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@onacloudynight I don't know much about serious yoga, but of course focusing on third eye has different effects than focusing on something else. It depends on if your third eye is open or not etc. It's about what you want to accomplish with it.

Just be smooth and independent. Notice how much you're thinking about this. If you really think she's girlfriend material then that sounds a bit crazy to me. Sure she can be fun, but not much else.

I feel compelled to say "Look for them from your supermarket". I'm sure you could buy some great values there. Or maybe try McDonalds. I bet they sell great values. Or then make your own with guidelines from smarter people. Who knows.

Don't try to make yourself happy, be happiness. See where you have excitement and joy in your life. First of all allow there to be excitement and joy. Fear or anxiety is excitement with a negative judgment projected onto it. See if you could let go of your old models making you unhappy and form a positive vision instead. Then you can have more simple happiness and then you can follow it. As you might start seeing, this will require not listening to the mind and going against your past self and ideology and admitting that there's something you enjoy more. But this doesn't have to be a difficult process although it might take just a while. I also like solfeggio frequencies or 432 hz, you can search them from youtube and see which ones you like.

Something like in the pictures (although the hoodie just looks nice I don't have one like that) and bomber jacket + tshirt. I just pick what looks good to me and I'm quite picky. I like to have a bit of my own style if I have a choice and I like being a bit colorful. It's still so that I don't try to be something too much with my clothes.

@Mercurio3 You can still talk about future and past since they're useful concepts even if they were happening at the same time. The difference between them just doesn't have to do with the common understanding of time.

Well if all time is happening at the same time and we are connected to our higher selves and past lives then it wouldn't be too weird to think that you actually experienced something like that. But it could also be just a recognition of a weird pattern, a wake up call or even a sign. Sometimes or even often things feel like a constant minor dejavu where you everything just feels right and you know it's going to happen as it does.

Hehe to answer the title it's like "isn't trying to become enlightened an ego thing? If you were you wouldn't have to". Shadow work is something very helpful for becoming enlightened since the step to enlightenment is the step where all shadows are removed. You can do plenty beforehand.

I know little to nothing about him, but it seems that instead of breaking the ego he tries to make it so strong that it cannot be broken. It loses all fluidity. No sign of groundless ground there, but of course that has its pros and cons.

Imo community sounds like an ego thing. You know, us vs them. I feel way more connected to people if I detach myself from them.

I love Mooji's humor. A lot of people say jokes to hold onto things and bash one side, but it can also be used to show that our problems might not be so bad.

You have to speak in metaphors. It's a metaphor.

That there is no ultimate answer to what I'm trying to search for with my mind. I'd tell myself to be more self-honest and learn to be with the emotions that come with that.

These are meant to be helpful pointers of our tricky mind. I'm not trying to say I'm right about these and I'm not an expert. But even if you are having dark night of the soul, please understand that your issues are no match to the light within you. Even if they were to be advanced issues, you can still pursue enlightenment. Please do not kid yourself by saying you wouldn't on any level want to be let go of your pain. If you feel meaningless, then maybe it means that you see your attachments and ego as meaningless. You do not see their job as necessary anymore, but since you still identify with you being responsible for them, which means you think you are meaningless. It may feel like you have failed your job of tricking yourself. Isn't that funny how our mind works? All of this does not take away the spontaneous joy in life. That can still remain even without it. If you want to just suffer, you're already doing it. (All the issues are still there but in different forms if you go back) Look at where you are right now. Does it feel free? Or does it feel stuck? This doesn't sound too bad. You could try watching this, mainly the techniquelessness. When your mind attacks, nothing is going wrong. Your mind is just showing you where you have thoughts and attachments related to personhood left. Once you just are, they won't have power. If you're afraid or feel like you can't do it, it'll get easier once you just stay as water for a while.

One thing about nice guys is that the "nice guy" thing is often guys being frustrated at the expectation of getting girls or being "confident"(=arrogant) when in actuality girls themselves are the ones confused about what they want. So they are met with an impossible task of pleasing contrary sides of a girl. They should just focus on improving themselves and meeting a girl who has their stuff straight. So if there are more nice guys now it probably means that girls are starting to realize that they don't have to take shit from guys so much, which leaves girls in an awkward spot of still being attracted to douchebags as their best choice, but also wanting a nice guy. So then "nice guys" learn that if they pretend to be nice, they should get the girl then since girls don't want douchebags anymore. But girls end up not really wanting a "nice guy" and maybe suppressing what they want, since they can't transform the lust for the douchebags into love and passion. Guys should also realize that there's a point to being both nice and blunt when fitting and doing it with their own style and honestly same with girls. Balance of course leads to actualizing which is terrifying. A girl/guy who wants to stick to their ego can't handle being with an actualizing girl/guy because it would reveal their own lies, which also discourages actualizing since you might be left alone at the top.

If you don't know how to think, don't think

Your mind is adding things to admitting you're wrong. It does it with many things. Twist is a nice word, because even good concepts are twisted by our ego to fit older models or to protect itself.

Feeling the feeling but not thinking about it or thinking the thoughts that come with it is something that's always a decent thing. This will make you hold onto emotions less or it will expose to you how you hold on, and after a while you will see how it's not beneficial. If you stop thinking then you might have negative emotions surface, but those will pass and you do not have to identify with for example angry thoughts and ideas. They are just happening and you're not choosing them. Being "overdramatic" or "triggered" can often be a ego defense mechanism. Sometimes you might notice that even if you're hurt and even taught to be hurt when someone does something "totally dramatic" you might actually not care that much. And indeed not holding on to the emotion of being very personally or in a drama queen like hurt is important. Then you have to be honest with yourself and see if you actually care about it. If you don't, then it is good to see that it might not be worth it to argue with that person who isn't interested in developing themselves anyway. If you are actually hurt, then you just need to give yourself some love. So the next time you can recognize how it feels like you're oh so dramatically hurt (and not deeply) you can see how you try to hold onto the feeling of hurt and see how it doesn't actually take you anywhere. It's surprisingly underwhelming, but that's fine cause there are other great things once you let go. With some people who are "feminists" etc they might have a mix of these two, deeply hurt but covering it with holding onto a feeling of righteousness or justice.

After enlightenment it will only get stronger, because you have a clearer understanding of how meaning works. Then you will be able to decide a life purpose and execute effortlessly. Of course your life purpose might change due to change of perspective, but life purpose on a major scale isn't going anywhere.

For me gratitude and beauty are linked to the infinite or unknown nature of reality. I don't have to be especially grateful for things, if I find beauty or joy, I'm grateful for that.

@Epiphany_Inspired Questioning the self and who is suffering can help. Also not identifying with thoughts as your own, but seeing thoughts as a phenomenon caused by things. If you don't pick your thoughts, then there are just thoughts of suffering coming from somewhere and maybe there's an unaccepted feeling due to those thoughts that want to hold on to it because otherwise your identity starts breaking.

Often it is so that you have to see what feels right to you. You can do the same thing from a very egoic place or a very loving place. If it's bullshit or not I'd say to figure out for yourself. Isn't it interesting how the thought of stealing a chocolate has such a large effect on you?

To answer the title, actualizing does indeed create and reveal many of our weakspots that create broken-heartedness. However, often when I see people being left hurt or behind in any way, they are usually hurting themselves through their thinking pattern. I do not mean that they should know better, but indeed they could embrace what has happened instead of thinking the moment is too intense, not seeing any lessons/not accepting lessons and not seeing how it passes.

Been more or less alone since 12. Not really missing people all too much, but you definitely don't want to resent the things they do or you'll find yourself struggling with the same things yourself. Having one or two people to talk to when necessary can be nice, mine are online.

Once you grow enough you'll also learn to fake being "normal" while enjoying yourself so that it won't be an issue. The ones who are saying you're weird are actually being weird when you think about it. They go exactly by what ego tells them and I think you have a clue of how irrational that is. But you don't need to take a stance or say you or them are better. You don't need those friends that hate themselves, actively stay stubborn etc. It can be lonely, but that is fine and there's beauty in that too.