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@Florian Clearly that idea falls apart under scrutiny. Women live for many decades past their ability to have children. And many post-menopausal women are pursuing their life purposes, because their children have all left the nest and they have the energy to put toward nurturing the world. There is much more to having a life's purpose that extends far beyond the biological impetus toward reproduction. The lenses of reductionism and scientism have simply boiled everything down to the urge toward survival and reproduction. But this is just reductionism and doesn't reflect the true nature of what's going on here. So, don't paint your thinking about your life purpose into the idea of competing for a mate. Your mind and heart will edit out so much, that you will suffer even in following your life's purpose.

When I experienced ego transcendence, there was a sense that I could access any bit of wisdom that I could ever want. It was the sense that I knew everything, had always known everything, and would always know everything. There was also a complete cessation of seeking and wanting. In my life, prior to that, I was always trying to stuff myself full of knowledge. And I wanted to know as much about things as I possibly could. But when I transcended the ego, I didn't need to do that anymore. I was already complete. And in fact, I realized that in seeking all that intellectual knowledge, what I was really looking for was to be free from ego and centered in the Truth. And I had to laugh a bit at how I'd never realized that in all my seeking and questioning, I was looking for just to be as I always had been but had forgotten. But I don't necessarily think that the cessation of questioning/seeking behaviors came from the fact that I knew everything. I related it more to the self-love I had, and knowing that I was adequate as I was. I didn't need to shove myself full of knowledge. I could just be. Also, despite the fact that I had total and complete access to Divine Wisdom, I didn't feel the need to hoard insights or explore that wisdom. Doing so, would amount to nothing more than a parlor trick. And I didn't need parlor tricks like the ability to access Divine insights in front of others to make myself valid. I was already valid. So, the cessation of questioning comes from being completely okay with being.

@ChimpBrain The thing that jumps to my mind right now is that perhaps you have an issue with the root chakra, that is then affecting the sacral chakra above it. The root chakra has everything to do with life's most basic needs: your survival and the survival of your family. The sacral chakra has everything to do with pleasure and sexuality. Perhaps, when you were jettisoned into fatherhood unexpectedly, you knew that a huge change had to happen in a very short time. So, you may have started "straining" your root chakra to get by. And now that's the mode that you're stuck in and the root chakra is jammed into overdrive. Then, because it's where the Kundalini resides, you're also not getting proper energy upwards toward the sacral chakra and the others as well. Now, this is just a thought. But it seems to fit pretty well. Perhaps try some grounding exercises where you can assure yourself of your own safety and security to live and to exist here.

Self-Love is what is there when you let go of Self-Hatred. It's knowing that you're valid regardless of what you do or don't do, and not feeling like you're inadequate in some way.

@SFRL I watched one like that years ago with some old man talking about the craziness and hotness scale . And I was like, well that was a complete waste of time with no laughs. So, I haven't clicked on another one since, because it's just going to be someone copying that old guy and probably being even less funny.

@SFRL I never watch any of these types of videos. They're not useful to me.

I've seen you posting on here about why women won't date you... maybe this is why...

@Viking I recommend not putting any prohibitions on yourself in regard to whether you have a relationship or not, considering the fact that you haven't had any experience with dating. Over-planning can drive you back into your head fretting about the uncertainties of the future and keeping yourself stunted in this facet of life. You're thinking too far ahead and deciding to bypass something that may be important to you in ways that you may not know, and you may end up shooting yourself in the foot and regretting it later. What you need is spontaneity and to no second-guess yourself too much. And if you meet a girl that you want to have a relationship with, just play it by ear. You'll know what's right if and when you're in the situation. You can't possibly know what's right from the vantage point that you're at. It's all in abstract now for you because you haven't had any real experience. Experience something concrete and you can make your decision then.

@Pluck I recommend questioning why it is that you feel the desire to post what you posted. Do you want to be the one who is the savior to all of us 'gullibles' who saves us from Leo and our own stupidity, thus asserting yourself as the best one among us because of your superior intellect and ability to see through the bullshit while we sheeple have the wool pulled over their eyes? Would that make you feel significant where perhaps you don't currently? Or do you just have a lot of anger that you don't know where to place, so you decide to direct it toward whatever happens to bother you and now Leo is on the chopping block? And then you think, I must ruin that person to show that I have power? Would that make you feel less powerless? Or does what Leo says, contradict the teachings of someone that you have come to idolize? And you attack him because you see him as a threat to your idol? Would that remove the negative feelings of cognitive dissonance when examining your worldview? Or do you just need something to distract yourself from the emptiness of life because you are afraid. And if you stopped thinking and criticizing a sense of fear and dis-satisfaction may creep up on you? Would that make you feel more okay? But one reason that I know you didn't write the comment is because you are genuinely concerned about the people on this forum. If you are honest with yourself, you will see that you don't care about us at all. If you really cared about people, you would pick a more effective way to help people and go after targets that pose more of a threat.

I have been having trouble sleeping the past several days, which is rare for me. It was like I was just energized and couldn't turn it off. Then, I read about that eclipse and I was like, "hmmm..."

If he still thinks the same way, he believes the same about women too and that society has suppressed this fact. He's very pro-polyamory in general and thinks of monogamy as an attachment. So, it sounded like he might have been using a double standard. But if he still thinks the same way, I don't think he is.

I recommend NOT avoiding the thoughts and emotions related to men. So, if you feel afraid that you might be bi-sexual just let the feelings hit you. Your dad might judge you, but you don't have to judge yourself. Just let yourself experience whatever is trying to happen.

You're mixing together judgment and discernment. Judgment is attached and wants to invalidate and demonize your manager for being manipulative and brainwashing people. But discernment is detached and will just tell you that she's being manipulative and trying to brainwash the employees. If it's a fact, it's a fact. That's calling a spade a space. Calling her the manipulative manager bitch and hating on her and invalidating her existence, shows that you are perceiving things with the distortion of attachment to the way things SHOULD be. So, your judgment will keep you from perceiving what's true. This is why judgment creates a barrier to Truth. But it is fine to recognize what she's doing as something you don't want to be involved with. This is necessary for being able to make decisions. But you don't need to demonize her to make better decisions.

The key here is to distinguish between judgment and discernment. Judging is not necessary, but discernment DEFINITELY is. Judgement is all about determining the validity of something. And because everything is valid, it only gets in the way. So, when we condemn something or say that something shouldn't exist, we are judging. But with discernment, we are just trying to call a spade a spade in a way that the human intellect can grasp and that can be communicated to others. This is very important to be able to be able to call a spade a spade for practical functioning, otherwise we leave ourselves open to making bad decisions.

There have been times when this was an apt analogy for what the anticipation lead to...

You're welcome. But I have to be honest when I say, (generally speaking) that 'straight to the point' stuff is really boring and unsatisfying for women. Chances are, you're going to put your lady to sleep because you're not giving her any intellectual stimulation and you're not really optimally emotionally stimulating her either. Women don't get aroused with their body until their minds and emotions are stimulated. But the way that intellectual/emotional stimulation happens is to guess what's going on in the mind of the guy she's attracted to and how he thinks and feels about her. That's why a good sign that a woman likes you is if she asks what you're thinking about. So, by employing a bit of mystery and ambiguity, she will appreciate that a lot more because she gets to figure you out and pick up on your intentions in a subtle way. So, a man saying "I like getting straight to the point", is the equivalent of a woman saying "I like to skip the sex and go straight to the cuddling." And if you're nice (like most women in these matters), you'll just kind of go along with it and do what she likes. Plus, even if she did tell you that's what she wants, it would ruin the mystery by default. So, she's really hoping that you will just get it. And she will NEVER tell you this is what she wants because telling your ruins the guessing game and the tension and anticipation it creates.

That's a pretty good analogy. Like I said it's all about context and anticipation.

For me, context and anticipation matter a ton. So, if I know that a guy likes me right off the bat and it's obvious right away, it takes all the tension away. And I need tension to build up strong emotion towards him, which is necessary for me to want to be with him romantically. And if he comes off as interested right away, I don't get to wonder and fantasize about that moment when the tension of not knowing his feelings or intentions gives way to intimacy. Plus, if a guy leads right away with his sexuality and interest in me, it makes me feel like he's not very selective with his mates and (perhaps) that he doesn't have very good self control. And because feeling like he wants me in particular is one of the biggest aphrodisiacs, if I feel like he's approaching a lot of girls just like he approached me it just takes all the fun out of it because it takes the specialness out of it. So, it's all about tension, anticipation, and mystery and wondering if I've gotten into his head like he has mine. And I would imagine that most women are similar.

But we're not talking about subjective opinions here or what type of tea you like. We're talking about what you OBJECTIVELY know and don't know about reality. So this very statement illuminates the truth in what I said before. You've basically just said in your statement that you take the 'realness' of your interpretations on faith, without any proof because you don't know anything. And you know what, that the first thing you've said that's absolutely true and honest. That's what human beings have to do in order to function in this reality that they literally know nothing about. They have to create a premise based upon their past experiences and things they've learned in this reality. They have to exercise faith that when they're walking that the floor won't disappear underneath them. And they'd do well to practice a relative belief in science as a perspective and tool for practical functioning. But when you're grounding yourself in what's true, these faith-based beliefs (including the beliefs that science works and that the floor won't disappear underneath you) have to be recognized for what they are. They are only beliefs based upon what you've noticed in the past and learned to be true. But the past doesn't exist. It may have never even existed. All you have of reality is the present moment, which is a non-point. And everything you've ever experienced may have simply been an illusion. And you'll NEVER know. Edit: I won't be able to come back to this for a while because I have to film a video. But I'd be happy to see what you have to say.

Why does reasoning come after? Is that a belief? And how can you be so sure you know it's true, when you don't even know why you think that?

Now, look at this statement and tell me how you know it's true.

He actually isn't hating on science. He's just saying that science is not the ultimate perspective. Let me put it to you this way: Do you think the scientists that work in the Matrix, can use science to realize that they're in the Matrix? The answer is no, if they live in a perfect Matrix like we do. That's because they are studying reality from within the system of reality. They have no ability to get an outside vantage point. So, science is incredibly useful within the illusion. It's great at observations of how things work, which can then be used to invent things within the illusion. And its a hallmark of human development that's allowed us to thrive as a species in many regards. Having said that, it's horrible for recognizing the illusion for what it is. That can only be achieved in the firsthand experience, which science is a part of but is not outside of. But you don't have to believe me or Leo or anyone about this. Just be able to separate belief from things that you actually know about reality. And once you can separate the wheat from the chaff, you'll realize that it's all chaff. And it will be in your best interest at that point to realize that you're in the ultimate blindspot. You know no more about the actual nature of reality than you did as a newborn baby. That's true no matter how deep your scientific knowledge and understanding goes. So, if you are in your living room, you don't know if your bedroom actually exists. For all you know, everything could cease to exist every time you stop perceiving of it. All you'l ever have of reality is your little bubble of reality and its consistency of patterns and understanding. This gives the feeling that there is a continuity and 'realness' to it. But for all you know, it could be a complete and total illusion. And you can never know one way or another. All you'll ever truly know about reality is the awareness of the present moment, which is a non-point because the present moment has no set duration. So, all you know is the fodder of the mind, which is just sounds and images floating around in your field of perception. But to boil it down to basics; science is the wrong paradigm for examining questions of an existential nature.

Turquoises are genuinely in touch with their emotions and are naturally empathetic to the suffering of others, and are humane as a result. So, it doesn't have anything to do with "reason" as reason is a function of the mind and empathy is a function of the heart. So, if you are conscious of the suffering in a really palpable way, you will naturally not want to contribute to it because the suffering of others is LITERALLY your suffering. You can FEEL it. It's a function of the heart which is superior to the mind in these matters. But it also won't make any logical sense to contribute to the killing/torture animals when it can be avoided by eating other things. So, it's not like the mind won't play its part. But don't look to the head for understanding. That will bypass the emotional awareness that you need to become more conscious. It's easy to hide away from your emotions in your head and be like, "Well, technically plants are alive too. So, why is it worse to kill animals?" But that's just the mind intellectually bypassing the awareness of the emotions using reductionism and logic. You'd be essentially using the truth to lie to yourself. If you look (and really look without retreating into the mind), you will FEEL the difference between killing an animal and killing a plant. And those feelings are valid and should be listened to. The mind may tell you otherwise to keep you in homeostasis though. It's good at rationalizing things away and creating blindspots that keep us in our comfort zones.

You should do a gaming channel if it's what you're really passionate about. Your emotions should tell you what's right for you. Don't feel obligated to bypass things that you're genuinely interested in because they are "low consciousness." Not everything has to center around "high consciousness" things. In fact, notoriously "low consciousness" things can be done in a conscious way, and "high consciousness" things can be done in an unconscious way. Don't bypass your genuine interests.

She probably won't refuse. But I guess the answer is not to do anything that's going to make you uncomfortable. If you're pre-occupied with that worry, you won't really be able to let go and enjoy the intimacy. So, because you probably want to have a sexual experience with her to be in the moment and enjoy it, and because you probably will be too worried to let go and enjoy it if you don't know her STD status, then it makes sense not to do it.