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Deep work and so good they can't ignore by cal newport you if you are looking for career books Are you looking for fiction books or non fiction or no specific category?

@Torkys i already have thats why i am asking

Hi does anybody have any tips on how to convince yourself to do something that is emotional difficult? Would help a lot kind regards

I try to find a time where am free and a place in isolation free from any distractions and then try to take deep slow breaths while I focus my thoughts only on my breaths and on something peaceful and nothing else

maybe these video could help http://mindfulbydesign.com/not-all-effort-is-created-equal/ https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HZm4B4foybM https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=l96TZeZGlDg https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5rey8B-yu5Y https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UTjcsXnxPBQ https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_H0OZRT_Q0A https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FFrR0cGWnac https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GfF7EpHXyDY https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=h_cuVMC7NcI https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JGw8IoqBt-c&t=328s btw I have also been diagnosed with autism but I am personally more convinced that its something more similar to what Leo explained in how to permanently solve problems(and that its something you can solve but it take the right effort and hard work) than its something you are born with and just have to live with (which seems like how some people see it as) good luck

maybe this video could help

I don't think there is such thing as a genetic talent as there usually always seem to be an explanation for what really happened I personally think that it's likely that they have gotten the right kind of practice(as I don't think all practice leads to the same results) or experience at an early age and continued to do it over a period of time that could help shape their self-image so they became more confident and that's why they seem so good at it now similar to prodigies that I assume they got good an early age because they did the right kind of practice(probably deliberate and maybe deep work which the research on these topics shows that they are some of the best ways to become good at what you do in terms of skills and knowlegde) really early (maybe starting between age 3-6 and because they pratice over a longer period of time they seem really good at it while others at the same age who haven't done the same pratice isn't as good as they are but I am not an expert so I might be wrong

sorry but feel free to do what you want but I highly recommend reading so good they can't ignore you by Cal Newport http://calnewport.com/books/so-good/

it probably depends on if its a distraction or an addiction if its something you are interested in it might be best to stick with it an alternative could be to minimize the time you spend listening to music

maybe check out deep work, deliberate practice, ultra learning(by scott h young) the 4 disciplines of execution and if you want to make a huge amount of progress(related to learning) if you can go all in but don't divide your attention into other things just go all in(minimize distractions as much as possible) agree it would be really awesome if he would do a video on this topic

I am not 100% sure on this but i still think it's interesting that sometimes when i have gotten an aha moment it has also been when my own belief wasn't involved rather i was only focusing on understanding the idea it might sound odd but some times it can be to easy to only belive(or understand) in the ideas that match your own belief system/world view

Haven't heard the term bliss used related to life purpose before but i haven't been fearful to do what i wanted to do related to "life purpose" but i also think it might be because i might see passion as something else i see it as you need to get really good at something before you become passionate about it(craftman mindset vs the passion mindset by cal newport) and pratice to become better at what you do have never been something i have experienced as something to fear but it is something that is difficult to do(maybe only if i had to perform for other people as what i want to do is related to composing music)

Isn't science trying to explain this? The cat part kinda reminded me about schrödingers cat https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Schrödinger's_cat

@Ilya awesome it also explains some other things one of the main things it's about is how you become passionate about what you do i am actually not 100% sure he said that in the book (if not it might be on hes blog or an interview) but the book should be about this kind of stuff

Maybe read so good they can't ignore you by cal newport it might explain some part of it cal newport also says that one reason they keep the motivation in the long run was because they keep getting better and better because they where good at one thing they got the motivation to get good at the next thing (in the same field)and it might also help with the inspiration i am paraphrasing but it should be similar

@Leo Gura do you have any tips on how to convince yourself before that happens?

I personally use a paper notebook but not for any particular reason when I write stuff down I try to do it in a quiz form the reason why is that it support recall(and it helps to avoid the fluency illusion, fluency illusion is basically the illusion of thinking you know it but really don't it's actually recognizing) which is useful to improve memory and is also useful with spaced repetition (which is memorize over a longer period of time and a really use full technique for long term memory which is I think a commonplace book really can make a lot of use of because its likely you have it for a long period of time) I usually just write in it after I have found something I thought was important to know or something i really want to know for a long period of time

To aviod pain is my guess the solution is probably to learn a lot of personal development martial but don't stick with one perspective see it from different perspectives i think it helps to get a more accurate answer as the first one is usually low understanding and possibly inaccurate

Would be awesome if he could do a video on this the title basically describes the idea kind regards

The best thing I recommend is to chose the thing that intereste you the most and that you are most skilled in and then try to become really good at it some research shows it's only after you have become extremely good at it that's is when you will have passion for it(and a lot of other advantages including a financial advantage) if you want more information on this I recommend reading so good they can't ignore you by cal newport and if you are interested in how you become so good they can't ignore you i recommend reading deep work by the same author

@Rujan Mehar Bajracha but science is about understanding and observing reality that's basically the scientific method so if it's actually is real it is science I am sorry but what is the motivation for this?

@Shiva I thought you meant distraction in a different way, for example, using his work as a distraction to not do conscious work(or to escape it in a way) similar to when if one try to use distractions to not fully feel an emotion

why would it be a distraction? if he is doing it intentionally then it isn't really a distraction, right? if he actually is completely unaware of doing extreme conscious work(i assume that's what you mean) then I don't really think its fair to call it a distraction or saying he is sensitive to this type of work as he wouldn't even know it existed, to begin with to me, he still seems like he has made further progress than most people has especially in the direction of ones *life purpose/passion* (in the way cal Newport seem to describe it which is different than what most people think what passion is)