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Bro exactly this ? For me it's so much nicer to function solo and not have a regular social circle. That way my interactions, even casual ones, stay very interesting and meaningful. Like every new social interaction is something to learn from, like I'm studying humans or something. Maybe I'm the alien Leo keeps talking about ?

Am I the only one who socializes and then reflects on the social situations for hours or days and call it philosophy? ? I'm obsessed with that shit.

I think girls see me as this extreme bad boy type at first because I'm super stoic, confident fighter type looking dude (started kickboxing last year and I love it). I also function very well on my own and all the shit I've been through just made me this way. I think this just gives me a strong energy. When I do approaches women are usually very happy to talk to me. But I think they expect me to escalate really quickly and I'm always afraid to. I know intuitively the moment I should touch her but I never do out of some fear of having misread her. I know this is stupid. Afterwards I usually feel bad or less of a man. I'm also tired of young girls because they expect me to carry the whole thing and I don't like the responsibility if I don't fully know what I'm doing. Maybe i should only date women my age? I'm 34. I go both to raves where I only meet young girls but also to yoga class where I meet more women my age who I kinda like better. Met a girl at yoga the other day and we really vibed well. But after half an hour this idiot started talking to me like I was gay or something so I had to stop seeing her. This is what I mean women want me to escalate within minutes or they lose attraction I think. It's kinda like I want women to approach me, which happens sometimes but these are not at all the women I'm interested in (either bat shit crazy or wildly inexperienced / unattractive). I bet I would do well at social game because I have such a wide range of Charisma and depth in my personality but I don't show it to strangers. I'm quite socially isolated but I like it. I get plenty of social validation just in public, that's not the problem. I've overcome social anxiety, I love public speaking. I'm just a little autistic or neurotic with girls I guess. I also reject a lot of girls and women, usually because I don't like them or they are in a relationship and want to cheat. Tldr; women want to sleep with me instantly and I have trust issues or something and I want to feel comfortable with them first, actually get to know them, which makes me gay.

I think I've found the solution; I'm going to cold approach women my age who I'm attracted to and clearly communicate sexual intent.

One more question: I'd love to have one or more girls / women on the regular who I can also hang out with once in a while and vibe with. Is this the wrong attitude that's not gonna get me laid? Should I just go for the physical? I'm picky, like I only wanna sleep with women who I respect / have some maturity / can trust. Might just be trauma or comfort zone.

Thank you. So I can escalate almost entirely with words and eye contact? I know how to flirt, I just shut down when it becomes obvious she's getting turned on. Maybe because PUAs say you need to get physical and I'm not comfortable with or something. Oh one more question: what's the final pull move after escalation? Is it just a "wanna go back to my place" or should you come up with some excuse, because I don't like that and that's why I get stuck here. Or do you just keep escalating until the sexual energy is so high that this just goes automatic?

I think like the dicipline and staying on track is the hard part, and quickly adapting to changing circumstances.

It's just young guy stuff. In my early 20s when I had just learned about pickup I really needed those techniques and theory. After sometime you move past it and just do what you do. The whole game is sex, and what ruins sex more than over thinking? Pickup is just foreplay to sex

You're making assumptions here. Ask yourself: Is it true? (Yes or no. If no, move to question 3.) Can you absolutely know that it's true? (Yes or no.) How do you react, what happens, when you believe that thought? Who would you be without the thought? Do that with all your limiting beliefs. From Byron Katie "the work".

Valid observation, but the opposite can also be said: young people are much more socially consious nowadays. Compared to boomers? They were the most selfish. These are of course generalizations.

Are you talking about PBD? Try Udemy courses maybe, depending on what you wanna learn.

Yeah but realistically how many dudes are gonna get there? Most just become horny celebrates. Even Leo is fucking hoes and looking at nude pics on his laptop, and he's like super conscious.

Nope, not at all. The older I get as a single man, the more I enjoy myself. Sometimes I think about settling but it always makes me less authentic / more of a bitch and I end up accepting myself again and being happy on my own.

For going out? I do like 2cb for that and it has no comedown (huge plus)

Some experts say alcohol is far worse in terms of harm and addictiveness than MDMA. So it's better for me to take a pill once a month let's say than drink once a week? What about the dopamine depletion how long does it affect my focus and brain? Because the drug people say only use molly once every 3 months max but then how it is better than alcohol?

My review: Been listening to this pretty much every day for a week. The focus music is somewhere between chill instrumentals and binaural beats. It works well for working. There's "creative flow" and "deep work". They also offer meditation and reading music which sounds a lot more like binaural beats as they're stronger. The beats do get me into the right states, quite happy with the app think I'll continue using it.

They are? The most "lost" people I found are doing hard drugs regularly, not mdma only.

For your type of work I'm sure but for most people nootropics I think are more useful when it comes to focus and work.

I know Leo said quality over price but being on a budget i always go for the lower priced nootropics from Amazon, as long as it has good reviews. Now I noticed you can get seriously cheap powder from Alibaba. Almost anything from alpha gpc to sulbutiamine. Good idea to save some money or no? And if so, which of them are safe to buy in bulk from China?

That's a pretty cool tip, I'll give it a try

How do you do pickup without becoming a dick at some point? Like the attention from girls gets into my head and i get arrogant just in public and it's embarrassing when I think about it. I think it only happens when I'm tired and a little overstimulated from all the socializing though.

You wanna give responsibility away to this coach, while all the information is available for free like you said. You can start yourself selling on etsy, Amazon etc. You'll learn along the way. There's no free lunch.

I feel for you with all the gaslighting you're describing. It sounds like these people are extreme narcicists. I grew up with a covert narcicist for a dad so I kinda understand the pain. I've also been around criminal narcicists in my life and this can get you real paranoid about everything in your world, and to some extent that paranoia is grounded. The only solution is to completely remove yourself from these people as mentioned here before.

Aren't there yogis who don't change at all when taking extreme doses of acid?