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Thought this was going to be serious, did not expect a Joel Haver and Trent Lenkarski cameo lol

Why are you singling out Russians? Russia rates 17th in the world for alcohol consumption per capita: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/List_of_countries_by_alcohol_consumption_per_capita Germany, Ireland, France all drink more. I don't think anyone would look to trauma or some Mongol connection to explain why they drink so much. I don't know the answer. Also just looking at amount drank doesn't tell the whole story. I bet Germany is so high because it's more common to have a beer with every meal, same for wine in France. Ireland I would guess is probably more whisky, so their reasons or culture might be more analogous to Russia. Having 1 beer a day culture is different than slamming back 7 shots in 1 night on the weekend culture.

If it's about emotional connection, just go make friends. If it's about physical touch, get a dog or a cat to pet and snuggle. Or go all the way and just get a prostitute. If it's about having someone to listen to you, a therapist is properly trained and probably costs the same or cheaper.

Under the panentheism model, God encompasses the entire universe, but is also something larger than the universe. I think it'd be more accurate to say that time is something that only exists within the universe. God is outside of time and space entirely. Or rather... space and time is contained entirely within God, but within a larger wrapper that's free of space and time? It's possible (and I think probably likely given the Big Bang pointing at some kind of starting point) that the universe is finite, within an infinite God.

If you think the numbers are Inaccurate, why not give numbers that you think are more accurate? Preferably with stats from Glassdoor or similar to back it up. Instead of just an unproductive eye-rolling emoji... Seems accurate to me. When I left my accounting job 5 years ago, kids in AP/AR straight out of university were making $40 - 45k. Team leads 70k. Finance analysts were making $70k+, I know one retired 90k+. Head of finance and a handful of senior finance analysts, head of audit, head of payroll, etc were making $100k+ easily. This is in a company known for underpaying in terms of salary because we also got $10k+ a year in profit sharing. Don't be bitter that you're being underpaid. Go ask for a raise or find a better job lol.

It's a constant risk. By being aware of the risk, you already have a big opportunity though, compared to someone who goes in blindly. I've been brainwashed and brainwashed myself several times on the journey. Sometimes it takes years to snap out of it. I'm currently still brainwashed about several things. Plus undoubtedly even more things I don't even realize I'm dogmatic about or blindly following. Be aware of it, try to break free, and don't give anything 100% of your trust. Always keep questioning.

You can't really get cancelled unless you apologize or give in to the mob's demands. Unless you get yourself deplatformed from social media, which takes a special kind of going against the grain, not just doing something unpopular. Nickleback didn't give in and listen to the haters. They could've been cowards and make a big apology video. "We're sorry guys, we've heard your feedback that Nickleback sucks and we are really committed to changing. Please let us know how we can be better." But 99% of the time that only makes your situation worse instead of better. People sense weakness and they just attack even more, until they destroy you completely. The correct path is to be self-assured and unapologetic. If something is your life purpose, just keep doing it for yourself. The truth is most people don't actually know what they want anyway. I've seen so many times, a marketer or some influencer or company polls their customers/clients and ask what they want to see. Customer provides feedback. They do exactly what the customer asks for, and it flops. You can't trust people to accurately tell you what they want. You just have to do what you want, and hope it aligns with enough people. Remember, you only need 1,000 true fans to give you $100 per year to make $100,000. Despite all the haters, Nickleback had (and still has) a hell of a lot more than 1,000 hardcore fans. If they announced a tour today, I bet it'd sell out in hours. People would drive across the country to see them. Also keep in mind that the haters are always the loudest vocal minority by far.

If soulmates exist and they're distributed globally at random, what's the odd you'll actually find yours out of 8 billion people? Statistically, your soulmate would probably live in China or India. Or maybe your soulmate doesn't even live on this planet. Of course you can get around this with spiritual beliefs, and assume that soulmates reincarnate in a way that their paths are guaranteed to cross at some point during their lives. Personally, I would look at it less spiritually, as a compatibility spectrum instead. Every person on Earth has their own compatibility spectrum, and every other person on Earth falls somewhere on that spectrum for them. There's no need to find someone at the 100% end of your spectrum, and it's probably a futile exercise. If you can find someone that's a 90% match for you, that's more than good enough, and more than what most people get.

As long as you feel happy and fulfilled on your deathbed, I don't think you can consider your life a waste. For one person, devoting their life to finding a cure for cancer might be their life purpose. For somebody else it'd seem like a waste. Depends on your perspective. Not everybody wants or needs to live a sattvic, or even disciplined life. As a condition of its infiniteness, God has to live through every life that could ever possibly exist. Even the heroin addict. Even the dude who just eats Doritos and drinks Mountain Dew while playing World of Warcraft and collecting welfare for his entire life. Your life is what it is. It's fate. It couldn't be any other way. You literally can't waste your life, you have no other choice than to do what you're going to end up doing. Why would God punish you, or you punish yourself, for experiencing a necessary aspect of reality? God loves the experience of being a murderer, a rapist, an internet troll, a dictator, a con man. Just as much as being a driven and disciplined ethical person who drinks kale smoothies and helps orphans. If you aren't going to be what you're destined to be, then who will? You'll live the grand life of vision and sacrifice next time around.

I'm 100% sure it ends the suffering for this particular body / mind / ego. Couldn't tell you if it impacts future/past lives, your overall karma, or versions of yourself in alternate universes, if any of those things exist. You should probably Pascal's Wager it and assume that suicide will have bad intended effects on an afterlife or future lives though. Quantum immortality is probably one of the biggest dissuading factors for me. If the many-worlds interpretation of quantum theory is correct, then there will always be at least one timeline where you fail every suicide attempt you make, probably causing yourself even more pain and hardship in the process with each failed attempt.

Of course there are. Humans aren't irrational. Why would anyone commit suicide if there was literally no upside? If they're willing to do something so extreme, obviously there must be some advantage for some people. Can you think of any other activity that humans participate in, with zero pros? No. Nobody's going to put their hand on a hot stove when they have nothing to gain. Even when people self-harm, harming themselves is providing some pro for them. To cope with emotional pain or frustration, to regain control over something. The biggest pro of suicide is the end of suffering. It's a 100% guaranteed way to make any kind of pain stop. You can certainly argue that the cost of ending the suffering isn't worth it. But it's still a pro for people in the moment while they're suffering. The only situation in which I could ever see myself considering suicide as an option, is if I was dealing with excruciating physical pain or mental illness that didn't seem to have any other way of being relieved or a chance of ending in the future. I don't think anyone should ever commit suicide before exhausting all possible options. Even then I wouldn't recommend it. But to say that there's zero pros to suicide is disingenuous, it's like saying that you can't put yourself in a situation where you'd suffer so much that you'd actively want to die instead of continue.

People are only going to keep going further and further with pronouns and these sorts of postmodern ideas in general that anything can mean anything. So the question isn't when it goes too far. That's an inevitability. It's what point it has to reach before you'll change your own behavior with regards to it. Ultimately that's something very personal for you. Maybe for you, you recognize trans women as women and use their pronouns. But you don't respect people who identify as raccoons, and refuse to address them as such. Or maybe you humor even the raccoon-people just to avoid causing any problems or getting yourself cancelled. That's up to you. For me -- I acknowledge that gender is a social construct. If something is a social construct, then it's malleable and changeable. Which is where the problem comes in of people identifying with frog/frogs pronouns. Yes, anyone can be anything they want. There are an infinite number of genders and identities. Because it's all made up. Even man/woman. But when anyone can choose to be anything, the whole thing loses all meaning for me. So I tend to just let people do whatever they want, but largely disregard it. Other things that are social constructs include manners and etiquette. In one place it's rude to do a thumbs-up, in another place it's positive. In one place it's rude to slurp your soup out of the bowl, in another place it's a sign of respect for the chef. When you have an infinite number of genders all competing in a single society, you run into problems like if you had an infinite number of competing etiquette standards. It becomes almost impossible to say or do anything without offending someone else. It becomes a big game of oppression bingo. You want to collect different social constructs to differentiate yourself and command more respect. Someone who's bipoc disabled LGBT ranks above a cis disabled person or a white member of the LGBT community under this paradigm. Instead of being about equality, it ends up dividing people and creating more hierarchies instead of less. So I've decided to mostly just reject the social construct of gender entirely. I only recognize biological sex, male and female. There's some intersex outliers, arguably only 0.018% of the population and not 1.7% as normally stated: https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/12476264/ But overall it's a lot easier and puts a hard cap of 2 sexes + 1 "other" category, vs infinite possible genders. If somebody wants me to use their pronouns I'll roll my eyes and do it, the same way I would if someone's etiquette dictates that they want me to take my shoes off before entering their home. Same if a 5 year old comes up to me pretending to be a dinosaur and insisting that I refer to them as such. But I don't have to internally respect or believe they literally are those things, just because society tries to shame me into accepting it. I still have sovereignty to think whatever I want about them within my own head. I've never been asked to provide my own pronouns, but when it inevitably happens, I'll refuse as a matter of principle. I simply reject the social construct of gender entirely.

I don't have any firsthand experience, but I've probably watched a couple dozen documentaries and series about various communes, intentional communities, etc. and done a lot of research into the topic. Vice has a good series called Jungletown that shows what a shitshow it would be if you take a bunch of entitled millennials / zoomers and try to create an intentional community without proper planning. https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLZ_hwG6UuEJbYREwJlwycajHP7dDU_9Ue Slab City is also a good cautionary tale for what I would want to avoid. I have seen a few communes that genuinely seem like good, harmonious places to live. But they're the minority. Most are full of drama, cult of personality, and domineering leaders acting all passive-aggressive while people live in fear. The best ones I've seen are co-housing situations where multiple families of relatively normal people with actual jobs just live together and share their income, with rotating chore lists etc so it basically just operates like a big family -- it's when you add in a bunch of artistic spiritual types who refuse to work or contribute financially, and all the sexual dynamics of young people, that things start to go off the rails. This is one of the healthiest examples I've seen: Ever since I watched Zeitgeist Addendum over a decade ago and saw what Jacques Fresco was trying to do with The Venus Project, I've been interested in the idea of creating that kind of community. I think you could do it, but you have to be absolutely meticulous about planning it out, thinking of everything that could possibly go wrong. You'd need the right kind of people. Like one engineer, one doctor, one mechanic type person that can fix anything, one farmer to oversee all food production. You'd need some kind of charter or constitution and a shared set of goals and principles. Basically think of everything you'd need to have a bunch of people go and live on Mars sustainably. It wouldn't be that hard or expensive. I was looking at places across Canada on Realtor.com yesterday and found several places with 100+ acres and a decent fixer-upper house on it for like $250,000. Get 10 people to chip in $10k each to cover half the cost and they can be the shareholders/board of directors that have the final say and steer how the community develops, and then have people able to come for free with less rights and responsibilities. Then create some type of business that everyone works at a few hours per week to cover the mortgage and all other costs of the community. If I did create such a community myself, I 100% would be explicitly running it as a cult with myself in an authoritarian position. I need to have the final ultimate say. If I put all the effort in to creating a community, I would want it to work the way that I want, without people undermining or bringing drama and ruining everything I planned and worked so hard for. People can join if they think I could provide a better life and community for them than they could on their own. Otherwise they are free to try and make their own

For the near future (at least a couple of decades) I foresee a big demand for technicians to fix all the robots and machines. At least until they become fully self-replicating and self-repairing. Your Tesla will be able to drive itself to the dealership and spit out an error code, but I think it'll be a while before humans are taken out of the equation. You'd have to program a robot that's able to identify and remove/replace every single little screw and part. I'd imagine it's also hard for a robot to do something like top up antifreeze or windshield wiper fluid at this point. I dunno, I can imagine it. Even several decades ago, I remember in home ec class we had sewing machines where you could pick a pattern and embroider the entire thing automatically in one go, without any human input. It would be pretty easy to apply that to a tattoo. Just the needle is going into human flesh instead of fabric. It can tattoo a lot faster than a human with pixel-perfect precision. I think I'd actually rather have a robot tattoo artist than a human, less risk of error. Please just give me an emergency stop button to hold for when I need a break Same with haircuts. A robot could scan a 3D model of your head in precise detail, every little bump and mole. Then you just select the haircut you want from a catalogue based on your hair type (straight, curly, thick, thin, etc). And it applies precise cutting length to apply that haircut to your head. I would be a bit iffy about letting a robot wield scissors or a straight razor near my face. But if it's just using clippers I don't see much that could go wrong. And as a full-time writer, I think we're going to be one of the first fields to go after visual artists. Although I've tried multiple writing AIs and I can tell you that currently they're still a few years off. Already with a lot of these AI, you can tell it to mimic the style of JK Rowling, Stephen King, or whoever. They've already been trained on the works of most writers. I want the same thing that you want. But I have a lot more of a pessimistic outlook. All I have to do is look at videos of New York apartment tours, where people are living in 50 - 80 square foot spaces, to basically see it as a lost cause. People are way too content to live in cities of millions of people already. They already don't have clean air or water, or easy access to fresh foods. We've been too domesticated and industrial civilization has become too normalized for most people. They'd rather live in a walk-in closet in the city. Lots of people would be way more content moving toward more artificial lifestyles, rather than moving back toward something more connected to nature that they'd consider simple and even "primitive". Governments don't want people to be free and independent. So I think it's only natural that we're going to see more restrictions and laws that make it progressively harder to grow your own food or be self-sustainable, or live any kind of traditional lifestyle. The climate change narrative will be used to turn city folk against country folk -- why should one family have multiple acres of land, when we could put several apartment buildings and house hundreds of people on that land more efficiently? Or we could buy up several small properties to make one corporate mega-farm where all the food is grown indoors under grow lights with chemical fertilizers?

That would look really cool in an aquarium. You'd just have to make it waterproof, non-toxic, and swap out the moss for an aquatic species like java moss instead. You could have a whole little underwater treehouse village.

No need to make it any more complicated than it has to be. A vision board is just a photo collage. Canva is probably the best for someone with no previous design experience. Free, web-based. Very user-friendly, there are guide lines that automatically show up to indicate when images are centered, etc. Just log in, search for Vision Board or Photo Collage and dozens of templates will show up. You can just delete the sample images and upload your own, and customize it however you want.

The scientific term for Not-Knowing is First Principles, if you want to take all the spirituality out of it. I don't think Einstein, Newton, or any other great scientists took a mystical approach to their research. Although they might have got there by accident.

Inertia, critical mass. How do the top Youtubers gain hundreds of thousands of new subscribers a month? When someone with 100 or 1,000 subscribers struggles to double their subscribers in a year, while putting in more effort? Once you hit a certain size, your fans and customers start doing your advertising for you for free, via word-of-mouth. People start writing news articles about you and giving you free publicity. It becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy. Earning your first $1 -- Finding anything that works and doing it Earning your first $100 -- Replicating what you did to earn your first $1 a hundred more times Earning your first $1,000 -- Finding a way to increase the price that you charge, or the amount of work that you do Earning your first $10,000 -- Developing a repeatable system that provides consistent results Earning your first $100,000 -- Optimizing your system and making the most out of your time/effort Earning your first $500,000 -- Automating your system and taking yourself out of the equation. Breaking free of the constraints of time and the 24-hour day. Hiring people to do your work for you. Earning your first $1,000,000 - Making your money start to work for you and earn its own money. IMO the hardest step is automating. Going from being 1 guy with a food truck who works 12 hours a day, to opening a restaurant. Or going from being a solo painter or landscaper, to having a team of painters or landscapers working in a company below you and moving to a management / admin / lead gen role. There's 10x more stuff to learn than any other step... mostly around how to manage your staff and maintain your same level of quality without having to do the work yourself. Once you can make one successful business, then you can essentially just franchise it, expand and open more locations across the country. At some point then you can outsource even the leadership and hire a CEO, and just become a faceless shareholder, where most of the employees in the company don't even know your name. If your CEO is good then you're totally hands-off and just have a call once a quarter for him to tell you how much more money you're making than last quarter, give him his $1M bonus while you take $100M. Then while your first successful business is making money on autopilot, you have all your time back to go and build another entirely different business up, and another, and another. And a lot of the business skills will transfer over, so you already know 90% of what to do. Then when you have a whole portfolio of different companies under the umbrella of your mega holding company, you don't even have to start the new companies yourself any more. You just come up with business ideas and provide the funding, then pay people to go implement them from start to finish. Or invest in / buy up promising-looking new companies. Business is basically just Cookie Clicker IRL lul

Yup all good points! This is actually becoming a thing in some countries in Europe. Multigenerational mortgages. Personally I hope it doesn't become a common practice in North America. I find it really unethical, like you're selling your kids into debt slavery, so you can enjoy the benefits of their future work here in the present. Sure at least they'll own a house to live in. But you're tying them to a specific house, and forcing them to live and work in a specific city that they might not want to. Ideally housing prices appreciate over time enough that it's a good investment. Your kids can just sell the home and cancel out the mortgage, and be left with a profit. But when you're talking about inter-generational time frames, risk starts to really increase and things get weird. You don't know what bustling city is going to have a bunch of its major employers close down, or some other socioeconomic factors will happen, that will turn it into the next Detroit. Or you take out a 200 year mortgage on a property in Florida, California, Louisiana and it gets taken out by a flood, earthquake, or wildfire, and your insurance company refuses to cover it? I think this already happens in a relative sense. The earth isn't literally slowing down. But ask any older person and they'll tell you how the days and years start to go by faster and faster. I'm already starting to notice it in my 30s. I remember as a kid, having the summer off from school felt like an entire year. Now being older, it's 2022, you blink, and it's almost 2023 already. Not only that, but as you get older, you've got less energy. In most cases you work slower, so you can only do 6 hours worth of work in 8 hours, compared to how productive you were in your 20s. Or you've only got enough energy and mental capacity to work 6 hours a day at most. The older you get, the less time you've got left, and the more precious of a resource it becomes.

You can click the 3 little dots next to a video and say Not Interested or Don't Recommend Channel and it should recalibrate. The YouTube algorithm does some weird things. A few times a year it sends me down a rabbit hole of military videos and thinks I'm in the military. Recently it's been trying to convert me to Islam LOL.

Because he's doing it for 9 hours a week and reaching out for help. You can't just tell an addict to "try to have a balance."

There's a lot worse vices you can have in life besides cheese. Mediterranean diet (Greece, Italy) is quite healthy and people there live a long time. Despite eating a fair amount of cheese, olive oil, wine, etc. Simply not eating a ton of red meat or processed foods already puts you ahead of most people in Western countries. Also not all cheese is created equal. A super artificial Kraft Singles slice is not the same thing as feta. The first one, they legally have to label as "cheese product" Something like Camembert or Brie vs. a $5 brick of processed cheddar are entirely different products. They both start with milk, but everything about the process of creating them, their nutritional profile, and how your body handles them is different.

I've been checking out Hamza recently and generally I've been impressed. He's not perfect, but I would recommend him to someone like a younger cousin or something just looking to get into self-help and more interested in lifting than spirituality. If you watch long enough you'll start to notice some red flags and contradictions in what he preaches. Also he hasn't been at this long, seems like he basically turned his life around from being a weed-smoking dropout during Covid so he's not the most experienced. But his message is overall good and helpful for young men. Specifically only young men. If you see any of his interviews or meetups with viewers, it's literally all like 13 year olds. Which is fine, it looks like a lot of kids are using his content to find purpose and meaning in their life. But I hope something weird doesn't come out of it also.

Try to be more in touch with yourself. After masturbating, try to notice all the subtle ways it affects you. Maybe you have less energy the next day. You're less confident when talking to people, mentally you're more anxious, less able to focus, memory is worse, or whatever else you notice. If you're a chronic daily masturbator then the only way to really see if you'd be better without it, is to stop, and observe any positive or negative effects. So to start with, you just need to find a way to go 2 or 3 days without masturbating and really see the effects. Just 24 hours is likely going to be a struggle at first though, so try for that. Find the triggers for what causes you to masturbate. For most guys I think it's just boredom. If you can get out of the house doing stuff where your mind is focused on something else, it'll be a lot easier than sitting around your house bored. As cringe as a lot of the nofap stuff on Youtube is, and a lot of it has bad science, I still think it's a good starting point for a guy in your position. It's the only way to get some kind of motivation and start moving the needle to stop fapping for even 1 day or 2 days. Start by looking at it like any other kind of addiction. If you were going to quit smoking, most people can't go cold turkey or they'll just relapse. So start tapering yourself down. If you can limit yourself to only 5 hours this week, then 4.5 hours next week, that's already a big improvement. Even if you still masturbate daily but just do it less, at least you're getting some time back for doing more productive things, even if it won't give you the physiological benefits if you're still emptying your balls every day. Maybe most importantly.... I'd say 99% chance you're addicted to pornography, not masturbating. If I said you could go masturbate for 9 hours a day but you had to do it in the shower without any visual stimulus, I seriously doubt you'd stand there masturbating for 1 - 2 hours straight to just mental imagery. So as well as masturbation, cut back on porn as well. Start making yourself watch less extreme porn. Limit yourself to only 5 - 10 videos per session, then cut back to trying to masturbate to only 1 - 2 videos. Then force yourself to only have 1 favorite video that you'll allow yourself to fap to, for weeks straight. Get into less extreme porn, until you're just fapping to bikini photos or something. Then remove the visual stimulus entirely. If you have the urge, you can have a quick fap in 5 minutes to relieve yourself, but no videos, no pictures. Then remove even the fapping. Over time you want to cut down on the dopamine that you're getting from porn. That means no more 50 browser tab sessions where your brain gets to have the equivalent of you having every girl in the village every day. Literally you're tricking your brain into thinking you're having a 50-girl orgy every day. It's not natural or what your brain is wired for. 100 years ago you'd only see one woman naked for months or years straight. Right now your brain might be so fried that watching only 1 video to fap to, is like the equivalent of having to go from eating pizza to kale. But you have to undo the damage somehow. It's October 1. If you start gradually transitioning with all the stuff I listed above, you should be able to make a serious attempt at No Nut November when November 1 rolls around. You can do it. You probably won't last the whole month. But in November I wanna see a post from you about how you've managed to go at least 7 full days without fapping. 7 days is about where your testosterone and all the benefits of nofap peaks. Even if you relapse 3 or 4 times in the month, think about how much farther along you'll be than you are now.

You can't just look for another job. Maybe you can go to a company that's considerably less toxic, but this problem will follow you everywhere. As a woman you just have to work 10x as hard to prove yourself. It isn't fair, but it is what it is. My wife has dealt with all the problems you mention as she climbs the corporate ladder. A guy in the same position acting the same way would be seen as assertive, management material, and other positive words. If you're a woman acting the same way you get labeled "bossy", emotional, etc. If someone says something that's explicitly bullying like "no one likes you here" you have to stand up for yourself and call them out on it, or go to HR about it if it continues. Sometimes if it's a small company or the culture is too toxic you'll just lose though, so you have to be strategic and decide if it's a situation where you can win or not. One way you can look at it --- socializing is an unwritten part of their job description. If they want you to waste company time talking, just play along, smile and nod with their stupid conversations. ESPECIALLY with managers and people who outrank you. Otherwise all you can do is work extra hard and try to prove them wrong. Sometimes this isn't enough, some people are so stupid they'd rather fire a hard worker who doesn't conform with the office culture, and take someone who literally provides less value instead.