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@Ponder I agree. I also think Ester Hicks is highly underrated / underutilized. Too ahead of her time in a way. (Just gonna put that there. Lol.)

Very wise passage. You’re not actually doing this. You’re preaching it. You describe the boat with acuity, while you’re missing it.

@Buba It sounds like you’re spending your time complaining instead of on well being, and then wondering why you’re not feeling so good....? Not really so complicated.

What are you doing daily? What are your disciplines & practices?

@pluto ?

@How to be wise You’re confused. Need to find the separation between Truth & Love.

Point to life.

Start meditating 30 minutes twice a day. Start utilizing every resource available to you. Choose to. Start writing about how you feel, express and understand your emotions. Stop repeating the same thought stories. Meditation will slow your thinking down, letting the emotions out will also. Listen to Abe Hicks like @isabel suggested. Overall, your psychology will change, and so will your life. Whatever you focus on, you get more of. What Do You Want?

Yep.

Yes. Start meditating 30 minutes twice a day. Start utilizing every resource available to you. Choose to. Start writing about how you feel, express and understand your emotions. Stop repeating the same thought stories. Meditation will slow your thinking down, letting the emotions out will also. Listen to Abe Hicks like @isabel suggested. Overall, your psychology will change, and so will your life. I don’t believe you have noticed yet that you’re blaming other people. This is causing you to compensate by thinking you should inflict pain on yourself. Love yourself. Understand yourself, understand other people. Understand why people do shitty things. This is not a Commiseration Forum. It’s a Self Help Forum. Choose to. Forgive yourself. Forgive them.

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@Jordan Welsh Awesome! So glad to hear you’re doing well.

@Yuliya_Lei No, it doesn’t. That’s what “victim mindset” is. You don’t have a calling to “deal with confrontation”. It’s not your problem. It’s theirs. You don’t need to say a word. Do what you want to. If you don’t, you’ll resent them and yourself for it, not to mention stifle your growth.

@abrakamowse ?? Hard to go wrong with The Buddha.

Misinterpretation of reality having identified with a body & thinking. Emotions ‘tell’ the Truth, 24/7. That’s their thing. That’s what they do. It’s what they are. Feel them without avoidance, and this is easy & clear, and there is no overthinking, no doubt. Get sucked into a thought story...a cognitive narrative...and the trouble begins. Doubt is weaved. Identification is strengthened. Protection is increased. Vulnerability is further suppressed. Thinking protects you. That’s it’s thing. That’s what it does. Not knowing you were misinterpreting reality, and protecting yourself in the most subtle & clever ways....you then misinterpret the emotional response as well. When done repeatedly / chronically....thinking protectively weaves a narrative which makes it make sense (in the short term). But this “short term” itself then must be repeated to maintain the protection. This is a very taxing, energy draining, creativity zapping lifestyle. Typically the narrative thinking employs is one of two patterns: Life sucks.......then thought content is identified with / believed, emotions (truth) is repressed & avoided. or I suck....then thought content is identified with / believed, emotions (truth) is repressed & avoided. Bottom line is, you can not know about yourself at the level of cognition. So if you doubt yourself (cognitive level), then you are wrong (because you are infinite potentiality, not a describable finite ‘thing’) You then choose to continue being “right”, or, to be vulnerable & relearn the miracle that is your emotional guidance system (God). The first part of “relearning” is purification. Love flushes all your BULLSHIT out. This is triggered by willingness. The second part is contextualization of reality with the emotions involved, respected, and trusted. This is triggered simply by living life. The third part is bliss.

It sounds like you have somehow managed to wrap your meditation practice around thoughts. As if they’re the theme, or star of the show, to be “controlled / observed”, or focused on. Consider thoughts are stars, and meditation helps you to realize you are the night. Be aware of breathing from your stomach. Thoughts arise and you notice your attention shifted from stomach breathing to thought story...just return your attention to breathing from your stomach. If you feel overwhelmed, stop, breathe, relax, and write about the sensations you’re feeling on paper. Do this very slowly. Aim to articulate more and more refined. You’ll discover the commonality of specific sensations, and links to your past will be revealed. Links as in, sensations + memories are a match to the sensation you’re currently experiencing in the meditation. As you read, understanding is present, and mis-contextualized emotional responses which were overrode are released. Sometimes allowing the repressed emotions to surface can be scary - because thinking kicks in with a thought story. Your practice of stomach breath focus comes in handy...as the aim is to let the emotions out, without getting sucked into a narrative via thinking. Meditation is breath, focus, purification. Thought has nothing to do with meditation. If you go to the doctor’s with a flu, you go to be without flu. You don’t go to focus on the flu.

@Soul-lover 2020 Both sides of a duality are fully realized & seen prior to transcendence of the duality. You might say that indeed, Mohamed is your savior. Btw, I say that as a crazy person who truly doesn’t know.

Funny how the difference between Gura & Guru - is a u.

@Shadowraix Ditto. ?

@Leo Gura ❤️

@Shadowraix ??❤️ thank you.

@mandyjw Things are never what they seem. The power of love is a curious thing. Hang in there. “Stronger & harder, than a bad girl’s dream”

@mandyjw And sorry for repeatedly kicking you in the feels this morning, but....has it occurred to you yet, that.... God needs you Mandy? He does. Absolutely he does. It’s hard to see sometimes, all innocent & unconditional like.