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Do you have any family you can lean on while you are feeling this way? ((((((HUGS))))))))❤ I love you!❣ Hang in there!

I do not have SoundCloud, so I can't listen.

Its over now...take a bow!

That sounds very interesting, but I don't know if Self-inquiry would work if used on the subconscious mind vs the conscious mind. But, look into Self-inquiry techniques (who am I? What am I? Who/what is aware? How do you know you exist? Etc) , and give it a go.

Very good. Glad to here you've changed your tune. I didn't watch the whole video. Seems it's about women and being afraid. Yeah, it happens, I'm not as fearful as she says most women are, but I'm also very extroverted and was brought up to not fear ppl in general. However, I was afraid today, go figure. The guy was about 270 lbs, 6'2 ht and I was in his home (I'm a home care nurse) and I was definitely afraid, because of things he was saying... (I can't repeat because he was a patient). I can talk my way out of most situations and that talent played a key role in things ending on a positive, rather then negative situation today. I do keep mace in my nurse bag, too bad I was too scared to remember though.

Hahaha, good one!?

Yes, this what I meant. Years later still having a bit of an identity as an abused child, poor me syndrome. Rehashing the horror stories, sometimes for shock value, since some things were so horrible. That sorta thing. Still, you have to completely drop that too someday or its toxic to your soul. Once you drop it (I worked through it actually) it leaves a little residue that over time dissipates as long as you don't breathe new life into it.

Attachment leads to so much suffering. The sooner we realize nothing can be forever the smoother life goes. What comes must also go.

Okay, don't take advice from ppl married over 10 years and women. Actually, why take advice at all, from anyone, while you're at it. You already cut out an entire gender and another 1/4 that are men married over 10 yrs.

@Preety_India ❤

@Arcangelo Deleted- saw your comment in other thread that you, and I quote: (So, I won't waste my time)

That's a great post! Ty❤ Very detailed and it gets the point across very well. I love how at the bottom there is potentially another victim, then another and....can go on and on. Ppl like myself that had emotional abuse as a child can relate to feeling like a victim, even verbalizing being a victim, for years, but after awhile one has to put their foot down and say "no more, stop the insanity!" Then, actually do the work to stop the victim mentality. So, yes, there are all sorts of victim mentalities out there. All with there own set of pay offs. One must be willing to let the pay offs go. They aren't worth it!

Nice!?

Aww, well, um, I was born 1970 ?

@Serotoninluv @Inliytened1 Good to know you're old farts like me!

Since you've been gone!

Me too! I am from the era when we actually went outside and played! Hehe Didn't have a computer until I was in my 30's. I don't know how I survived without internet and cellphones. Seems impossible now, especially since all the pay phones are now gone, lol.

To me, It's a ying-yang magnetic polarity that brings chemistry and body language into the mix.

Best love thread yet!!!!!! Love you too??? ? Exactly! ?

Locked- This thread had a good run, but is getting too off topic now.

@Preety_India I completely agree, its sad☹

I hope so.. My intention for this thread is to perhaps open the eyes of those holding on tight to their victimhood mentalities and maybe convincing them through logic to drop it. For them to see the benefits or payoffs, really aren't so beneficial after all. All they are doing is hurting themselves. It's a dysfunctional coping mechanism, that's all it is...

Awesome! Thanks for sharing that. I'll look it up more when I have more time. Thank you

The way I see it is that victim mentality is an emotional rollercoaster one puts themselves on and it keeps them completely stuck. Hard to make effective change in your life when you're playing a victim, because so much time is spent fixated on being miserable and usually pointing fingers blaming or complaining. I really feel sorry for them, but they need tough love I think.