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I can see a connection to self esteem. I don't have any goals though. Unless I make peace into a goal to be achieved?

I have received approval to change therapists...I have found someone who is a Psychotherapist not a Psychologist and as long as her reports are reviewed by a Psychologist, they will approve treatment as long as I receive CBT they said....The information on how she approaches therapy is a long list of things....I'm hoping to find someone who isn't threatened by self actualization and who can allow me to have a say in my treatment or at least not get angry with me. This is her treatment approach. I've never heard of a lot of these methods: Types of Clients adolescent adult older adult couple Therapeutic Style Creative Flexible Friendly Goal oriented Personal bond oriented Professional Rational Supportive Mindfull Formats Offered Individual Couple/Relationship Distance (telephone or internet) Types of Therapy Cognitive Behavioural Dialectical Behaviour Humanistic-Experiential Integrative or Eclectic Interpersonal Mindfulness based Psychodynamic Cognitive behaviour therapy (CBT) Depth psychology Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT) Emotionally focused therapy Existential therapy Eye Movement Desensitisation and Reprocessing (EMDR) Pastoral counseling Sexual Identity Therapy Transference focused psychotherapy Twelve-step programs Issue Specialization Abuse: sexual/physical/emotional Addictions or drug abuse Anger Anxiety or panic or obsessions Autism spectrum/Asperger's Bipolar Borderline Bullying/discrimination/harassment Childhood or adolescent difficulties Communication problems Depression Emotional disturbance Family conflict Infertility Internet gaming/gambling Life skills Marital/partner reconciliation/separation/divorce/infidelity OCD (Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder)/hoarding Perfectionism/procrastination Personality concerns Physical symptoms or coping with illness Relationship problems Self esteem Sexuality or sexual difficulties Shyness Spiritual issues Suicidal or self-harm Trauma or stress Traumatic brain injury Work/occupational issues/creative blocks/retirement Help for ... Autism Spectrum Disorder Communication Disorders Social (Pragmatic) Communication Trauma- and Stressor-Related Disorders Reactive Attachment Disinhibited Social Engagement Posttraumatic Stress Acute Stress Adjustment Schizophrenia Spectrum and Other Psychotic Disorders Brief Psychotic Bipolar and Related Disorders Depressive Disorders Major Depression Persistent Depressive Disorder (Dysthymia) Premenstrual Dysphoric Anxiety Disorders Separation Anxiety Selective Mutism Specific Phobia Social Anxiety (Social Phobia) Panic Disorder/Panic Attack Agoraphobia Generalized Anxiety Obsessive-Compulsive and Related Disorders Obsessive-Compulsive Body Dysmorphic Dissociative Disorders Dissociative Identity Dissociative Amnesia Depersonalization/Derealization Somatic (Body) Symptom and Related Disorders Somatic Symptom Conversion Disorder (Functional Neurological Symptom Disorder) Sexual Dysfunctions Delayed Ejaculation Erectile Disorder Female Orgasmic Disorder Female Sexual Interest/Arousal Disorder Genito-Pelvic Pain/Penetration Male Hypoactive (Underactive) Sexual Desire Premature (Early) Ejaculation Substance/Medication-Induced Sexual Dysfunction Gender Dysphoria Paraphilic Disorders Voyeuristic Exhibitionistic Frotteuristic Sexual Masochism Sexual Sadism Pedophilic Fetishistic Transvestic Substance-Related and Addictive Disorders Alcohol Caffeine Cannabis Tobacco Gambling Internet Gaming Personality Disorders Borderline Histrionic Narcissistic Avoidant Dependent Obsessive-Compulsive Neurocognitive Disorders Traumatic Brain Injury Does this sound new agey and progressive? Does it seem like she has TOO many methods or does this look right to you? I am not overly familiar with treatment methods. She has 30 years experience she says in her bio.... Thx for any input! It's a little scary to have to choose because I don't want to make a wrong decision.

@Toby Thanks, it makes total sense..@Heart of Space Yes, wont give up to the ego, ill keep trying my best.@WelcometoReality I'm going to be the observer as long as i don't get lost in my own drama I can do that. As you said, when things are calm everything is fine but as soon as i am tested I seem to revert back into suffering. I have triggers that are so strong @AlwaysBeNice Thank you for your words of support. The video is right on. i had a laugh because it is what I say to myself....I didn't do it right so I'll try again!!..... I do need more patience but I have to really dig for it. I'm tired of the trying ....I know I should relax but it isn't practical when you are called on for decisions and actions.

Thank you. I appreciate the love. I feel very alone with this new suffering today.. and the tears are back. All I want is peace. I don't care about houses or cars or any possession, I have a comfortable living but no friends, no social life and I don't want anything but peace. I'm not sure I will be able to maintain peace for myself in this society. How does one do this.... I know all of the things we all do, but how do we keep peace, always? It's always fleeting.

Her name is cilvy dupras. I don't know how to attach A video.

You are so right! I found a utube video of her speaking about her sexology practice and I can't tell if I would resonate with her. She looked a bit uncomfortable to me.. I guess I will have to meet in private to see for sure. I'm already caving into my fear that it won't be right. So stupid of me.. Thx for your input. I have let doubt creep in on me today thinking I "should" have just stuck it out maybe with the old therapist. Then I think, no, it's already done so stop thinking about that.... move forward! This is seemingly more difficult than I expected. My gd mind is killing me!! Please go away I keep thinking! im not sure what extential therapy is. I had never heard the word until I watched a video where Leo said it about 15 times!!!

I wonder if I should do that in person on a first visit. Do you think it's really ok to ask straight up about spirituality on the phone? Hmm I've never heard of EFT before. She is the only person trained in EMDR where I live... I have checked reviews but there are none. It is going to be difficult to find one because there's not many to choose from...

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There is no distance. Or I should say the only distance is a thought.... whatever the distance of a thought measures... 0

I don't believe in organized religion. It's my opinion that organized religion makes people feel less fear of death. I won't say there is no God, I am not an atheist and I'm not on the fence, I just don't think it matters at all because it can't be proven and it can't be unproven or dispelled. We don't need to assign any labels or beliefs to anything. I have a curiosity and open mindedness to all. I don't know what "label" to put on myself! Lol! i believe we are all a beautiful piece of the universe .... whatever you want to call that!!

Trust... in the universe ...that everything is exactly as it should be... there are no mistakes.

@cetus56 @Arkandeus Totally agree with this 100%

@Arkandeus see above..

Something occurred to me tonight in between watching videos, I don't recall coming across any females that are enlightened? If I come from an understanding of non duality, there is no female or male just what in conscious reality looks like a female...? And there is no such thing as enlightenment there is only what is and everything in reality is one,there is no separation there's nothing to do, there is no path and no me....

Thanks... I think you are right, good way of looking at things. The video was perfect but I have a tendency to jump down the rabbit ho,es running so in my enthusiasm I always seem to be here there and everywhere... pardon the pun!! Lol the hard part is Knowing when to stop the search. There's always that inclination to know more... something that stayed with me... our thoughts and feelings we have during the day really get put into the universe through our sleep state and dreaming as if it is a wish for what we want to happen, good or bad. This is in alignment with the law of attraction principles.... you get what you think about all day long. Also that what we perceive is limited because we are so focused on our physical experience that we don't see that we have access to other realities that occur at the same time. He says that we can have "future" and "past" lives as defined by our sense of time, that are occurring simultaneously but that we are so tuned into this reality of objects we don't realize it... it gets really involved... kind of makes my head hurt a little...

@Arkandeus @Annetta just an update on the books... they are thick and Very involved! I have read a lot of one and looked through the other two in various chapters.. They are hard to absorb because it gets scientific almost and I can't follow all the references. Also, it's making me feel overwhelmed in a way because I feel like it's impossible to come to realize what it is we are supposed to do.our sleep patterns are ineffective because we sleep too long and it makes us lose the connection to our dreams/ messages. There's so many things that it seems we "should" be seeing and aware of but we're not so maybe it's just me that is not ready for this barrage of information. I'm left feeling like we are doing everything in all the incorrect ways. It's hard to explain but the Video gave me a feeling of peace and relief but digging into the books makes me feel opposite to that? I can't really explain it. I might just leave the books alone for now...:(

I changed the topic title ...and I re worded this a bit. I don't want it to have a religious tone... ..I was going to say "I" am struggling but then I want to correct that and say my false self is struggling or maybe freaking out or trying to sabotage what I know. I have been drifting between a lot of different material and some of it turns a light on that is so bright and I feel so at peace. I'm so sure that I need nothing more.... I will put the books aside and I know I've found "heaven on earth"... so to speak, not a religious thing.... It's a knowing that all is fine and nothing really matters, all my fears worry drops away.. then, after some time, usually after the outside world comes in, the old pattern or habit comes back and the Story of me creeps back in... then suffering returns to some degree... or at least the mind and thinking of why can't I stay on track comes back in... I have realized a lot of things, it's not the lack of knowing who and what we really are. My mind can understand it and my heart believes it. Then I can go further into the inquiry and realize that our body and objects in our field are an illusion created by consciousness so that it can experience life as a human being, just simply for the experience. i know all this, no amount of other material will make me know more than what I know. so why this yoyo? I have heard it takes time to drop the habits of the false self? Let's be honest, no one wants to admit the back and forth but don't we all get caught in it? Unless you are living in pure awareness because some realization has completely shifted your mind and you cannot see from the false selfs eyes anymore. I feel like the back and forth is a form of suffering.. ? I don't entertain much negative self talk at all, the negative thoughts are about why I can't maintain my sense of peace...

@cetus56 Thanks! I will try that...

I've been reading a lot of posts on here and I am curious to know what you think about how age may play a role in either being interested in spiritual enlightenment or the age at which someone becomes aware that they are not separate and are able to realize their ego and work towards letting it go. Do you think that a person needs some amount of personal history of suffering in order to turn towards themselves? Or maybe age has no bearing whatsoever here. I'm curious to hear opinions on this...

@Dodoster LOL!!! I like it!

What if you have a feeling of anxiety or that feeling of fear in your gut as mp22 said? If you are meditating with no mostly no thought but you notice that sensation, is that the ego sneaking in? Sometimes I too have a good meditation going then I feel anxiety and have to notice the feeling in my gut and concentrate on it until it goes away. Usually that means taking a deep breath and then it will go away. I was wondering what that might mean...

@Annetta @Arkandeus I had never heard of her before you both mentioned her here. I have heard of Abraham Hicks but for some reason, this really resonated with me. I'll let you know how the books are, they're on their way to me now!

Has anyone experienced this at all? I speak to my family each day and every day they repeat the same talk over and over and over. A lot of times it is complaining because they are totally identified with ego and their story. I've just noticed myself not wanting to engage in the same conversation because it never changes and it seems to serve no purpose. I believe they are just addicted to being on the phone to narrate every aspect of their day, several times every day. I'm taking Eckhart Tolle's quote to heart: " Dealing with unconscious people is like spiritual practice ....remain conscious and stay present" Does anyone experience any resistance to this?

@Loreena @SLICKHAWK Very nicely said, both of you! Fantastic outlook!

I really loved this video Leo put out and it really helped me so much, just a great resource here....one of the many I also think your message is spot on. I especially agree with your comment on identifying with a person's small talk or getting frustrated by it is just rejecting the moment and what is. Yes, this creates suffering. Since posting this topic I have become more aware and compassionate listening to my family and the way they are taken over by their story and their suffering and I realize I can only listen with a caring and an understanding that this is their experience and not try to change it. Agreed, it is what is happening, it will happen...I can't do anything different and they can't either, this is their reality and it is also mine. It is insignificant when we know the big picture. It just doesn't matter that much at all! No need to be upset. Whatever is happening is meant to happen and there is no control to be had! IMHO.