Shin

"To grow is to morph your identity and infinite number of time"

Polluting a topic by answering to posts you find silly, using insults ? I let you find your own conclusions about that.

If their opinions are silly, then why would you take your time to answer to them ?

Guys please, do that in private, this is polluing the post and the original poster may not come back because of that, have some respect for him (and us, because truly, we don't give a shit about your break up xD)

It will seems silly and very stupid but, I'm playing a game right now, it is like a Zelda game, but with lots of enigma (it is called Ittle Dew). There is a secret dungeon, with the most difficult puzzle in the game. Everytime that I don't know how to do the puzzle, I try many different tricks, If I can't find it within 30 minutes, I let it down, and begin again tomorrow. EVERY TIME I start the game again, I almost instantanously know how to solve the puzzle, or new stages of it. I'll not get into the detail, but, it is how your mind work, everytime you find an obstacle that you don't know how to face, if you give it enough time, you'll ALWAYS find the solution, always, guaranteed, just don't give up ! Fiix a timeframe where you brainstorm about your life purpose, let's say 1 hour every night and 2 when it is your day off. Stick to that, try lots of differents stuff: - Try new hobbies. - Do some values assesments. - Go to conferences (about any field). - Search the web at random subjects and jobs . - Go to some jobs helping center (don't know the expression in english ^^). If you see that you have some motivation issues, find some motivation video on youtube. If you have to, watch one everytime before you schedule, don't be afraid to seems silly in front of you wives/kids, you're doing something that will change your life for god sake ! Now, notes everything you like about these things, and after, I don't know, 3 months, read the list and try to concentrate all the points into 5. There you goes, you just have to seach jobs alongside those qualities and values of yours. It is a matter of time and time only, everyone have a purpose, but few have the motivation and will to find it, mostly because of limiting beliefs, negative social circle/relationship, and simply because they don't know it is a real thing ... The life purpose course of Leo is very very good, the price is silly for what you will get from it. What is 250$ against a life of bliss and fulfillement ? I mean, it's just 3 paycheck if you're on a minimum wage ... There isn't a purpose in the sense that everything that you do will get crushed at some point. In 5000 years, no one will remember you, even if you were a world class genius. Even in we find a way to travel into space and colonized an another earth-like planet, the galaxies and the universe itself will crumble. So even if you were the one guy who saved your race from extinction, it wouldn't matter anyway ... Now, what is a life purpose then ? Simply a task that you love to do, for the sake of doing it. I'm talking about a task that you love so much that you would pay for doing it, that you can do and don't even see time passing (like 8 hours in a row), you also think about it all the time. It really feels like your soul is attracted, you feel an energy inside you, that is so enormous, so vibrant, that you'refeeling the divine inside you, That's called life, live your fucking life !

This. And when you'll break up, you'll realize that not only you don't need one, but that a relationship hinder your capacity to grow. So unless you're self-actualized as fuck, and still think it's cool and nice to have a relationship, with someone who's also self-actualized as fuck, There is litterally no need to be with someone, friendship are more flexible and more secure BUT, if you never were with a girl (both sexually and in a serious relationship), you need to have at least one nice relationship (of several months), Because if you don't, you'll always have a part of you that's thinking "oh well, maybe a girlfriend is what I need, maybe it will complete me somehow". Don't think because you intellectually know that a relationship isn't needed that you'll really think and act like you truly don't care, it really doesn't work like that ^^

Haguenau, France Apparently I'm forever alone, I probably will need to do a trip at the US then ^^ I'm saving money for it actually, because I also wants to take some 5-meo in order to not be able to backtrack (even if I think it is already not an option anymore).

"The path is the destination" "To be afraid of loneliness is to be afraid of life" (is it proper english or not ? ^^) Emptiness

"Your duty is to stand straight, not held straight." Marcus Aurelius

Would help, but for now, if you don't like be chained to a chair 23 hours a day, I would suggest not to ^^

The fact that you really don't want to lose the state, isn't a sign that you're not realized yet ? Maybe you're in a semi-state, I also laugh at my self-created suffering now, like this afternoon when my mind tried to blame my girlfriend for leaving me, I was thinking "lol no, it's not gonna work dude, that's too stupid, let's get back to smile and appreciate the present moment" ^^

My girlfriend just told me that she wants to break up with me. I should be devastated, she was easy to live by, she was funny and cute, and smart and .... well you get it. The truth is that I don't really care, and no, I loved her, in fact I still love her ! Why I am not sad then ? Well, in fact, I cried and I will probably cry more later, I'm feeling also a bit anxious and stressed too. The trick is, that after 6 months of meditation, comptemplation, and walking mindfullness, I come to the point that I don't identify with my emotions anymore ! The emotions comes and goes, but I know that my mind triesto blame me/or her, and I witness that, and therefore, I can't be depressed, and I can't be truly hurt, because I don't identify with the thoughts ! You have to totally accept the emotions that comes, let them come, notice them, but don't listen to your mind, just feel the emotions, that's it. Don't blame yourself or your ex boyfriend/girlfriend, and if you do, just witness that's what you're doing, and don't blame yourself because you noticed you started to blame too ! Be kind to yourself, be compassionnate I can't tell you how long it will take to get over it, but I can tell you that you will cut a good part of your recovery speed if you do that. Now, if you really want to never be bothered again with that kind of pain, or at least feeling it way differently and being able to bypass a good chunk of it, You need to start meditating, daily, daily, DAILY. 200% COMMITMENT. Start with the easy techniques, like these (for at least 2/3 months): - Be sitted with your back straight (you don't need to be in a lotus position). - Close your eyes (or not depending on the techniques). - Put a timer on of 20 minutes, to begin with, then add 5 per months (if you want to). DO IT, this is your entry point to true and lasting happiness

You can cure everything with enough will, but you need a really high consciousness level to be able to use these techniques (you have to be 101% open-minded too). That's how "miracles" works, but these are not miracles at all, it is just you curing yourself from inside out. It is logic that in a time where rationality is the prevalent way of thinking, that these things rarely occurs, because even the most religious person are both rational and dogmatic. Both of these things are hindering yourself from experiencing theses types of healing.

"There is no coming to consciousness, without pain" Carl Jung

It is just a phase, 1 year from now you will cry just by looking at the sunset.

Where did I say that drugs are necessary ? It is not, it just helps destroying your ego faster (from what I understood about 5-meo). It is fine if you don't want to, I don't read this board that often, but I didn't see anyone saying that you should take it, it is just recommanded. Now, if you really don't want to, whatever your reasons is, it's fine, there is nothing wrong with it ! Still, acknowledge that it is one or multiple beliefs that tells you it is wrong, because how could you know, you never tried right ?

Nobody says that you have to promote it, promoting Leo isn't promoting drugs usage. People can choose what material to take or not by themselve, and if they stop watching his content because they think he's a crazy junky, so be it ? That only prove they are too closed-minded for undertaking a self-actualization yet, because without an open-mind, you'll get stuck extremely fast. You can't content everyone, that would be an unauthentic move, and it never works anyway.

For a newbie, all these talk are so hard to comprehend ! I mean, enlightenment is actually a very simple thing, but to explain it to a newbie, we have to use so many metaphors and analogies that it feels like we are talking to an alien race

All the non-duality experience comes from you doing nothing else than just being. Like this afternoon after a long walk, at the end of it I had no thoughts at all, and for a second I could feel that I was nothing, and everything at the same time (yes it is very weird ^^). It is that simple, there is nothing to do, and the more you can create these moments, the more you will learn to live without the ego and follow your intuitions. This video of Leo is very important to assimilate in order to create these kinds of moments, that and trying to be mindfull all the time (feel your body, it will force you to be present):

You don't really want to ignore about enlightenment, you just know unconsciously that the only way to realized your enligthement is to stop the search, because there is nothing to search. Almost every story about people getting enlightened was to stop the search and live through life as a sage. That or a life and death of the ego situation (like Eckhart Tolle). You're all good, as long as you continue to better yourself spiritually, mentally and physically.

It will come over time as we continue to live in the present, as we meditate to ease our mind to be even more present, as we comptemplate nature to feel our link to it, as we start to feel more and more compassion towards other beings. Actualized.org, Tolleteachings,com and probably several others popular websites on the internet, are the proof that we want to realize our true nature, and that the 21st century, with the birth of internet, will be the era of consciousness. Before this millenium, our species wasn't ready to be realized its true self. Now we have all the tools, all the teachers, all the sages histories to learn from. For those who really are on the path, it is only a matter of time from now on.

Why, and on what subject ? Seriously, ask yourself that, honestly. If you don't have a strong emotion by hearing the answer, don't listen to the voice inside your head, because it is lying (then ask the question again). The thing you learn at the university, are you passionate about them ? Do you meditate ?

“Love is not an emotion, it’s your very existence" Jalaluddin Rumi

If you can laugh about it, you're on the right track.

When you ask yourself who or what you really are daily, When you intuitively know there is something more to you than flesh and thoughts, When you go take more and more walk into forest/plain/mountain to contemplate nature, When you try to see people/animals and plants for something else that what you think they are, When you start to be humble, not to be humble, but because you know your ideas and strenghts does not come from you (your ego), This is when you will feel the switch has been pressed.