Annoynymous

Title is self explainatory.

@Leo Gura Ok man. take time, take rest

@Leo Gura we are waiting for your response to this.

@Shin then where is santa claus? atleast he could told us that "no video forever"

He could just post 'No video this week' and that's it. I think enlightenment person do not forget how to write after all deconsruction and ego death

maybe he is going to release something very big and surprising

The title is self explainatory. Advice is needed. Thank you.

That's a good explaination of the matter. The question arises that when yoy know your personality type, do you make yourself fit into what reality demands, or you create your own reality according to your personality?

well thank you for your recommendation, but I don't find these direct enough. You don't have to say that I am doing good, because first of all, if I am that much good, u wouldn't have given me so many recommendations. I myself feel that I have got lots of improvement in order to touch "good" mark. I want you tell me exactly how you feel about my assesment result. if it shows some positives, tell it. if it shows some negative, tell it also. I need an honest review based on personal recommendation, not generalization.

According to big 5, I am - Extraversion - 22 percentile Emotional Stability - 39 percentile Agreeableness - 76 percentile Conscientiousness - 15 percentile Intellect/Imagination - 80 percentile anyone got any thought on this?

Have anyone read his book "Double your Dating"? How is it? Does those method to attract women works that he described in his books?

How to detect any emotional dysfunction within oneself and dissolve them? If I have experienced trauma like unexpected bad results happening to me, in that case how can I develop more? I am also adding my hexaco personality test result here so that one can have clear picture about my personality. I just want to develop myself and need tips /advice from you guys. Thank you. HEXACO-results.pdf

I have a question regarding this topic. in initial stage, what we do in the name of courtship, isn't it authentic? And according to you, how much time does this "initial stage" take? And how to recoznise if a woman is dysfunctional emotionally?

Some months ago, something terrible happened in my life and I experience emotional Trauma. I labelled the incident as one of my big failures and regretted a lot. I feel stuck inside. I caught myself remembering that incident almost everyday even though it happened 5 months ago. I still fill guilty, ashamed, frustrated, depressed, motivationless and fearful while thinking about this repeatedly. How to overcome excessive thinking and get unstucked from this repeatative torture of my own mind?

@Dan Arnautu I find pickup very manipulative and deceptive. Can't we attract women by honest and authentic meansM

What is Relativity? How does it work? Merits and demerits of it and how to distinguish between relative and absolute truth?

@Krisena I didn't understand 2nd and third picture. what do they stand for?

@Leo Gura lol you can be very sarcastic yet true man!

@Leo Gura It was an amazing and insightful video. That video covers mostly big picture/broader implications of spiral dynamics. But what I see is self reference problem. Like you have said about many areas and how many problems can be solved in terms of sp and almost in every case you mentioned that whoever gonna do that needs to be spirally developed at first. I think this is a key point which wasn't covered in the video. Like as a person, how can I be spirally developed? I think at first, I need to address my personal life issues such as career, rltnships, dealing with people effectively and day to day little things. how can I do that? For example, If I am a stage green person but living in third world country, I have to deal with a lot of red/blue/ orange issues which can be challenging and emotionally laborious to me. How can I deal with that? It will be nice if you shoot an episode about sp application in a person life which will cover more personal issues in details. we have got an understanding of broader issues from your latest episode, but lacking with personal issues and sp application.

@K VIL I am actually confused about advancement. what can actually be called advancement? Is it leaving all the stuff behind? actually I am fearful of the consequences those may bring...

@Leo Gura I couldn't clear my question to you. Lets say I am at green. but my parents are in blue, my gf is in orange and my workplace is at orange. And they are holding me back. How can I make my career and rltnship work? do I have to abandon those entirely? or can I improve those also? Sorry if I am irritating you with my questions.

Why victim thinking is harmful? How does it damage us?

@Emerald u recalled very well, I am going to be 24 next February. well to be honest, I wanted to know girls. in the process of knowing, when I got intimate, I started to notice these patterns of behaviour. when I first told you in this thread about the behaviour, you replied and labelled it as "passive aggressive". that is where my problem is. its like you instantly knew what these behaviour should be called and by naming it, one can come to the point of solutions. but when I was facing this, I didn't know what the hell was happening! as my motivation was to understand girls, I didn't quickly jumped onto judging and I was confused as well. so whenever she used to behave like this, I thought that maybe I am doing something wrong, maybe I don't understand certain things, that is why she is doing it. so this is my fault and I should fix this somehow. eventually I was burned out and it was gone. When this complication started, I felt attraction was flying out of the window for me and I started feeling to run away from this situation and from her. I felt guilty and in my mind and started to blame her quietly. The good feeling that brought me toward her became bad feeling gradually and I started to feel bad about her. I end up thinking that she is manupulative insensitive dumb bitch. But I love her as well. it was a deep shit experience. Atlast I am out of it, it broke off pretty badly 5 months ago, but I still feel I don't understand woman very well. Now I have this bad memory in my mind which makes me fearful about women and dating and all of that stuff. I feel lack of motivation to talk and date another woman. So my question to you is what was my mistake in understanding women? and how I can unstuck myself from these situations and get motivated to approach and get intimate with women again? And you are welcome to give other insights besides my questions if you want to. Thank you.

How can I connect with my own femininity?

@Emerald It is always amazing to read your insights! Besides that, what to do when I am dealing with this sort of women that I mentioned you earlier? besides that, what I have found where I live is that maximum women are like this. So what I can do whenever I engage with them intimately? Or shall I find a woman who would be more personally developed? I think it will be pretty rare to find.