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That seems funny as hell if you didn't plan it that way rofl.

Seems like you're discovering in this case that to love is a balancing of sharing/transmitting and letting someone be/accepting them as they are. You can do both .

@Bird Larry If it's something really important to you you can just make it super clear upfront too that you prefer less texting.. Maybe it's a good screening tool for you to see if she will be respectful of that or not/be on similar page on that. Sometimes a girl wants to text because maybe you're in the early stage and there's that desire to bond so to speak (and maybe she's really into you!). I guess it can come off as being unavailable without meaning to. So sometimes just going with the flow works good (if it's mutual I guess).

@BipolarGrowth LOL thanks for sharing that. I've heard of stories like that here too, someone starting with not much and leapfrogging with refinancing as they go lawl. Yeah the market you're in dictates alot of this (not being already overinflated and low-ish vacancy rate).

@The0Self If that were all true yeah I'd agree with him. I don't get why someone like her would even want/need an "inner circle" (in a public setting), she does not need one at this point to deliver her message. Can easily just do what someone like Rupert Spira does if she still wants to host live events. Boundaries and such is pretty key to master for those environments. 2-3 people in a group can have challenging dynamics already and more than 3-4 is bound to run kinda wild/unpredictably. Seems like a recipe for drama/disaster even if she didn't intend on it at first. And if she's not super aware of those dynamics and pitfalls of running such "inner circle" that's a blind spot. I'd venture to say she still has some unresolved stuff of her own to work through, or hasn't considered other ways of doing things that might create less problems for herself and others.. She seems a bit trapped in it too.

If it's not "difficult" we would have way more peeps at a similar level as someone like Matt Kahn is at for one, but we don't .

Yes, though Airbnb is way more work if you do the short-term stuff and you need someone to be available at all times, unless you got a solid partner who can help you with logistical things when you want to take some time away. For travelling lifestyle long and medium term periodic tenants are way better you just need more properties to make any good income from it, and possibly involving a management company or a trusted partner.

Intention matters a lot in determining how "hard" it will be. If one has a strong intent on transcending trauma and ego one can do it in a relatively short period. And for that one has to value what lies on the other side, like having a "vision". Being exposed to role models can help reinforce the vision. It can still be hard if the trauma is deep and not able to find support in the healing, thankfully with the internet nowadays it has become easier to find such support and resources if one seeks to heal.

Consciously pursue your needs and desires until you are no longer very attached to outcomes. Doesn't mean you don't care when you reach that point, but internally you can reach a point of letting everything go for "yourself".

In that case it's better to just have a conversation right there to get a sense of someone. Live screening?

I used to not care as much, but then it led to lots of problems (like total mismatch, potentially dangerous situations, very narcissistic guys, etc), so I cared about "screening" much more after that. It's not so much that I "like it", texting is not my thing I'd rather not text much, just a basic screening if necessary like meeting someone from an online place.

Seems pretty tough to put yourself out there like that (being in public on top of making content). I don't know how she does it sometimes. It makes sense egos likes to make controversies. Nothing new there.

Sure but OP asked for feedback so I gave it. No need to take anything I say of course. You should always make your own decisions.

There's more, I'd say the intuitive approach is superior most of the times.

What do you want to do with it? What do you want to create? What is meaningful to you? What would you have wanted to do with 100k when you didn't have 100k?

@Philipp Also coz you've been conditioned a bunch to put a great value on "not being alone" so you keep seeing it as undesirable (well I know we're also social creatures yadayada so I'm not saying you shouldn't desire being seen/to connect, but I think it is compounded by our "collective training"). It is the nature of it though, the more growth you desire/go through the more you're gonna stray from the pack, duh. Just accept the cost if that's what you want. Or do you regret what you've discovered?? I mean heck at least there's this place (thanks to the internet and stuff), don't take all that for granted!

@LSD-Rumi update: it feels like a continuous microdosing... I guess they might function in similar ways.

I think all that this shows is a reflecting back of the developmental potential (in intelligence/consciousness) in all of us (well except for the limitations we have when compared with "computing power"). Whatever AI is created is a result of what has developed with ourselves individually and collectively at its peaks. Yes there may be a point where AI will start to develop themselves and grow at a faster pace. But couldn't we do the same? I mean I can't think of what would be holding us back except our own desire to grow (and besides computing power)?

Spooky, I can see a lonely person falling for that easily like some anime portrays.

Many such people are not totally honest with themselves and with others for one; and they might be too afraid to even think the possibility of an "open relationship". Like I keep saying before there should be allowance for polyamory and monogamy both. It is partially because how intolerant our culture is towards polyamory/open relationships that cheating is more common.

@LSD-Rumi Energy yes, which should help with motivation. Yeah you might have to try a few before finding one that helps with minimal side effects.. but yeah sounds like access is your main problem.

@LSD-Rumi Yeah there are others specifically for fibromyalgia but I just had some leftover bupropion on hand before seeing the doctor again . Bupropion seems to be somewhat gentler compared to others I've tried. And it's mostly for the stupid exhaustion more than anything (but pain too yes).

@LSD-Rumi Oh I see.. That's unfortunate... might have to really dig I wish I knew a source. My preference is not to take any anti-depressants. But I recently got diagnosed with fibromyalgia which was affecting me a lot day-to-day. Apparently, I was told anti-depressants might help. So I'm trying it again on a lower dosage. So far it seems to help with the exhaustion and does seem to stablize my mood as well, it's only been a few days so I have yet to see how it plays out. Maybe I was struggling with some lingering depression too that I thought was gone.

I seem to experience the opposite frequently . There's the being emotional in the right times/being vulnerable for connection, which is strength in its own way when not overly indulged upon..(it's like psychedelics.. you build tolerance if taking it too often); then there's the always needing to be soothed and validated (which I see alot of guys around me do more than they are willing to admit..). I guess how I experience the two genders is that there are just a lot of emotionally needy people in general who need more healing before they can offer a lot of value to a partner, friend, etc. But it is also counterintuitively through those kinds of connections that one finds healing.