Ananta

@Zigzag Idiot hm, interesting

What is a Victim Mentality? "Victim mentality is a psychological term that refers to a type of dysfunctional mindset which seeks to feel persecuted in order to gain attention or avoid self-responsibility. People who struggle with the victim mentality are convinced that life is not only beyond their control, but is out to deliberately hurt them. This belief results in constant blame, finger-pointing, and pity parties that are fuelled by pessimism, fear, and anger. Simply put, having a victim mentality means that you blame other people and circumstances for the unhappiness you feel. How Self-Victimization Develops No one is born with a victim mentality, just as no one is born clinically depressed or anxious. Instead, the victim mentality is an acquired personality trait, meaning that it is the result of early life conditioning and coping mechanisms. Most victims were victimized in some way as children, whether that was through physical abuse, sexual abuse, emotional abuse or psychological abuse. Self-victimization can also develop through the codependent relationships we had with our parents, or simply by observing and adopting the unhealthy victim mentality exhibited by one or more of our family members. However, although what happens to us as children is completely beyond our control, it is our responsibility as adults to step into our power and reclaim responsibility for our happiness. 9 Benefits of Being a Victim Playing the victim actually has a number of juicy perks. These rewards make it very difficult to break out of such a mindset, which is why most victims seem to be so emotionally invested in perpetuating this type of toxic behavior. Some of the perks include the following: Not having to take responsibility for anything Other people lavishing you with attention Other people feeling sorry for you Other people are less likely to criticize or upset you You have the “right” to complain You’re more likely to get what you want You feel interesting because you get to tell people all of your stories You don’t have to feel bored because there’s too much drama going on You get to avoid and bypass anger because you’re too busy feeling sad Can you see some underlying patterns starting to emerge here? Playing the victim actually gives you a lot of power: power to avoid responsibility, power to feel “righteously” sad and persecuted, power to avoid uncomfortable emotions, and power to manipulate other people." .......... "How to Deal With Self-Proclaimed Victims- 1) Don’t get sucked into their feelings (Remember that victims are unconsciously seeking attention and validation. However, when you grant what they want, you will become emotionally entangled with them) 2) Make it their problem (Victim complex sufferers will always find a way to pin blame and responsibility onto another person as a way of bypassing self-responsibility.) 3) Agree wholeheartedly (This practice uses a little bit of reverse psychology: go along with their resistance completely so that you completely blow the problem out of proportion) 4) Don’t give advice (The truth is that victims don’t want to solve their problems, because that would undermine their sense of being victimized!) (More in the article-https://lonerwolf.com/victim-mentality)

@assx95 I know you are hurting and grieving right now from your other thread, I'm sorry.

Sounds good, but what if you must talk to the person your mad/hurt/upset with? What do you personally do then?

Yes, its great ?

Absolutely, and since I very rarely have dream recall. I dont have that issue. It's either waking/relative state or deep sleep nothingness.

Great quote, its Jordan Peterson's I think, right?

"You are always the supreme. But your attention is fixed on things, physical or mental. When your attention is off a thing and not yet fixed on another, in the interval you are pure being. When through the practice of discrimination and detachment, you lose sight of sensory and mental states, pure being emerges as the natural state. By focusing the mind on "I am", on the sense of being, "I am so-and-so" dissolves; "am a witness only" remanins and that too submerges in "I am all". Then the all becomes the One, and the One yourself." Nisargadatta Maharaj

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Absolutely no problem! Take care of yourself ?

I hear ya, many can't stay just friends after a break-up. Hurts too damn much. It's often best to just grieve and move on. There are 5 stages of grief, you may be in the denial phase (ie, I don't want to close any doors I won't hear her knock, etc). The 5 stages of grief and loss are: 1. Denial and isolation; 2. Anger; 3. Bargaining; 4. Depression; 5. Acceptance. People who are grieving do not necessarily go through the stages in the same order or experience all of them. Hang in there❤

I searched, "folded in on itself meme"...lolol..then found it on the top of page with images

Hehehe, whew!

Hint number one Hint number two Hint number three Hint number four My opinion is that It's over, she wants to be friends and chat with you occasionally. Sorry if I'm being too blunt, but I don't think sugar coating it would be helpful to you. ❤

@Keyhole ??? @Serotoninluv @cetus56 ?❤ This thread has cracked me up tonight! Lol

...And before ya know it, ppl are talking about getting limbs cut off. Hehe

It's also counterintuitive to survival to "enjoy" one's mutilation and dismemberment, regardless of there stage of awakening. Doesn't matter, blood loss at a rapid rate and/or intense pain will cause shock and drop in blood pressure which will make them pass out.... eventually

Please do not post the same thread in multiple sub-forums.

Awesome❤

@Bill W here's a pic of the product-

@Danioover9000 no problem ?

I hid the post for you, you can hide the post in the future (only do so occasionally), by tapping "options", then "hide" Or You can put your cursor in front of the "username" and tap the backspace a few times, it should disappear.

Own it. Love yourself. Work it. Stop worrying.??

Nice post!?

hehe