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How do you know ? Maybe there is as many women as men. Maybe they don't want to be stalking online and choose to appear as male in their profile, like in any other forum. I don't see which concepts are reserved to men, except the videos about how to make a girl squirt and such ^^ Even if there was really less women than men, it would probably be because they have differents limiting beliefs, not because of the concepts themself.

That's already 4 to 5 healthy habits more than the average person ^^

You can't help her, she does not wants to, as you said. The only question you have to ask, is "Do I want this relationship as it is" You already know the answer, you just hope there is an another way, but deep down you know there isn't.

Epic music, Melodic progressive, Space ambiant I use it to visualize or to relax, but never when I walk, because I want to appreciate nature fully when I do.

That's why one of the most important habit to have is to walk, alone, with no phone, in nature. No only it makes you disconnect from these things, but after 45-60 minutes, you start to have a connection that is way deeper.

The actions that you need to take, depends solely on what you want from your life. Ask yourself what do you want from your life, and ask again of your answer the same question, untill you can't answer anymore. As long as you keep meditating and asking you what you really want in your life, all the actions paths will unfold by themselve. A lot of resistance and fear will be revealed by the actions that you'll have to take, so be prepared.

There is no reason to be upset about others people behaviors. Like Eckhart Tolle said "If I find here and Now unacceptable, I have three choices: 1-Totally accept it. 2- Change it. 3-Remove myself from the situation. That is taking responsibility for my life." EDIT: Actually, it was this quote I was searching for: Personally it took me 2 full years to go from a victim mentality into a "winner" mentality (don't like the word but I don't have any other ^^), but I was extremely neurotics back then, and 75% of it I wasn't even doing spiritual work (meditation/mindfullness/contemplation) For those who wonder, that is NOT being enlightened, it is very easy to access once you realize you're in a victim mentality state, and starting the work that is required. So depending on how you are in life, you can do it way faster than I did.

Found the class near my city, thanks you very much EDIT: I can already feel the resistance and the fear by now, oh boys it means it's exactly what I need ^^

The most profound experience I had is when I had a Samadhi experience with a dog. My ego was like "OH MY GOD, THAT'S WHAT LEO WAS TALKING ABOUT, THIS IS WHAT I SEARCHED FOR MY ENTIRE LIFE, AND I DIDN'T EVEN A FUCKING CLUE !!!" And of course, it disappear a split second after that

You don't need entertainment to re-energize, it's just that changing your activites, thus your identity, feels like dying. Not only you start to loose "friends", but you also have to acclimate to your new activities while still feeling the need for the ancient ones. It is hard in itself, and if your social circle isn't comprehensive and you feel you need their approval, you could be trapped forever. The fact that you are aware of all that is already a blessing, so few people are. It's not enough though, you also need to unconsciously wanting a better lifestyle, otherwise you'll not gonna do it. Do the affirmation technique (repeat the sentence out loud) twice per day (10 minutes): "I'm moving on with my life" It is very effective on the long-term, because at some point you'll always think about it 7 days a week/every hours of the day, rather than thinking of it 5 minutes every month.

"Remember these two things; the action is important, the context indifferent" - Marcus Aurelius

I know don't worry The last 10 minutes of my todays session (50 minutes) was kind of interesting, because I could feel my body energy. At first I thought I was being tense, but no. I felt life flowing threw me, and paradoxically It felt a bit like being a ghost too.

Just tried the do nothing techniques, eyes closed. Oh boys, It was the best meditation session I ever had. It only lasted 20 minutes, but It felt like 40+. I fucked and killed almost all my family, babies, my ex (she cried a lot ), apparently I love to behead people, it's my shit I also had a wonderful conversation with me, like, the words motherfucker and fuck you were pretty intense ! We were 3 of us, talking shit, insulting everyone (mostly us). It was so funny, I laughed all the way Paradoxically, letting all our thoughts submerging us rest us more than just trying to relax.

"The success you seek is within you"

Hi everyone, I was just creating a topic here to ask you if It would be too risky to speed-up things at such a point that backsliding is almost inevitable. But I also remembered that in 4 months, not only I eradicate my shyness, my social anxiety and my brainfog, had a direct experience that relationship can't fulfill you, and also had several non-duality experiences, The rate at which I'm growing comparing at how my life was stale before is so enormous that sometimes I don't recognize me in the mirror. I'm not braging, I'm here to tell you to that a guy that was a virgin at 27 (with all the psychological issues that comes with that), who was so anxious that he could not even answer in proper english to strangers, who could NOT think he could become a men, without any job and living in his mother's basement, with some freaky health issue, and finally, who thought life was just a nuance of infinite grey without any lights and happiness in it, Have now the intuition than he can become whatever he wants, that he will experience happiness and fulfillement at such a point that he can't stop crying when he thinks about it, that he deserves love, THAT HE IS LOVE. I can't thank Leo enough, and this forum, and me, for having the strenght and the patience to kill all of my past beliefs, to slowly but surely, growing into this authentic being, so strong, and full of love. I don't care where you're from, I don't care if you're ugly, fat, if you think you're stupid, if you can't walk or speak. FUCK ALL THAT, None of it describes who you are, none of it means you're inferior, you're all beautiful, and I love you so much, SO SO MUCH, That I'm crying, because I know some of you won't believe me, that many years will pass untill you understand the message, and maybe it will be too late, Maybe some of you will only realize what some of us understood in your death bed ... But I have faith, I have faith that some of you will finally see the light, this beautiful light behind the frightening mountain This feeling of hope, of realization that life is something more than work, more than entertainment, more than relationship. This deep understanding of your true nature, that you are all part of a whole, and that all of you have a place in it. That this whole is not something external to you, that all stems from it, and there is only one feeling coming out of it, LOVE There is only love, it's all that ever existed and ever will be, AND IT IS WHAT YOU ARE ...

“Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.” ― Jalaluddin Rumi “When you go through a hard period, When everything seems to oppose you, ... When you feel you cannot even bear one more minute, NEVER GIVE UP! Because it is the time and place that the course will divert!” ― Jalaluddin Rumi

Difficult to have a high self-esteem in a society that praise materialism ^^

If there is a spiritual dojo or monastery near your city, ask them, they probably do that.

At this point, you need to do something radical, like pick up all your money and join a dojo or a monastery, and let the sensei/master teach you how to love life again. All that you're experiencing, even if it's very sad and hard from your perspective, it all can be reversed. You don't need sex or a girlfriend to be happy, so you "just" have to live with that pain, because the depression and how others think of you isn't relevant after a certain level of awareness. Some scientists have done research on monks, and they found out that they experienced 40% less pain than normal people, don't you think it worth the shot ? Don't think we don't know what you're experiencing, most of us had similar traumas and situations, you kind of think you're alone in this, even if consciously you think you know you're not alone. That's how a depression work, you feel that no one can get you, and that nothin can work, BUT IT'S ALL IN THE MIND !

DON'T DO IT BRO, LIFE IS AMAZING, I ALSO WANTED TO KILL MYSELF, IT'S ALL A PHASE, DON'T FUCKING DO IT !

Time to get a VR headset

It could help for sure, but with all the informations there is on internet nowadays, no you don't need one. It is cool to have people to talk about these kind of stuff in real life though Anyways, you could search for temple or dojo in your region (google map is your friend). Search on facebook too, maybe there is a group about non-duality/consciousness/nothingness (try every key words) near you live.

Every time you get bored, just meditate. It will be hell for a while, but aren't you already in it ? What you're experiencing is a sort of depression, I had one too (of 7 years), everything you say was how I felt back then. Meditation and walking mindfullness are the keys. You have to increase your awareness or all your actions will always be led by your beliefs, and your beliefs right now are very negatives. Just do as others said before me about meditation (20 minutes minimum), and start with a mantra meditation. Relax, breath and exhale deeply, and after every cycle, tell yourself "I am happy". It may sounds stupid, but after some weeks, you'll notice a change, guaranteed. It WILL be hard, and you will resist a lot at first, but brute force yourself to do it. Even when you're accustomed to it, you'll still have a lots of thoughts popping, but it won't be as disturbing as before, You don't have to limit yourself to 20 minutes, if you can do more, do more, the point is to be so at peace, that all your limiting beliefs will start to fade. You will ask yourself why you thought this way, how it is stupid, and at some point you will not even think these thoughts were stupid, but how all of your past actions was necessary to your present understanding. As for walking mindfullness, it is just a walk (45 minutes minimum), where you focalise your attention on your body sensation, which helps to reduce your thoughts. It is one of the best way to feel alive that you can do, everywhere at any time. It is also very hard not to think about what you see, but with time it will feel amazing. Do it in a forest or in a plain if possible, and don't hesitate to stop and watch something that feels intriguing or beautiful. You can do this in any season, even in winter nature can be beautiful, but I admit it is harder to feel it in this season, probably because of all the cultural references we have about it (death, famine, war etc ...). Just wait till summer, oh boy, it's better than sex After some months of practice, when meditation and walking mindfulness are habits, meaning that you don't force yourself to do them, but you do them intuitively (you may not understand that right now, but you will), come again on the board to ask us what is the next step. You can do a lot of others things to get better, like hiking, watching pets at pets store (I love to do that for some reasons ^^), joining a hobby association, discovering new musics style etc ... But don't bash yourself if you can't do too much things, because you can't change your life in one go, you can only take 2 habits at a time. The point is to do your meditation and your walk, then do others things if you feel you have enough energy to do so. Do the meditation and the walking mindfullness exercice as soon as you can in your day. One more point, if you have to take the metro or the train to get somewhere every day (or often), don't hesitate to just close your eyes and listening to your surroundings. It is a meditation techniques I did for 2 hours every day for 4 months, and after only 2 months, I just didn't give a fuck about what strangers could think of me anymore, and I was in total acceptance of what people are (even if they were jerks). EDIT: READ "THE POWER OF NOW" from Eckhart Tolle (it has been translated into 20+ language ). EDIT 2: I realized that in my country, there is only 3 Dojo (Buddhism Zen), and one of it is only 30km from where I live !

How you feel about your life and the number of good opportunities that arise is in direct correlation about your inner beliefs. If you think you deserve happiness and success, you'll get more of that, and if you think you don't deserve them, well ... Now of course, some people, despite how optimist they are, a series of bad "luck" can still happen, life is impredictable yes.