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Try to actually go to a past or future. It helps the realization you = now, or, that you only experience the present. What will this unfold to be for you in experience is the question, imo. Notice experience has only ever been what you’re focused on. It really is quite a present.

@Lyubov Dreamboard. Totally works. Can’t physically manifest instantly though, but only because you already are.

Great thread. I’ve found TRE to be ideal, especially coupled with expressing each emotion. Complete body mind clear out. Animals are so smart. I’ve also found basic deep stretches a couple times each day,(and breathing into the muscle stretched), a couple minutes each time, to function as maintenance / no build up, resulting in a natural embrace to feel as deeply as can be.

Free will is just a thought. Like determinism. Nothing to get in a twist over.

@soos_mite_ah I’m not trying to ‘knock’ your beliefs, I respect that as your prerogative, really. I’m sharing that I have found, in inspecting beliefs, that one can not think perception. When you say ‘perception is our world view’, to me, you’re talking about perspective. By perception, I mean seeing, hearing, etc. If you’re interested you can check what I’m pointing to in your direct experience right now. Notice seeing for example, and think anything you like about it, and you’ll notice it has no bearing, it creates no change, to seeing. Though we believe thoughts as labels for “things”, there are no “things”, nor is there any separation in perception whatsoever. In regard to your original post, what is it then, in this light, to “absorb other people’s trauma”? What is trauma? WHat is it’s source? How is it or would it be transmitted? Is it what happens or is happening, or is it what happens or is happening to someone? Given a certain spectrum of clarity on thought attachment and that perception can’t be thought, nor can thought be perceived, what sense can it make to focus on being cautious or anxious about what you experience, when it is your thoughts and perception? What sense does it make to think in terms of “yet” as you mentioned in your op? Is empathy the same as being empathic? These are sort of contemplative suggestive questions, I’m not really asking for any answers, just adding to the inquiry of your thread.

You’re a normal person and nothing is wrong with you, in the sense, you don’t need to “be better”. How you are is already fine. You’re good to go. Focus on what you want. Motivation: How to not experience what I don’t want. How’s it feel?: Terrible. Inspiration: What I do want. How’s it feel?: Fucking awesome. Shift from thinking about yourself, to what you want to do, create, & experience. One thinking about how they need to improve themself, and one thinking about how they are perfect and better than everyone else, both share the same emotion and hurdle - boredom, and no traction on creating the life they are inspired to create, because they’re both thinking of themself instead. What you do, create and experience, won’t be you, it’ll be experience, which is happening either way. Make a dreamboard, fill it with what you like, that will be what’s happening. You can’t get it wrong. No matter what you experience, you derive preference, more clarity on what you do want, and on what you don’t want...and you again, focus on what you do want, and then you experience that. Make a dreamboard. Understand how you’re creating emotions by expressing & directly experiencing, emotions.

You’ve not directly experienced your birth. You’re directly experiencing perception, and thoughts arise labelling & describing perception, and you’re believing the thoughts actually define, perception. Consider the term ‘radical honesty’ in regard to inspecting what is experienced.

@Someone here Trolling thread.

@Findus What is the point of the tale of the tortoise and the hare? What is actionable of that story which you’ve been missing thus far? Contemplate & realize that. One bird, all your stones so to speak. The fundamental belief at play btw, imo, is “the realization comes from the fact that I know from my enlightenment experiences”. Without that misunderstanding, nothing else you mentioned stands true, and thus the beliefs would not be acting as blockages.

What makes a thought certain?

@soos_mite_ah Can you think perception?

@longusername12345 Thanks, and I just replied. On the dreamboard, check out the thread, there are a lot of q n a’s there. In short, start putting anything and everything you like, love, want to experience etc. Anything that feels good to you. It’s experiential, so thinking ahead is not required. Much comes into focus from using the board.

@Farnaby Yes, shame would be another thought that isn’t true and is felt as such.

@digitalmarketingbyni Hi & welcome. Can’t get enough of Brass Against lately.

They are already one & the same... with a thought that they are not... rather than believing thoughts, directly experience that there is no difference... Make a dreamboard. Fill it with everything you love and focus on it. Feels amazing. Understand emotional guidance. Listen to it, and use the scale to raise your vibration. Feels amazing. Expression is key, as all experienced is actually coming from you. Feels amazing. You feel so damn amazing everyday, the frequency is such a match between that which is seeking & that which is sought, that insights pour in. Feels amazing.

@Akira For sure. Not the dogmas, but the Bible is the perfect guide to nonduality, if one can comprehend it... which is why you wrote it the way you did. Think of it like a riddle, a game, the ultimate challenge to ego.

@soos_mite_ah What is surviving? Find it...? Imagine life without it, or notice this is already actual.

If you say “I have a soccer ball”, and someone says “where is it”, you could say “it’s right here” and point to it. It’s something you have. If you say “I have social anxiety” and someone says “where is it”... you can’t point to it, because it’s something you’re thinking & believing about yourself. The key there is as you said, you started developing it, creating the belief about yourself, at that age. It didn’t feel good then, it hasn’t felt good ever since, and it doesn’t feel good now, because it wasn’t true in the first place. Consider a comparison example of Bill and Bob: Both Bill and Bob realize at a young age they don’t want exactly what folks around them want. Maybe they don’t care for dogma or authority, maybe they want to cross dress, maybe they are gay or bi, etc. They are both at first, uncomfortable about this, but they go about that uncomfortableness very differently: Bill thinks about how he is different from others and creates the belief that in some way, this means something is wrong with him. When Bill is around others, this belief flares up. BIll doesn’t inspect, assumes it’s because of others, and creates a label to cover the initial belief that something is wrong with him, and that label is social anxiety. Bill has deflected, or, rather than taking responsibility and inspecting what he is thinking which doesn’t feel good, he blames other people in a general non-specific way, believing it has something to do with more than what Bill thinks of himself....and thus Bill avoids feeling, which was telling him the belief was bogus from the get go, by avoiding social interactions. Bill then misses out on the joy & fun of social interactions & relationships, yet rather than inspecting his beliefs, and putting feeling first, Bill begins to resent others who ‘don’t have social anxiety’. “Must be nice to be them” Bill thinks. Bill continues feeling terrible through out his entire life, as he reinforces the belief, that he feels terrible, because something is wrong with him, because he is different, and now he also feels terrible because ‘he has social anxiety’. Bob takes ownership of what’s going on with him, and inspects why he doesn’t feel great, and notices whenever he thinks ‘something’s wrong with him’, that thought doesn’t feel good. Bob realizes he is feeling his thoughts...and others are feeling their thoughts. So Bob realizes that if others judge him for this way he is unique, others will feel the discord of their judgmental thoughts - not Bob...because Bob took ownership and inspected, Bob realizes he is feeling his thoughts, and that the thought “something is wrong with me” is a thought which does not feel good. Since what Bob wants is to feel great, Bob recognizes we’re all different, and we’re all feeling our own thoughts, and it has nothing to do with society or anyone else. Bob, unfettered, unblocked by bogus beliefs, is full of the delightful inspirational energy of our source, and enjoys an organic inherent confidence, passion and desire, and Bob rocks the shit outta Bob’s life. One day, Bill meets Bob, and Bill thinks and most importantly, honestly expresses how he feels....(jealousy)....”I wanna be like that Bob guy...happy, successful, loving life, creating purpose, driven, enjoying healthy happy relationships”. Bills tells Bob this, and asks Bob for advice, and Bob says “Bill, you’re focused on thinking about yourself.... on what you have (social anxiety)”. “I’m focused on what I want, simply because it feels good to me.” Bob never “lays out his whole history”...because Bob is focused on what feels good to him, on what he wants, and is receiving it and co-creating it. Bob tells the story Bob wants to experience, and in doing so, reality becomes it, and Bob relishes in this experience.

@fopylo Time alone ‘works’ because when you feel as you are, without others around, you realize it’s the discord with what you think, about yourself. Dive into what you want more. Make a dreamboard. It makes focusing on what you want foolproof. What you want = what feels good to you. Feeling good, it is readily seen you don’t have ‘social anxiety’, just had some bogus beliefs about yourself, because you weren’t feeling very fulfilled, because you were essentially jealous of others who are focusing on, and creating & experiencing, what they want.

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Appreciating the kind words everyone, thanks. ?? We’re probably more on the same page than you’re thinking. Nonduality means not two, so imagine reincarnation in the sense you describe, that which people attest to, just, not two.

Thanks again, feelin the love and much appreciated! In hindsight, that second video wasn’t quite the direction that most resonates. It helped to make that much clearer though and I’m excited about that and videos to come.

@Bazooka Jesus Thank you sir...and still, hands down the greatest user name on the forum. Appreciate the kind words everybody! I try to keep the self promotion to a minimum...but since a thread was made and I just finished my second video, might as well... ??? Next video...more chapstick less edits.

This is some excellent inspecting and recognition of feeling & emotions already. Recognizing that the energy drain is the rumination, fueled by the outlook, and that motivation isn’t quite fulfilling or working is very insightful. I would let the frame, or paradigm, of ego and survival go. It doesn’t seem to be working for you, and sounds circular. I’d reframe or reinterpret as thought, and feeling. Looking for resolve in thinking (about ego, what kind you have, killing it, and about survival & wether it’s worthwhile etc) is in a way, just more thinking. Try to recognize what is conceptual, vs, directly experienced. Attempting to point to what one thinks can be helpful. Also, the strategy of letting go of all fears and then creating and living freely, imo, is subtly more avoidance. It’s putting better feeling in a future, while it’s always & only present now. Do whatcha gotta do obviously, just two cents there. I hear you on ‘dealing with a whole life of ego’, but in the reframing, you’re experiencing thoughts, which don’t resonate with you, in feeling. This takes the twoness of you and ego out of the mix, which reduces a lot of thinking, specifically circular thinking, also stands to make feeling and emotions much clearer. The tools section I added to my website is (imo) basically tailored to what you’re experiencing. I know the feeling & experience of ending up writing a whole bunch. That, expressing, imo is actually the way to go. Writing is expressing. Similar to using the emotional scale, it’s all about expressing, which ‘get’s it all out’ of you, so to speak, and more source & clarity ‘fills in’. I would most definitely make a dreamboard, for several reasons. And keep in mind it only ‘shines’ as a direct experience. Thinking about it is just more thinking. There’s a place on the path of basically ‘where the hell am I even headed in life’. When you start putting anything and everything that feels good to you on the board, everything you’ve experienced in life basically magically becomes the vision (in front of you, visually, on the board & not ‘in your head’) of what you desire, what you want to do in life, and what you want to create and experience. Because all of the desiring, wanting & preferences comes from feeling, you start letting motivation go, and start tapping into inspiration. In short, motivation imo is living via the motives of avoiding future scenarios you know you don’t want. If & when you create a dreamboard, also use a pad of paper, and write down everything that comes to mind that you know you don’t want. Get it out, express it. Then write next to it, the opposite, which will become a list of what you do want...then write that list on the dreamboard. Overall, focus changes from thinking and focusing on what you don’t want, to feeling and focusing on what you do want. Again, it’s very direct experience. It can’t be thought, because that’s thinking ahead, into a future, where there is no feeling (because there is only now). The beauty of experiencing a lot of what you don’t want, is recognizing you do have much that you do want. The shift from the prior to the later does occur in using a dreamboard. Again, that it is in front of you, and that it stays there (compared to thoughts just swirling around each day) is a total life changer. Perhaps the more significant shift, is that as you focus on what you do want, reality (which is unconditional) starts becoming it. It is very storybook, very magical, and imo that is the whole point of experiencing - co-creating. It will bring up new emotional frontiers for you, and as you use the emotional scale to express and release, you really start to get a feel for the overall situation here. You experience, focus on wanted, and creation becomes it. That’s our gig essentially, as creators, and we’re doing it either way. Might as well be what you want. ?