ValiantSalvatore

@Illusory Self http://rc.leighb.com/more/Nimitta.htm Unsure if it felt like this. The article goes in a bit more depth. My practice is more khanika samadhi focused, which is different, yet it suits me. I don't know if you are meditating while sleeping, when you can't sleep and for instance smth. like this happend. The experience sounds very weird. The fear part does not sound good, I'd recommend you talk to one experienced teacher once a year for a check-up with experiences and practices. You can schedule talks with Shinzen even.

Till now I notice the opener matters a lot, depends on what you mean with good results. I did not try Tinder as I wanted to get good at online dating first. My friend is black and has a lay count of 10 approx. now in a very shitty region with close to 0 people. 100k town with a lay count of 10. In one year+ with Tinder and Bumble. That fits his preference. He also showed me some smoking hot matches. Mainly with Bumble and Tinder. He tested Badoo or Lovoo. Said it did not work for him to many bots etc. Status and small status displays with style matter a lot. He is a teacher, so he get's the dominance bonus... as well as he likes to be dominant which seems to be working out for him very well and he is also compassionate. There is some toxic stuff. Yet, I can't blame him. I helped him get laid.... last weekend or so a bit I guess. By leading the whole group of people and an other guy now... two times... I've only tested OkCupid and one local app that has a high rating, that works very well in the south of Germany... as well as Bumble shortly. My Bumble was very bad, my OkCupid is very good. The app is okayish, yet not a lot of dates and people are very picky. Many moved to Bumble imo. I am half/half I did not test. He also get's a lot of blonde matches, we make fun of this as I get close to none blonde matches. I think only one liked me so far on dating apps, apparently I am to light skin , I am a chamelon. --- I also have matches with girls from other countries so this is normal. It's a time waster to chat with them some can also be bots. Hope this provides some value to you. It's all very orange the more nuanced your orange the better it is. The less you have in your bio the better it is. I've texted to much in my bios. Also this takes time. From the course I did it. I can only recommend Alex from playing with fire, as this shit is just to true. As well as testing openers now myself. --- One girl deleted the app and wants to meet on Friday I hope I finally get laid my lord. Can't be that hard...

Is this not also some sort of Jhanic experience? Seeing white light. I have had kriya experiences, yet nothing like this. I heard white light in various contexts, yet I am unsure if IIRC, this is some casual state phenomenon... No experience here.

@Leo Gura Yeah my friend did receive the number from the one hot girl I approached because of me she told to him. So I was winging in a sense. As she felt bad for blowing me out, as I did make her laugh... I'll see if I can go out again with them on Saturday. As we did pull. This time sober.

I was out with friends. I approached 6 girls in total. Wanted to do 10 the place is rather small and I saw nothing approachable in that sense, as well as the are other just observations. Clubs are currently closed because of Corona. I approached basically the hottest girls in the club only, exclusively as I do have an entitled personality and that apparently is good for game. Of course there were other attractive/women hot girls for night game lingo. I was out with 2 friends and made 2 other friends just from hanging-out. I had close to 0 fun as the music is very bad, I still try to feel my way into it. I'll just make this logical so people understand and my purpose of going out. 6 situations I've been in. Principles I wanted to understand Body language and eye contact. 1. Approached one girl with 3 girls on a small table she was dancing and having a good time, I wanted to tune into the vibe as I was bored and received a blow out. She told me she has a boyfriend, I told her can't she share, we danced for a second before. A guy was thrown out 5 minutes before and she made a big act, because he was ready to punch a women in a sense and I was ready to get in between because this is just ridiculous. They all showed him the middle finger like 5 girls as he walked down the stairs. I am unsure if people noticed this, they treated it as normal. I thought it was funny. Afterwards I approach 5-10 minutes as stuff calmed down, I do my thing like written above and after telling her why can't she share she punched my arm and sort of gave me a good vibe unsure what else to do. Afterwards she started dancing with one of my friends and came back to us, he approached first before this shit happend or afterwards. Unsure what he said. He was blown off in a second. 2. Next I talked to two girls a group and asked if she wanted to dance one girl gave me a look of oh no, the other girl told me she has a boyfriend. Showed me a picture of him. I am unsure what happend afterwards I was just looking. I asked for dancing as I thought it's a good way to learn to let go as well as I like to dance with other people. Later she danced with a couple of friends of mine and pushed me out of the group, there is close to 0 space and I am tall so I was unsure where to move. I kept trying to hold eye contact and basically wining for all making friends. One dude came up to me gave me his hand and he works in secruity, a friend of mine knows him etc. 3. The other two girls sort of just came by naturally I was attempting to start dancing with one of them. They made out in front of me and touched each others boobs. I always want to grab both of them when I see this, as I just like it. One of them was attractive the other one was not so attractive. I attempted to dance with the attractive one, we "pulled" these two to one guys place and nothing happend. His place was also freaking nice. 4. I approached a girl I wanted to approach the one behind her, then I notice my attention drifting and I thought since she is my focus now I'll talk to her and she basically just blocked me of entirely, giving me a strong vibe of no entry. They drank shots. 5. One girl approached me with the words of "Tequilla" and her eyes were so wide, yet I did not want to drink anymore. We also left right afterwards as they closed. 6. One girl wanted to dance with me she was way to old and put her back into my back consistently, I noticed yet I did not really care. First I did not know who it was or if it was a space issue. My friend pulled me away. She eyed me out before. 7. One other attractive girl was out with her friends and eyed me out I can't really tell if she is attractive is shit is so dark. So I did not approach as it would seem like "easy game". She reminded me a lot about an old crush. So I did not approach as I felt a lot of pain. Always when I keep talking shit turns quite I don't know why if this is good, when I held presentations during university it was very similar I received mostly positive feedback and I still do not know why. It just had to seem solid or w/e. Anyway, any ideas on how to continue night games any sort of feedback? Is this good is this bad is this okay? Not drinking would be better as I'd be in a higher state. I was able to let loose and dance for a bit afterwards alone, so no idea. My main focus was eye contact and body language focusing on getting to physically escalate, as I have the most issue with that. Eye contact is fine, I feel things very intensly so I actually have to break it off depending on the vibe of the person as well as my internal mood. Conversations are fine, I was not in a good mood I also did drink. Small talk is still an issue, they keep asking me if everything is allright, which from articles I've read is just bad conversations. I mostly meditate then and try to feel my body so I am just calm and start laughing my ass off, as I am mostly so content being alone, even if it is painful. I saw 3-4 make outs in total, so it was rather lame? The quality of girls and quantity was also not very high. Dunno what to do when an attractive girl walks by as there is a steady influx of people regardless of where you are at. So, I don't know if they are leaving.

I dunno from skimming a book you'd have to lock her in a place. From watching infield a bit I saw none on a dance floor they looked the girl away standing in front of her, so he the guy is the only focus inside the night club. From observing it's just normal that she wants back to her friends. You could say Hey! Let's meet your friends let me meet your friends and introduce yourself etc. That is what I saw from one infield and then focus on her. You can still close the number, if she really wants to go. I also saw this in infield. None of these situations came up till now in my experience, yet I saw it in infield.

I've made the "mistake" to still produce a lot of effort as I truely in a comradery sense loved my best friend. Yet, I noticed I liked people more who are on my new life path. Simply because of the shared level of experience. We still meet from time to time, yet in my personal experience it's just not the same anymore. I would not produce as much effort as I did in the past and put that energy into finding new like minded people. Although it feels very good to connect back. I think this is just normal as interests grow and develop. Even when you are far apart in your life path, you can still feel connected and interact from time to time. That's my opinion and experience. If you both interact in a way that indicates you both can stay close together I would definitely cherish and enjoy it as long as it is there, otherwise not.

I need a Blumenbach meme.

Can someone wake up Blumenbach I don't think this is allowed here. Anyone?! Hello?!

We gotta keep this legal.

Don't post whhyyyy!

It's okay Blumenbach was right. The flowercreek always wins. That's actually funny.

It's okay Blumenbach was right.

@Raze Thx I'll check them out! Some of them I watched thanks to you already, thank you again.

Hey there I basically just postponed my thesis and went through some financial stuff with my family so everything is A okay. The point is I am not very proud or happy to having to postpone my thesis as I did not do enough and some advice that I receive here generally can make me feel rather depressed as I am highly sensetive as a person. The point is I basically have the number and she liked me of my sort of 10/10 girl/women/being w/e. The point is I told her I postponed my thesis by 2 months so something very neutral as well as that the prof is quite demanding he taught at Columbia University so I never know wtf I am getting into, yet I like him. Any ideas on how to proceed I am currently just not in any mood and can't think of anything positive as well as feel stiffled and blame/guilt trip myself currently as I am not even after doing so much work at any place I want to be, especially considering suicidal thoughts etc. I did not want to start dating to begin with, yet it's better to address the underlying problem than to avoid it. Like I mentioned before in an other post my psychologist basically gave me a go to date. Yet I still feel very guilty about how things turn out and taking full responsibillity I basically have to correct others a lot in my life as this is stuff sometimes where I do not have full influence in and that is basically my circle of influence to take the initiative and speak to the person etc. In this case the financial situation with my family as I am a person that really needs clarity. Like utterly. --- Any ideas on what to do I feel rather depressed as a feeling not a constant state at the moment. I do have a date tomorrow with another girl from online, yet I basically want to meet the 10/10 girl as I intuit she'd just be the right kind of person. She also does not live as far away, so pratically speaking everything would be better. We only talked about animes so far, and the 10/10 basically liked me and gave me her number rather quickly. Any ideas on how to proceed after telling her I postponed my thesis for 2 months, I am not in a very good mood as I am very angry at myself etc.

Any ideas on what to write her basically if she still wants to meet? I do have a date today and one one friday most likely...

I dunno I heard about so much relationship material I've read and re-did the quiz so many times after implementing p.d stuff and working on my emotionality. (Couple of years back) Secure I was avoidant before I worked on this a couple of years back... Score Mother/CG1: Anxiety: 2.67 | Avoidance: 1.67 Score Father/CG2: Anxiety: 2.67 | Avoidance: 6.00 Score Partner: Anxiety: 3.00 | Avoidance: 1.67

I hope Leo realizes this motherfucker called Zedd is from my hometown. One of my best friends hang out with him for a short time because of music. ?????

https://unifiedmindfulness.com/unified-mindfulness-coaches/ https://www.facebook.com/unifiedmindfulness/ https://unifiedmindfulness.com/continuing-education/ https://unifiedmindfulness.com/wiki/index.php/Main_Page They even have a wikipage now.

There is also the life and home practice programm for micro-retreats at home and online support in case you have questions around your meditative practice. https://homepracticeprogram.com/ https://www.lifepracticeprogram.com/ There is also other stuff like becoming a certified teacher and gaining CP for your studies etc. You can become also a certified unified mindfulness teacher.

https://www.shinzen.org/resources/articles/ @Jacob Morres There is more a lot more to Shinzen techniques this might give more of an overview. Click on view all! there are more sources. For example also. https://www.shinzen.org/wp-content/uploads/2016/08/WhatIsMindfulness_SY_Public_ver1.5.pdf https://www.shinzen.org/wp-content/uploads/2016/08/FiveWaystoKnowYourself_ver1.6.pdf https://www.shinzen.org/wp-content/uploads/2016/12/art_painprocessingalg.pdf

@ardacigin For me the baseline definitely increased I also have more highs, I do go to retreats also so I also get some leverage through retreats. Nice to hear a shared experience. I did not get into jhana, my current "spiritual goal" is still stream entry. Shinzen defines the nuture positive theme as mindfulness practice as long as expansion and contraction meditation and considering space is not inserted into any of the "shinzenian techniques" it feels like a mindfulness practice. Expansion and contraction is just odd to experience. Although very interesting. That is interesting it's not cognitive for me anymore, yet more in my body awareness. Thanks for pointing that out! I make sure to observe and feel dullness as well as to not get seduced by it. I most likely will at one point. lol

Yo I have another question about online-dating currently I get a lot of matches and more likes it could also be the time of the year and corona, yet I somehow have issues closing and getting the number and dates. Basically my conversations structurally go like this. Me: intro opener We match She: Replies laughs, fun, explains, chats. Me: Reply to what she says ask curious question or fun question stuff out of her profile She: Stops replying I am unsure if the time frame is the issue I am matching with so many girls right now in my mind, some write such long text and I reply back basically I would ask for her number/meeting after she would reply to one of my questions. I mean I know one way how to shortcut this bullshit from my online-dating course. Yet, this is one thing that I am currently stuck with for a couple of weeks. I get a lot of matches, yet no numbers. I can show chat examples anonymously. This is where I am stuck currently or I have silent matches which are just not turning out to be converted to something positive. I made close to all of them laugh and somehow the silent match deletes me. Cocky and funny works the best for me somehow I write stuff like I bet you only get likes from old pervs or dirty old men currently. I am bored out of my mind and I sort of focus and force myself on the interesting thing. Any thoughts to this? I also like to be edgy and tease people. What do you do when mid-conversation stuff goes silent shortly before asking for a number or meet up? I do not like IM so I value my time and I basically can read every message via e-mail in advance. So, I am unsure what to do here. As currently this goes silent and a lot of women like to IM of some sort and my IM game is not all to good. As I do not have or want to invest that much time in any single women on the plattform through IM, I sometimes reply back via phone, yet I do this all very structurally infront of my computer as I currently programm with android phones and I want to not constantly think of work etc. What I want to do is is basically Exchange 3-4 messages in total ask for number What happens is it stops after the third message somehow Also note that the quality of the women has definitely increased so unsure it's sort of a new playing field.

Hey I am training with Shinzens system mostly and just wanted to write that my sleepiness tends to dampen after I am done with my meditation doing now for 6-8 months a positive feeling meditation I generally do feel more energy and more alertness also from Shinzen. Just after my meditation. Unsure cold showers in the past helped me the most to deal with sleepiness at a zen retreat I almost did now 4 years ago. I was also taking cold showers dunno this helped me the most. Turning towards helped me to metabolize the drowsyness turning away it felt more like building concentration not adressing the fundamental issue. I don't practice as consistent as you since I know your posts. Currenlty I have a 30 min practice with micro retreats. I definitely feel more energy during retreat, yet at the end of the second 8h day I feel very tired and almost can't participate anymore. Although when I breakthrough it I have often a renewal of energy. I also find using binaureal beats for me very effective, so I almost always use them besides when on retreats or it rains outside beautifully.

@Javfly33 From Leo's videos (IIRC) and my point of view yes and no ultimately I do not know as I have less experience approaching, yet writing now close to 700 women online. There is less incentive to be social to begin with so there could be many reason as why offline works better. Charm, better first impression, you being seen as social. From listening to females perspective and talking to friends fear can play a big role as so men can be real asses as well as social repudiation/shaming. I think fear plays less a role online, it's way more bias. Imagine I approached 3 girls and almost got laid with the third one on the same night. And I've texted 700+- women with a 10 to 10% ratio 70+- matches 7+- dates. Which to my online course, which is clearly not red pill, to emphasis this, says is good. There is also less incentive to stereotype a person as this is socially not appropriate anymore, depending on country, place of origin etc. SD stage. Yes, fear plays a big role a female/women friend of mine told me she is scared walking alone in the forest etc. when she is in her home "village" I asked why? She answered because of people and you don't know what they end up doing when you are alone and she is quiet badass in a sense. If you are a 6 foot guy you'd not give a shit and there is less threat to begin with so your whole being does not recognize it. Building trust is also a process that happens online through proper questions and building rapport for instance having social pics with friends makes you less threatening. So if you might fear that you scare away people because you are a "chad" and usually a genuiently good hearted spirit, then take a picture with friends at best. They even recommended to take a picture with your mother of course in a full profile just to show. One guy said family pictures are great also for building trust. Makes you look non-threatening. I imagine never having done game just going out with a wing makes you less threatening also as it displays you being social and you generally are safer in a group as a human. It's similar to being controlled at the airport when you travel alone, you just can be threatening as a male subject and cause a lot of assumptions.