Tuomas

The community contribution feature seems to no longer be available on YouTube. Is there some other way we could translate your videos? I would have an enormous interest to translate at least your "The Grand Model Of Psychological Evolution - Clare Graves & Spiral Dynamics" video into Finnish and Swedish since this is one of the videos that is a complete game-changer and everyone globally should have the possibility to watch even if they currently do not have necessary language skills in English.

I believe I am currently between orange, green, and yellow, but I have managed to transcend most of the negative aspects of green thinking. The main thing for me was to question everything, detach myself from my own dogma and start seeing in which aspects the people I believe are wrong are actually right. I was aware when this shift began but the weird thing is that I feel a part of me also went back to orange, perhaps because I tried to transcend orange too soon. One change I have noticed recently is my mind practicing detachment to people's negative aspects or opinions. In practice, this means for example letting annoying co-workers' opinions simply go out the other ear without me reacting to them.

Many years ago, I was in love with a girl for almost four years. We were together for three and then she dumped me. Things take time and not being in contact with her results in it taking a shorter time. The one thing that finally helped me stop loving her was to logically realize why she left me and why it was for the best of both. Just my two cents. All tips i read above seemed more or less effective as well but i don´t think you should even think about meeting someone new before you have at least partially healed from the last one and left it behind. Otherwise you will just be trying to fill a already full cup.

This is a tough one. I´ve been in a similar situation for quite a while. I had already done some personal development when i met my girlfriend a couple of years ago, but since that I´ve started to devote more of my time to it. Specially for the last five months. There has been resistance against some of my new habbits like getting myself of the tv or computer at 9pm without expections, working more on developing my skills, meditating, and adopting a much stricter sleep routine. I have explained why i do all these things and also explained that i will do them pretty much no matter what because i feel it is crucial for my personal development and getting ahead in life. Fortunately she has learned to respect that and understands why i feel like i must do all this so our relationship works despite me being a little bit different than i have been before. This might sound a bit harsh, but if you want to do something, grow and fulfill your dreams nobody has the right to stop you. Still there might be a good chance that he will accept your strive for growth and adapt to that if you do it in a way that still makes him feel secure and loved in the relationship so my suggestion would be to keep doing what you are doing for a while more and see how things escalate.

When you learn to love yourself forgiving yourself for your past is propably a crucial thing. The more burden you get off your back, the easier it is for you to move forward. If there are things about your past choices or your past self that you still beat yourself up about, you should try to understand why you made those choices. Looking back you might see these choices where caused a version of yourself that simply wasn´t as wise as the person you are now, and also see how your environment or upbringing might have affected things. Therefore you didn´t know any better in the cirumstances you were in at that point and can forgive your past self. Also you can now do things better when similar situations arise.

This one seems to be pretty hard to nail. How does one learn detachment after first being positively attached and then swung the pendulum too far and becoming negatively attached to certain things ?. Any good books or other material on the subject besides some of Leos videos ?. This is the single largest obstacle in my life right now so i would really like to know where to start.

I´ve been playing in bands for the past 6 years and the best tip i can give to you is to simply keep doing what you are currently doing meanwhile practicing your instrument or vocals by yourself constantly. The better you get and the more you gain experience, the easier it will be for you to find a functional band full of passionate and dedicated musicians. Also go to concerts and get more friends that are in the local music scene, most of them propably know people who are looking for a band to play in. Once you find a full band have a little patience with other members, since being in a band is the best practice you can get. Recording your own songs with the other instruments simulated is also worth gold for your musical development. Most of this might have been common sense but hope i was for some help. Keep searching, you will eventually find what you seek.

Name: Tuomas V Age: 28 Gender: Male Location: Vaasa, Finland Occupation: Mechanical engineering student Marital Status: Domestic partnership Kids: No Hobbies: Music, weightlifting, martial arts, personal development, technology I first got into personal development when i had reached the bottom of my life in 2010 and the only choice was to do whatever it takes to get myself up. I have not pursued personal development that actively all the time, but a lot has changed. In November me and a friend of mine decided to put in a higher gear and also started doing weekly masterminds and helping eachother push to the next level. Now i am more commited than ever to reach my full potential as a human being and create the life i haven´t even dared dreaming of. Personal challenges I've overcome: I have overcome my shyness and learned to be comfortable almost every social situation I have learned how to attract the opposite sex and how to be e man someone thrives in a relationship with I have learned to love myself to a certain extent and to believe in myself I have taught myself to take personal responsibillity for everything i do, creating my own reality I have become independent and not relaying on other people or circumstances (this has bitten back) I have learned to be resourcefull and adaptible in life I have killed a very large part of my ego which has helped me see things and react to them objectively What I'm working on now: Improving myself in every area of my life Learning to not push away or ignore my emotions Getting more attached to people Finishing my final year and getting a job in Mechanical engineering Getting my body into a shape i´m satisfied with