ajasatya

no. this is the core mystery of existence. the universe did/does. it happens when you buy a new computer. i think you're just confusing what you call by "you". the closest that you can come from grasping the absolute perspective with the mind is by replacing every pronoun by "god", "universe", "reality", "existence" or something like that. consciousness is the fabric of reality. i don't have consciousness. this body and this mind are made out of consciousness.

computers are made out of consciousness

nah, i don't care that much about being right anymore. it doesn't feed me. realizing my own flaws feed me.

i just had this insight that this is actually a good thread. struggles and triggers are powerful vehicles for growth, if faced properly. it's a chance for the actualized.org community to grow!

experience...

it's alright. take your time. remember that growth is also about healing. it's impossible to teach well without a soft heart. words of wisdom feel friendly, not confronting.

@Joseph Maynor i don't know how sincere you are about this process, but you've been here for a while... your intellectual pride is off the roof. i'm not saying that you're not smart. you're way smarter than me. i'm just saying that you cannot go very far if you're that attached to the intellect. haven't you asked yourself why you get so triggered when someone claims to be more developed than you? what if i said that you're not enlightened, would you be able not to argue with me trying to prove otherwise? just a tip from a friend.

i've achieved a few things up to my 25's without knowing law of attraction. the output was an anxious, tired, depressed, needy and neurotic guy. there is a way to achieve things within the flow state. in fact, i've achieved more on the last 4 years of my life than on the first 25 without spending nearly 1/10 of the energy i spent before. edit: i'll stop it here. i'm starting to sound dogmatic. these things have to be found by each person.

@John Charles fundamentally, you cannot die. only what you think about yourself dies... if you let it go.

zazen, self inquiry, hatha/kundalini yoga and ayahuasca.

yes. i have no emotional/mental/existential struggles. life feels great everyday. its been 3~4 years.

@Tony 845 i am here for those in deep shit. maybe my experience can serve someone.

find someone who's at least as interested in self development as you are. i found my wife in a workshop about vegan burgers and yoga. we started to know each other and we found out that both of us were deeply interested in self development. that's when we noticed that we should start a serious relationship. starting from a place of neediness and insecurity is not a legit motivation imo. extra/edit: if you are in a relationship where the fear of hurt is bigger than the thirst for truth, you're in serious trouble.

so a relationship that works out for you is her responsibility. interesting. then what would be a good relationship for her?

then quit teachers. beliefs are helpless. do the entire work on your own or you won't ever reach liberation.

@Shaun because everything is an illusion and everything is real.

i got a 2/10 social market value. oh wow, i'm such a poor being. my life sucks! shame on me! seriously now, i did get a 2/10 even though i am married with the sweetest woman on earth. and as an extra, she's really cute as well. i've always been terrible at "gaming". in the end, the true beauty of a human being lies on their fluency and commitment with health and human virtues.

good. what does "working out" mean to you, in practical terms? are you able to output a more precise description of a relationship that "works out"?

beware. plenty != enough there's no need for extremism. taking 1~3 years to recompose yourself and heal completely can drastically increase the quality of the years that you have left before you die. you can't do it. that's her job. it's about her journey to heal herself. i'll leave it here. i don't think you want to dig too deep for now.

that's not the mark of a type A woman. that's just another form of neuroticism. oh man, you are talking from a place of neediness. anyways... maybe both of you need some dosage of suffering from life? who knows... life has amazing ways of teaching us how wisdom is superior to pride. i wish the best for both of you.

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part of her thinks that she doesn't want you to leave her because she's too needy. part of her wants you to leave her so she can prove to herself that she was right all the time because she doesn't deserve real love or because real love doesn't exist. that's how confused minds work and i don't think you're ready for that. i also sense a lack of self love in you. why don't you deserve a better company? are you that needy/desperate?

use LOA to attract enlightenment. when "i did it"/"it happened to me", many doors started to open. i was able to spend two 5-months periods living as a full-time monk. nowadays i use LOA to attract ways to serve the world. it works. and it's starting to grow bigger and faster.

@StillSearching make her desires true. leave her. that's her attachment and you can't do anything about it. only suffering can shake and awake such distracted minds.

no that's not the case. i'm tired of seeing people work HARD with undisciplined minds and failing to achieve what they want. they get sick, worried, stressed, isolated etc because they don't know how to make their inner fire burn with consistency. those people are usually in a state of "closedmindness" and fail to pick up on "signals" that reality presents to them. they usually fail to think differently - out of the box - to gain momentum and overcome challenges in a relaxed state. if you fall back into the purely material paradigm, it will feel like you have to carry the world on your back. you will try and fail over and over until you start blaming the "material world". if you go to the other extreme and try to apply the law of attraction without taking action, it will turn into naive wishful thinking, as if "the world" should carry "you". you will be too frustrated and then you will start blaming the "spiritual world". what's on the middle path? the middle path is found when you realize the unity between internal desires, bodily karma and external reality. "you" and "the world" move together as ONE ALIVE THING.