not resonating on the same level and I'm afraid I can't continue this anymore. You'll definitely find someone better than me, more compatible than me and you'll certainly deserve someone better than me. I wish you all the goodness and happiness in the world and may you find the one you're looking for, I'm sorry that I can't be that one. Tell me if you think this is good enough way to put it? I think these words are least likely to hurt and might help the person accept the rejection better and perhaps less guilt for me.

But destiny was banned. Gone too far I guess.

You might actually have a point. Maybe you want me to stop thinking about sex, love, dating, romance altogether and focus on other important stuff if that's what you're trying to convey. But what do you want me to do? Make money, career etc. But I'm not a man to think like that. I'm not too career oriented. I don't want a lot of money. Yea I could be dis-illusioning myself only thinking about romance all day. Alternatively this part of my life could be the one thing that hurts me and subsequently matters more than anything to me. Maybe you have a point that I have ignored. I didn't really care about any other aspect of my life. Here's the block though. This part doesn't feel like it's getting resolved properly. It's not because I feel horny. I feel empty without meeting the one and only or at least having a modicum of that connection I'm looking for. It was my lifelong dream of mine to be the wife to a man I would be perfectly in love with, you might suggest me that this is idealistic. I will take your point into consideration although in my situation, it's not that cut and dry as to just abandon the whole facet of dating and simply move on, it can come back to bite me later. I have to get this essential part sorted out until it's too late. It's also closely linked to my mental illness (if you do a rough research on my mental illness, you'll easily figure out why I act this way) so resolving all these dating hits and misses has a crucial link to my overall survival, if I push this one block and get it sorted, I feel like I can handle other stuff easily, that's why I'm so keen on it.

How do you know whatever someone is doing is helping them or not? Why is what anyone does anything on this forum relevant to your personal journey? After a few days there will be no post histories to compare because you must have suddenly deleted all your posts like you usually do ... I'm not wasting my life because "wasting your life" is another perspective you invented. I'm not a very ambitious person mate, I have a low budget lifestyle, or should I call myself your low IQ girl. Low IQ people like me run around in uninspiring circles till the day they die. Have fun with your high IQ life, you will find nothing in me to inspire you.

You can't please everyone nor can you change anyone. So avoiding is the best thing to do anyway.

You're living in a loop. You're too involved in your own life. Take things in a lighter spirit. It's a loop in the sense — your life is getting in the way of your life. Which means you are so hyper focused that a single story of your life is dominating your entire life to the point that it's creating an obstacle. Let life happen. Don't control it. Don't over analyze it down to the tiniest bit. Give free air, some space and room to your life. You aren't living because you are too busy analyzing every moment. People will hate you for nothing. Winning people is a losing battle. It's a matter of luck. You have little luck because someone already ruined your reputation. Nothing is perfect or smooth sailing. Most people are shallow anyway. Your fundamental focus must be on impressing yourself rather than impressing people. If you have made more progress today as compared to yesterday then you did good. That's all you will need throughout life. It's that simple. Rest will fall in place. Godspeed.

You're my savior. Thank you so much for alerting me. Your post is very important.

How do you mess up? An example?

The real world is a hard world.

It's a hard thing to do. If you reject many, at some point it catches up to you and it feels like bad karma building up.

@UpperMaster can I ask you your zodiac. If you are not comfortable it's okay.

I so wish they did. Sometimes it also depends on the kind of bonding they have with their moms.

@OBEler yea I get that. But I need a man who also cares about my feelings. Maybe they can find a girl who is more into a casual sex lifestyle. I'm more committed in my relationships.

I don't really care what you think to be honest. You are so unstable that only God can save you. Maybe sort out your own life first. But you won't do that and start bickering about others. The fact that you need to be banned in order to have less screen time speaks of how little control you really have over your own messy life. That's like a kid that needs his video game taken away. You are a troubled human being and you need serious help and I say this in good faith. Nobody will tell you this because everyone is scared of offending you, you take things ultra seriously in an awkward kind of way, I wish you peace and healing.

I don't have a specific type in mind, at least not in the current moment. It depends on the energy of the guy interested in me. I like to see how compatible they are with me. Usually it means communicating respect for my needs and boundaries, zero pressure for sex. Being humble, not very argumentative. Trusting me For example some guy will ask me something like - are you into other guys while I'm with you? I find such a question in poor taste. It signals lack of trust. Sure that guy feels insecure and I get it. But it's too early for him to demand my full attention/devotion if he is not even my boyfriend yet. I sense a controlling vibe coming through those kind of questions. I find it Intrusive and obligatory. Why must I answer something like that? You know such things will make me want to reject the guy as soon as possible because he has already communicated that he is not compatible with me by showing lack of trust. So if he trying to argue right off the bat when he is not even my boyfriend, my heart says this is not my kind of guy. My kind will be someone willing to trust me and not make me defend myself all the time.

I generally say — this is not going to work out. I'm sorry.

Rejection is rejection whether you do it rudely or politely. It will always hurt.

It can be an exhausting process to text three guys at a time. Plus one more guy is waiting since 10 days. Now I don't even feel like texting him because I am feeling embarrassed that I made him wait too long. The struggle is real baby. It's hard with dating. Once you let them know you are single they all come on you like moths to flame. Very very hard for me. I haven't even slept well in the last week texting so many guys. Nobody is patient. I wish I could relax a bit. First I feel guilty that I'm not immediately replying to text Then I feel guilty that I reject. Oooooooof.

We're all looking for that romantic energy and we never find it. Love is fickle and compatibility in the material world is a useless endeavor.

But the most frequent reason is that I see no chemistry building between. I feel no spark, no attraction. They don't say much other than that they like me. They hardly hold a conversation. I'm not good at conversations either. So there's awkward silences and pauses. Not much to share. They don't engage me. Most of them are a bit Impatient. I like to take things slowly. They immediately want me to say yes to them. And I can't do that if I don't feel the connection. It builds up pressure to say yes just to satisfy them but I don't like doing that. So it ends in a rejection. Sometimes I give them time but it's the same thing again. They get Impatient wanting a quick answer from me without actually waiting to develop a connection. For me it's like a guy has to slowly warm up to me, be like a sweet friend, win my heart, read my mind, get mentally intimate before he can be sexual with me, otherwise I just don't feel it. I have never had casual sex, I'm not into that. I want a meaningful relationship. So I want a deep connection before sex. I think most guys who approach don't care about connection. They don't bother putting a lot of effort. I feel like they don't value relationships or even wanting to understand me fully. It's like they probably just want a girl. Maybe I'm wrong. But either way, whether they truly like me or not, in the absence of attraction, chemistry, connection I cannot really say yes. I want to feel like I really like the guy, and I want to find him charming and that romantic spark.

I don't know if you consider this a good reason. But the most frequent reason is that I see no chemistry building between. I feel no spark, no attraction. They don't say much other than that they like me. They hardly hold a conversation. I'm not good at conversations either. So there's awkward silences and pauses. Not much to share. They don't engage me. Most of them are a bit Impatient. I like to take things slowly. They immediately want me to say yes to them. And I can't do that if I don't feel the connection. It builds up pressure to say yes just to satisfy them but I don't like doing that. So it ends in a rejection. Sometimes I give them time but it's the same thing again. They get Impatient wanting a quick answer from me without actually waiting to develop a connection. For me it's like a guy has to slowly warm up to me, be like a sweet friend, win my heart, read my mind, get mentally intimate before he can be sexual with me, otherwise I just don't feel it. I have never had casual sex, I'm not into that. I want a meaningful relationship. So I want a deep connection before sex. I think most guys who approach don't care about connection. They don't bother putting a lot of effort. I feel like they don't value relationships or even wanting to understand me fully. It's like they probably just want a girl. Maybe I'm wrong. But either way, whether they truly like me or not, in the absence of attraction, chemistry, connection I cannot really say yes. I want to feel like I really like the guy, and I want to find him charming and that romantic spark.