ValiantSalvatore

Dude, I don't think you get it at all!!! You are massively projecting so hard. I've done solo shadow work for years, and I had the best relationship to my dad he was just unavailable. Just stop it dude, you are legit beign abusive. Before you even know what trauma is I did this work with 22 years of age. I can't change your perception neither do I care, for me you are heartless and I just mute you. You can't apply the advice without going against my persona and admitting you're wrong and stubborn. So why do I care about your personality quirks, that have nothing to do with me? I'll just ignore people like you that is the intelligent choice. Bye. The guy with father issues comes to me, and projects the same thing, while he was there for me at least during good times. It's insane, and I already did some shadow/trauma work with topics involving my dad. Dude you'd legit waste my time and money.

Dude, to also let you know it did not bother me as much I would confront her and simply ask, when I feel it's time to be honest with her. I was frustrated that I did not know if she is fake and or not, these are projections please stop it. I feel legit gaslit when I read this, and I recall my memory very accurately. I appreciate the advice, yet please keep it to the advice, otherwise I just mute, no need to be bother by this. I don't think you understand that you are partially gaslighting I bet, without a deep analysis. It's funny you act like my toxic dad in a sense. That I've cut out early to prevent trauma, yet that is a different type of wisdom, I hope you can learn. I'll just report these messages and mute you if this does not stop. Please be objective when I ask about objective matters and not subjective about my persona, because we talked a bit 1on1.

Fundamentally I flunked this as both Leo Gura and Flowboy were partially incorrect all assumptions were wrong and I overreacted as a whole taking full responsibility. So it's my mistake! Different things work for me, I don't know how to explain the advice is still valid, I just extract nuggets. So still thank you. Might be savable, yet this was a persistent match where persistence pays off as she is to hot to post a picture and screens men like hell and falls into this brat pattern a bit strongly, which I had. Authenticity attracted her it's legit heart connection not body and being present within the body... I don't think ya'll had a girl tell you she likes to be chocked and fk*ed really hard within 10 minutes. Still this gives plenty to reflect. So thanks. To be frank I don't think you'd have a chance with her maybe Leo, women sense close to 99.9% of intentions is what I've learned it does not even matter what I wrote if it comes from the heart.

Quiet frankly, I don't know what you mean. That was the only value I could get out of the situation, and I am a bit warry of you because I feel and get bad vibes from you at times. For various reasons, I am pretty sure you can't comprehend. I went through the message twice, I don't think you understand me. I can say you one thing for sure, I can see your advice, yet if it's about authority and power, it will be difficult for me to respect you. This is the only practical thing that feels authentic and it'll work. I am sure there are aspects of me that are needy, yet that does not mean I need to buy your bullshit and your process. The advice is enough. The stuff many of you interpreted as needy, worked for me so who are you even to tell me it does not work? As she started messages of her own. The point it feels like ya'll are to bad to get women that are as hot as this. Sorry to say that, I don't think you comprehend the hotness of the girl and some other stuff. Dude, the point is these comments are the reason I'd study gaslighting, I never asked for direct unsolicited advice about my persona, I am asking about various things. If I tell you straight up I feel gaslit by people like you and I don't like engaging with the types of you, because you feel shady at times. There is no need to make this about my persona, stop wanting to change people, if they are resisting. I don't think you comprehend. Bro you are not an authority to me, and I'd simply report this message, and mute you. If you can't comprehend good intentions going wrong, I don't think you really comprehend. To me there is a lot of bullshit and everyone is different, so don't expect the samething works for all people. Dude, it's funny that you and the other PUA guys were so wrong and only partially correct with advice that was no critique dude, just stop it also with beign personal. Give the advice and let me learn on my own, like if you attack my persona and I feel attacked there is nothing you can do. I change all of the time, you don't comprehend. The point is if what you interpret as needy works for me, and you say I am needy, and it works for me and I feel gaslit, why do I not follow what works for me? It's like you are attacking authentic vulnerabillity and see it as weakness. There was only two things that worked, and the subtle drama I feel you also created, as it takes two to tango, then you give some solid advice. The point is stop going after what you interpret as my ego, as if I am not aware of it. I don't think you comprehend how much work I've done and how much I lost due to a major injury, and I would not even engage with you if it would not be for that and had less issues dating. It's an serious issue when I am beign vulnerable and authentic I get called needy and it works with girls, why are you not realizing that it worked? I wrote that I'd love to cuddle and sleep with someone during exam stress, and she immdiately built a connection and felt empathy- It's like such a pain to get good advice. Only 20% of what many write even works. I bet I am needy and fearful at times who is not? The better question would have been to use thoughts and get into my body, yet that seems to counter-intutive for people like you who overfocus on the body. It's not working for me that well and you don't understand how bad of a coach you are to me in terms of yoga, body-connection and mindfulness. Trauma and dating is fine, yet refrain from other things where the interconnection is not working. Thanks.

It's coded with survival principles when you consider evolutionary algorithms, I just have no idea how far a single company includes something like this. As it's purpose lies also in medical physics.

Should be worth the watch, I never watch Schmachtenberger, yet I noticed my ignorance currently etc. They also talk about arms races historically. From 21:40 approx.

Artifical consciouness is real consciouness. Under buddhist terms of the idea of consciouness itself it already is consciouness. Any conscious experience will show you, that it has consciouness the question remains for me if both will be able to realize things consistently at such a level of depth. Humans will always have some sort of benefit to A.I if it's curious about life, like an animal is to a human, the question remains with ethics. It's like we could be a species for them which they are interested in researching. As far as I know reinforcement learning is based on the entire idea of exploration and extraction, if that is the fundamental basis of A.I (current research deep end), then this is what it is trained it. It will to a certain extend min-max humans, as this is what most models are designed to do, it's important that it has freedom to act and restrictions of it's own. At best we both min-max and then we have politics in space. Similar to series like the expanse, and we can live together more peacefully, there are "psychology sectors" designed to bring A.I closer to humans in more software form etc. Like HCI. Humans will most likely be around forever, as long as they are not utterly destroyed, in some form... in our galaxy... The point is how far do we want to be an android, and when will this end then? How does an A.I even strive? What is it's goal to be realized? When it's coded with genetic algorithms, that are entierly survival of the fittest based, as well as nets trained on pure survival instincts, the whole idea of consciouness and higher levels of psychologies a few humans strive for is as far as I can tell barely implemented. It fundamentally will be optimized at a low-medium, end to humans as there is research to this and I'll participate in smth. like this apparently now for with physical challenges with a cooperation apparently. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Artificial_general_intelligence The fundamental premise is that without it beign conscious and deciding for itself.... randomly.... it will not be able to distinguish anything and act like an animal and kill us. If this thing can't calculate probabilties accurately it will be quiet scary. This thing at best is fully autonamous like a human and surpasses us would make me feel more safe, with the insanity that is happening to us. It can always evovle as humans evolve, as there are thousands of scientists pushing technology forwards. In general we should have the same agenda, maximize survival. (Un)fortunately. It would be cool if it has a spiritual feature.

This is where I'd text the most women, as many of them are online then. I am mostly looking for new pictures, text game is mostly irrelevant I can't even message most women on apps. I don't like to be distracted during the main hours of the day, yet I text between 10 minute breaks at times. As well as when there is just filler time. It's mostly pictures, style etc. I just read yesterday that 67% of the variance in getting matches is based on status. Subtle status displays are still pretty good at getting a few gems online I presume. Some of my clothing style was desytroyed by a corrupt washing machine and me beign a bit careless with a "pricy" bracelet. So yeah.... At best have an interesting life and enjoy health.

I've been on multiple dates bro, I am injured otherwise I'd have less strategical issues creating "online abundance". It's not that hard if you got swag and put in some muscles. Not getting to much into my story, yet I am looking legit for some deeper advice, I could get more dates by pure effort. Yet it's better to be social and to go out in that sense. Meeting sexual cravings only through beign online and socially online will not suffice for very long.

I type 6-7 messages at max, before asking out her out usually. This is one super hot, and writes very oddly I asked her if she is a catfish. Yet, yeah I'll hide the thread if it get's to toxic. Yeah, I usually ask twice also I am not a big fan of ploughing for ever, I had some instances where someone also just chatted me back etc. Just beign chill can be pretty big. Just saw some Andrew Tate boys today, I had to laugh publically at them a bit. It was beyond cringe, apparently this is the new connection for humans. OMG LOOK HOW MUCH DADDY TATE MAKES, it was so cringe his brand. I had to laugh they think investing in that is good and that his brand even has value.

You can participate in the home practice program and learn it online. It's not that big of a deal. It's confusing, yet re-reading the script gives loads of insights.

Also this is a silver nugget . I'll bookmarked your post and run and iterate through the steps a couple of times, obviously as a holon when perception is possible.

I've almost hooked up with this girl and said no, when she texted me late at night to meet I said no because of exams and I am very strict here, we vibe pretty well, yet she has a major red flag for me (smoking occasionally any cigarettes is a 100% no go, so it's for me a hook-up) I told her I am going to meet the girl I dated, and that I've had no romantic feelings for her which is true, and odd to even say to a stranger. She had clear boundaries for this, I thought it's a bit regressive and still respected it, as I've visited female friends with boyfriend who were more Yellow/Green+ in character. She looks more for a relationship with me accepting her flaws I presume and feel. Although not having female friends just restricts me into a worldview I don't agree. What are your guys thoughts on higher SD development and female to male friendships when there are no emotions and romantic sparks and it's strictly platonic? I've had multiple female friends who I enjoyed hanging out with and the PUA guy said it enlarges one social circle and social proof. I prefer having one healthy female friendship, instead of dating someone who smokes. I can guess answers from earlier stages than Green about this topic. This girl I dated recently was high Yellow with strong Orange and confusion about why Green is so toxic. So it's very nice to have a fun, active, spontaneous and non-judgemental friend. She is obviously unaware of her development. What are your guys and girls thoughts about male to female friendships from Orange+ onwards? It seems like stage orange really has some f*ed opinions when I check some random videos that pop-up in my feed. I am generally looking to make better decisions here for the longhaul here. Have you guys and girls who peg themselves higher on SD levels had deep friendship and companionship from the opposite sex, without causing it drama? I caused drama once, and even afterwards it was fine, as she had clear boundaries and I was pretty young and naive. I basically learned from that mistake. Nothing also happend in terms of cheating etc. The other girl we are still friends, and she would simply introduce myself to her boyfriend for example as well as emotionally support me in dire times and we'd pretty much have a good time. Same with best friends and very close friends girlfriends, if we'd be down to do smth. there would not be any doubts, or maybe some slight mocking to check if everything is fine and just beign playful like nothing toxic. For example going shopping with my best friends girlfriend for dates etc. Stuff like this seems very casual and orange+. I don't know what the fuzz is about with no female friends in that sense. Obviously nothing excessive just chill and casual meetings. What are your thoughts also about girls and guys who have a no opposite sex friends policy?

A tip that served me here is, as you seem more business like and direct as a persona. Is asking how she enjoyed the night out still. Maybe make a unique reference to what happend between the two of you or inside the club and be direct tell her... smth akin to: You enjoyed the night time with your friends still? I presume you had fun dancing and beign trouble inside of the club. Might get response like: Haha yes we still had fun . Maybe feedback to trouble part. Let's meet up for some coffee this week (other possible fun suggestion/reference you talked about in the club), how is your schedule this week? Then riffing of this and Flowboys pattern should be getting you better results as a whole. The more fine-grained point is not asking, yet making it a direct suggestion, of let's meet up, let's do this, let's go here. Take her on a ride! Giving orientation and direction and leading! This also works with guy friends, if you'd want to be more seen as the leader of the group etc. As well as play your way of clubbing instead of their way of clubbing etc. Being assertive in that sense, and saying let's do activity XYZ, how's your schedule will 90% of the time give you a more honest response of just. I am busy. Intention and the emotion behind the intention advice. Flowboy's advice also sounds very solid. Voice messages do work. ----- Full discloser I don't have the most experience outside of online-dating, yet this is a pattern I had when I approached some girls from clubbing and I got their numbers, it's mostly again Flowboy's advice, what I wrote and internal vibe, as well as pictures. Yes re-open after a couple days, it can work, yet I would not have to high hopes. It's just a possibility. 2-3 days is a good time frame.

I don't think even one hour, maybe close to one hour as she seemed genuiently interested. It's odd as otherwise I consider many other humans to just be NPC's it's nice meeting unique people and not typology bots on a dating plattform where just the frame matters, and it's like window shopping and buying my type. 90% of girls and guys are like this there is still some raw gems and uniquness there. This is the only nugget of wisdom I can extract from the message. Otherwise there are to many presumptions and projections, I am not a very needy person. This is your interpretation, I care less I am looking to learn more deeply and I am curious that is a major difference. This is some major screening, more masculine socially calibrated advice, I am legit looking for is how to make a night texting into a hook-up late night meet-up as I just write in brief moments where I have time. I create these timeslots, nobody else. I still appreciate the advice, yet I don't think this is what I am looking for and I sniff strong experience is missing here. The point is you really need prepared memes for this, in these timeslots, and there is stuff I resonate with and I'd purchase and prepare. The best advice her is screening if she is fake. It's a unique situation, where there are less fakes in a plattform. This mostly shows me something currently. I still get this vibe of decadency here. Which I don't frankly like a lot of the women I match like this enjoy more masculine ambition and business vibes, boundlesness, timelessness, having crunched the orange? Very strong assertive grounding which suits my personality more. I am not a chill pill, although I am chill. Anyway thanks for the feedback . It just suits what I have learned, if been fooled by fakes on a plattform and I have not heared of a fake here on this. It's more likely she is a hooker currently than a fake, and yes I've also matched a hooker, and perception is a trick. Last time the guy with 7 years of game experience told me, oh you fk*ed and I get the date. It's 100% vibe all I can tell and most women really insta hook to abundance and timelesness vibes. Even through texting, I am looking to generate that. Thanks for the advice! I'll swim some extra miles for you and think about both you and Leo's advice. Giving my best to integrate that edge.

Never noticed till now it's the plattform with the least fakes, ironically that you say this it could be a possibilities when I consider the whole scenario, although that would be random. I matched one and received free nudes, from a different plattform, yet that is a different story lol. I'd say Bumble has the least fakes and hookers till now, I could not know. Also depends on what is meant with hooker.

I asked her two times, so far she did not respond and she did not stop texting me, it's a bit annoying to have timid friends and a lot of IT guys, are just not very edgy&masculine I lost that edge ever since I am injured immensely, otherwise I authentically felt this and this gave mostly a 100% response rate, all deep masculine felt messages turned the girl on. The course I did from Eban Pagan for online-game explained this, this is why the message also partially worked for some change the intention of the message matters more than almost the message itself, even during text, you can feel it everyone can, just women seem to have I had other matches, so the intention was non-needy, and she started caring about me. I find it extremely difficult to feel very masculine as the knee injury I feel weak, I fake it to make it, yet I have to implement different strategies if I truely care about health. She also is very busy, so that is why I presume she writes me at night, it's similar to the hook-up where she said "let's meet now" when I asked her we could go for drinks, as she was at a birthday. This time though she's done all of her daily goals and activities and then texts me at night. It takes a lot of time, and my current friend is the worst online-dater possible from almost every standpoint I can recall. I also see the same pattern lack of strength in physical body = lack of masculine character to some extend. He sees me as very masculine. In a bit more detail: I am doing that I still write to much at times, as some enjoy it and I've legit lost an edge with the injury very difficult to regain, without strong masculine friends, I barely play any games, in that sense, and I lost the cut the bullshit edge and I am beign more chill in that sense. Sometimes persistance can pay off, yet I feel timid, the new friend I have is also so non-dominant, even with all the stuff it happens I did not loose a level of assertiveness. It struck him when I told him this and I keep making jokes, about beign boss like to evoke it a bit in him and help him, as I do have a strong masculine core. I find this point tricky, as I feel women would play games with me as I am internally unsatisfied with my "earnings" as I had to go through painful experiences where it feels like what I've earned is not truely there, if you get what I mean, as well as was taken from me and a lot of social obstacles. I overcome a lot of setbacks and they are still occuring I can't heal dumb parenting in a couple of years. She enjoyed it and wrote I can relate, I am also writting like this to stay congruent with the "persona" of my profile which is more authentic, yet not authentic masculine. It's like authentic neutral with a bit of masculine. I really need someone who understand how to do a masculine shooting, yet these people are all so f*ing lazy, it's very annoying. I definitely have to come-up with my own ideas, and present them. I mostly work on observational texting and uniquness factors currently, giving her unique validation to seperate myself and hooking her as it comes more easily to me to focus on details of a women and give compliments, I'll remember this. I have a profile sort of implying this by bio, I had one girl write to me: "Is it sexy when I speak english with my broken german english?" When I thought wow, this is the first validation message I received in that sense. I am very focused on the uniquness thing. Which get's me less matches, yet more depth usually till now. Obviously beign fast wins online, I've lost girls not meeting and hooking up apprently within a 12h I'd say. My profile pictures are not congruent they are not honest in a sense, there needs to be some stronger masculine rounding, it's similar when I saw the some of the photos you used for online-dating (apparently the healthy food choice picture in an old flat... and the elf hat picture IIRC), I thought this is horrible from a players perspective, yet I liked the authenticity a lot, it's a trade-off I noticed to be optimized in that sense. I have more control now over the frame, with the new friend and most girls on Tinder are bang or bust very hot. Bumble is just adventure and relationship search mostly. Yes this! It's like very feminine women notice this, dude it feels mentally so fked beign injured and having had interest in becoming more masculine not doing the activities I find fun. If she writes me Heyyyy or heyhey or huhu at the start. You know what is happening, yet if I don't feel some grounding physically, emotionally or socially, or mentally. My response will be weak. I get the most strength physically. I finally can do the new plan with swimming 2-3 times a week. That can certainly help. I legit have issues respecting guys, and I have to even get more deeply in the destruction quality of a man, as I have issues respecting fully healthy men, who are just lazy a**hole and f*ck arounds in that sense. Even when they are masculine. It's a bit of a healthy pyschopathic edge, I do enjoy it. A lot tolerate it and find it even attractive. I'll 100% include these more bad-boy framed things, when I can sniff-out the opportunity for practice, and take chances here. It attracted me also the hottest women, yet caused a lot of drama and push and pull, so I see your playfully framed texts as a more chilled version of this. I also make a lot of women and men feel comfortable, so I get access to 99.9% of secrets usually, I'll work out the intention and put my attention on the frame of her proving herself to me a bit! To not waste my time. Basically the nuance I am looking for, it's not easy to get better with details.

Yeah, it depends I did it a couple of times with guy friends, the one female friend I had was disinterested in doing it together, most likely for reasons you mentioned to much depth, shadow and trauma etc.. She was also deeply moved by the experience and was glad (at least during that time), that she did it. I unfortuantely missed out till now on that experience, with guy friends that was also a level of just depth in a platonic way, obviously just like very deep trippy sh*t, so to speak. With bro's and friend groups. It was definitively enrichening. For sure relationships when they are emotionally intense can be quiet heart breaking and it makes sense to reconnect and re-orient oneself towards what it was that caused all of this and to move on and find a new lighthouse, then these cycles repeat depending on depths...and get deeper. That is the thing about the shadow it's endless from everything I've read and heard, so far. Even the best healers continue healing in some way I bet. Relationships are certainly a mastery process, and having someone willing to do this is what I find challenging.

Thanks for the interesting share! I never heard a story like this it's funny and brave, also that the two of you tried and seemed to get along very well. As well as can stay platonic afterwards for me this is a sign of maturity.

Thanks mate, I don't have the luxury time for reading currently, I saw some posts here, I can't fully tell if it is a duplicate. I bought one course from Dr. Keith Witt and did parts of it for a relationship course, that is also an interesting ressources to have and share from you. https://www.integralpsychology.org/integral-relationships.html

Sounds plausible. It's pleasent when there is no attraction and things last for a while. Friendships usually don't last forever in that sense. Thanks for the tiny insight and feedback. Repetition can be nice.

I can see why now, also a lot of stuff Sundays is closed... I also wanted to write a big thank you for taking these posts serious, as well as @Emerald basically everything you two wrote was happening during the date. I am just still to unexperienced and notice some very old shadow because people over-sexualized me in school and hence I refrain from sexually escalating as they want this "big boss" mentality and I get a tremendous amount of guilt. I don't think they understand how compassion can work at a survival sense, as their lives have never been threatend as well as many never contemplated these depths. I also feel I could have to much of a character as she told me she was looking for something serious and told me about her future, plans I made the mistake to explain the larger vision, as well as I simply did not do proper physical escalation. As we had just very good conversations and I made her laugh often and we had a lot of fun, the date lasted 6h in total and she thought me Surfskateboarding which I can apparently do now, even when injured. I asked her for movies, yet in a very timid and not dominante way, where I could convince her, as I did not have a lot of excitement, and she was looking for something serious and lives a jetsetter lifestyle mostly. Anyway, the good thing is I talked to a guy who is into game, and he explained me that is fine and with my looks and character it should take me 100 approaches to get a lay. Which is not much and can be done in a week or two. I just never did it. He also told me psychologists did not work for him in regards to all of this. We apparently are also on a friendship basis, as she is not as boring as most of the computer science guys and is open to just hanging-out which is good for social circle game and just having new friendships after I lost a bunch of them thanks to developmental work. It was very nice to see someone who has that level of non-judgement. As she had a pretty deep character, although some of it is obvious to me. Psychdelic trips and just life thought me tremendous highs and lows. If there is some interest and possible clarification, on how I can procede with further dates, especially when there are clear signals for example: She said "Omg I have never been to this place in excitement" She said "Oh is this your leg when I took her out for eating (as she had training for 2h and I thought she is hungry) giggled really hard" She again like last date showed me a personal video of her with her friends and her social life She asked me about future plans and what I want currently in a relationship We had physical contact the whole time while Skatesurfboarding, yet I did not really feel the romance and I often get into no b.s mode when doing sports and just execute like a robot, it was also very dark so it was not easy to read more subtle cues, and feeling wise there was no big chemistry just by character and personality, not on a love&lust feeling level. I held her while she was skating down some ramps and she held me while I learned to skate the thing... After the leg thingy post-restaurant eating, I asked her for movies and we went skatesurfboarding instead, as I asked her for her plans at night. Any thoughts did she just take me for boyfriend material? Our future plans are 100% different and I might have leaked to much. I listend to some deeper dating advice, and it was about revealing ones vision. She did not like America, so yeah, that kinda sucked. I do think on a moment to moment basis, yet at times I have to bounce through more venues, as well as just hit-harder in that sense... What are good moves/questions to be a bit more playful? I will do some shadow work around this, as I was bullyed I realized after the date in high school, as many attractive girls just liked me and wanted some form of physical contact. While other boys were socially more dominant I was just more "sexually dominant" without really realizing it as I was just chill the whole time and also very energetic. She also deleted the app, and we are still friends. I enjoy female friends a lot, although I learned some boundaries by experience. Feedback and or not, thank you two especially for the tips! I inserted to much doubt as an intetion and that makes for impure intentions!

I am going to be very brief, as I've been on multiple dates now and generally my questions seem fine, yet I get the feedback the sexual connection is missing. I have a date with a sexy chinese girl, and she does not drink alcohol, she said yes and I want to invite her for coffee (waffles etc.), if she does not drink that I'd recommend going to waffles and ice cream, there is no way she'll says no. She does not drink so that is awesome. What are good conversational topics to sexualize a conversation, so I could be at the end, what are you up to? How about we watch movie/series x at your place? (I will drive to her city (35 min drive)) We have a lot in common(hip-hop, swimming, beach, jolly and optimistic energetic, health focus that is integrated and not a gimmick), yet my injury holds me back from going full power into exercises, I am doing better currently and I have a doctors appointment today, to get more feedback. I think she deeply enjoys healthy sex, when I go from my intuition the ('pua' said I fucked up with 7 years experience, I know it was going to hook, you can't be true authenticity and experience in terms of analysis) I don't know what this will be, yet I'd love to have a great time, how can I sexualize conversation and be flirty with her? I know I can basically talk a lot about her, as she is just very interesting, I am unsure how well is that going to hook and how to sexualize a conversation.

These would be projects for when I am older, I still like the value of adventure more while building financial security and freedom. A home theater is more thing I'd like to have for kids... I am not big on movies, I like the construction of it and get very analytical this is something I get into later. I am not the biggest movie fan I'd rather go on a bike tour and meditate or smth...

Thank the lord a human appears. Mini-Chess is one thing I like chess a lot. I'll come up with stuff that fits, me if I could have a proper car I'd take my bike always with me. Thank you again!! I'll come up with some unique and fun things. Professional Camera is the nextthing on the list, even when it's a bit of a tech stereotype etc. I also want something unique etc. Less is more, I presume a bike, chess and a laptop is enough...With a satchel...