Joseph Maynor

Gain a Maslow stage and then lose it and you'll find out the worth of each stage. Maslow's Pyramid is brilliant as a model. Of course, you do need to balance the Paradox of Needs And No Needs. Gain Stage 2 and lose it, gain Stage 3 and lose it, and gain Stage 4 and lose it -- then you will know. It's very common to lose Stage 3 say in the case of divorce. See what that does to your life, especially if your intimate partner was the centerpiece of your love and belongingness needs and you have few close friends. Maslow figured it out for us to apply. It's a powerful model for personal/ interpersonal development work. It's not the only model you need, but it's a key one, a big one.

I'm better than I was yes. I'm happy, but I still need to integrate Maslow 4 which I was meeting superficially with my participation on here. So, I kinda took 2 steps backward to take 10 steps forward. My self-esteem has taken a hit, but I'll be fine. Maslow Stage 2 and 3 really need a strong 4 and 5. All the stages work together as well as each stage needing the stages that come before it. Stage 4 needs 3 or else you don't really got 4 fully. But I got Maslow 1, 2, and 3 pretty good now. Unfortunately, I have very little 4 now though which has set me back a peg when it comes to self-esteem and a feeling of power. But I wanna make sure 4 sits on a strong foundation of 1, 2, 3 and 5 in my life. I see the mistake and tragic results that people who shoot for 4 and 5 but lack 1, 2 and 3 get. A missing 3 will throw everything off. You can't have a healthy 4 and 5 without a healthy 1, 2, and 3. Finally, you gotta apply the Paradox of Needs And No Needs -- which is a corollary to applying the Paradox of Ego And No Ego.

Wow, I've been away for a while. Seems like these conversations bring out an ugly side to otherwise nice and well-meaning people. Maybe it's best to get off the Internet and go outside for a while. Go spend time with people who love you and people you can love. And then come back balanced and try to help strangers on the Internet. Otherwise the whole energy is toxic. And for you too the energy is toxic. You can't love yourself when you're subjecting yourself to toxic energy. You're punishing yourself basically.

You need to apply the Paradox of Ego And No Ego to be maximally happy. Getting locked on one side of this paradox to the exclusion of the other side creates suffering for you and for everybody who is exposed to you.

When you lack love in your life it's hard to emit love to others. It's hard to treat others better than you expect to be treated yourself. And then you're always running around biting people being low in compassion and politeness. This is a hard one to see and to fix because you have to understand it before you can fix it. And it takes facing fear of rejection to fix it. And social esteem doesn't cover the love need. All you're gonna do is get trapped in narcissism without having that love need being met in your life. This is why you need Maslow Stage 3 in order to do Maslow Stage 4 right. And you need Maslow Stage 3 and 4 to get Maslow Stage 5. To go for 4 and 5 without getting 3 wired is tragic. Agreeableness comes from being loved intimately and giving love intimately. This is why you need a girlfriend to get 3 handled and a few real friends that are not online friends in your life.

"Intro. to Zen Buddhism" by D.T. Suzuki

Vote for yourself and forget about politics, it's a distraction.

Watch the video on Developing Skills very carefully. Also the video on Doing Research.

The gateway to Interpersonal Development work is to get yourself an Intimate Relationship. This means a boyfriend, girlfriend to most people. That's the place to begin because that opens the entire door to relationship of all kinds and gives you a natural kind of relationship confidence more generally.

You have no right to an appeal procedure. You don't have a right unless a duty against someone else can be enforced through procedure.

That's called having all the cards in the relationship and steering the relationship agreement totally in your favor. These are called adhesion agreements and they're all over society. You don't Get to negotiate most agreements. Look at the adhesion contracts of any kind of banking agreement. The agreement by one party and all the other party gets to do is sign.

Remake it. That was the one I though needed to be re-made. You were confusing bits of Turquoise and Coral in that one. I thought that was the weakest of your spiral dynamics videos.

You seem to be uncomfortable with being a leader. That will come as you continue to develop. A leader at a fundamental level doesn't cater to anyone, although he knows how to get along with others. But a leader never falls on his sword or feels shame regarding his leadership. Because true leadership comes from the Universe and you're channeling it. There's no reason to waver as a leader. Just keep yourself pure and wise inside -- and keep your courage. Keep your independence even through you continue to function more and more interdependently as life goes on. Video on point to watch:

Hi Natasha. Forgive me for offering an insight here. Yang is not for beginners only. It's Yin and Yang (conjunction) rather than Yin or Yang (exclusive or) or Yang and then Yin (process). Even if you've done a great job integrating Yin, you wanna do the same for Yang too. In fact, for women, probably the earlier videos are the more advanced videos than the newer videos are, see. Women need to do work integrating Yang. Video on point to watch:

Extremely valuable for integrating the Yang aspect.

A lot of the work that falls under the head of "Spirituality" deals with integrating The Yin aspect. You wanna integrate both Yin and Yang. Most men are weak at integrating Yin, so that's what Spirituality accomplishes for them.

Nice. This is reality seen through the lens of the Network of Perspectives Paradigm. This is Turquoise Metaphysics. It's a useful model for sure that should be integrated and loosely clung to: only the pros of it though, not the cons of it.

Integrate the pros of every teacher and leave behind the cons of every teacher. And then realize that every perspective is a teacher too. It's all already right in front of you. Just observe, reflect, do the work -- and take action. Don't sit around on your ass waiting for life to spoon-feed you like a baby. Be a lion, see. God rewards the righteous lion not the sniveling man-child.

I use words like someone framing an insight rather than someone stating a truth sometimes. It's like capturing rather than a stating. Truth is a secondary issue oftentimes. It's a Straw Man to frame all insights in terms of stating a truth that one might rely in on the case of a factual belief. No. That's why we have poetry. The poet can express things that the factual man cannot. But you wanna apply the Paradox of the Plain Man And The Poet too. Don't get locked on either side of this paradox to the exclusion of the other side.

I'm not locked in the Paradigm Of Belief.

The Ego swimming in a healthy mind is good. The Ego swimming in a toxic mind is bad. So, the issue is not Ego being good or bad, it's about purifying your mind. It's the pond not the fish that's the problem.

Love comes only from being aligned with the Will of God. Then you can be a beacon of love without even trying to be one.

@ajasatya Cool man. Good vibes.

@ajasatya Help has a certain feel to it. Good-natured-ness. It has a finger-tip feel. You can't dodge this issue with your words. Say what you will, it doesn't take away the real issue. It just adds a layer on top of the issue. But I do appreciate your perspective -- you got a good one.

This is a great insight. Sometimes you have really great insights that even I feel behind of. But yeah, this one is right. Emotional Mastery is an Interpersonal Development issue primarily. Emotional Mastery Work is really first faced when the desire to create and develop relationship connections rears its head in your life. You can be a hermit all alone and be Enlightened and be just fine. Emotional Mastery is a Relationship Work issue, it's an Interpersonal Development issue. Are you an INTJ?