Joseph Maynor

Ask the other person to talk about themselves. People love to talk about themselves. Look genuinely interested too when they're talking to you. Smile, but not too much or too neurotically. Make sure your body language is open and not closed. Don't do anything too neurotically. Relax. Everything about you needs to be relaxed, curious, confident, and open. Don't try to overdo confidence either. Anything you try to do that comes off as neurotic is gonna f*ck up your vibe with the other person. Here's a video you might want to watch too:

I think it's healthy for Leo to stay away from making videos for a while and just to participate on the Forum like the rest of us do.

Communism is a Green thing. Socialism is a Green thing. Communism is characteristically Green because it's idealistic, sounds good in theory, but can never work in practice. Blue is much more conservative. Blue is not flying by the seat of their pants with theory like Green does. You should actually read Marx and Mao if you wanna comment on Communism in an informed way. Communism is Green idealism and Green liberalism rum amok. It's a fantasy that's clearly stuck in the Mind that has never worked in practice. That's because reality can never be cordoned off by the Mind in the way that the intellectual Green Mind always hopes to find. It could be that Orange-Green tries to disown Communism and label it as Blue in an attempt to distance itself from Communism. But it's pretty clear to me that Communism is a Green utopia -- it's a mental, idealistic utopia that the do-gooder Green wants to re-create society with with the false hope of improving injustices in society. Read your Marx and you'll see this. Ditto for Mao. It's that 19th Century optimism about science affecting and improving everything run amok. Remember Marx and Mao thought they were doing science. You really gotta read the stuff. I'm gonna link a book below that I've read that I recommend that you read. Marx looked at himself as a Stage Green social engineer trying to improve injustices in society by putting government on a scientific foundation. Very idealistic, liberal Green. https://www.amazon.com/Early-Writings-Penguin-Classics-2000-12-31/dp/B01K0Q0RVK/ref=sr_1_3?hvadid=78134099563406&hvbmt=be&hvdev=c&hvqmt=e&keywords=marx+early+writings&qid=1554866612&s=gateway&sr=8-3

There is no nuance in your assessment. That's always a red flag for me. Reality is nuanced, so when I see a black and white thinking Mind, my gaydar antennae goes up. Although in this case it's not measuring gayness, but it's the same kind of intuitive recognition. It's one of those, "Ah!" recognition moments.

Bingo. It's just like Zzenn will tell you, "eat the grapes and spit out the seeds" with teachers and with teachings.

This is a good example of "knowledge signaling" when I get around to writing about it in my journal. Knowledge signaling is basically intellectual virtue signaling -- it's saying, "you lack the superior knowledge that I have, so you lose and I win."

I think Zzenn is a smart guy with a unique perspective. I've learned a lot from being exposed to him. No need to demonize him. If you resonate with him, great. If not, great. It's just like he'll tell you himself about teachers and teachings, "eat the grapes and spit out the seeds." It's like George Carlin used to say, "there are two knobs on the radio, on and off." Nobody's forcing you to listen to any teacher. If you don't like Zzenn, ignore him, plain and simple. There's no need to try to demonize him. That actually makes you look bad -- to try to demonize a teacher that you don't don't resonate with. It's like you're saying, "if I don't like the guy, you shouldn't either -- if I don't like the guy, nobody should like the guy." That's extremely arrogant and reactive. That's a kind of "my way or the highway" attitude.

What is that which wonders how much of your life you're in control of?

I agree 100%.

Check out how I do my daily accountability checklist in my Journal vol. 13. Also, it really helps to have an accountability partner where you're both doing this together. That's the ideal way to do it I've found. You share your ongoing list with them and they share their ongoing list with you. That really helps I've found.

Until you're dieting and exercising every day do not accept any limiting beliefs about weight, including but not limited to the limiting belief of obesity being a metabolic disorder.

Communism seems more like a Green thing to me than a Blue thing. It's Green run amok. It's like letting the students run the university.

Ignorance can also be conceived as doing or clinging to something dumb that you think is worthwhile.

The Mind.

I don't think Spiral Dynamics is necessarily tied to the Ego-Mind's urge to feel superior to other Ego-Minds. You can have the motive to grow be an independent and distinct motive from the motive to feel superior to other Egos. One's desire to grow can come from within, not necessary from a desire to artificially fill a kind of interpersonal deficiency need.

Start to get yourself on a daily routine. You might benefit from having an accountability partner.

I feel like I'm in the space in my life where an intimate relationship with a woman is really causing me a lot of growth. But think this depends on the particular Path of the person.

I agree with this. Bingo friend. I see many Stage Blue, Orange, Green folks thinking they are much higher up on the Spiral than they really are. They're deluding themselves. You're not at Yellow unless and until you can learn to think paradoxically and know what that really means and practice that in your actual conceptual understanding practice and interpersonal conduct. You get my award for the best insight of the year so far. If you're still stuck in linear, black and white thinking, you're not at Yellow -- you're probably some combination of Blue, Orange, and Green thinking you're much higher than that.

I think it's important to realize that we all get triggered if the right set of circumstances present themselves at a certain time for us. That should cause us to be more humble and lenient, which I think it does do that when we really sit down and think about it. Enlightenment does not make you a morally perfect human being. It's the Mind that idealizes Enlightenment into a kind of moralistic perfection.

Ignorance is when you have yet to discover being and do significant work to transcend the Ego-Mind.

People are not illusions. What is that which says that people are illusions? That's the Mind saying that. The Mind is that which says things are this or that.

You need to compose a diet. Here's mine. Diet.pdf

Just be straight up with her and tell her asap. Don't delay telling her. And make sure you talk to her as much as she needs to talk to you. She will be disappointed, but that's to be expected.