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Try it and let us know. Worst case scenario you didn't laugh.

I keep sharing these because they just get better and better. This one is absolutely fantastic!

I swear guys I'm starting an ASMR channel within the next 2 years after the business I'm working on rn. I think the videos are so fun to make and you can REALLY go big. Big ASMR Youtubers always make cool looking videos with nice aesthetics and they even do sponsored reads whispering.

Do you watch ASMR? If so, what benefits have you found? I tried some videos for sleep and it calms me down but doesn't make me fall asleep.

You beat me to it 😭

I posted this thread in the off-topic section and haven't made any serious comments on here because it was never supposed to be a serious thread. But out of some feeling of virtual responsibility let me clarify. Nobody suggested that fastfood is healthy or should be promoted, but I am a proponent of free choice and people have their vices. In fact, most of your favorite spiritual gurus and philosophers have their vices, this is well documented. And those are like superhumans, so normal humans have even more vices and there's nothing wrong with that, it's part of being alive in a free society. I don't think Actualized forums should be a place where we dogmatically push what we believe to be good for us, but instead it should have a wide variety of tastes and different aspects of the human condition. Therefor I believe we should be able to simultaneously discuss healthy lifestyles and our favorite burgers, or sex and abstinence, using or not using psychedelics etc. In a way these are paradoxes or contradictions, and they exist alongside each other, one no better than the other. That doesn't mean fastfood is good for you, we all know it's not, but there is no theoretical robot-person who lives the perfect actualized life with no vices, so these threads exist too. This to me is obvious and speaking it out is like discussing a piece of art, just doesn't work. But I did anyway lol.

I just had a whopper for the first time in years and damn that's a tasty burger. McDonald's tastes so much worse, why would you even go there?

I see people dating now that the weather is nice and I feel left out sometimes or lonely. But then at the same time life is so beautiful. Is solipsism OR aspergers a good excuse not to talk to girls? Because you can really observe people like trees or part of nature. And what if there is beauty in loneliness? Why does loneliness always have to be demonized? Also if solipsism then there is no cure for loneliness so might as well learn to live with it. Or is that just cope?

Thank you so much! Day 24: Was on short sleep yesterday then had another show last night. Got anxiety on the train so I bought a can of beer and some sweets to calm myself down. Unfortunately this one can turned into many and since alcohol is a depressant this just made my night heavy. Also got back to smoking cigarettes from there. Really struggling with addiction and I should focus more on mindfulness: Funny how addiction works, I would say it is part of "externalization". I do that in life, and the more I do it the worse my life gets. Blaming my problems on others, but also thinking that the reason I quit was because of nicotine patches. These are all externalizations which don't fix the underlying problem. More examples of externalization: calming anxiety with alcohol or candy or a mobile game, watching Youtube, putting success in the future, thinking money would solve all my problems. I'm not going to make a whole list now but you get the point. Externalization also leads to procrastination. If I go "if only I finished my website THEN I will get clients and money", that's a recipe for procrastination. Passive income: Watched this video this morning and it made me realize once more that wealth is not a higher income but having assets that cover your basic expenses. Charlie talks about having lots of cash in low risk investments such as bonds. In a practical sense it's way better to earn €3k pm passively than €30k active and spend it. Also having basic expenses covered would allow for more consciousness work than living a life where you spend lots of cash on lifestyle. Really interesting video that relates to wealth traps: Actions taken: Did another gig last night, met some new comedians there Filed an objection to my tax authority cause I got fined, sending letter today Registered domain name and started building simple website in Wordpress Next steps: Be mindful Finish the website asap so I have a funnel for people to actually hire me Start new Etsy PoD store

@undeather but don't you think that if you took it for 2 months or more your mind and body would get into the habit of eating less automatically? So then instead of a last resort it's more like a kickstart.

Day 23: If you're wondering why this journal is mostly about personal issues, it's because that's exactly what you'll run into. Businesses don't fail, people do (in business). A small online business like what I'm doing here is really quite simple, it's the human-ness that gets in the way. Had a FANTASTIC weekend where I did stand-up on Saturday and finally got to doing some work from Friday on. Last week I was so filled with rage and frustration, but I've identified why. Eating the Frog: This was the absolute MAIN reason for last week's frustrations. I did not eat the frog. Eating the frog means you do a hard thing first thing in the morning every day. In my case my finances. I did not do this so it built up in the back of my head. I cannot stress enough the importance of eating the frog. I denied my financial problems for years and look where it brought me. The only solution is to start eating the frog every day from now on. So new rule: eat frog for 1 hour, and work only 4 hours a day. So let's say I start my workday at 8AM, then I do my finances first, and only have to work until 12. Worst case scenario I work 6 x 4 = 24 hours that week, which is infinitely better than not doing anything and feeling horrible because of frog pile. In reality I end up working way past that 12 pm mark, but the point is I actually started. Flow: It's interesting to see how flow work. You start by eating the frog, and one thing leads to the next. Business is not about philosophizing or abstract thinking, it's about taking one action after the next. All I know is my end goal and my next step, and the next step after that becomes clear once I take action. Actions taken: Shot and edited 7 shorts in total and uploaded most to IG, YT and TikTok, getting more views than I expected. Filed tax return Next actions: Create a website for clients to book me Start a new Etsy store Record my journey of starting new Etsy store, upload series to YT

Oh shush you, how do we know YOU'RE not the computer, huh?

Lol, I just watched that episode 😁 But seriously my stomach is hard because I train but there's fat over it. I'm sure if I got on it I'd have a Sixpack.

Somebody in another thread said I have an orange shadow, what does this mean? Whats a spiral stage shadow?

I hated on his last video but this is absolutely fantastic! Main thing I got from this was to flow with life and make sure you get paid for living. Very inspiring, highly recommend you watch this. Owen is becoming a legendary speaker.

Meaning; you make the conscious decision to not jerk off and instead focus that sexual energy on other things like a creative project, reading etc. Some opinions I found interesting from Reddit: https://www.reddit.com/r/yoga/comments/5di3ks/how_can_i_transmute_my_sexual_energy_to_better/ https://www.reddit.com/r/books/comments/ap8aj8/what_does_napoleon_hill_mean_by_the_mystery_of/ To be clear, I am NOT talking about creaming over Insta / Snap whatever, I don't do that, I'm sure that's bad for you. I'm talking about just jerking off, I don't even watch porn often. I'm also not talking about the bad alternative of self-shaming for falling back. So perhaps the question then: In your opinion, with NO self-shame attached and no dogma attached to it whatsoever, is it better to abstain from masturbation altogether? Assuming you're actively working on your LP. Maybe I should start a 30-day challenge again for myself and keep you guys posted, it definitely depends per each person. Edit: I say this now because I jerked off last night, but sometimes you have to tame the beast. I get so much boiled up passion / anger whatever it's called if I don't do it. So I'm unsure.

Day 18: Just read back what I posted here about the Tony Robbins seminar and it becomes clear to me why I'm dealing with this rage. I told myself I'd go out on the weekends to flirt and have sex but then I didn't go this past weekend because I didn't have any money. And that is true, I couldn't even have paid for a single drink, but I could have still gone. I also should visit comedy shows more often even when I don't have a spot because I simply cannot go this long without social contacts. Trap #41: Coffee I think caffeine definitely adds to the rage. God I'm just so fucking rageful lately, how would I even know which of the above is the actual reason? I doubt that coaching call I had on Friday did me any good. I was doing fine and this stirred up all sorts of old emotions and thoughts I thought I was over with no support to fall back on. So this coaching call really just made the world an uglier, more hostile place than it was before.

Lol this got me

Sacré bleu!

Not sure why but this video just triggers me. Actually a lot of his content does.

Lol. But seriously if a thread says it's got 2000 views and only 100 actual people read it, big difference.

Are crawlers counted under views for a topic on here? What percentage of the shown views are actual people? Just curious.

Yeah exactly, it's a question for Leo. I just want to know if a thread says 100 views how many people have seen it.

Day 17: I've identified another major issue here. I wake up in the morning, do my morning routines (yoga, reading etc) and after that it's time for work. But work doesn't happen. My thoughts are going in the right direction, I am well equipped for this battle, yet I'm still procrastinating. What happens? Master Mind: That's where the idea for the master mind is born. At a core lizard-brain level I am motivated to be around other people and receive all the social inputs that I am programmed to enjoy. But waking up and sitting behind a computer screen for 8 hours all by myself does not tap into that need whatsoever, and when the task at hand is not part of my routine yet (like editing my shorts) it becomes frustrating and I quit. Then I might try to find a coworking space, or go for a little walk, because those activities do seem to stimulate the primitive need for socialization. But this socialization is flawed because it takes away from my work instead of adding to it. So what if I could tap into my primitive need to be social in a way that actually contributes to my success? This is why Napoleon Hill stressed the Master Mind idea. Now that I'm thinking about it, I actually have 2 ideas. One for a Master Mind group of myself and other people who are starting an online coaching business, and the other a master mind for people who are selling on Etsy or Shopify that is 100% online and I charge money for. Procrastination: As a result of procrastinating, I found this video on procrastination, very interesting: I still think the Master Mind is a wonderful idea but watching this video also gave me some perspective on what's going on right now; I am procrastinating. He says "[long-term procrastination] can be a huge source of unhappiness and regrets". Wow, definitely played a role in my business so far and why it didn't work out. Rage: God I'm so annoyed right now. I am physically unable to do a full work from home day because of all the fucking noise. This could go on for months to come because the entire neighborhood is under construction in every way possible. I need to completely rethink my whole strategy: what is work in the first place and why does it require me to sit at home at my desk? Work is whatever gets me money. I think I can have a huge advantage over my competitors by simply focusing on creating as much content possible. I'm a natural entertainer and nobody else in this industry is, they're all super precise work from home people, literally the opposite of me. So focus on content, I need to rethink how and where I work. If it's all about creating content then why carry a bulky laptop around? Just do it on my phone.