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There was this girl taller than me, 9/10, insanely attractive. she sat with her friend on the bench. I felt attracted and went up to her. I said hi. Then I was taking in the time to speak how I feel abt her. And there was 2-3 seconds I was just looking her in the eye. I told her I felt very attracted when I saw her. And that seeing her instantly made me feel better. I just told her how I felt. Midway her friend looked at her smiling and teasing that this guy ( I) am hitting on her. So she smiles genuinely and says- thank you very much. And instead of going forward, I said - this is all I wanted to say and walked away. Idk why I walked away.

I am a virgin and I have contact of an independent call girl. I am also learning game by going out and approaching girls. I am in newbie phase. I have always held the fantasy and idea in my head that my first time will be special and with the girl I love. The girl I did love ended up blocking me so it's not on the cards anytime soon. What is the tradeoff of sleeping with a call girl? How is it different than casual sex? And how is it likely to affect me learning game? I personally feel like it's a cheatcode and one that I could use if playing the field doesn't work. Any insight on the topic?

I look average and with balding, a noticeably receding hairline on the sides and on the front. I am starting to feel unattractive cause I have a big forehead. Is there anything which could help. I am 27 M. I never worried about this before, and it is starting to affect me mentally.

I don't think this thread makes much sense. Stop going after all these red flags. People are hypocrites. The same thing done by two different people will get two different reactions. Stop listening to people who don't align with your values or listen and then contemplate, there's no need to forcefully shove their opinion down your throat.

I haven't yet slept with an escort or anyone. This could be a sensitive topic. Women who are escorts, especially in the third world, I find it hard to believe that they are doing it willingly. There is so much taboo about sex that these women seem out of place doing this. Are escorts any different than Pornstars? I will have no dilemma in paying a famous pornstar say Mia Khalifa or a model, good cash in exchange for sex cause I know she's doing it willingly. I can't say the same for an escort who I know nothing about. I don't know if I am indulging in exploitation, cause if it is, then it is low key rape cause I am doing sex with her against her will. If with her will, then only for money, which is her compulsion to survive. I don't want just sex, I want sex w/ a girl who I find erotic and attractive, and who is doing it willingly, it could be a normal girl or an escort, I don't care. I just don't want to harm women or mess up their energy or their mind unknowingly or knowingly.

Firstly, the overwhelming response here is not in favor of the guy you're dating. So, if you're swayed by what is being said here, sooner or later, you'll leave him and find someone who doesn't carry any of these red flags. Secondly, you are logically picking apart your relationship, by actively wanting to know if it's a red flag, turns out in theory, it is. No one here knows any context besides what you stated. Ask the guy himself why he wants a tattoo of you. I don't get the whole idea of ending a relationship cause it has some red flags. Contrast this guy with the guy who'd sleep with you, and then dump you. He'll have no red flags in sight until he leaves. A tattoo is an inscription, and he wants to do one of you, so you're important in his life. That's what it most likely means. The more important questions are- How does the guy make you feel? Do you feel secure? Do you feel loved? Are you happy with him? Contemplate your relationships. Think for yourself.

Does the guy have tattoos of other women as well? If yes, something's fishy. If you are the first, then i don't think so. Men are territorial. Why would you expect the opposite? I think it is wiser to go by how you feel, and not by societal standards such as - Being territorial is a red flag, or getting a tattoo in the first month of relationship means something's not right. You could end up losing a guy who loves you dearly. Anyway, what are your values? How do you want your guy to be? I have a feeling you might leave him. Do it before he gets the tattoo. Save both of you if you feel like that.

The music is so loud that even if I scream the other person doesn't hear it. I tried to shake hands and introduce myself. It doesn't work. Fuck. It's hard. It's all non verbals. The only way to speak is to whisper into her ear or to say it loud hoping she would hear. I learnt not to approach a girl from behind. They freak out. And since everyone is dancing. How do I enter a set, the club is packed too. I was finding it very hard to be man to woman. I ended up being friendly and not making a romantic move. Just guide me on how to make an approach here.. I can't even get a girls attention here.

Yeah. I see, being social is always a plus

I thought i had women in my life. Girls who I matched on Tinder. Girls whose Reels i'd see on Instagram. Girls who I'd see nude in Erotica. Not to mention deepfake, there are apps which could make anyone naked. It's out there. And all this was so easily accessible, just a few scrolls, a few swipes, a few clicks. I could then edge, jerk off and orgasm. It's when i cold approached like 10 girls, I saw a contrast which shook me. Forget getting them naked, I could hardly hold their attention for 20-30 seconds before they rejected me. These very same girls, if i saw them on Tinder, Instagram or in Erotica, i would give them so much effort and attention, and get off sexually off them, when in reality, there's a such polarizing contrast i can't unsee it. Especially for a virgin like me, this is huge. Leo said it took him ~450 approaches to get laid the first time. I'd assume it'd be around 1000 for me, in a conservative country. I intend to go out once a week, so that is 20+ approaches/month. By the end of the year, I'd have done 1000+. If i don't get laid by ~1200 approaches, I'd hire a sexy hooker. So i am definitely getting laid by 2023 at max, either way.

Thx buddy that helps a lot

@Karmadhi It was 20/month, I travel by metro and go for work twice/week so approaching girls near the metro where they are super busy seems like a task. And i'll go to malls on weekends if my friends are into daygame as well.

Yeah that is practical I'll remember this yeah. Even if i have to go 180 degree to talk to her, that is better. I was definitely lacking assertiveness. I'll have to work on being confident and assertive.

@something_else Yeah, that does make sense lol

Wow Man! Nice to see the progress !

This was my 7th approach so I am total noob. I was approaching girls in the mall along with my friends. I see this stunning girl, moments back I had intended to shut off my mind and just walk to a girl I find attractive. I say Hi, tell her I was drawn to her and I find her really cute. I shake hands with her. Suddenly her mom, her brother and idk some relatives come out of no where. I acknowledge their presence very meekly asking her if that lady is her mom and that guy her brother. Her mom asks me - what is happening? Idk why I said what I said - I told her I find her ( her daughter) really cute. And she gave a very harsh reaction saying - how dare you? For the next one hour, I was half ashamed, half afraid. That was that. All the five approaches I did today, all I was able to do is give them a compliment and/or introduce myself. They become startled in my presence and they usually leave within 20 seconds. I feel like I am being punished for just trying. I live in India. So, i can expect it be that way to an extent. I am not sure how yo proceed. Could someone guide?

Thx all! You all inspired me to try again and not quit.

@StarStruck Thx buddy

Link it up buddy

I was with my friends, who are also interested in Pickup. For the first two hours, i was just thinking and rationalizing and making up excuses for why i shouldn't approach and cannot approach. The resistance and the barrier was so strong that my mind was paralyzed. My friend kept giving me insights, and although they logically made sense, i wasn't willing to act on them. I then saw a stunning girl pass by, and i wanted to initiate with her, but my inaction and resistance stopped me. I felt an ounce of regret, and understood the concept of the window of opportunity. I decided that the next attractive girl i see, if she's with a group with girls, I'll make the approach. And in the next 5 minutes, i took action. What happened between me and the girl doesn't matter, i felt lighter and my anxiety melted. I did two more approaches within the next 15 minutes, and my anxiety, resistance and all those mental barries were no more. It didn't matter what to say, or how to say, what was essential was just closing in the gap, that is, walking up to a girl i find attractive. Inner game is king. I now intend to make more approaches consistently.

@Eph75 Yeah, what you say makes sense! To love myself as who I am!

I am about to be 27. Here's the context- I have failed at relationships. Virgin. Live in India. I earn decent. I live with my family, I am saving money to experiment with trading, a year later. My parents are not rigid but they are highly judgmental. I do work from home for 3 days. I go out twice weekly to office. I don't have friends here. I have a decent dating profile. I have tinder platinum, on average, I get a match every 400 swipes, although girls don't respond after. Bumble is worse, girls don't initiate after matching. Neither do girls respond to DMs on Instagram. Social media or dating apps doesn't work here. The opportunities that i do get: I see stunning girls either in the metro, or the railway station, and it's super crowded. I have this fear if I do initiate, 10+ ppl will see me do it, and if something goes wrong on the girls' part, they'll be unforgiving. I have weekends, but my parents, i don't think they want me to date. It's stupid. I am very clear that the only way for me is to approach girls outside. I'm not sure how to do it here. Any ideas?

Only If you could tell me the sites.....!

If hiring a hooker was as easy as swiping on Tinder, i'd do it. I need contacts here, I can't just do it as a layman, I'd get scammed. There are red light areas but I wouldn't risk the shadiness and lack of hygiene there. Also, Craigslist or any such site either doesn't feature personals or they put fake pictures and are not independent, they are run by a Pimp.