Loreena

When a guy has multiple skills the attraction is just irresistible, at least for me.

When a guy has multiple skills the attraction is just irresistible, at least for me.

When a guy has multiple skills the attraction is just irresistible, at least for me.

Judging others is so bad. When you feel like people around you are judging you and you know you did nothing wrong. And they keep telling you it's your fault all the time. Positive criticism is okay, But someone who doesn't really understand you, doesn't have the right to judge you. Have you ever encountered such experiences with your family, friends or coworkers. Has that impacted your performance or job in any way. I think these days we see a lot of celebrities being targeted unfairly on social media twitter and instagram for the comments they make, even for the clothes they wear. One of the reasons why being on social media is so tough. I like this quote that says a friend is a person who listens. It's so true. In our struggle to keep toxic people away, we have to be careful around judgmental people and avoid them at best, There's no point in constantly trying to defend yourself when nobody understands or cares. So how do you deal with such situations if you are currently experiencing them or have encountered them before. I personally try to avoid and not give a damn. But sometimes it's not that easy. The other day I came across this video and it resonated so much with whatever I have experienced often, although on a much much smaller scale. But when such small experiences are magnified, look what they can lead to - damage to reputation, lawsuits, lost endorsements, lost jobs etc. Even when this nba player in the video didn't do anything, people judged him beforehand, even without waiting for the real story to come out he lost so much because of stupid accusations made against him. He eventually was back on track, but he suffered needlessly. This video is so important because it opened my eyes to how judgmental people can be. And how it can impact someone's life seriously so it's not just about "who cares," you have to care when your reputation and money is on the line. It's so easy for people to make accusations and just run to the law, like the girl here never understood the consequences of her actions and what impact it would have on the guy's career. She went public even before trying to verify things and sorting it out. In a scenario, when we judge people(even before hearing them out ), we only have victims and no winners. I think the real victim in the above story was Chris and his story reflects the nature of things in society, He must have never dreamed that such a small thing would lead to such a big issue. This case and similar others is a representation of a society quick to judge. I think that some initial investigation and verification would have easily prevented the damage Chris suffered but it was all blown out of proportion because everyone involved never really cared to hear the other side or even check the facts. It's important for society to be more open-minded and adopt a more neutral attitude towards each other, instead of being quick to point fingers. We need to create healthy societies, and for that we need to be understanding. We shouldn't be getting too much into each other's businesses especially when we know nothing about the facts or the people involved on a closer level. In the end, the philosophy or the approach that people need to draw out of all of this really boils down to this "You mind your business and I'll mind mine." Until that doesn't happen, we can't expect change and incidents like these will continue.

@Prabhaker oh god, you shattered all of my imagination in under 15 minutes of posting the question. Could have waited for some more time lol...nevertheless I like your perspective on this...

Do you mean Loved ones ? Do you mean to say gravity doesn't exist? What about physical laws governing reality ?

It's all a jumbo salad and we are tossed and turned and made to flow with the Flow.

You seem to know a lot on this topic. Good.

@username I have never come across any insensitive stuff in any of your posts at all. You're always very kind.

You really need to make up your mind. You can't be everything all at once. Consider some factors before you make the final choice Money Marketability and Demand Level of Interest Hazards and obstacles involved Skill Sets Financially Viable Pragmatic considerations Level of comfort and suitability Contribution to your personal growth Don't make a decision in a hurry.

@username Cool. It was meant as a general statement. I particularly avoided mentioning you for the same purpose because I thought you would take it personally. If you think you have hurt someone, you can apologize and be done with it. If you think you haven't and there is no reason for anyone to believe so, then forget it and be cool.

@Stoica Doru Your questions are always very intuitive, intelligent, sensible, useful, substantive in nature. You seem to be truly invested in your spiritual journey and your curiosity is also helping others to learn more. You have a wonderful intellectual gift that you should put to full use, so continue doing what you're doing and posting questions like these. They really help in grasping stuff. Best wishes on your wonderful journey.

It's good you pointed it out. I can't imagine how many people are doing this same thing on the forum. Writing really disparaging comments and then adding a smiley as though it was not meant to hurt. At least be open in your intentions and not be a coward/closet with a smiley. Especially that particular smiley with that weird wink (this one )which is obviously not funny or not even meant to tease, just acting superior. Like get off your midget horse already. Stop acting like you know more than others. And the irony of it all is that this is a spiritual forum. And I have seen so many doing this same thing, saying something really crass, insensitive and mindless and then trying to offset the effect by adding that hopeless unfunny smiley at the end... They think they're being too smart. I don't even use that smiley anymore. Stopped it long time ago after seeing how people are abusing that smiley here.

I am into Duality...... phew...now I can peacefully chew my carrots. Chew.

Trying to be spiritual in a loveless world where there is evil and hate and not be called a pussy for confronting hate with love. Being spiritual and also having to compromise with the fact that my spirituality may not change the fallen state of the world. Also how to blend spirituality with daily life in the workplace and other situations where "silly games" and the dynamic of politics is rampant. How not to compromise on one's values and not become a part of the politics and at the same time be able to climb and succeed through it being simple, humble and honest. No ass-licking.

Self-sabotage. My life has been a struggle with this. I am not sure if I'm contributing to it. But it feels like there is always something obstructing me from achieving my goals.

What I feel is this. Celebrities should raise awareness about such issues especially when it can cause so much damage to their careers. Plus there should PSAs regarding this. There is need to increase social consciousness and awareness about how vicious judgment can be on a bigger scale. Also it's necessary to create awareness about the fact that people are merely wasting their energy in blowing things out of proportion and in judging others. Just like there are laws for infringement of privacy, there should be laws to protect a person's reputation and prevent social pressure from harming his/her job, resources and health.

Yeah, I feel bad for her too, because I realized that she wasn't being intentional. By the way, she appears quite intelligent and could have used her internet skills in better ways. The catfishing is not a big deal imo, because it happens often and there are laws to deal with fraud. But it's essential to consider that there are no laws to prevent people from judging. And I thought it's a situation where one should learn to deal with on their own, however what people don't understand is the fact that one cannot deal with it on their own, especially when their job is at risk. This is where the cooperation of the law enforcement is required. It's easy for society to say "deal with it " but it's not as easy as it looks. I was not bullied by a large group. But I have faced instances of bullying by groups that eventually faded with time. But they didn't cause me such harm. But as I was browsing through videos, I came across this and it dawned on me that when things happen on a magnified scale, they're no longer in the control of the individual and it's wrong to expect him to deal with it. This is where the law is required to deal with it. Also the other thing that can help is a social change where people should learn to invest less energy in witch-hunting and more energy in seeking the truth. A neutral non judgmental approach on society'part would have certainly done a great favor to Chris.

And I want to know what steps people take both to remove the fear of judgment as well as to deal with the situation when it arises.

No I haven't been able to get over it myself because this is not as simple as it seems. When a person at your workplace is involved, it's always easy to ignore them. But it's hard when a huge group is doing the same because you won't be able to convince everyone about your innocence. Although it's important to be positive, it is disheartening no matter how strong you try to be while going through it.

This is about dealing with situations of judgment by people around you in different social environments like maybe classrooms, workplaces, family, social media and how it impacts you on both minor and major scale. On a minor scale, it's easier to say "who cares," but on a major scale, what happens if your job is in jeopardy as a result of people judging you. So if you have encountered such situations, how have you dealt with them. And what do you think in relation to the video in point. What steps should society/people take in future to avoid the damage caused to Chris and reduce such occurrences ?

Whats your take on life. What is your philosophy on it.

Loss of loved ones, loneliness, health, money

Well I prefer quality over quantity every time. I try maintaining friendships with folks I get along with. I have now realized that the only person who can keep myself happy is me. I don't expect much out of others anymore. I just keep to myself these days.

Boarders !