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Think. Believe. ‘Therapy or talking with a psychologist’ is not felt, is not feeling. You are very much already feeling. What you are feeling is powerlessness and insecurity. Some people just talk to a therapist or whoever, and you’re aware of this, and jealousy feels way better than powerlessness & insecurity. There is something you can do about it. You can do what other people do, which works. If you talk to someone sincerely, express what you really are feeling, you definitely gonna cry and experience a lot of release & relief.

Because they aren’t “in their head” focusing on conceptualizations of experience, like high & low consciousness people. “Amazing social skills” is a projection based on the holding of that belief. Not being manipulative to compensate for discordant beliefs isn’t a doing (an acquired skill). Not being miserable from not holding these beliefs & employing judgment of others to sustain the belief, naturally attracts. You’ve allowed yourself to believe conceptualizations from people who are not experiencing what you desire to experience, but convince you they know from direct experience nonetheless. You haven’t realized they do this for self image, for how they believe they’re seen, which is the “stuck in your head”.

@Illusory Self The mind isn’t an enemy, it’s the greatest ally. To blame the mind is to suppress feeling with concept(s). Via the mind you can understand how you’re creating the emotion of unworthiness, and you can express jealousy which feels significantly better. There is no cure / the cure is realizing how you’re creating the emotion of unworthiness. No longer doing so, no cure is sought because the discord is no longer felt. It’s between you & source so to speak. Not you and dating, approaching, gaming, etc. Those are conceptualizations to remain in aversion.

@Thought Art You’re framing the discord of doubt as if it were do to something external or something against you which you are facing. Essentially, “If this doesn’t work I’m throwing in the towel”. It is that thinking which is discordant.

@lmfao I know / see it because I feel it too. Jealousy’s a good feeling. I know, takes a minute to ‘get there’, to accept that, but it is. It has a lot to do with outlook, consciously focusing on wanted, looking forward to things & allowing them to come. I saw someone driving an adult sized go kart recently and felt the ol’ ‘I want that!’. Right now I’m using youtube to fix a pellet fireplace… which I’m going to sell online, and use the money to buy a go kart. ?? Just an example, maybe helpful. Wish me luck as I have no idea what I’m doing. Thank God for Youtube lol.

@Windappreciator What’s living? Conscious creating, yes indeed.

I’d read every single sentence and then inquire, who am I actually talking about…? Then I’d consider, what am I really talking about…? ? Not so much for now, but going forward, don’t underestimate daily meditation, the dreamboard, and emotional scale. ?

@lmfao It’s not guilt, and my state, lamentation & delusion are concepts, aversion from feeling. It’s jealousy. There are lots of folks enjoying life. I’m one of them, and if I were in your shoes, I’d express hate for this situation, and then anger & the admittance of discouragement, and so on.

@Thought Art You don’t know how to handle doubt, because intense discordant thoughts about a separate self arise and cloud. Doubt is an emotion and is the discord of those self referential thoughts. But you’re not quite listening. How loud must the background hum of happiness, of this universe you are being, get? The way to hold oneself in disappointment, overwhelment & frustration is to refuse to admit and express, that you are feeling those emotions, in regard to what you’re thinking. The discord and the hum are guidance. But you’re still being a bit ornery, stubborn, and hard headed about beliefs.

Do look. Don't resist, avert and suppress the truth. Accept that is you, and do what you can to help. If you aren’t situated & able to presently, mindfully plan to when you can. Let it inspire you beyond ‘yourself’. Allow yourself to know yourself as your creation. Take it all in fully. That is what aversion via conceptualizing feeling looks like. It usually kicks off with ‘others’ thinking. Enjoyment isn’t statistical, analytical, or conceptual, but thinking makes it so. Express feeling instead.

Investigate who is this separate self, which is not consciousness, but ‘has a state of consciousness’, who “feels lack”, and “feels anxiety”. Maybe the discord is of that first belief, and the second & third are conceptual attempts to rationalize it, which aren’t working. Motivation is a mental paradigm contingent on there being that separate self, the one who has a motive and is or is not motivated. But inspiration is the surrendering of the paradigm of beliefs in the separate self. Preference arises, consciousness be’s that. It’s unthinkably simple, without the conditioned conditional materialist paradigm (my state of consciousness). Everything is always working out for you. There is only to acknowledge & release the discord felt when ‘getting in the way’. There’s no ‘you stuck in many areas’. That’s a fourth belief / justification / rationalization of the discord. The fundamental belief consciousness is something you have discordantly effects the entirety of experience, which is of course, the consciousness which consciousness holds the beliefs about. The path you’re on so to speak, isn’t really the path, it’s aversion… conceptualizing yourself (consciousness). The synchronicity of the emptiness of the unit is showing this, is this, as apparently the discord isn’t quite enough. But it can be allowed to be enough.

The truth is you already are, and you feel every itsy-bitsy discordant thought, behavior and action to the contrary.

@Opo political leanings affects fetishes What if it’s the other way around?

? I also like the matrix as paternal, always something to learn from, and the absolute as maternal, just ever loving.

Regret is a thinking. Not seriousness, sincerity! What do you actually want?!

I’m not asking about what you don’t want, or what you can’t do. With sincerity God damn it!

Love is the absence of the separate self of thoughts. Love is the absence of people. Love is the absence of judgement. Love is the absence of even absence. Love abhors a vacuum & fills all which is emptied. Love is cessation of all else, and all else, is thoughts.

The truth shall set you free. Nothing helps us realize there is a path via the discord of aversion. Meditation. The emotional scale. Plethora of healing modalities. What is a self referential thought.

@Vivaldo Most sincerely & intimately, why do you want that?

@Wijuu Not having had sex yet doesn’t equal sex deprived. Careful with internalizing, self defining. You haven’t walked on the moon either, but you don’t create the belief in one who is moonwalking deprived.

What did you learn? What is it that you now know much more so, much more specifically, what you want?

Forgiveness is for suckers. I’d keep believing there’s a you and a them, and you’re right & good and they are evil & wrong. One’s own ignorance has absolutely nothing to do with it. Never forgive! ✊? Never!!! Living with the discord ain’t as bad as people make it out to be.

Two questions one answer… the emotional scale. He’s experiencing these things and has to find his own way regardless. Blood really does blind. For most it seems getting help from a stranger still constitutes ‘my own way’, but from family, the relationships, memories, bonds, etc, are to pronounced and infringe on ‘my own way’. If it were my brother I’d send a link to the scale but use someone else’s site. No. There’s an old quote… “When you’re not practicing, he is. When you meet him, you will lose.” It’s not really. It was a friendly and engaging orange oriented phrasing, albeit slightly provocative to maybe get his attention. Life is supposed to be fun. Some people understand this via understanding emotions, and there’s no competition with those intrinsically happy people, cause everything just works out for them. They aren’t competing. They just get out of their own way and allow. He probably has some common beliefs (@21) like life basically sucks because to be successful you have to work twice as hard, and I have to just ‘bury the discord’, etc. Self defeating beliefs. He’s only fighting himself so to speak, his own misinterpretations (mostly conditioning). If he caught wind that successful people don’t work twice as hard, but do understand their emotions, he might take interest in a far more productive & enjoyable, and far less discordant way of interpreting, and he might care about understanding emotions. It’s letting go of how one gets in one’s own way, which one knows entirely already, from how it feels. A general way to say it, holding discordant beliefs / being right, vs being open minded & happy.

It’s the not focusing on thoughts & concepts. The ‘other than’ thought attachment / thought activity / conceptualizing. Yes.

(Just to be communicatively clear)….it’s not about in front of him or not, it’s about feeling the reactions and not reacting. It’s literally not about him at all. The reactions just naturally dissolve / are seen through. To bring clarity and an end to the hours or days, and even minutes or second of suffering, understand the emotions you are experiencing by willfully expressing them. Again, I do not mean ‘to him’. Just for you to understand and unfetter. And of course, daily Meditation. Conceptualizations, the activity of thought that there is a you and a him, will fissile out, and an ineffable & easy to appreciate miracle is instead experienced.