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My heart smiles when you speak my thoughts. ... and anytime you say anything disapprovingly about Jordan Peterson especially. My heart smiles really big. Maybe it's a bit petty. But I hate the fact that there are so many people who are caught up in this dangerous collective delusion that these figures all propagate and profit from at the expense of the people and the Earth. I hate how much control they seem to be able to exert over the masses.

@TheBeachBionic Don't worry. You are. Everyone's attractive to someone. And I'm not making this up. It's 100% true. You may not have mass appeal, if you are as unattractive as you say. But someone will be attracted to you. Probably plenty of guys will be. You just have to find one that you're also attracted to, who is a good partner. If you've never really put yourself out there and tried to date, you may not know this. But it's 100% true. I can't think of a single person that I've EVER met who I thought was going to be unattractive to everyone. That literally never happens. And when I say this, I've definitely met ones and twos before. Some of which were already in relationships or married, but other were single. But with the single ones, I knew they could find partners if they wanted to.

I made a video for you. Just posted it a few hours before you created this thread.

Thank you!

Like I said before, men are usually not picky. Most are just thrilled to be getting attention from a woman in general. So, even if you believe yourself to be unattractive and are indeed as unattractive as you say, there will ALWAYS be TONS of men who want to sleep with you. It's not hard for LITERALLY any woman to get sex from a man. Somebody's going to want to do it. And it doesn't matter that much what you look like, if sex is what you're looking for. If you are open to it, there will be men willing to do it... In fact, some would even be willing to pay you for it. That's how wiling they would be to do it. So, getting sex from some random man is about as easy as it gets, if that's all you want and you're not being selective about which man you get sex from. You'll have thousands lined up knocking on your door about it. Of course, this is meaningless, and ultimately wouldn't be satisfying. With random men who are looking for sex, as a woman with sexual needs, it's alway like being dehydrated in the middle of the ocean. As they say, "Water. Water everywhere. But not a drop to drink." Sure. You could get sex from them easily. And this is 100% true. You may not have realized this yet. But it is. Trust me. But the only thing that will really quench the thirst is a sexual connection that is intimate, personal, and specific. And for that, it has a lot more to do with personality than it has to do with looks. Attraction may play a role. And there will be men out there who will be attracted to you. They will also probably be of a similar attractiveness level to you. So, there will be a possibility for a deep, meaningful relationship with a guy who's worthwhile, regardless of what you look like as well. So, if you're looking for sex. Don't worry! If you really wanted that, you could get fifty men per day to graciously agree to do it. But if you're looking for a relationship. Don't worry! There will be men who are congruent with you, who will like you for who you are. So, as I said before, it might be a bit more difficult for you to find a relationship if you're unattractive. But it won't be THAT much more difficult.

Like I said, IF that is true, it will be a bit more difficult. But it's definitely not impossible by any stretch of the mind. I know tons of less attractive people (men and women) who are now happily married or in a relationship. It's just a matter of being open to dating and being social in general. Plus, studies have shown that partners tend to have a similar attractiveness level. So, if you are unattractive, then there are going to be other unattractive guys who are looking for partners as well. You just have to find someone who matches you, not only in the realm of physical attractiveness but in the realm of personality as well. Now, if you're unattractive and have you heart set on dating someone who looks like Channing Tatum or something like that, that's going to seriously impede your ability to find someone. But as long as your standards are reasonable and you put yourself out there as being open to dating and relationships, there will be men who'll be interested. You just have to find one who you clique with on deeper levels.

Well, if you are indeed unattractive physically, it will be a bit more difficult to find a significant other. Not impossible by any stretch of the imagination. But a bit more difficult. But I think a lot of women believe themselves to be less attractive than they are. Self esteem tends to be a huge issue. So, I'm inclined to believe that you're probably over-estimating your degree of physical unattractiveness, for this reason. Perhaps, open your mind that you may not be as unattractive as you believe yourself to be. Now, I don't know, because I haven't seen a picture of you or anything. This is just my guess. I suffered from the same belief that I was the ugliest girl until I was somewhere in middle school. It was especially bad when I was in early elementary school. I was a very romantically precocious child. The earliest crush I can remember was when I was 3 years old. I decided that I was going to marry the neighbor boy, so I could kiss him. And any romantic element to a movie or story of any kind was always my favorite thing about that movie or story. So, I was very boy-crazy... secretly. I kept it to myself. And I was taking it to my grave. But over the course of my entire life until age 6, I never had any of the boys I liked reciprocate my feelings or had anyone have a crush on me. So, by then, I had figured that no boys liked me because I was ugly and just not worthy in general. I also thought it was because I wasn't blonde. I had also thought that other kids were already having boyfriends and girlfriends. So, I had this illusion that I was the only girl who was too ugly to be liked by a boy. I also thought it was because I was flat-chested (even though everyone else was in the 1st grade too. I just didn't notice because my thoughts eclipsed the reality). And I remember thinking hypothetically, what if some old bald fat ugly man was the only one that would want to be my boyfriend? And I hoped I would say no to being his girlfriend because the idea repulsed me. But I also thought that no one in my entire life would ever want to be my boyfriend, so I might have to say yes to this hypothetical old bald fat ugly man because I'd have to go with whichever option was open to me... and that might be the only one. And I've always carried around insecurities about my looks, which at times play like a broken record in my mind. I'm inclined to believe that this is something that many if not most women are going through. But the thing I noticed that made me a lot more secure about this is in relation to dating and relationships is that men generally aren't really picky. They have a pretty wide range of who they find attractive and who they're willing to be involved with. And most of them are just glad to have some kind of female attention, to be honest. So, I have no doubt that you'll be able to find someone who's interested in you. You just have to seem approachable, normal, and open to dating. It also helps to wear make-up and dress up a bit.

There is much more to the feminine principle than what society relates to it. The feminine has been largely unconscious to us for many millennia, save for a few relational feminine aspects that can't be sacrificed if we want society to continue. So, motherhood, attractiveness to men, and care taking are largely what makes up societal ideas of the feminine. But there's so much more going on there than meets the eye. In fact, it extends far beyond the expression of human women. It is a principle that imbues all of reality. The masculine is the same way. So, creativity, strong emotions like falling in love (thus the association with romanticism), motherhood, attractiveness to men are all part and parcel to the feminine principle as it relates to women and the feminine side in men. But they're really just the tip of the iceberg in relation to human women (and the feminine side of human men) and reality at large. But I would say that a subtractive approach to discovering your feminine side is probably best. If you try to "put on" or "add" feminine energy to yourself, it'll just be a bunch of ideas that are derived from culture and relational understandings, which are limited and often distorted. And because they are of the mind and are thoughts, ideas, and beliefs about the feminine, they will still ultimately belong to the masculine principle. But if you approach it in a subtractive way, you're just removing the barriers to realizing whatever happens to be there regardless of labeling it masculine or feminine or neither. So, I'd say the best way to get in touch with the feminine aspect of yourself is to really explore the realm of the emotions. Emotions are a mysterious realm inside every human being that belongs to the feminine. There's a lot going on there, and it's a realm that's home to all the wisdom and insights that you could ever need. It's like a dark watery cave with many treasures buried in it, which is also home to many monsters. Emotions carry wisdom. So, this is why wisdom is an aspect of the feminine principle, esoterically speaking. But our culture is very masculine oriented and doesn't look well upon emotions in general. They are looked at more as signs of weakness and something to hide away. So, we get in the habit of repressing how we feel and instead prefer to defer to the mind and its "Shoulds" and "Should nots". So, I recommend getting in touch with your emotions and practice validating them. Think of it as an aspect of yourself to explore and discover things in. And remove limiting beliefs about emotions being weak or unmanly. It's certainly not for the faint of heart. It is only the realm of emotions that people can root themselves into reality enough to be grounded and receive wisdom. This will also provide you stability and save you from gullibility while you're doing inquiries into higher nature things.

The idea of sexual transmutation (when referred to as sexual transmutation) has become popular among men. So, you're unlikely to find any substantial information about female sexual transmutation if you Google it that way. But ultimately, what has come to be known as sexual transmutation has to do with libidinal energy being able to be expressed at "higher" levels than at the level of pro-creation. This libidinal energy which comes as a result of the tension between polarities within ourselves also has many other names: Kundalini energy, prana, life force energy, chi, etc. etc. etc. The reason why libidinal energy stagnates within us and stays "lowly" and only at the level of sexuality, is likely because we are repressing one half of our polarity. So, the interplay between Yin and Yang (and all the other polarities these subtle energies inform) is stunted and can't generate as much libidinal energy. This usually comes about when a person represses their less dominant energy. So, a person who represses their less dominant energy will alway be looking for someone to complete them. So, a man will repress his femininity. And he will desperately come to seek that feminine part of himself through projection onto a women. So, sex will feel like the only acceptable way to be in touch with that aspect of himself. And it will be such a dire emergency to have contact with the feminine that all of his energy will be hung up in a deep need for sex. And his masculine energy that he hasn't repressed will remain "low" in order to seek the feminine separate from himself, as he has repressed his own femininity and made it impossible to have a connection with the internal feminine. Then, because he wants to be attractive to women, he wants to repress his feminine away more and more. So it becomes a repression snowball effect. I see this all the time. But when the masculine and feminine are allowed to express themselves and enter into intercourse within an individual, there is no need to express libidinal energy low and it can be transmuted upward toward other things. And there will be a lot more energy produced as well because those polar energies can intermingle freely as they do in all of nature. So a lot more energy is accrued. So, largely it has to do, for both genders with being able to accept all aspects of one's self and all polarities. Then, these polarities will have a lot of tension which creates the libidinal energy that can then be transmuted toward things of a "higher' nature. Physically speaking, I would imagine that many men who have addictions of a sexual nature, are repressing their feminine aspect, also called the Anima. So, there is probably both an aversion toward the feminine in themselves and an equally strong pull toward re-integration of the feminine. So, because the non-sexual outlets for connection with the feminine have been blocked off within themselves, there is a deep pressure to be accepted by the feminine in a sexual way in the form of women. And if this is not possible, porn and masturbation is a substitute. And the small amount of libidinal energy that they have is spent on this. Now, I think you won't find as many women struggling with this problem. The social stigma for women accepting their masculine side is a lot less than the social stigma for men accepting their feminine side. So, this is also probably another reason why women aren't looking for this information too much. The bigger problem would likely be the tension between their own libidinal energy and the ideas that society projects onto it. And this causes a lot of repression. Or it causes an attempt to fit into the temptress box and relate your own creative energies to being objectified and pleasure to being treated poorly. So, these confusions and pleasure/pain inversions are more likely to be barriers for women than spending all the libidinal energy. This would be harder anyway, because women tend to have a lot more energy going on around the sacral chakra area, since this is where the womb is. That's just a guess though. I don't have a standard of comparison. It just makes sense to me. So, the problem isn't draining, but instead is over-engorgment, stagnation, and repression. Also, inability to climax, inability to let go, and inability to express creatively are indicators of this same barrier.

I'm glad that they helped!

I made videos on the topic. I've mostly used sleep paralysis for the OBEs, but I've done a little bit with lucid dreaming as well. Here are the videos. And if you have any specific question, feel free to ask. @cetus56 Thank you for recommending me.

@Serotoninluv @SageModeAustin @Etherial Cat Thank you all for the kind words!

There's a very disturbing trend happening in society where gullible and ignorant people are being sold on "OTHER"ing propaganda en masse. People are getting swept up in ideologies of hatred and "OTHER"ness that I can only see leading to terrible destructive things. And there are people on this forum who are twisting non-dual truths to bolster their own beliefs in this regard. And there are people on this forum who are not sold on this propaganda, but habitually defer to non-dual truths as a reason to accept it as equally valid to beliefs that are not of an exclusionary nature. This is spiritual bypassing. This muddying of spiritual perspectives and practical perspectives is causing a LOT of problems. Paradigms are mutually exclusive and you shouldn't try to put your feet in two paradigms at a time. So, if you're talking from two different perspectives, then makes sure you're talking from them one at a time, and not mixing them together and distorting them to fit your views. So, I want to point to this danger of spiritual bypassing and thinking that the only valid perspective is the non-dual perspective. There are practical perspectives that are often even more applicable to life than higher spiritual perspectives. In fact, that's the case most of the time. For example, if your task is to chop wood and carry water, than you won't be able to defer to some higher spiritual truth to get the job done. The practical truth is that you must do it. Or if you see something harmful coming down the pipe, then you won't be able to defer to some higher spiritual truth to avoid it. The practical truth is that you must continue to call a spade a spade and never waiver to harmful ideologies.

I never said that some forms of racism are okay. You're just projecting. My channel is for consciousness development and not for furthering any political agenda. So, I will make no such video. All I'm saying is that beliefs in White Nationalism are a symptom of unconsciousness, and that it leads to terrible things as evidenced by history. And that people are using higher order truths taken as an intellectual beliefs to trick people into sympathizing more with extremist views. And a lot of people are falling for these ideologies because they've invalidated practical truths like, "bad things are bad". They're afraid that noticing this is un-spiritual or intolerant... so they spiritually bypass the entire situation and convince themselves that everything is sunshine and rainbows. This leaves them very open to manipulations. White supremacist groups know how to leverage nuanced thinking to their advantage because of these space for leverage. That was my entire point. You can think that people on the left are causing this all you want. It's certainly caused by a whole host of complex things. But the fact of the matter is that the problem being caused by all those things is White Nationalism. So, don't say... "White Nationalism isn't a problem because the liberals caused it." That makes no sense. You can think that liberals caused it. But it doesn't make it not a problem that should be dealt with and called for what it is. So, stop projecting liberal ideologies onto my perspective. And start recognizing a person noticing things that are actually happening.

I already talked at length about my points earlier on in this thread. Now, if you think I'm going to debate you about why White Nationalism is harmful, I simply won't. It's very obvious why preferring one racial group over another leads to terrible things. Just open a history book, and you'll see plenty of examples.

Unfortunately, it's not surprising. But yes, that's part of the inconsistency that I was referring to with regard to muddying paradigms and becoming gullible as a result.

You guys believe in whichever ideologies that you want to believe in. I'm not here to argue with people who are already sold of Fascist ideologies. And I'm not here to argue with people who are not sold on Fascist beliefs, but unwittingly open the door for Fascism by performing mental gymnastics and ignoring the fact that "bad things are bad" from the dualistic perspective. Sometimes, the truth "bad things are bad" is the wisest and most obvious truth to realize. It's a relative truth. So, it's not non-dual. And a very simple one at that. But sometimes the simplicity of it is what can bring people back down to reality, so that they are no longer falling into traps set by White Nationalist groups that are using the abundance of nuance to trick people into falling for their rhetoric. I hope that some of you come to realize the trap that you're falling into.

I never denied this. I made a video about it actually. I talk about how everyone has a "good' drive and an "evil" drive that they can fall prey to if they are unaware of the evil drive and don't have it integrated into their conscious awareness. But all this "there are two sides" stuff is just not true. It's an entire social pattern that's far more complex than there being two sides. There are thousands of factors that are leading to this problem. And I feel like you think I'm some random SJW parroting talking liberal talking points. I am not. I just see something really negative coming and I'm trying to warn people of it. That said, the problem that these thousands of factors are leading up to will be enacted by one of those "sides". And that "side" is actively recruiting people who are gullible and vulnerable enough to buy into it. So, I'm not demonizing anyone. I just don't want other people to be gullible enough to fall prey to those harmful groups and their ideologies.

Unfortunately, this is the exact spiritual bypassing that I was talking about. If a lion is running at you, just repeat these ideas and all the danger will melt away into spiritual bliss... OR you'll be mauled by a lion for not being properly aware of the goings-on within duality. Either way, it doesn't matter because "All is one." You never cared about your life because you're aware that death is an illusion. So, whenever you're being mauled, you will not feel any sense of terror or suffering. You're beyond that... right? Truth is not opinions or ideas. And if you are not abiding in Truth, then you will certainly be effected by negative life circumstances. The best thing that you can do now is be really honest with where you are, and stop deceiving yourself that you're so detached from outcomes. Anyone can repeat these ideas and believe in these ideas. But when the rubber meets the road, you will immediately become aware that these ideas don't keep you safe from harm and that you're not above pain and suffering. Ask yourself, have you ever experienced ego transcendence. If the answer is no, you don't know anything about it. Or truly, even if you have, you are not abiding in that state now. So, duality is likely very real to you.

History has shown that people like yourself will always find themselves down a road to Fascism when the opportunity presents itself. So, no need to thank me. You have only your own unconsciousness and ideology-clinging to blame.

This seems to not be related to my point at all. I don't understand how it connects. Practically speaking, the guy was being a jerk and probably won't get the awesome graphic artist to do work for him because he criticized her race and appearance. So, he'll probably have to get someone else who is less talented to do his graphics work. So, yes, he showed a severe lack of social skills. But what I'm talking about is actually something that doesn't really take a lot of action steps to go an do. It has a lot more to do with centering more into reality and perceiving of it accurately enough to discern which paradigm is appropriate for a given situation. So, if we use your example. The guy has a 9-5 job and he stressed, but he denies that he's stressed because he defers to higher spiritual truths that seem to invalidate his feeling of stress. So, he represses his stressed out feelings and never realizes how unhappy is... because all is one... right? Then, he lives unconsciously miserably ever after. The end.

I don't know if the pigeons have had this kind of significance. But according to Jung's idea of synchronicity, reality will produce ways to communicate certain truths with you through uncanny events. So, I would explore this idea a bit deeper. If you feel trapped or unable to open up and be free, then you can take the dead pigeons as a sign that you should explore those aspects of yourself deeper. You may want to see what the benefit of keeping yourself pinioned or trapped is. That may seem like a funny question to ask. But there is always some benefit to every behavior we take and every pattern we come to be in. So, it may be the benefit of avoiding certain negative emotions. And you can ask yourself what those emotions are. Or maybe there's some other emotional benefit you're getting from closing yourself down. For example, if you unconsciously judge others who are open, then you may get the feeling of specialness or superiority from remaining closed down. Or maybe there's just a tone of limiting beliefs that keep you scared to change. These are just three examples. But you'll really want to see what it is that you're getting out of this issue that keeps you in that place.

@Feel Good You're welcome. It's easy to fall into traps when beliefs in anything always function as blindspots. So, spiritual beliefs and non-dual beliefs are no different. In fact, non-dual BELIEFs are a lot more blinding than even the average belief. This is because intellectually-speaking, non-dual truths seem to invalidate everything in the dualistic understanding of the world. So, if a person has adopted non-duality as ideology and not as a path, then all of reality will become a blindspot. And instead of the expansion of consciousness that comes from ego transcendence, there will be a contraction in consciousness that comes from ego repression and the ignoring of basic things about reality.

Absolutely! Very well said.

Absolutely. It's all one huge social pattern that's a lot more complex than meets the eye. Right now, we're seeing a lot of upheaval because we are becoming more aware of that which has been relegated to the shadow of humanity. And it's ugly right now... but it will likely give way to more consciousness. That said, if we can temper that effect so that it doesn't destroy so many people, we should. So, I will always try to make people aware through words before the world steps in with circumstance and really drives the point across. But practicality is also part of spirituality. So, to invalidate the practical and mundane is to become unaware of an aspect of the spiritual. So, the most spiritual people are often the most practical. It's very unwise to relegate all practical concerns to the shadow.