Ananta

Sorry, but I don't know what a T- break is? Hehe. Do your eyes get a bit blood shot and slanty too?

He had a few posts after this thread on different threads. They are hidden. Try not to worry and distract from your own inner work.

Hm, another issue Arc is your weed usage. Many ppl can tell if someone's high and it's not attractive. Sorta like when a drunk hits on you. You just wanna tell em' to go pound salt. My parents smoked pot my entire childhood. No one can try to say they aren't high around me, if they are, cuz I'll know it.

Hostility, furious, resentment

Hate

@Hardkill There's actually 2 threads going on about this subject with him and I'm posting in both currently, lol. In the other thread I just recommended he experiment and hit on 1/2 of the woman in the 40 year old group and the other 1/2 woman 20+, since age is a thing with him. He can see if he gets more success with one group over the other, or not. Anyways, posting in both threads is making me dizzy. So, I will probably just post on the other thread now.

Ok, I got it, instead of always hitting on youngens, maybe split up your approaching. 1/2 the time woman at least 40 (your age) and the other 1/2 youngens 20+. See if you have more success with one group over the other.

Because this is real life and not a story book. I'm just keepin' it real. Sure, ask out whomever you'd like. I was just trying to give him advice that may give more success potentially with better odds.

I was depressed and my thinking wasn't rational, so "reasons" dont make much sense and never have to anyone, because they seem trivial. It was more of feeling of "I don't want to do this anymore. I'm done. I want out" and one day I snapped.

I wasn't speaking in absolutes (wasn't meaning to at least), but you seemed to be, when you said age didn't have to do with it. It can and sometimes does. I'm not saying, then or now, that it's not done or possible (my dad married a woman 20 yrs younger), but it's not the norm, imo. Some women are even creeped out by it (ie, dont want to date someone old enough to be their dad).

That's your opinion. I can say, I was never attracted to an older guy and I dont just mean looks. I just didn't find it appealing.

Absolutely, and appreciation of the same music, lol. If someone can't appreciate a good 80's song, forget em'. ? After my step mom (who raised me) died many years ago my dad married a woman 20 yrs younger. They had nothing but problems and then divorced. She then found someone younger.

@Arcangelo Do you hold doors? Offer to pump gas? Walk up to a woman with flowers? Come up with something witty off the cuff? I was walking out of a gas station a month or so ago and a guy held the door for me, then grabbed his chest and said, "you got to be kidding me"...I said, "whaat??" , he said, "your the most gorgeous thing I've ever seen". ? Seems like you need to get creative. Get out of your comfort zone. Be memorable.

Thank you. I appreciate it. Hey, and I'm 49, older then you, so I'm not knocking your age. Just saying you may find more success in sex and love if you set your sights a bit older. There are attractive older women.

I don't tell ppl just what they might want to hear. I tell them what I think they need to hear.

Sorry. I actually was trying to help by being real and not blowing smoke up your ass.

Can I be honest? 20+ years olds don't want a 40 year old man, typically. When I was 20+ there would have been no way in hell! If they knew you from work or play and got to know "you" and fell for "you", then maybe. Otherwise, you are wasting your time. No wonder you aren't getting dates and getting pissed about it.

Have you gone after someone of your approximately same age? And relatively same attractiveness level? Or just young hotties? Because to be rejected 200-300 times you are doing something seriously wrong or expecting something you can't get.

@Arcangelo Are these women 20 yrs younger, like the grocery store? If so, perhaps you'd have better luck with women your own age? Just wondering. Theres some hot 40 year olds ya know. When I was 40 my son's 18 yo friends would hit on me. ?

11 years ago I tried to commit suicide. Was in a coma for 4 days and woke up ill/injured. I meant business! Lived to tell anyway. Is it ego? Hellll yeah. The plus, haven't been suicidal since, go figure.

Yes, realize the problem and put in action a way to correct it. I also have a problem, I started a thread too. I've stopped all sweets and junk foods recently and replaced with normal food and healthy (veggie) food, as well as 16 hr fast a day. You may feel sick at first. I did, but doesn't last but a few days. And, to me, sweets are like crack!!! ?

I said I wouldn't weigh in until Sunday, but couldn't resist this morning. Down 3 lbs., since the weekend. Probably some water weight, but somethings happening and I'm not starving myself. I'm thrilled.

Boy, you're over thinking this big time. Drop all the bullshit. Like who you like, imagine what you want...its all fine.

My personal opinion, as a nurse, you've been having either migraines or optic migraines. See a doctor! You aren't cursed, the second you refuse to "believe" that, then its dropped, gone out of existence. When I was 18 a psychic told me someone put the evil eye on me. She wants money to remove this "evil eye". I told her to go pound salt, not interested.

Actually, I'm going through change of life. Hot flashes made me have to go on a certain low dose estrogen birth control pill and while on it I don't even have periods. Maybe had 2 or 3 in the past 1 1/2 years. Didn't think I'd be talking about this on here, but for me at least (not other females reading) you can probably relax. My reproducing years are coming to an end. Also, I remembered that after I had my son (he's 27) I only ate one big meal a day (dinner), mostly because I didn't know what to do. I also exercised like a freak and kept that up for 5-6 months because I gained 50 lbs. I managed to lose it all and looked better afterwards, then before I got prego. Other then having symptoms when I first started I felt great. Some symptoms, even now, are from cutting out sugar and junk food I think. Anyways, thanks for the links.