Girzo

Białystok, Poland

@Lou7 What's the name of the festival you have been to? I am really curious.

Choose and focus on one habit that you feel like is going to make a biggest change in your life right now and focus solely on that. Other changes will start to come after that. For example, I started exercising. Then for your exercising to have a positive effect you need a proper diet and a lot of sleep, so two more habits are emerging on your path at their own. Then when you have a solid foundation, i.e you exercise daily, you can choose to start having a meditataion before or after training. That's like 3 extra good habits coming from incorporating just one.

@Prabhaker Osho's quote here, please!

Benefits of not fapping, that I am sure of, are better skin and less acne. You can start to see the effects as soon as the next day. I try to hesitate from fapping, mainly because it's easy for it to become an addiction. I guess that's where the most benefits of no-fapping come from, you are simply removing another addiction that's fucking up your brain with instant gratification. I've heard the opposite to be true. But I do believe, that some people can have imagination so vivid, that they feel like having a real intercourse. For me it's not a case. I certainly can feel a difference between having a sex with somebody and masturbation by myself.

Do inner work: meditate, self-inquiry and you will see how many of these things will fall off.

Taking notes seems like an obvious thing. You don't want to watch 60 minutes of material every time you need to revise something. Notes are much faster to read. And the more you revise, the better you remember the content, so watching video once and then reading the notes few times is in my opinion more beneficial than watching a video twice, while in both cases it takes the same amount of time. But, as Christian said: You should do whatever the fuck you want.

This. There's so much free content on the Internet, not only from RSD, but many others too. I would suggest learning about the idea of calibration and reading a few articles on the topic of how a proper date should look like. Also, the problem is not being nervous around the girl, but not being ok with that. Leo's "How To Be A Man - Part 2" talks exactly about that issue. So don't freak out when you run out of topics to talk about or she tests you hard. Being natural always pay off, even if she will reject you, you will learn something about your true self, because you weren't faking anything.

What is the problem with someone touching your girl's ass in the first place? Is she your own property? She should know how to react in this kind of situation, but let us assume that she doesn't know and she needs your help. What you do should be based on who you are dealing with, why this person is doing what he's doing and also what is your position in that certain situation. And while I agree that aggression might be the answer sometimes, I think in most cases it's totally not appropriate. Making aggression a default position in any situation is a pure chimp behaviour. It only shows your own low conciousness. Remember that one of the traits of the self-actualized person is that she or he reacts minimally to insults and others' behaviour.

Awareness is a space where all phenomena happen (I call it a space although it's not really a space). So anything you can be aware of is not it - including your sense of awareness correlated with the body. Feeling position of your body and visuals that you see are all phenomena that happen in field of awareness which doesn't ever move, it's a canvas of reality that's totally empty. If you want to get rid of that feeling then self-inquiry focused on what you are actually feeling surely will help. Try to disassemble everything and see it for what it really is. That's the best that I can recommend based on my own modest experience.

Sometimes fiction stories are much more True than those based on facts. Myths, Homer's "Odyssey" are fiction and can bring a lot of value to one's life. What if stories of Buddha or Jesus were fake, does that take value from them? In fact there are spiritual stroies which we know are fake, yet we still benefit from reading them. More modern examples of "good" fiction books would be "Prophet" by Khalil Gibran or "The Book of Mirdad" by Mikhail Naimy. Yes, I know it's not exactly what you meant, but it also falls under label of fiction.

Eckhart Tolle recommends listening to from where sounds arise and where they disappear in 'The Power of Now'. So maybe that's the answer, if you have read it.

I totally get what you mean. I was walking on the street and saw a women in the car performing a stupid maneuver. When I caught myself bashing her for that in my mind, aware of that useless negativity, I couldn't resist, but just laugh. It for sure had that "prank" vibe to it.

Sounds more like magic than real solution. Wouldn't setting up a bussiness goal and working towards it daily be a better thing? Of course it would. Subconcious mind is not some magic wand that fixes all your external problems by doing internal work. I believe people oversimplify and confuse how it works.

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No one will tell you if it's wise, because no one knows your situation better than you. It looks like you're looking for someone to take responsibility for your choices. Overall I get a vibe that watching Leo's "How to Stop Being a Victim" will help you very, very much. It also looks like you're looking for a reason for not taking an action, by seeking more knowledge. That's wrong. But if you are looking for that one course that will cover everything, then I recommend getting "The Natural" by RSDMax. Whether by buying or downloading from torrents. If you know the basics already, then I would recommend to take action, then write down what you did right and wrong, learn skills that you lack, repeat. Take action. Learn. Repeat. Take action, learn, repeat... <<< That's what I am doing and it works pretty well. I wish you the best luck on your journey!

I would say the best option is to be serious and dedicated about achieving enlightment and at the same time to be fully aware of pointlessness of all these efforts. Sounds paradoxical at first, but it's totally attainable. These are the conditions in which I fell growth the most. And yeah, Osho's teachings are very much in that style, so if someone likes this perspective, I recommend reading some of his books.

19 Watching Actualized.org for 2.5 years.

Finding a life purpose. Less doing, more being.

Then I would suggest to make friends with people who ride to other cities on weekends to party and go with them, so you can do pickup in larger city.

It is worth buying a self-esteem boost and going out into the city to cold approach. Why are you sticking so much to online dating? It's mainly used to only hook up and many girls there just play games, not interested in anything. Learn non-needy perception when it comes to girls, learn how to be funny and do the thing that is the most emotionally difficult (online dating vs. real-life pickup) <<< Leo has a video for every of these topics.

I almost never talk about that in social situatations, for me it's lame and boring (it's called self-developmnet for a reason, you should keep it for yourself), but got the idea that this is what OP wants by seeking for a "wiser women", so I tried to discuss the topic from that angle. BTW, Antonio, how old are you?

Develop yourself to the level where you don't mind going out with people who are less or even far less self-developed. Also, I wouldn't be so fast to judge girls who hang out at clubs and bars to be "simple-minded", in most cases it's just the setting and mood that makes them look like that, they are like that just because they are seeking fun that night. And yes, in the clubs you won't find many girls who are into meditation, personal development, etc., but it's not a fault of that place, they're hard to find anywhere. Also, a party is not a place to talk about such things, so many girls will show no interest in talking about personal development, just because they don't want to waste the night talking about life, they want to forget about their everyday life instead. Do you have a higher chance of striking "the right kind of girl" somewhere else? Probably. Is that chance much higher? Not that much. Have you ever tried cold approach during the day? I think this would work for you. This and patience.

The biggest advantage of digital notes over handwritten ones is that you can just do ctrl + f and dig through them really fast. But I still prefer doing everything on paper.

But why do you want to change country you live in? What new opportunities will it give you? Is that because you love learning languages or studying foreign cultures or maybe something completly different?